LATE HUBBYS PROPERTIES AND INLAWS
A friend lost her husband about a month ago, Her husband built two bedroom flats in Lagos.
A friend lost her husband about a month ago, Her husband built two bedroom flats in Lagos.
The deceased family is already disturbing the widow (with 3 kids ) that they want to take over the house , that the house will be sold and the proceeds used to build the plot of land the deceased bought in the village.
Also, the deceased's cousin in the village wants the widow to marry him. Imagine! Someone still mourning her late husband!
The wife even complained that when the husband died , they withdrew all the money in his account via his Atm, andcollected his phone from her.
Ah! People are wicked!!
I advised that she takes the house documents away from the house and go report the case to human rights, but her fear is that; by October she will be going to their village for the final burial rites, she wouldn't want them to go diabolical on her.
Both are from same place in the south.
Please is this culture or just being wicked?why add to her pain if you have nothing good to offer? She said she isn't interested in the cousin and doesn't plan re-marrying but face training her children. She has a small job she is managing that pays about #65,000 monthly. Please BV advise is needed on what she should do?
In the South that remarrying inside family thing when a husband dies is very normal, she just needs to say NO she is not interested......
As for taking over his properties, cant she resell and hide the money? she cannot escpae them selling the house and can even end her life for this purpose...It is either she gives it to them or sells it and hides the money for her kids...They will definitely go diabolical on her.......
I advised that she takes the house documents away from the house and go report the case to human rights, but her fear is that; by October she will be going to their village for the final burial rites, she wouldn't want them to go diabolical on her.
Both are from same place in the south.
Please is this culture or just being wicked?why add to her pain if you have nothing good to offer? She said she isn't interested in the cousin and doesn't plan re-marrying but face training her children. She has a small job she is managing that pays about #65,000 monthly. Please BV advise is needed on what she should do?
In the South that remarrying inside family thing when a husband dies is very normal, she just needs to say NO she is not interested......
As for taking over his properties, cant she resell and hide the money? she cannot escpae them selling the house and can even end her life for this purpose...It is either she gives it to them or sells it and hides the money for her kids...They will definitely go diabolical on her.......
That visitng foe final rites is where they will catch her, thats where they catch all of them....She has two choices,to be well prepared or fake that she is very sick....
A Bv shared something that could be of help to your friend sometimes last week or so, she said her friend employer claimed the house document was used as a collateral for debt and they helped to move valuable properties. Your friend should inform her family members as well so that they can assist
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I support this idea
DeleteThis was my thought before seeing this comment.
DeleteAlso, how did they know the man's ATM card's pin?
Later, when this children wants to get married, they will be looking for these family members to represent their father.
Because tell me how your brother will die and all you're concerned about is how to devour his properties and leave his immediate family stranded. If not greediness, why should one be interested in his late brother's wife?
Poster sorry for your predicament.pls go with the advice posted here some days back by one BV.God will fight those fighting you, He's the father to the fatherless,just hold on to God and trust Him for your victory.
DeleteKangs stupidly blindly trusting family members to care for their widows and children
DeleteI didn't know that other tribes do this too. This wickedness is common among the Igbos but I know that most tribes allow the widows to marry their late husbands' brother! It's common among the Yorubas.
ReplyDeleteWhere do they want her to go with three children? Don't they have conscience? Can't the one that is interested in inheriting his brothers wife build the house on the the land his late brother bought?
That woman needs to pray and involve a lawyer in this matter. She shouldn't release the documents of her house to her in-laws. That house belongs to her and her children.
You do realise that Igbo is still part of the South abi. I won’t put this nonsense past them at all.
DeleteEka Joy, na the "East" wey Dem no join with the "South" no too make me know whether na South South or South East.
DeleteSouth East Geo political zone. Some people non igbos call it south
DeletePoster tell your friend to be strong because it won't be easy. This is not the time to be soft because she will suffer it. She shouldn't allow them take everything away from her.
ReplyDeleteCan't she take them to the customary court and human rights immediately before the burial commenses? After the burial, they may not waste one day to carry out their plans and by then it may be too late to react.
ReplyDeleteIt is not their right to have access to her property. What will the man's children feed off if they claim his property?
And , whose name is on the man's documents as beneficiary? That person that took his money from the bank should be arrested. I wish the complaints can be made to the bank and the bank will surmon his family members using the police, they should provide the particular person amongst them that took the card, if not all of them will go in for it.
Oh, God, I wish I had authority 🥺. All this things would have been a minor issue for me to tackle
Please Bank will do nothing. Wetin concern them?
DeleteSee why writing a will is important...let her involve her own family members and get a lawyer to help her....She should let her husband's employer involved; block the man's family from having access to her husband's office to claim his death benefits that's if he is working
ReplyDeleteMay God help her (Amen)
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ReplyDeleteShebi men said everything will be in their mum's name like hakimi?
DeleteNow see the results, I don't think the woman knows her husband's atm pin but the family knows it haha!
Someone said that his dad told him to remember that his wife is the only outsider in his family and it has played out.
Ladies always have a backup plan e get why.
She should report to the police and women’s rights agency. If she’s in Lagos she should report to the appropriate agency and they will take it up
ReplyDelete"Your Inlaws are not your family" someone said so on Instagram, and I think this is the perfect example and I my Inlaws are not my family
ReplyDeleteVery true. They are mostly wicked and selfish.
DeleteAnon15:39, who are the they, remember it includes you and your relatives because you are someone in-laws one way or another.
DeleteSee them. Daiska
DeleteSelfish inlaws always looking for ways to reap off inheritance they never toiled for.
DeleteThey didn't like their own brother that is why they can be so cruel and evil to his children and Widow after his death
DeleteClaim to want the brother,be nice to him,use that avenue to hold on to some things.
ReplyDeleteTell them you are still within the family
Hold on to that till you bury your husband,trust me he wouldn’t want anything to happen to you ,you know mourning is 6 months after burial.
You have time to disappear
They are my people play them at their own game
If you talk you don’t now they will fight you
Make sure the brother you choose to be with is strong and respected
God be with you Nne
And give you wisdom
Not a good advice, she can't do this without actually marrying the brother or at least sleeping with him. Unless she uses jazz on him
DeletePoster please take this advise. Or that if loan from bank. Do not go for that burial alone oo. Go with at least 4-5 family and friends of yours. Anything you eat will be given you by your fry. Good luck
DeleteHide the documents
ReplyDeleteLet them try their worst
Hunger is not easy
Tell her to take the death certificate to the human right lawyers. Everything they sold will be returned. With their marriage certificate too. As a widow,you need to be strong because of your children.
ReplyDeleteThis one is serious. That is why it's good to check custom and tradition before going into marriage. Marriage is not a small thing. The husband should have willed every property to the children in case of death to make it easier. As it is, the custom and tradition stands. All she needs now is fervent prayer because the law might not favour her. If she has a male child, she use it as a bait. It's well with her
ReplyDeleteWhich yeye custom and tradition stand? It's like you're still living in stone age.
DeleteShe should go take a huge loan in a bank and use the house as collateral. She has a choice to say No to any shit of remarrying any idiot. In these days, these old traditions are still in use????
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DeleteI support this...take a loan using the house as collateral & a lawyer asap.
DeleteAbout time this bullshit ends. Women are people, children are people. How dare these grown azz ppl think it is their right to the assets above the man’s own next of kin, his wife and children. So these uncles, cousins and aunts think they are more important to the man than his own children. Fck a diabolical cause my azz would be so up there in that human rights place yesterday, not today. These beeches need to be taught a lesson, go get a damn job and stop being a leech waiting for someone to keep over so you can make a come up. F king disgusting lot
ReplyDeleteThis is serious matter
ReplyDeleteIt is well with Her o
ReplyDeleteMay Almighty God come Through for her
May A Real Helper Locate her
And Solve what ever problem she going through
AMEN AMEN oooooooooo
🙏🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
If only the man had added ur name to the house documents, I bet it would be a lot more difficult to take this from her. Men, keep treating ur wives like strangers oh, I hope ur kids won’t pay for it.
ReplyDeleteFoolish men won't learn
DeleteMay God help her make wise decision
ReplyDeleteGosh.. family members can be so so wicked. They are not even thinking about how this woman would fend for her kids. So terrible
ReplyDeleteShe should get in touch with the organization that is handling Queen May Edochie case on Facebook. They will help her. I don't know if my comment will be published if I mentioned their name..
ReplyDeleteDuring my NYSC a shop owner opposite my house had 8 girls. Immediately her husband died the family quickly rushed to his house to view all what they would steal . After she and kids left for the village, these wicked inlaws had taken the house keys from her and proceeded to the deceased house. She was fast enough to call the neighbours who quickly used red paint and wrote "this house has bn taken over by the bank with court order number. The welder on our street quickly cut all the padlocks and we replaced with new ones. In the afternoon a big truck landed with her in laws, the shock on their faces ehn....one of them was learned and got to speak with our neighbour who was the mastermind of the covet operation 😆..He told them that the deceased owed the bank a lot of money for mortgage loan. When they left we jubilated with malt and suya. When she returned they looked emaciated with their hairs shaved, she thanked us profusely and told us how they made jest of how they were now homeless. Next day we packed all their belongings into a truck and she moved to another house which the husband had just completed. The inlaws came again that her number was not going through and enquired about their whereabouts...we no talk o! The house was later sold and her girls are all doing fine and others married well.
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DeleteThe Most Complex B
Imagine!!! Person wey born 8 times? As if the process of birthing male children is easier than female. Men, do what you have to do to ensure your wife and kids are well taken care of if you are not there.
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