HURT BY SPOUSE
My fellow bvs. Please how do you forgive a spouse that made this statement to you "since we got married, if not for prayers in my life, hmmm" during an altercation? Is it forgivable? That statement is really hurting me and I'm a little broken by it.
WOW.....please have a conversation to find out what is going on......I am guessing you are the wife.....Yes you can forgive him but you need to find out what is going on and if someone has brain washed him into this mindset...
He has hiiden resentment towards you. Find out why.
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DeleteYou know his medicine, use it wisely.
DeleteI'm guessing your spouse has been speaking to someone who has been giving fake spiritual advise. This is not right.
ReplyDeleteSpeak to your partner.
You really need to know why he made that statement.
ReplyDeleteTell him how you feel.
So many unspoken words.....
ReplyDeleteThere's something you're not being told. You need to find out.
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Yup. It feels like one of those everyone knew but me situation.
DeleteThat's a very hurtful word to say to someone, especially your spouse!
ReplyDeleteYes, anything is forgivable if you are willing.
Try to have a conversation, make him/ her know how you feel... You gon' be alright dear poster
Which kind thing be that nahhh
ReplyDeletePlease when he's Calm kindly Sit him down and talk to him
Sometimes self when someone is angry he or She talks anyhow..
Pele Poster It is well🙏🙏
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I honestly won’t find this offensive lol.. I would have told him me too, if not my mother’s prayers
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Lmao! Everyone is not you na, some people love peace. I’m sure your husband will be fearing your mouth.
DeleteFan Emmanuel, you just made me laugh this afternoon.
DeleteI remembered when my children had misunderstanding, one came to report the other one .
Without hearing his side, I told him that's very wicked of him to do such!
He replied me, that he will take it as a compliment if not allowing himself to be intimidated and manipulated makes him wicked,thanks so much
I felt bad, on hearing his side ,I now know that he is equally saving himself.
Poster, maybe your hubby meant "if not prayers that is working on him now, his character fit be worse".
But try and make out time to ask him, to clear your conscience.
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DeleteYou need to find out what he means but you ask when everything is calm. Do you talk about your dreams? Maybe he's been attacked in his dream or things have began to go wrong. If that is the case then both of you have to go for prayers
ReplyDeleteThat statement is really scary and pregnant. You need to engage him in a conversation,to find out where that is coming from. If one end time prophet is poisoning his mind. And to know the future of the marriage. It's well with you poster. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteWhen so many people struggle through life, they blame it on another. That is a very low mentality. All these so called prayer houses and ministries are doing more harm than good. If you check well, either him or someone from his family has visited a prayer house and they told him his wife is the cause of his predicament.
ReplyDeleteMy dear strife restricts blessings especially in marriage. My dear ask him if he was Dangote before you married him. Find one word that will pain him too and tell him🤣. In all you do, run away from strife
Maybe cuz I am high but I don't understand your Chronicle
ReplyDeleteGive him a bj and when he is just about to come give him one big bite, tell him to go pray now and walk away. Ok, back to reality, the statement is ugly, very ugly and it needs to be addressed. A conversation needs to be had when you are both on good terms and in a good mood. No matter the conflict, hearing such a thing is not what is ever desired. The Bible says out of the mouth the heart speaks.
ReplyDeleteHow does his family treat you? How have his friends been treating you? If the statement has broken you to the point where mending is not possible even with professional help, then do a trial separation and see how you feel. If being apart makes you happier and healthier than being together then there is your answer.
Na now I understand wetin you write sef, that's an insult my dear! E reach to pain you!
ReplyDeleteYou for observe am sharp sharp as in make that careless statement.
Sha sit him down so you can discuss it, I for type more bu.......
This statement isn't that bad Na!
ReplyDeleteLike you never said hurtful things to him while angry?
Una go dey make this marriage thingy looks difficult.😎
Please ma this statement carry weight
DeleteBecause you live inside her abi?
DeletePoster, please send an update when you know what is going on.
ReplyDeleteNothing is wrong except you are afraid that there is something that you did and thought he or she may have found out,otherwise it is an harmless ,angry words
ReplyDeleteCouples say a lot of things they mean or don't mean in heated arguments hence the make up and forgiveness when we reconcile.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I say alot of mean things to my spouse including threatening to leave home, 10 years later, I still dey here😎 and we still going stronger, sometimes we look back and catch cruises from those 'supposed bitter arguments'.
Ask him again after eating your pot of good soup or see cheque from either one of you, una go burst into laughter. 😂
Chin up dear, it's nothing.
Women know how to remember what a man said to them but they don't remember what they said to a man. Please forget it, it was statement made out of anger. You too might have said hurtful words to him
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Na women dey write chronicles about marriage?
Well, maybe it is an acceptance of the fact say women complain too much?
Talk to him when the mood is light. Express your hurt.
ReplyDeleteHmmn. This thing called marriage. Talk to him. And try to let it go. I know it will never leave your heart, but let's try to get it off our mind
ReplyDeleteBe careful what comes out of mouth to your spouse.
ReplyDeleteShorter chronicles are the most loaded. What caused the altercation may give an idea as to what the statement means. See that Poster did not tell on that.
ReplyDeleteWhat did Poster tell Spouse before the statement was made. Was it a retort or retaliatory. Again, no details.
Spouse may not have been a Trillionaire before marriage. But how has it been for Spouse after marriage. Upward or downward financially. No fact.
Is Spouse now a Spouse/Sponsor -in-law for Poster's family and has been
wearily drained financially. No information.
How has the marriage been before the complained altercation words. Has Poster been a peaceful and peaceable spouse or a trouble finder and shirt -locker or troubler of Spouse. No clue.
Marriage lifts up both spouses. It stagnant spouses. It also pull down spouses.
Married people are quick to take sole credits for uplifting marriages. They luxuriate in real or patronizing praises given by spouses for the success of their marriages. Most married people, however, do not want to hear that they may be the reason why their spouses are stagnant or retrogressing financially or healthwise or all-round after marriage.
Poster should wholly introspect about the words heard. If Poster is sure that Poster is doing well in the marriage, Poster should throw the words away as words of anger or words applicable only to Spouse. If Poster concludes that there is need for pro-marriage readjustment on Poster's part, the adjustment need to be made
Rather than focus on whether to forgive or not, Poster should focus on finding out the real chinks in the marriage and thinking about how Poster and Spouse can work out the solutions.
Take it or leave it, Spouse's statement is an inkling that the marriage is not being enjoyed by Spouse as Poster thinks or had thought, or as people think, or Spouse wants.