I feel so disturbed, my husband traveled out of the country for a tech program which lasted for 4 months. All through no issues and he fulfilled all his financial responsibilities for i and the kids.
My husband came back now, which has been for almost a week but he has refused to touch me or even make romantic gestures to me although i tried once to get his attention but nothing much happened.
Last night he saw me naked but didn’t grab me like he would do before he traveled. I have asked him but he says nothing is the problem, he performs all his duties well apart from this s#x issue at this point i don’t know what the problem could be, abi i am overthinking?
Please who has in my shoes? how did you tackle this situation?
I felt since we haven’t seen each other for a long time , we would be all over each other but that’s not the case here.....
Last night he saw me naked but didn’t grab me like he would do before he traveled. I have asked him but he says nothing is the problem, he performs all his duties well apart from this s#x issue at this point i don’t know what the problem could be, abi i am overthinking?
Please who has in my shoes? how did you tackle this situation?
I felt since we haven’t seen each other for a long time , we would be all over each other but that’s not the case here.....
Your husband has disconnected from you emotionally ...Its possible he started a relationship where he travelled to cos his behaviour to you is like someone who doesnt want committment..
Please eh tell him your fears oh, ask him if he is seeing someone else.........Dont keep quiet...
He is your husband sit him down and ask him what is the problem and why is he not attracted to you sexually again.. after the discussion if no improvement you should just kuku leave him and focus on other things..
ReplyDeleteNdi sit him down. As if she has not done that already.
DeleteMy fear is that he met and fell in love with someone else where he travelled to. 4 months is enough time for strong feelings to develop. If this is the case, then he wasn’t seriously committed to your marriage in the first place. Falling in love is a choice; if he had it in mind that till death do you part, he might even cheat but would never allow himself get carried away. So sorry babe, maybe try to do all the things that attracted him when you first met or play O Lord show me mercy from Pastor Jerry on YouTube, the prayer changes many negative things in a person’s life.
DeleteI have asked him na discussion?
DeleteMan may even be tired from the course work, travels, resumption at work, etc.
Man went on course and was feeding family. Has she even shown full appreciation for those. Na only sx woman take dey show appreciation? When Naija men are traversed here. Do people like her speak up.?
There is even a traverse down asking what men are good for apart from SX and fathering children.
Sx na food?
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Pure, she should leave him and focus on other things? Her husband? If it was the other way round, you would tell the man to leave the wife alone and focus on other things too?
DeleteMadam pls involve outsiders if he refuses to talk. He is your husband and not just friend or boyfriend.
Clearly seeing someone else. And also reporting to that person that he is not sleeping with you. Maybe his ex- girlfriend who lives abroad. Please play smart here. Don’t ask just yet. Try and find out as much as possible any info. as possible. What the woman and man wants is for you to get angry and cause katakata then you will be blamed. Zero your mind that he may not be your husband anymore but if it is salvageable then off course do that.
DeleteBe extra extra nice and sweet to him. Take him by surprise whilst being totally patient. Give it time he would come round and end it with the person putting pressure on him. Because that one would soon get tired of waiting for your breakup. Whilst being smart be wise with setting yourself up financially to secure yourself just in case. Once you are solid then and only then can you ask him and call his bluff if necessary
Do people understand how much their actions hurt those close to them.
ReplyDeleteWhatever the issue is, why is it so difficult to talk about it. Or isn't the formula for marriage two becoming one?
It's totally unfair.
Poster, No, you aren't overthinking it and if he chooses not to talk after all your attempts, maybe it's time to involve people he may be willing to open up to.
I honestly don't get it...Communication that is the lifeblood for any type of relationship
DeleteOh dear.. I think he's in love with someone else, please talk to him..
ReplyDeleteYou are not overthinking.
ReplyDeleteSomething is definitely wrong. The problem is how to get him to say what It is or how to find out...
Would it be wrong I I ask you to pray? Also, pay closer attention to him when he's around, so you can observe any anomaly. You might get a hint.
It's well with you
He slept with someone else and if he has been infected with something. He wants to protect you from infection.
ReplyDeleteOne of the diagnoses. This could be it.
DeleteI think this could be one of the for the emotional distance
DeleteExactly my thought
DeleteYou have to sit him down to ask what's up. After his return both of you should have engaged in sex. Check with him,if he's not having midlife crisis,which affects most men's libido.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Midlife Crises is another angle
DeleteCould be he got himself infected with sexually transmitted diseases. Try to find out calmly and assure nothing has or will change. He will open up.
ReplyDeleteHyper msma
Poster if he has not contacted disease he’s running away from sharing with you then he’s probably in love with another woman. Snoop ooo.
ReplyDeleteI will be tagged negativity as usual but I’m older than you all and my old age comes with experience.
Fan Emmanuel
Unlike women, falling in love with another woman won't stop a man from banging his wife or any other women,. That's a woman thing, asin na woman go won begin avoid sex with you when they fall in love, sorry I mean get carried away (women don't fall in love 😁) with another man.
DeleteTop of what would make a man not to bang his woman again is if she's dirty, or let herself go and become fat and ugly..
Please, how do you know you are older than her and her husband? I went back to read didn't see where she indicated her age.
DeleteFan Emmanuel, I am a man and I agree with your postulations. But how do you know you are older than all of us?
DeleteFan,
DeleteNa wa O.
You old pass Stella and all her blog Bvs?
Na joke abi?
Women over rate themselves like ....
Assuming say man does not contribute to pregnancy at least even in artificial insemination procedures, women would have thought themselves gods.
Man no gbensh naim be all this plenty analysis of allegations against him and age claims
You dey whine ni.
'' i am older than you all...'' Pele ti e Ogbodiafor
DeleteYou are not overthinking! Your senses are intact. Yes, your husband should be all over you after being away from you for four months. Maybe his heart is somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteIf you are sure that no one gossiped your kurukere" movement to him while he was away, that's if you "waka" anyhow. If no one lied about your movement to him, then, he's seeing someone else.
Talk to him. Tell him that he behaves like a person who is in a romantic relationship with someone else. Watch how he reacts.
Apart from kids, what are the uses of men?
ReplyDeleteProviding 3x. Feeding of wives especially those too lazy to work and/or would not work despite all the money their parents spent in educating them. Carrying the loads of the world on their shoulders so that some women can prioritize irrelevant things and so that some wives freed from those duties can major on things/matters that do not bring value in their marriages,
DeleteHe might be seeing someone else, Try to seduce him again, if he doesn't bulge, My sister otilo!!!
ReplyDeleteIf all of this only happened after he travelled then my alarm bells are ringing. Initiate the sex physically yourself, start doing what you know he likes and see if he gets in the mood and participate or makes an excuse or push you away.
ReplyDeleteIf you have the guts for it, check his phone! But do not check unless you are ready for anything. If you cannot do that then tell him you are concerned and ask him to visit his doctor to get checked out because you are seriously worried about him.
Hmmm another strategy..Very true
DeleteSame thing happened to me. In my own case he didn't travel. He just stopped as soon as I got pregnant. Our multiples are 14yo now, no other kids followed coz no xxx again. Thats how long we've been without doing it. Did I ask him why he stopped? No. I was just chilled and nonchalant. He never stopped catering 💯 percent for us. Trips, 🎁, name it. He causally asked me one day, when last I had xxx, I cackled like a witch 😁 🤣 . That's how my own marriage is, you may ask how i cope? What am i coping with? So far my husband doesn't hit or disrespects me, I'm fine with whatever he does with his life, just keep loading me with money💰, thats how i am. Till today, I never asked him why he stopped. Don't be like me, I'm well in my late 40s and living life on the fast lane. I didn't come to mope about.
ReplyDeleteOmoooo! Is good as you cackled.
DeleteFrom your story, assuming you are 48 years now (since you said you are in your late 40s) and your multiples came 14 years ago, it means sex with him stopped when you were 34.
DeleteWomen dey see shege for marriage walahi, majority of men i have spoken to have stop having sex with their wives at a point for one reason or the other and majority of the men that i have spoken to about this always has a girl they are in love with and doing it with her or girls they are doing it with while still laying with their wife on same bed every night like all is well. I have asked these men their reasons, its always one funny tale or they they say my brother you wont understand, i ask them how do their wives cope and majority believe their wives are coping well and they believe their wives will never cheat on them for such reason.
DeleteChai, Anon 15:26 you're a strong woman. Asking when last u had sex & wanting to her your mouth. lol. You would have asked him how long him too had sex...
Deletemadam just dey play you hear me
ReplyDeletewhat stop you from dragging him that night and tear all his boxers
how can my husband travel for four mouths and come and i will not dig him throughout tat night? The children should be kept in a space where they should not distract us. Who is your husband listening to while he was away, what did you say to him while away, did you discuss him with someone related or close to him, what are the things you do before that you stopped. Are you sure your hygiene is still intact? if you answers are yes then you need to make that move of speaking to your husband.
He is your husband, the father to your children, you both said yes to each other in your union. You shouldn't hide your feelings or fears to him. Talk things over with him, is possible something is wrong somewhere. Did he go for military training or program? some exercise can reduce that part of a person, check his health status too, use your woman power to get your man to touch you. Focus on him now and find out what went wrong, correct all impressions. Hope you did not cheat on him while he was away, hope you never said hurtful words or speak less of his bedmatic performance? Don't forget to involve the maker of marriage in your union, i wish you wisdom to handle your man perfectly well.
Well Said
DeleteAs a man there are four factors that might cause this changes in your husband, This is from a personal experience.
ReplyDelete1. Stress: it could be financial stress, work related stress or other forms of stress.
2. Change of behavior in the wife or negative vibes from the wife.
3. Health related problem
4. Extra marital affair.
Since he is your husband talk things out with him and yes be the one to initiate sex for now. Remember sex is a need and you should not be ashamed to voice out your needs to your husband.
You see that your number 4 is always 99.9% of the reason while they use number 1 to 3 as cover up when the wife begin to asked what changed or what happened
DeleteMany possible scenarios @Poster.
ReplyDeleteHe might be emotionally overwhelmed with work,and gbenshing is the least of his worries.
Could also be that he might have cheated where he went to;and he isn't sure of his status;so he doesn't want to transfer whatever he might be guessing he could have contacted to his innocent wife,until he is done with medication.
Could also be that he went there and saw another woman who matched his vibe,work wise and all;so in his head now he is comparing/contrasting between you and that lady;and just wishes he met that lady before you.
Could be extended family issues;he doesn't want to disturb you with the tales;and just dealing with a lot mentally.
Could even be that he is mentally exhausted to have to return to the country after seeing the good things of life outside where he went for just that few months,so he is calculating and analysing how to relocate with you all.
However,Have you tried su*king and riding him while he is asleep and he disagrees or pushes you away?
Try it;that would let you know where you stand and what the possible case may be.
If he pushes you away;you have your answer already.
Wishing you all the best.
@MARTINS
Exactly Many Scenarios ✍️✍️✍️
DeleteDid anything strange happen when he traveled? Did you do any kurukere waka and you think he won't find out? Did you do anything that made him suspicious?
ReplyDeleteWhat value do you add to his life. Maybe the trip opened his eyes to how much value a woman can be and he is regretting getting married to one who just wants to relax and be taken care off. Men also love sacrifices and efforts too.
Maybe he is treating a STI or want to be sure he isn't infected before touching you.
He might have an infection that he’s trying to wait out to clear
ReplyDeleteCheck around and see if you find any drugs for it. Don’t force him to have sec before you carry something
Dear Poster, there are a lot of factors that would make a man behave the way you have described to a woman he has been away from for long and who is his wife. Some of these factors could be; first, rumors or hearsay of infidelity about you from family members, friends etc, secondly it could be that he is mad at you about something petty you don't even know about, thirdly, he may have contacted an STD and doesn't want to pass it on to you. And lastly, he may be suffering from something that may have affected his male organ. Until you sit him down and have a heart to heart discussion with him, do not conclude on anything and do not feel you are overthinking it.
ReplyDeleteTalk it out, tell him how you feel. I wish you all the best.
It seems your husband has disconnected from you sexually and emotionally. For some people, 'absence makes the heart go fonder', while for some 'out of sight out of mind'. Maybe your husband is the latter. It doesn't necessarily mean he has a side chick somewhere. It might just take him time to 'remember 'his attachment to you. Try and 'date' him afresh. Start doing those stuff you two used to do when the love was still fresh and new in your dating days. I think this is the best time to bundle your kids(if any) to your family's house cuz you two need alone time to rekindle that flame. It isn't just about the sex. Rekindle the intimacy.
ReplyDeleteThere is a time for everything in a man's life.
ReplyDeleteWhile he was fulfilling all his financial obligations from away, who paid for the tech program? Him? His employers?
Is it possible he is overthinking how to recoup financially or maximise his new knowledge and certification?
Did he meet with people that made him over-sober with his life and work achievements or to generally be reflective about his life by comparison?
The question: what a woman brings to the marital table is beyond finance. Now is the time for you to show what you have in your pot - to draw him out, to be involved with his goals, to know another side of your husband beyond nacks, etc.
Not every s3xual slack by a man is connected to another woman.
Contrary to what women think, or some men want all to believe, a man is not all about s3X otherwise the Bible would be wrong when it says there is a time for everything.
Men have phases in their lives too.
Sit and talk in non-accusatory words with your husband.
It obvious a man sent this in. Isn't it?
That's right ...It might be so many factors..>Asking her husband lies her answers
DeleteThat's right ...It might be so many factors..>Asking her husband lies her answers
DeleteDon't be too hasty to judge. Yes I understand your position. But maybe the workload or office situation he met when he came back is not too favourable as to how he left Even the situation in the country is enough to make a man impotent . The economy is bad. I don't know how many kids you have. Think of this too.
ReplyDeleteIt has happened to me as a woman, when I am overwhelmed with something I lose interest in sex. I went for annual leave and handed to someone to act for me. When I came back, she did not hand over back. She had lobbied to keep the position, so I lost my post and was reassigned . I was depressed. In that situation, sx will be the last thing on my mind. And that went on and on until I was able to snap out of my emotions.
So poster, give him time. Study him then have an intimate talk with him.
May God restore all missing link in your marriage . Amen!
God Abeg oh!!!
ReplyDeleteSome people are not wired for distance relationships.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is one of them.
I pray that the Almighty will fix it.
Sdk and pure, you nailed it, your husband is connected if not four months , one week absence from a man and wife. The man go dey run after the woman. Pls sit him down, you talked it out
ReplyDeleteEvery man is different.
DeleteHmmm, the behavior is not normal for a husband that has been away for so long. You are not over thinking things at all.
ReplyDeleteAs his wife I believe you know his mumu button, use that method since the discussion route didn't work.
Maybe he'd open up to you after he starts getting intimate with you again.
Communication needed. Tell him how your concerns and ask him questions
ReplyDeleteGuy man fit don play away match so him dey wait make him finish antibiotics before him continue the home match. Check his belongings very well, you may find the answer you seek.
ReplyDeleteHmmm...this is seriously serious. Poster sit him down and have a heart to heart discussion about your fears, don't rush into conclusion.
DeleteYou are right to be suspicious and worried. You were both away from each other for four months. The sexual longing , and tension that has built up over time, the supposed hunger and caged desire looking for expression, is enough to make him ravage you like a hungry lion the moment he walked through that door. He was supposed to have missed everything about you, and that includes your warmth and your body, but on the contrary, he is keeping his distance.
ReplyDeleteI am forced to believe he likely got entangled with someone over there. Perhaps he thought to use one stone to kill two birds, i.e., meet up with old folks, so he reconnected with an ex he knew way back in Nigeria, and old feelings erupted, and you know the rest, like they say, is history. Or he could have met someone new over there who exposed him to new sexual experiences different from what you both share.
The crux of the matter isn't the cheating, but that a lot must have happened for him to just zone out like that. After all, men who cheat still find time to get intimate with their wives to cover - up. In your husband's case, he doesn't even have the discretion. Hence my belief that his sudden avoidance goes deeper than the breach of physical intimacy; but it overlaps towards the emotional angle as well.
Any other reason you can come up with for his disinterest, aside from this, is just wishful thinking. Let him open up, because his silence is loud enough and not helping him conceal anything; he deludes himself into thinking it does. He is the only one who can open up on what went down and with whom that has suddenly crippled his sexual appetite for you.
Based on the new development, he hasn't gone four months without sex, not just with you.
On a second thought, who knows, he likely did it without protection, so he is trying to buy some time before he carries out some tests to be sure he is clean rather than just jumping into the sack with you and infecting you with something you don't deserve.
Make sure he opens up tonight!
You give sound and detailed advice, Gaby...Keep it up 👍👍👍
DeleteThanks, Saint... I appreciate that you see it that way. You are gracious.
DeleteAhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteTrouble in Paradise
Hmmmmm
Mayben he's no more in Love with you
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Abi he hold gbese for that side?
Please sit him down and talk with him
It is well🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
He has gone better face front ,no matter how full men are ,they will always want to catch meat ;lion only shows indifferent to prey once they are full;maybe somebody has giving hims monkey in the moon shadow style 😃so your missionary is dead on arrival;try to ask him what Stella said in a straight forward manner
ReplyDeletePoster don't over think it. it might just be something totally different from sex. You just have to show commitment to know what's wrong and that's it.
ReplyDeleteHe is seeing someone else .
ReplyDeleteI wouldn’t push things until about 6 weeks.
ReplyDeleteWhy?. Incase it’s an STI oo.
Meanwhile snoop oooo. Snoop wisely sha. Interpret the results of the snooping wisely too
Poster why not try looking through his phone, it could help clear up some of your doubts, you know....
ReplyDeleteIs he going back?
ReplyDeleteIs he back finally?
Is he talking of relocating?
Does he have very fun memories of abroad…
Once my partner travelled to Norway,it was a 2 months trip came back and acted almost same way
I came up with a plan to cry about how sex starved I was and how it might push me out,it worked. It was the wake up call for him,note that I was respectfully and presented myself as weak and helpless
He started touching me small small before it picked up after a while
Much later he would tell me that if not for his company bringing him back,he would’ve married there
He likes them there
They are this and that
Lol,ogbeni fuck* me first leave all these talk
I wan sex,body no bi firewood,do me first abeg
After a while I didn’t hear about Norway again, it passed
I think he had a fling/relationship or so but e no concern me
Probably yours did, but if you put mine there,your marriage will suffer
Be gentle and soothing with him
He will come around
My dear is if he is going back
Is he going back?
ReplyDeleteIs he back finally?
Is he talking of relocating?
Does he have very fun memories of abroad…
Once my partner travelled to Norway,it was a 2 months trip came back and acted almost same way
I came up with a plan to cry about how sex starved I was and how it might push me out,it worked. It was the wake up call for him,note that I was respectfully and presented myself as weak and helpless
He started touching me small small before it picked up after a while
Much later he would tell me that if not for his company bringing him back,he would’ve married there
He likes them there
They are this and that
Lol,ogbeni fuck* me first leave all these talk
I wan sex,body no bi firewood,do me first abeg
After a while I didn’t hear about Norway again, it passed
I think he had a fling/relationship or so but e no concern me
Probably yours did, but if you put mine there,your marriage will suffer
Be gentle and soothing with him
He will come around
My dear is if he is going back
Maybe...
ReplyDelete1. He got mixed up with homos and they initiated him.
2. He fell ill and can't get it up no more.
3. He slept with mammy water or spirit wife. Those ones won't hear that he slept with his wife.
4. He is fasting and needs to stay away from sex.
5. Joined a clandestine fraternity with negative rules regarding sex with one's spouse if he has to keep his job (don't know if what he went for is connected to a/his job).
6. E wan carry you do blood money, dem say make e no near you.
Maybe, just maybe...
Which ever way, pray fervently, be extremely watchful and alert and then talk to him about it. Try initiating it again.
It's strange my dear. Even if he had sex in the aeroplane before coming home to meet you, haba! Four months fa...
God Abeg oh! It’s likely he’s cheating sha, I hope I’m wrong. Snoop oh, his texts, WhatsApp, emails, pictures, everything. Another thing, if you guys end up having sex and he gives you new style, it’s likely he learnt it from his affair partner. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteI refuse to be civil on this issue,inshort I will be blunt to the core,if you are sure you did not discuss your husband with a close relation who later informed him about you guys discussion.
ReplyDeleteThen his resentment means that throughout his 4 months stay abroad, someone drilled him all through and he had his best orgasm. So I will suggest you sit him down and have a serious discussion. Two weeks apart is enough for couple to "rape' themselves not to talk of 4 months, mbanu
Chi loving
What of if the gbola get mechanical or electrical problem?
ReplyDeleteHe is in love with someone else. He has tasted something else and does not fancy you intimately anymore. Do u look good, smell nice, are you exciting abi na just missionary, is your hair nice???? Please make yourself sexy, no grandma night gowns and oversized pants and please take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf he has fallen for someone else, there is nothing she can do to win his love back. Let her start snooping and eavesdrop when he makes calls. When he is out, search his room and belongings
DeleteI feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteBut I will advise that you should slow down on the sex thing.
Your hubby has been away for 4months and may have cheated on you.
What if your husband had sex with someone who he isn't sure of the HIV, hepatitis B and C status? And he is waiting for confirmatory test? Maybe he is scared of telling you and at the same time wants to protect you.
I think you should hold on and be vigilant.
I don't know but I feel you people should have serology tests after 3months before being intimate to avoid stories that touch.
It's better you use sex toys to satisfy yourself than contracting an illness you will be on medication and monitoring for life.
If you can be non judgemental and have him tell you things then you both can find the best way to sort this issue out.
I wish you the best
He may have fallen in love over there and planning to divorce the wife and relocate to meet the other person, get married and get papers
ReplyDeleteMadam, contact tech guys to hack into his phone so you can listen to his calls, read his WhatsApp and emails, etc. So that you will plan yourself and get ready for the worse.
ReplyDeleteBefore the thing will do you like film when he asks for a divorce or abandon you for his new catch in abroad.
Madam, hope you did not cheat on him and he heard?
ReplyDeleteHope you did not meet up with a man in public ( not your boyfriend, maybe a friend or ex) and he heard?
Hope you did not go to a place or do something that he does not like and he warned you about before he travelled and he found out.
Men know how to hide their emotions more than women. He may even be angry with you but still sleep with you.
Wake him up in the middle of the night on a weekend and talk to him, tell him to open up on whatever the problem is.
I hope no one has given your husband false narrative about you while he was gone. Sit him down and demand answer. Say it as you feel, no sugar coating.
ReplyDeleteYes, the distance may have caused his sudden change but you can win him back through prayers.
ReplyDeleteWhen you realize things aren't the way they used to be,then you must pray and create that atmosphere you want it to be.pls make it a habit of praying together and have that discussion,he needs to put his home inorder before it crumbles, God forbid!
@anon 3:12, that's my thought too. He might be trying to play safe, until he does the necessary test before having anything to do with her s*x*ally. Again, it might be a different thing entirely. Whatever it is, communication is the key. May God see you through @poster.
ReplyDeletePoster pls ask question he is your husband ,have a heart to heart conversation with him ask him what happened. Is there any problem ,why the avoidance is he overloaded with work, is he involved in fraud, or business ,ask him are you seeing someone else or are you infected with an sti, let him know that you re worried.
ReplyDeleteAfter the discussion be vigilant read body language, phone conversation if he is hiding to answer, search his bags and check laptops ,check search bar satisfy your. curiosity.
Then Leave him to come around, before you sleep pray to God to bring answers rest your mind and watch things unfold
Pls give us update it's well with your marriage. the Lord is your strength
Maybe he caught sexual transmitted
ReplyDeletewith disease from his travel and he is avoiding you so that he won't give it to you.
Very painful. But what aunty Stella said is just the truth
ReplyDeletePoster, please remember to send an update.
ReplyDeleteOga don carry jombo, from experience ni oh!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteI hope he’s not involved with another woman. Perhaps, it’s fatigue from the long training and time spent apart and he will readjust with time.
Body no be wood and four months is a long time not to feel the warmth of a spouse. So I understand your situation. You know your husband well, and the best way to speak to him. Make your concerns known and see what he has to say. It could be anything that makes him act the way he’s doing right now. But don’t make assumptions.
I know of a man who goes on trainings for short and long term and have fallen in love with another woman, who he takes around and spend time with in different countries. This is while the wife at home is making efforts to get his manhood up, not knowing it’s not her or a medical condition. But the work of a wondering joy stick.
With that said, there are men who do not cheat on their spouse and I hope your husband is one of them. Be observant and apply wisdom in tackling this situation. Remember there may be something causing this or nothing. In all things, take good care of yourself. I wish you the best. Kindly give us an update and I hope to read something positive from you. Your’s truly, anonymous BV, aka sleepless in CA.