Hmmm this is thought provoking .....
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Monday, August 26, 2024
Actress Kemi Akindoju Wonders Why A Woman Should Give Up Her Last Name/Identity In Marriage..
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ReplyDeleteMine is compounded for work purposes ONLY
ReplyDeleteAll I own is in my maiden name
Changing names is a huge sacrifice and a risk.
I dont even want co-joined names on properties.
You own yours i own mine.
While you cheat , you cheat on your own funds no joint account too!
Some of us marry great men. while some are stuck with shit for a lifetime and are not willing to loose gaurd with them
Chiekwela ihe ojoo
Same thing I will do...No stress just compound your name
DeleteI love my father's name a whole lot, after marriage, I didn't change my father's name to my husband's name because I don't feel comfortable changing the name I have only known all my life I still use my father's name till date.
ReplyDeleteAs you support her view, why not drop your father's name and answer your mother's maiden name?
DeleteVery unnecessary write-up. Lala, do as you please with your family. Your son can bear your surname, claim your state of Origin and also "own" your son as long as your head is not messed up. Imagine the kind of thing that's troubling your entire being.
ReplyDeletePeople were called or described by their surname in the Bible, for example, David the son of Jesse etc
Don't mind her. This is some they lead other people astray. Later when dey get older they will come out and say it was the flesh that was at work. Keep your father's name and let those of us that want to identify with our husbands name be abeg
DeleteIt shouldn't trigger women who have changed their names, to each his or her own
Delete17:07
DeleteShe too should not have worried so much about this worn, trite, and tired issue.
So long as a man is made to pay Bride Price and buy other stuff and sometimes single-handedly sponsor the wedding, the lady must drop her name and take his.
ReplyDelete**Here's a revised version:**
DeleteI agree with you, but only if the same standard applies in reverse. For instance, a man should adopt his wife's surname when her family covers all wedding expenses, does not collect dowry, and sends his family home with more gifts than they brought. Would you still support the practice?
@Abionah, No, she must not drop her identity all because he paid 'bride' price! Afterall some women pay the bride price on behalf of the man, so in that case he must now bear the woman's name abi? lol
DeleteGbamabsolutely 👌
DeleteE get why!
Rara...
DeleteOje bi 🙄🙄🙄
You for kukuma stay single and not spend your money to marry the LOYL
What happens if both parties sponsors the wedding?
Will the woman be given an option to decide if she should take her husband's name or not?
*So what gives you peace of mind*
Brideprice is a pittance for a lifetime of support and continously confronting death in the labour room by women
DeleteAnonymous, the women who paid their bride price, do they boldly come out to say they paid or they pay and lie that the men paid their bride price.
DeleteThought provoking submission
ReplyDeleteWomen go Through alot Shaa
ReplyDeleteMe I like My Papa Name ooo
Hello iya Boys
For someone like me who was already established in all areas of my life before settling down change of name has not crossed my mind for years after marriage bcos where would I even start from coupled with the fact that I also want my father's name to be known and celebrated through me.. I'm not dropping my father's name anytime soon bcos he suffered to put me through school,he laboured to get me scholarship that saw me through secondary to higher institution and when it was time for him to relax and starts eating the fruits of his labour he decided it's time to travel back home to be with the Angels in heaven. The only thing I can do to keep his memory alive is to continue to carry his name with me anywhere in the world I go.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a choice to keep your maiden name. If the name has opened doors for you why not keep it, some people na battle the name brought for them so any opportunity they have to change it, they use it
ReplyDeleteI think it's a choice to keep your maiden name. If the name has opened doors for you why not keep it, some people na battle the name brought for them so any opportunity they have to change it, they use it
ReplyDeleteme that bear two names will now drop all nope? i will just add my husband's surname to my name and make it three names. Dear future husband you will understand with me.
ReplyDeleteAs for children using their father's name and state of origin I don't have any issues with that bcos after all he paid my bride price which automatically gives him right as the father of my kids... I believe change of names after marriage is part of the reason some men don't want female children because they believe immediately after marriage she drops her identity to pick up the husbands identity and all the money and efforts invented in her will be a wasted investment.
ReplyDeleteThe right over children is 50/50
DeleteIt's still a matter of choice and your spouse
ReplyDeleteThe things women go through in marriage no be beans. A lot of sacrifices, compromise with some riks.
ReplyDeleteaah women and special being.
Mak we c husband fess
ReplyDeleteConsider this hypothetical scenario: will you marry an Elon Musk or Bill Gates and refuse to change your surname?
ReplyDeleteEven his ex-wife (Justin Musk) who divorced him in 2008 has refused to revert to her maiden name.
Keep maintaining the stance that fits your agenda.
Nonsense and ingredients.
The ability to understand perspectives outside your programming that requires deeper thought is a sign of intelligence. Women have a choice which seems to be a shocking reality to many men and women.
DeleteMtcheew..
ReplyDeleteAbeg Ezege how far jare,. Make we discuss better things, how body?
Everybody should just stay single.
ReplyDeleteit's just patriarchy! Men arranged everything for themselves while women were comfortable with little or nothing!
ReplyDeleteBecause they didn't want responsibilities and accountability, they wanted the barest minimum, always crying that they're the weaker gender when it comes to real work..
DeleteUp till today, have you seen any lady going to fight war, Asin here in Nigeria..
Have you seen any in road construction?
Na soft work you go see them, they even shame men that apply for these soft work cos they want it solely for themselves..
So make Una no dey shout patriarch and play victim.. step up and do the work no be all these victim card every time
Honestly I don’t like that I had to change my last name because my husband threw a fit when I suggested keeping it. Sometimes I still think of changing back to my maiden name. I still bear my maiden last name on a lot of documents and I don’t want to change it…. Like bank documents etc
ReplyDeleteIn some cultures the couples do merge both surnames and the children take on both parents surnames.
ReplyDeleteWhich culture?
DeleteElon Musk or Adeleke culture?
Dey play.
This thought is provoking indeed. Like what's the big deal in answering your husband's name?
ReplyDeletePeople will just sit, and allow their thoughts wonder anyhow, come up with something from God knows where and start leading people astray
When my time comes I will answer my husband's name with pride
No be say her husband force her to change name o
DeleteAbi he don dey force am sef and she need support from online in-laws?
Some women sha!
ReplyDeleteJust bent on creating confusion in other women's homes and hearts over trite and settled issues in the name of seeking buzz or faux feminism.
Her husband did not force a change of surnames on her. And she thinks it is only her husband that is doing that?
Her husband did not change his surname to her surname despite their published "his PDA cleaveness to her". Why don't she force the change by her husband instead of her X Ph.D. submissions?
She did not present any evidence that her child(ren)'s surname is her father's name or a combination of her surname and her husband's surname. Why was it so hard to support her thesis with evidence even if an asserted statement.
Since she knows how and what marital surnames should be, why don't she lead with full example from her homestead.
Jesus was called from the crowd "Son of David". He stopped and a miracle was wrought by God through him for the caller. Yet this woman is quoting the Bible about a man cleaving to his wife and wondering why husbands do not change their surnames to wives surnames?
Change of name should be a simple issue of pre-marital agreement. If the man says they must both bear his surname after marriage or no marriage, is the road not clear for the woman to walk on ahead?
Abegi, second base jare!!
You shouldn't have bothered getting married or having children to keep your sanity sister.
ReplyDeleteSome discussions are just a waste of time. Before you marry whatever bothers you discuss with your partner and agree before moving on. A little digression, what of the men that their wives fame over shadow their own success like Serena and co. Did it stop the men? So why does name change have to be such a migraine for you? Society needs to be orderly hence the uniformity.
ReplyDeleteIslam insist everybody maintains there father's name. A woman keeps her last name forever.
ReplyDeleteLikewise an adopted child.
There are solid reasoning and logic to it that you may wish to research further. I never changed mine. One sister did. The other also didn't.
Of all the problems facing 🇳🇬women and children! Those who think they are doing fairly ok in Nigeria live like ostriches with their heads buried in the sand. 18 million children out of school in Nigeria, in IDP for fellow citizens to pick slaves & traffic in, more than 80% of Nigerian women below poverty line, domestic violence still very common and rape rarely prosecuted, hyperinflation which affects mostly women as they tend to manage household budgets, very high unemployment, hyper-inflation, very high maternal mortality rate making everyone who can afford it give birth here etc. THIS is what this woman’s problem is? I just feel sorry for 🇳🇬. With the multiple problems created by corrupt rulers & politicians, who daily loot the commonwealth, It has so many faux/pseudo intellectuals whose voices and platforms are used to discuss obtuse and inane topics that add no value to the lives of women and children. No offense but the leadership of Nigeria is just as shallow, vision less and unfocused as ever. SMH.
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