Due to the pains and disgrace I went through in that marriage, I decided not to marry again and I adopted a girl when she was 5 months.
I am doing averagely well so I poured out my all on her. She started being a torn on my flesh from senior secondary. She grew wild and stopped obeying me.
I sent her to my younger sister who was married with children, she went and started seducing her husband.
This incident brought serious issue between me and sister that we stopped talking for months. My daughter gained admission and I handed her over to my friend who is a lecturer in the school as a guardian.. She will leave school and travel for weeks.
My friend will call me to inform me that my daughter has not been in school for days. Her lines will be switched off. I will be running Helter scetter looking for her.
Finally she got pregnant to a very low life and dropped out of school. She gave birth. I encouraged her to go back to school while I help her with the baby. I got an extra nanny for the baby. I called the guy that impregnated her to see if things will work out with them with regards to marriage.
Finally she got pregnant to a very low life and dropped out of school. She gave birth. I encouraged her to go back to school while I help her with the baby. I got an extra nanny for the baby. I called the guy that impregnated her to see if things will work out with them with regards to marriage.
The guy told me bluntly that he will not marry her. I left him and faced my daughter and grandchild. This girl refused to go back to school. She said she wants to learn tailoring. I paid for it.
She went for few days and stopped going. Rather she will dress so provocatively and roam the streets. I am a good Christian. People respect me around my place due to my dedication to God and my source of livelihood.
In the course of scolding her for bringing shame to me. She told me not to waste my time on her. That she is no more interested in the adoption. I should tell her where her parents are or she will kill me. She told all relatives and
friends same thing.
friends same thing.
I took her to where I adopted her and they could not trace her parents. She left home for weeks and came back but I refused her because I don't want her to kill me . The girl has really dealt with me. She has disgraced me and made me a laughing stock. She pleaded, because of her innocent child, I took her back. She took the child one day and did not come back for weeks. I searched everywhere but did not see her and the child. I later heard she has gone back to the guy that impregnated her. I was very happy.
Finally God has heard me. This girl came back again after two months and dropped her child and left.
Few days ago, my ex husband called me to ask why I want to kill myself because of someone that hates me so much. He advised me to take the child where I got her before she kills me.
Few days ago, my ex husband called me to ask why I want to kill myself because of someone that hates me so much. He advised me to take the child where I got her before she kills me.
When I enquired further, he said my daughter called him and told him I gave her his number. He invited her over and she started seducing him. Telling him I am not his mother so there is no crime if he dates her.. I have not spoken to this ex for years. I don't know how this girl got his number. My people I am a living corpse. What can I do.
Is girl is evil!!!...Please move ot of that area and dont leave a forwarding address!!...I dont even know what to say...WHAT!!!!!...
Please return her to the adoption place and officially declare that she is no longer your daughter...ah.....I dont even know what to say....
Please find allow her to kill you before your time, take her back to back to where you adopted her from..this is one of the million reasons alot of people fear adoption?
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DeleteOh God why is life unpredictable? This woman thought she will be happy with the coming of a child but life still proved her wrong......
DeleteWhy but am beginning to hate life honestly why are we really here? Just to suffer and die!
Sometimes I envy the dead that's the stage I am in now!
Seems my late brother knew and died earlier now I envy him because if I write my own story nobody will believe me.
I just wish we had a glimpse of our years on earth before coming
I watched a documentary where an adopted child who never met his father (his father was in jail when he was born and his parents were never married) was finally linked to his real father through DNA matching. Long story short, the boy didn’t meet his dad but he had an almost identical rap sheet to his dad, a career criminal. Adoption should be done VERY PRAYERFULLY. No matter what love and training you give, nature is nature and some people are EVIL by nature and their children sometimes inherit their evil. May God be with you poster! 🤗
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ReplyDeleteI am and have been against adoption. Nothing no one will tell me about adoption. Majority of the cases don't end well. Majority of them are ungrateful, selfish and entitled.
DeleteSo sorry.
My dear at this point you have to look out for yourself only. Take her back to where you picked her and do exactly what late TB Joshua did. This case is very common among adopted children
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She is a devil. You shouldn't have taken her back after she told you to your face that she will kill you. Abeg allow her go with her child. She has made it clear to you that you mean nothing to her.
ReplyDeleteAdding to Stelllas advice, get a restraining order. Let her sign that if anything happens to you, she should be held accountable.
ReplyDeleteThis is my problem with adoption, it's somehow because if not properly checked and spiritually guided it causes a lot of problems. Poster I am sorry for all you have been through. Please return the girl back to where you found her or move out of where you are alonrand never look back. She is a thorn in your flesh that wants to rip you apart.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, please do as Stella has said. That girl will come back to kill you one day if care is not taken. She is amoral and sees nothing wrong in what she is doing. Please move from that area if you can and change your numbers. Cut her off completely and make an official report to Law Enforcement Agencies about this matter so the authorities can be aware should something happen to you.
ReplyDeleteI’m considering adoption
ReplyDeleteOn the process
Hearing this my heart flipped
I don’t know if I will want to continue the process
This level of pain is hard,deep and frustrating
Can kill….
Ma,please if you can’t relocate
Get a restraining order and get her to sign papers at the police
Involve the police
What is this?
My baby brother is 34. He is a very good boy. First class student , loving and kind . He’s the pride of our family . He knows he is adopted because and he didn’t change one bit meanwhile my biological brother is a big thorn
DeletePls don’t let one bad example change your mind. There are very many success stories of adoption. Even there are instances of one’s biological children doing worse things than this and that doesn’t stop people from having children. Let the Lord guide you in your journey of adoption and you will not regret it.
DeleteAnon pls go ahead and adopt, it doesn't always turn out bad.
DeletePoster was just very unlucky
This story reminds me of someone I knew, adopted a girl but over pampered her as a child.
DeleteShe got all she wanted in life ,so rude and wayward.
People complained that when they were talking to her mom about over pampering, she sees it as loving her.
She finally left house, to be living with friends visits only when she needs money or in trouble.
Her mom was advised to adopt another child, she did , and that calmed her down a little cos she now knows that she is not all important to her mom again.
This time, the woman is raising the second one properly even taking her to families to assist.
The second one is turning out better
Adopt and pray over it. This story apart from the killing and having a baby is what we are facing from my sister first daughter. Even one of my brother too. These are not adopted children o. We are still praying seriously for them.
DeleteThis is why I never encourage having only one child. Even if you can't give birth again adopt one and join. If you're adopting, adopt 2. That only child shi is scary.
DeletePoster abeg throw away that devil like a hot plate, what!! Don't die because of a useless somebody, you have really tried and it's time to stop and look out for yourself please 🙏
ReplyDeleteSorry for what you have been through dear, it's well with your soul.
That girl is a timed bomb waiting to explode. What!! She is evil!
ReplyDeleteBetter do away with her now, this is one of the problems of adoption..
Poster your good deed will not bring you harm. Report the matter to the police and never allow her near you again.
ReplyDeleteMay God comfort you.
Forget about her for now and move to an unknown location. But make sure you keep praying for for to change her for good. I did this prayer when my uncle's son started misbehaving. I kept praying that God arrests him and God did it. He now assists the parents in doing house chores, greeting people, etc unlike before.
ReplyDeleteJust keep her in prayers while you stay away from her. Don't mind how she'll fend for herself. Anytime she repents she will come looking for you humbly.
And If you can adopt another child, please do but this time just change strategy. Don't over pamper this one like you did the other one. I didn't say you should always beat her up o. As from two years old, start training the child on how to do things on her own. There is nothing wrong if you start placing responsibilities on her at that age. Little by little she will master the act. Sometimes, tell her to pick up a broom and join you while you sweep etc, I know she won't do it perfectly but that will make her conscious of the fact that this will be part of her responsibilities when she grows and she dares not go anywhere except she's done with her duties at home. Remember, talking to the child is way better than shouting and beating all the time. Anything you tell her to do, always explain to her why it's good to do it.
You see those people whose parents own a restaurant right? Many of the kids mastered the act of waking up as early as 4pm because their parents trained them that way.
As for the ex child, when she comes back to find out that you now have another child, she will comport herself because you can now do without her. Before you will know it, the new child will gain admission in the university like play like play
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Stella say na 'please, return her to the adoption place and officially declare that she's no longer your daughter " 😂😂😂😂😂. God, abeg o. No let person carry wetin go put am for trouble
ReplyDeleteReturn who? A grown up woman? Person wey don even born pikin.
Poster, it's sad that things turned out the way they did. You raised this girl from when she was 5 months, a baby! Not 5 years o. You must have overlooked so many things or maybe the girl took after her biological mother. Her case maybe "like mother like daughter" case.
How did she know that she was adopted? Who told her? Was she mocked? Who told her about your husband and how did she get his mobile number and address?
Anyway, you really need to be careful, honestly. I don't know if you should report to the police. I think the girl will still fish you out if you leave that location, yes, she's that scary except you leave the country or move to another state.
Your ex still cares. Maybe, you should call him. He just might have an idea on what to do because this matter no be small one o.
You should watch and pray.
You are asking what can you do? My goodness may I never be this confused
ReplyDeleteIt's either you leave the child to leave hers luge or take her for deliverance at MFM but it's just that you dint know her foundation only God knows whether won ti shape fun. There's no problem God cannot solve, you need to know her origin.
ReplyDeleteWow....Madam,if you have enough resources please move out and don't disclose your whereabout to any one that can give her information but if not please involve the police and neighborhood securities in your area.
ReplyDeleteShe is just evil,repaying all your goodness with wickedness....It is well with you ma.
Ajo nwa! Tufiakwa!! Odi na obara!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your ordeal poster, but you have to wash off your hands off this ingrate and her child, painful but do it cuz your life is at stake.
May we not raise wicked and evil children, Chineke biko kwa.
Shudders!!
Ajo nwa! Tufiakwa!! Odi na obara!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your ordeal poster, but you have to wash off your hands off this ingrate and her child, painful but do it cuz your life is at stake.
May we not raise wicked and evil children, Chineke biko kwa.
Shudders!!
From what I am reading, this girl is now an adult no more underage to be returned to the adoption home . So Pls set her free. Act as if she does not exist. Put it behind you .This is one of the reasons people fear adoption. It can turn south
ReplyDeleteIt happened to me. I adopted 2years old after training to university with masters and she got a very good job. She turned to Miss Independent with no regards to me even competing with me she is in her late 20s now, I felt bad and almost regretted pumping so much money on her. Thank God I am not lacking. I blanked her out of my life for over 4 years and just recently reconnected and she has been the best child now. Even making plans for us to go on vacation abroad. She is now constantly in touch. She is all I have as I am over 50 and single. Your case is painful but God will see you through
God bless your heart. Thank God your relationship with her has been restored
DeleteI remember your story here
DeleteIt’s bad friends , plus only child syndrome
DeleteReminds me of Joys of motherhood.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I'm sorry you are going through all these. Please let that girl be cos no matter what you do for me, she doesn't seem like she would ever appreciate you. Please keep her away from you and keep praying for her.
If you crave companionship, you can try seeing someone who is good for you and doesn't want kids or have one who is ready to have you as a step mum.
Please, look out for yourself. You are loved with or without children.
Useless girl that supposed to be happy that she has a family, this is the reason why some people don't like adoption, if her biological parents were responsible, would she find herself in a motherless home, let alone adopting her.
ReplyDeletePlease get a restraining order, her eyes will soon clear after she has wasted all her entire life doing rubbish, maybe her biological parent/s spiritual problem is affecting her.
Jesus Christ!! 😱😱 what is this I read!! Poster why do you want to kpai for a lost course...She is an adult: leave her alone...I won't be surprised she is a drug addict...Why do you keep accepting her and breaking your heart 💜💜💜.
ReplyDeleteYou have done enough by loving her but you can't force her to love you in return....Please involve the police and get a restraining order while you pray from afar for her redemption...
It will be good you change your location..
All the best
So sorry about your ordeal poster,religion does not make us weak,she's already a mother,go and report her to the police and change your location. Give her,her child and cut every links with her.
ReplyDeleteSupporters of "go and adopt" what do you have to sày ?good will keep and protect you ,nothing to advice
ReplyDeleteAdopting is not bad...In life, there will always be advantages and disadvantages...Don't use just one story to judge
DeleteI wish I can give you a hug, you tried to make a lemonade out of the lemon life gave you, but it turned sour.
ReplyDeleteI cannot advice you because I lack the words, I hope God will heal your wound, pls don't give up on her yet but keep praying for her and staying very far from her for protection. I feel she is heavily possessed or maybe lineage problem probably from her birth mum or dad.
May God strengthen u
Whenever anyone tells you they will kill you, please believe them.
ReplyDeleteYou’re a little too stuck on the fact that you adopted her
ReplyDeleteShe’s your child so pray for her and hold her afar for now
This is sad, may the good Lord come through for you. Amen
ReplyDeleteBefore she makes good her threats pls send her back to where she belongs with her baby. If you have close relatives will advice you choose from there if you really need a child around you. Your story is heart. breaking .
ReplyDeleteSo sorry
A spirit got switched on in her that was dormant or that she picked up in her teens. There are some psychiatric conditions that first appear in the teenager years, like schizophrenia. Whatever she is under is bigger than you. She either needs deep spiritual intervention or a psychiatrist.
ReplyDeleteThe church you go to, is it a real church or a front for those who practice the left hand path? Did she serve in the church in any way or had close and continued contact with a higher up in the ministry? Could she have been molested by anyone in her early years?
The baby carries a portion of her genetics, if she has a mental condition the likelihood that the child is a carrier is also possible. You have some big decisions to make in the coming days. However, make a report at your local police station about the threat made on your life. As hard as that will be, never take a death threat made more than once lightly.
I live in the west and the police can put someone on a psychiatric hold and take them into a psychiatric facility for medical intervention, I don’t know if anything like that exists in Nigeria. I don’t want to tell you anything that will not work in your location. Medication can make a difference for some conditions, especially when detection is early.
You will have to decide whether to keep the baby or place them in an orphanage. If the child ends up being normal they may still resent you for putting her in an orphanage. This could be a damned if you do and damned if you don’t situation. Maybe seek some intervention from a real true blue pastor and get some counselling to clear your head so you can think clearly. It seems like the lesson you are to learn in this lifetime is patience and perseverance, because you really are being put to the test. You need some love to help fuel you. At this stage, only God can provide that love. Please do some sincere prayers, fasting and vigils for your own strength and for healing of your adopted daughter. I pray that divine wisdom and protection cover you.
Poster can't you "unadopt" her if there is any word like that? How can you put yourself inside this kind of misery? Please brake her back to where you adopted her from biko.
ReplyDeleteThis adoption story is scary. That's how one nurse adopted a girl even put her in the best school. This girl grew up to be a torn in the woman's flesh. The lady was scolding her one day and the next thing this girl said was barren woman.
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DeleteSo sorry this has happened to you Ma, may God grant you the wisdom to deal with this..this is adoption gone wrong, same way a biological child can go wrong! No guarantees in life at all!
ReplyDeleteMadam you use your hand adopt your enemy.
ReplyDeleteMay God grant you the wisdom to deal with it.
Poster my heart felt to you. Pls take Stella's advice and denounce that young lady she doesn't worth your life at all. May Allah heals you completely.
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ReplyDeleteSome steps and options to consider:
If the adoption is formal, go back to where you adopted her. The management there should be able to guide you on your necessary next steps.
Consider getting a Lawyer experienced in adoption and family laws to guide you on next steps. Or get a general legal practitioner who is also a Notary Public. Tell him to use the police to find your adopted daughter and baby daddy. Then, you, your lawyer, police officers, the baby daddy should sit down to :
1. Officially hand over the child to the baby daddy. The parents can sort custody issues between themselves
2. For your adopted child to sign by herself on written statement oath/affidavit that she has voluntarily freed herself from your custody since she is above 21 and no more a child under all laws in Nigeria.
3. Get a written undertaking from your adopted daughter and her Baby Daddy to be legally bound and held criminally liable if anything untoward happens to you after her threat to your life.
Remember to audio-video record the events at the meeting.
Stop thinking or planning to get the child as compensation for your investments in her mother. It is obvious that the baby daddy or your adopted daughter will collect the child from you when they are ready. Do not plan to get nothing for double parenting work.
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Poster, I can't imagine what she has put you through. Please watch and pray. And if there are measures to cut off from her totally, please do it
My heart goes out foe you poster. Pls listen to the advices ready given. Especially 21: 13. Follow that procedure.
ReplyDeleteJust want to tell you that it's not too late for God to make you fulfilled again and reward you for everything.
Forgive yourself, forgive your ex daughter, forgive your sister, ex husband Nd ask God to restore all you have lost. Trust me, this your later years, shall be greater. Will pray for you
Poster I beg of you, don't take her back or her daughter. Report the case to the police and any other relevant authority. Please move out of that area. At this age your peace is paramount. Who told you, you can't be happy without a child? May God strengthen you and give you peace ✌️
ReplyDeleteMy mum says something and today, after reading this chronicle, it makes sense. She says most of these women that give up their kids for adoption in Nigeria, are usually prostitutes that got impregnated by some low life, so the gene is in them l. You can't change it no matter how much you trym see the evidence today. Madam change location, so that she doesn't come close to you again. It's rather unfortunate
ReplyDeletePoster, did you give this girl proper home training or you spoilt her? Why did you tell her you adopted her when you adopted her to be your child? Are you reaping the seeds you have sown in her? Tell yourself the truth instead of lamenting. Everyone craves to have children but they are not ready to train up their children to be useful to them and society. Is it not better to be alone than to adopt and not raise the child properly. The monster you created by pouring your all into her is biting you now. May God see you through. Ask God for mercy and train her up properly.
ReplyDeleteSorry poster that you have to experience this. Your own biological child can even do worse to you. You did not wrong my dear but that is life sha. Pls pay more attention to what makes you happy and forget the nuisance. But do you know that the devil may be using her against you to frustrate or disgrace you ? I don't even know what am typing again sef. You will try everything to raise them but some will still disgrace you . It is well with parents.
ReplyDeleteMy logical advise is this: because of the threat to life you need to report to the police. I read almost all the comments i almost didn't see involving the police.
ReplyDeleteAm not saying the police will totally solve the issue but for future occurrence. Report to the police and file an official complaint. If she refuses to come collect the child then with police help locate her address and return the child to her. She left the child so can can have an excuse to always come back. Please be stern with this decision also if you can afford it beef up security around yourself/house because of the miscreant she is involved with. Above all pray for guidance. However i will like to add that in all this waka ( going to the police, returning the baby etc.) you should involve a male figure, be it your brother, a male friend, or male colleague or any male you know can assist you during this trying period. Goodluck.
I sense that the woman didnt show her enough love, the worst thing to happen to an adopted child is to remind her you are not her mother. 🤔🤔🤔
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