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Saturday, August 03, 2024
Saturday In House Gists - Relationships That Break Us When They Break.
Which Relationship/Friendship/family ties broke you badly when it ended? What happened? Did you want it to end? Did you know it would end? Were you uprooted by its end?
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Hmmm. My last relationship broke me. I was a mess. I stayed indoors, refused to see anyone. Drank a lot of alcohol to numb the pain. He wasn't just someone I loved. He was my person. Like he knows what i'm thinking before I say it. We were friends. I met him at a friends place, and we just hit it off. Like we were so connected. We got talking, started hanging out and we became an item. My family knew and loved him, especially my nephews. Yea, we had our fights here and there, when I call him by his name, he knows he's in trouble🤣. And then he just ghosted me for reasons known to him. I tried to reach out to him, he wasn't picking my calls or responding to msgs. I cried my eyes out. Do I miss him? Yes. A whole lot. I thought about him yesterday. Will I take him back? I don't think so.
ReplyDeleteCome here dear and take a warm hug🙇♂️🙇♀️
DeleteCandy,
DeleteI understand you were actually in love.
You'll find love again that will forever be bliss to you guys.
If I may ask, did you brush his ego? Did you nag at him? No matter how provoked one is, it's not ideal to call partner by their name when it's not what you were used to calling them. Most people don't like it.
© TEEJAY
Thank you Purest Pure. 🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteTeejay, so because he ghosted me, i probably brushed his ego, or nagged. 🤦♀️.
🤗🤗🤗 my candilicious candy. Don't worry your own man will find you soon and please don't take him back. You deserve better 🤗🤗
DeleteIt is well dear.🤗🤗😘
DeleteCandy,
DeleteI didn't say so. I only asked if it was the reason he ghosted you going by your comment ''Yea, we had our fights here and there, when I call him by his name, he knows he's in trouble.''
© TEEJAY
You see some men ehn? Once they are aware you love them like this,my sister just forget it because the love no go last. It is well with you dear🤗🤗
DeleteYour own heart boo will locate you soon by the special grace of God 🙏
Dear sweet candilicious candy
DeleteYour own bone of your bone will find you soon. Wishing you everlasting love ❤ 😍
Are you for real? @ teejay
DeleteOh o...sorry Candy, heartbreak is so so sad & emotionally devastating 💔 Love with find you very soon dear 🤗🤗
DeleteBruised*
DeleteThanjs my darling, Osundi😘😘.
Amen Apple. 🤗
Oh dear.. Ehug
DeleteU will someone better
Teejay, there was no point asking me that question in the first place. From your question you already insinuated i caused it, like people do not fight in relationships. 🙄
DeleteBiz, Amen dear. 🤗
Fab Momma, Amen dear. 😘
Adunni, I'm better o. 🤗
Mrs Sharon, Amen. Thank you. 🤗
Teejay, so you've never been in a relationship where you call your partner by name? Read to understand cos from Candy's post, you'll know it's even as a joke.
Delete🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteIt is well dear Candy 🍬
You will be celebrated 🍾 soon
Candy if he's for you ,he will come running to you but if he's not for you let him go, another better than him will sweep up your feet.
DeleteDo cheer up candilious🥰♥️
He's a coward. Please hold your head up. And do not give him any form of access to you especially not friendship. Ghosting someone is a clear indication of their value to you. I know, I have ghosted an ex in the past.
DeleteKelly
In my case nothing happened. we talked well and joked the previous day and that was it i called and sent messages the days after nd up till this second i never heard from him .its been three weeks that I've been ghosted ,i see him occasionally online. moving on is hard but wat can i do i believe it will get better and God Almighty will send me my own man soon. human beings are unpredictable , this is what this has taught me.
ReplyDeleteHe never really loved you or probably, something sent him away. It hurts so bad when people leave without saying goodbye or without an SYexplanation.
Delete© TEEJAY
Honestly I don't know why they do this. At least be man enough to talk about it.
DeleteIt is well with you dear 🤗🤗
It's well, probably there are other ladies in the same camp.
DeleteFrom your mouth to God's ears🙏🙏🙏it is well with you 🤗🤗
DeleteIt is well dear. A better man will come along.🤗🤗🤗
DeleteIt will definitely get better.. Kpele
DeleteTeejay rest with your nonsense opinions pls
DeleteAnon 17:31,
DeleteIf you're sensible enough, you'll see there was no harm in my question. But then common sense isn't common after all.
© TEEJAY
He is not in to you, your will come
DeleteWhen would people realize that ghosting is so immature!!! It doesn't matter the circumstances, if you're an adult you shouldn't ghost someone you're in a relationship with. You're simply a coward.
DeleteWe've known each other for years but just started dating December last year then he lost his job. Spent all my savings keeping him afloat. If I don't call he doesn't bother calling complained but he didn't change, decided to let go. Haven't heard from him since June. I guess am just numb
ReplyDeleteU are the only one in love with him or he may also be going through things, like depression.. It not easy for a man to be out of job.
DeleteYou honestly had no business touching your savings to finance a relationship. May God heal your heart.
DeleteSometimes, love is never enough 💔
ReplyDeleteI have been in relationship that parked up. Not once nor twice. In every failed relationship I had, I learnt a different thing and something new as well. One thing I'll say is that, meeting people has never been my regret but tolerating the ways they hurt me always will be.
Sometimes, we work so hard for the wrong people.
I made the decision to always leave when things doesn't seems right anymore. I left all bitterness behind and moved on. For my own sake, I find a way to forgive, “pick myself up, brush myself off, and start all over again”…..with God in the lead!
For me, once it's over, it's over. It will never be the same again.
One tricky aspect of life is that, when going into a relationship/marriage, you don't know who is the right or wrong person until the damage is done. But I'll always believe in life that, we live, we learn, and sometimes we find light in a dark place. But you must first understand your value in order to appreciate anyone else.
I'll say this and conclude. If you have a good partner, hold them tightly and treat them special. There's nothing left in the street anymore. I lost a good woman cos I wasn't paying attention and till date, I have never gotten it right.
© TEEJAY
Exactly TJ
DeleteGood days bvs Tj, I kowtow you, you are on point, worduuu
DeleteTrue
DeleteAre you sure you were not always at fault?
DeleteEyes have seen jare. Am not sure there is any relationship that can break me now.
ReplyDeleteThe last one, as exciting as it seemed , we both allowed it to just die a natural death.
Ogaoooo
ReplyDeleteThis hot afternoon with hot gist....
I purposely ended one relationship because it was killing me and I tried my possible best to be a man but hell no. But God gave me a good idea.. I became so calm that she couldn't even predict me. Na she later kan run
Better to know God before relationship ,better with people that know God ,no ex ,no heartbreak,God will heal all of you .
ReplyDeleteNa lie, the 'brothers in christ' na dem dey chop clean mouth pass..from one 'sister' to another, so stop with this bu**c**p talk of knowing God...knowing God does not exempt anyone from heartbreak!
DeleteThe last guy I dated before I meet my bro Jerry 🤣.
ReplyDeleteI have always wanted to marry from my state,(cos of my parents, story for another day). Bros was a captain den in the Army 🪖, from my state, tall dark masculine and can speak my language very well(unlike me😂😂) , did I mention that he was very Nate not all this dirty ones I see these days( pls no offense to uniform men in the blog). Na so I fall finish for my mind I don see husband, we dated for some few months before he was transferred to the creeks, na so wahala start, solider nor pick my calls again. When he mange to pick after some weeks, na so soldier say my calls dey disturb am,and that he is married,I Cried 😭😭😭😭😭 and beg him with so many text messages. Soldier nor send me , fee months into my marriagey mom told me he came to look for me. He was my first love never thought it won't end, I never even wanted it to end, but it ended anyway and it was for the best. He broke me and made me a shadow of myself.
😂🤣u go dey love soldier... Their second name na ashawo..
DeleteYou dey mind me🤣🤣😂😂 @ Mrs Sharon
DeleteMy own treated me so shabbily, stopped calling, except I call, meanwhile I was a student and he, a banker. I spent money I didn't have to visit him in his base to resolve our issues, he didn't refund my transport, rather borrowed from the little I had and then dumped me once I got back. I cried buckets of tears, packed my heart and moved on.
DeleteI saw him 5 years later, fine boy banker had lost his job and I was now a banker. He tried to act like all was well and we could continue our relationship but I curved his silly a**, always try to part on a good note with people, especially those who were good to you as you don't know what the future holds.
Lool ! You got it!
DeleteI'm proud of you anon18:37
DeleteDon't want to spoil my mood.
ReplyDeleteWe move.😎😎
I don't dwell on past hurts I just try to move on. I know ghosting is very bad but I try to move away from it and it helps me
ReplyDeleteMine should be a chronicle, but I'm numb right now.
ReplyDeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteSoldier go
Soldier come
Hello iya Boys
If I talk what my own man did to me here ,it will not end today 😆I fell in love with a cunning and a heartless man
ReplyDeleteThank God he left my life. When I said I should give Love another chance,I fell for a gigolo that wanted me to be paying his bills while he wanted to be enjoying
Naso I ran for my dear life. Love should stay somewhere for now till God send my own man😊
God will in Jesus mighty name 🙏🙏
DeleteBetter Man ooo
Correct Man ooo
With Good heart
Goodfearing
Lovable Man
Adorable Man
Well Balance and Richielicious
Amazing And Awesome Man
Amin 🙏🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
Whenever my relationships ended, I always do thanksgiving in the church. These women want send me go back village. The billings no be here. These days I just find one better friends with benefits, she knack me, I pay her. We are just friends and it is better that way.
ReplyDeleteHow a friend paid some boys to rape and destory me is still a shock to me, l don't know if it's at of jealousy or hatred, an enemy who pretend to be a friend, but God exposed their evil plot . Yes l am not perfect but l never hurt this friend one day, someone l took like a sister and trusted with everything in me, you could have the mind to hurt me like this 💔😭😭😭😭 upon everything you did behind my back, telling my boss to be careful with me, when l didn't have any issues with him, even if there are any issues, are we the first to have issue like others do have in their officies and still settel their differences, you sceretly took my boss phone number from my phone as a smart worker and started working as a part time staff, telling him to sack me and employe you, that you can render the job well more than me. when you have your own job ooh, you decided to make me jobless 😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔😭 he already emloyed you many months ago before sacking me before sacking me, l told you what happened you pretended as if you were not happy that my boss sack me, but went behind me was telling everyone that you know how to play your game and have anything you so desire.
DeleteAnyway l want you to know that you have shut yourself in the leg for planning to end my life. when l didn't offend you, l didn't rob you, l didn't take anything from you, yet you still have the mind to send bad boys to come after me.. you still mock me for being jobless 😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭💔 Fear God.
Mine broke me. Not sure if I will ever get over it completely but I am in a better state of mind. No more anger.
ReplyDeleteI got married to someone who I thought I knew. Known him close to 15 years. I thought we were happy. I thought it was us against the world. My parents adored him. No quarrels, no fights, not even when his family tried to interfer and make things difficult. Submission was my second name. Never asked for anything extra apart from what he give as house keeping money. I was working afterall. Then he said he was moving to another state to pick up job offer. Informed me 2 weeks to the relocation. I still supported him. Shebi na us againt the world. Then he moved and ghosted me. Couldn't reach him again. His family said he works off shore so the network was bad. Weeks turned into months and months into years. Everyone I told believed I must have done something for him to ghost me. Well turns out he relocated abroad that same year he ghosted me with his family in the know and I was the fool they were deceiving. Thinking about it, I funded a good part of the wedding expenses and equipping the house. If he wanted to relocate so soon after the marriage without your wife, why marry? Why make me spend so much money? Why hurt me like that? I am at the point where I no longer curse him for abandoning me with all my hopes and dreams and answering the uncomfortable questions from people about his whereabout. I know I will get to the point where its no longer matters. I just need to gather money to file for divorce.
Ahnahn! This person and his family members are evil. Life will surely punish them severely for being so heartless in their dealings with you
DeleteSo sorry you went through all of that🤗🤗🤗🤗. Why did he marry you in the first place? And his family went ahead with his plan. Na wa.
DeleteWow!!! Sorry sis,you will be fine🤗🤗🤗
DeleteChai 😪 this is so sad.
DeleteSo sorry dear 🤗🤗
Sorry you had to experience this. It’s really weird.
DeleteSo sorry😢
DeleteI'm sending you some hugs🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Be Consoled. It's this type of people that karma loves visiting. Mark it. You will have the last laugh. Don't wish him bad o just table his matter and let God...
DeleteYou don't talk your own. Did you cheat on him? Because you Naija women una leg no dey stay one place even after marriage. Whatever you did to him, his family knew and that's why they supported him to dump your ass
DeleteIf you know what some family members sheild from some wives ehn, you will be shocked. Poster, I pray you find a better man that will stay and love you genuinely 🙏.
DeleteChai!
DeleteThey are wicked and heartless for treating you badly.
DeleteIt is well.
May God surprise you soon 🙏 ✨️
It will never be well with that Man and his family members all the remaining days of their miserable lives! Watch it when terrible things start happening to them they will still come back to ask you for forgiveness! Nah me talk am and nah so e go be! Anyone wey I curse the curse dey work on them well well
DeleteChai!
DeleteYou'll be fine 😪🤗
Oh dear so sorry
DeleteSo sorry dear
DeleteE hug 🫂
And this family have female children hoping for someone's son to marry them, poster it's well with you,God kept you away from such evil family so be grateful to God,his rewards will be greater than your pains/ tears now.❤️🌹🥰💋
DeleteDid you give marriage as a condition for spending? If yes, then he just played your game.
DeleteOh lord
DeleteSo sorry dear
It is well,this guy is mean and heartless
DeleteWhen people ask, maybe tell them he died?
DeleteThanks everyone for the support.
DeleteAnonymous3 August 2024 at 18:47, no I did not cheat on him nor was I accused of cheating. I don't expect someone who seems to hate women and use such foul language to comprehend simple statements. I can tell you are just looking for a reaction and have nothing significant to add.
Anonymous3 August 2024 at 23:06 No, that was not a condition. I bought gifts for him and his family on special days and whenever I go visiting even before we considered marriage. I have know him for over a decade after all. It was all in a bid to make things easy for him and shoot down the narrative that women rarely supported their partners financially.
No matter how good you are, some persons will always point there fingers against you, you are always the problem and not them, they will change the narrative and gaslight you. Next thing, they will start mocking you for being single. That Its your bad character that's why you never marry. Some will call you all sorts of names like idiots, fool, mumu, bad girl/boy, wicked, manipulator, dimwit, etc.
ReplyDeleteThey will openly throw shade at you, they also recruite others who will joined them to tarnished your image. Some will betray you, even if you are good and faithful to them. It wouldn't stop them from hurting you, as far as they get what they want it doesn't mean anything to them, afterall they have 1001 reasons to treat you the way they want. Even if you are dying they won't show any concern, infact it's during ur low moment that you will know the kind of people that surrounds you as friends. They will always remind you your shortcomings as a way to weaken you and shut your mouth forver, they will always use your mistake against you, you can't even share ur good and bad with them becos they will use it and frustrate you. They can never be wrong. others will do anything to spoil your image and pull you down. Some will never appreciate you as far as your money is not like that of Davido or Wizkid, then you are a broke girl or boy and entitled, omo e plenty but l will stop here. I still dey learn becos relationship is not my mate.
Being too good is a problem. People take advantage of it. Sometimes, display craze. It keeps people in check. I do it now, too
DeleteI don’t know how to be overly attached to people. I’ve tried in the past. Never worked.
ReplyDeleteI’m the type that can wake up and ghost a partner or friend without any drama. Like I just mentally delete them from my life like they never existed.
Once a relationship ends I reprogram my life immediately to cope optimally without you. I’ve hd to change church and stopped visiting some places. It’s like a new fine life for me without them in it and I just look forward to it.
It worries me sometimes but that’s just the way I’m wired.
My husband is same way. He said it was what actually made him really comfortable around me, there was absolutely no pressure from me to be with me and even when he took breaks from the relationship I was never anxious about him leaving me. it’s weird how we’ve had conversations about the possibility of life without each other and we both mutually agreed we’d really be ‘’ok’’.
We both love each other very much and make the most of what we have now, but somehow in my mind I still believe there are really no guarantees in life and anything can happen so I’m always open to adapt and still live my best life
Way to go
DeleteHmmm! Most women are not wired this way....wish I had this mentality.
DeleteI wish everyone would be like this 💖
DeleteI thought I was the only one like this o
DeleteMy mindset
DeleteYou both sound like you have unresolved trauma around abandonment issues.
DeleteKelly
Found out he was double dating. Went to see my parents for marriage rites but later, he started finding faults here and there.
ReplyDeleteThe sister apologised that she knew he was dating a younger woman at the same time he was showing me off.
Oh how I
felt disappointed when he said it was over.
I comforted myself and moved on.
Wicked immature guy. Hope he gets his portion.
Delete10 years ago! Since then I have been single. I no do again
ReplyDeleteI loved him so much, I was faithful. Everything about me I told him cos I thought I was with my best friend.
ReplyDeleteI was broken, I never saw it coming. I'm trying to heal. Now, I find it difficult to even start a new relationship. Look at my age, dear Lord.
Nothing in a relationship that can ever get to Me or take Me to that point of...
ReplyDeleteGuard your heart with all diligence 👌🏻
The only relationship that broke me is the one with my ex-baby daddy, since that time, if I'm seeing any red flags, I move, I've seen shege banza in relationships but I don't allow them to break me, i quietly move on, because I always go into relationships with my head and not my heart, if you're demanding than what you're giving me in terms of love, attention, care, money, or anything, I walk away without looking back.
ReplyDeleteNot that I won't give you all these and more but if I notice I'm the only one giving and not receiving, I bounce, I've trained myself not to be attached to anything, if it's not working, I don't patch nonsense.
My ex told me to start using iPhone else he will leave me.
ReplyDeleteThat l must dress like Rihanna or Nick Minaj
That l must learn how to dance on tiktlk, fortunately l don't know how to dance 💔
That l must be wearing bumshorts even when I'm going out with him, he says he doesn't care.
That l must wear eyelashes especially when we are going out, he knew l don't like eyelashes, l begged him to bear with me, at least l paint my nails with light makeup, my boo said it must be a heavy makeup like the ones he sees on movies.
That l must be showing him my account balances every month fortunately l had no job then😟
That l must look like Erica, please how do l change myself 😭🙆 How do you expect a fish to work on a dry land and survive.
There was a day he took me out, he now told me that he wants to spoil me that very day by taking me round the city. lmmediately we alighted from the busstp my boo told me that he wants to board a boat for us to cross over to the other end, someone l have told several times that l don't like using ⛵ for whatever reason it maybe, l rather missed the opportunity than to use a boat, , l don't like anything that will make me to be crossing water all the time becos of the type of sacaring news and stories l have had about water scares the hell out of me. Also there was a day l visted a friend of mine that wasn't feeling too well who happens to lives across the water, it was not funny that very day, l almost lost my life in the boat, as the driver was just driving anyhow and a ship was coming and this Hausa guy was just driving as if he was on a mission to throw everyone inside the water, me l started shouting very loud and other passengers joined me, the water was just turning round with heavy force, Everyone was calling God to please save us in that incident, l cried like a baby that very day, what my eyes saw that very day, God is too powerful. So l was afraid of the water . I told him to wait so that we can look for another alternative instead of crossing the water. He didn't listen to me and went straight and paid for both of us, I wasn't too happy with this action, l now td him that l may not go wt him ,. other passengers were staring at us, he got angry and threw up the lunch he bought for us to eat and told me to get loss in front of the passengers. My people it was like a movie to me. I started crying 😭😭😭💔💔💔😭😭😭
I managed myself to get home, later l called and called he finally picked the call and told me to get loss again 😰 that he will treat my fukup anyhow he wants.😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔
It is like he may have planned to kill you in the river and said you had boat accident.
DeletePardon me, but this person sounds stressful to be with.
DeleteThe guy I dated before I met my husband ticked most of my boxes. He's intelligent, good looking and doing way better than my husband as at then.
ReplyDeleteI noticed somethings about his siblings and I wasn't comfortable with them. Omo I ended the relationship, but was heart broken. I cried for days, he kept asking me why. I gave other reasons but left the part of his family out.