TUESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

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IN HOUSE MEMO

I say make i saulte everybody today...I no wan too much talk becos I am studying myself right now and why i am stuck on zeeone, it is a course presently and i want to graduate... Imagine this Maitree lady....OOPS!

Anyway i hope your day is going well? From being too hot yesterday, it went to being too cold today.....shocking right? This kinda weather can make someone feel different.....

Enjoy the rest of the day

xoxo

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD

Recently, my first son has been acting differently. 

For someone who is very sensitive and emotional, that he would cry when he sees someone hurt. He started this habit of giggling like a choking hyena anytime his sister starts crying.

I was deeply disturbed by this new habit and couldn’t fathom where he got it from. I tried monitoring his access to YouTube and other shows in the bid to figure out what was going on.
After a while, I sat him down and explained why he needed to be kind and not laugh when someone around him was hurt. He looked at me mildly angry and said he was just trying to be like me.
I was shocked “ Me ke” . I know better than to laugh when someone is hurt, how much more laughing like a choking hyena. I tried to tell him it could never be me, but he was adamant, so i apologized and told him i would stop such behaviour, and i want him to stop it too. He agreed, but I was kind of worried because I felt like he was not saying the truth.
Barely two days later, my princess was holding a shoe, so I snatched it from her so she won’t put it in her mouth. As soon as I snatched it , she started this new way of throwing a tantrum where she sucks in air first before she starts crying. I find it amusing, and I giggle. 

Only for my son to look at me dead in the eye and say mommy that is the laugh I have been copying.You are doing the same thing, and that’s not nice.
I was shocked. Not only have I been laughing like a choking hyena, but I was projecting a serious lack of empathy to my boys. I apologized immediately and told him I would do better.
This experience just goes on to show me how much children learn by observation.

LOL...how does a choking hyena laugh? I am already laughing oh....

wait for your small madam to start talking and you will see a mirror image of your mannerism...She will copy you bumper to bumper.

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PINKYS CORNER

Baba oshi

There is this man who has left his wife for over 15years ago and remarried. The wife he left works in Ibadan while the man stays in a different state but comes to Ibadan for business. They had two girls but this man hasn't set eyes on his daughters ever since he left their mother.

The younger child hates to see their father and reasons wasn't given to her mum(note: the mother always want them to go see their father but they never wanted the idea). I was speaking to the elder sister to know why they both hate seeing their father but she told me it's personal. I admonished her to try see her father whenever he comes to Ibadan for business as usual, at least to just say hi to him. (NOTE: Their father always call them on phone whenever he is at Ibadan and lodged in an hotel. Just for them to see him but they hate to). I was thinking their mother has said something bad to them about their father but she didnt.

Recently, the man came to Ibadan and lodged in a hotel. He called their mother to tell his daughters to come see him but unfortunately, the younger one had gone back to school. Her elder sister went to see him but something else happened. Can you imagine that, this man wanted to have s#x with his own blood(daughter). I wasn't there but the lady explained everything to me. I told her to her face that, she is telling lies to make me believe that, her father is a bad man. Then she showed me evidence. She said, she knew that was gonna happen and this was why herself and her younger sister hates to see him. She said, their father has been trying to do this for years but they kept it away from their mother. 

She showed me a short video and played me a voice note. The voice note was recorded immediately she got to the hotel and went inside to see her father in the room. It was disgusting to hear rubbish spoken by a father to his own daughter. What a life. Imagine a father telling his own daughter the following:

*You are now a big woman

*Come close to me baby

*Have loved you so much

*You now have a big bwest

I can't even start typing those nonsense I heard . I heard when the lady was asking her father how he feels having urge towards his own daughter and the idiot replied saying "There is nothing bad about that" 

I asked if she has reported the case to the mother and she said no. That, she doesn't want to stress their mum then I told her the aftermath effect of keeping things like this from a mother. I encouraged her to summon the courage and she did immediately right in my presence.  As at yesterday, the issue was reported to the man's family members and evidence sent to them. The woman has decided to take up the issue. The younger sister was contacted and she also said a lot about their father then the following question popped up:

*Is he really their father?

*Is he trying to use them for something?

*Abi his di**k no just get control?

These are questions I was asking my wife because I got to know the lady through my wife because we attend the same church. Why will a man in his right senses want to go into such dirty things? 

I will update you guys on the development soon

Ire oooo

This is a horrible read!.....Men like this should be locked up and the keys thrown away.

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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗕𝗘𝗦𝗧 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗔𝗚𝗘 𝗔𝗗𝗩𝗜𝗖𝗘 𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥
-Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

-Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.

-Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.

-Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

-Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

-In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

-Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!

-Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!

-Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

-Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!

-Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

-Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
-Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

-When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

-When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

-Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.

-Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

-Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.

-Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!

-Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

-Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.

-When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!

-Never consider annulment as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
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KILLERS OF MARRIAGE

1 Laziness kills Marriage

2 Suspicion kills Marriage

3 Lack of trust kills marriage

4 Lack of mutual respect kills marriage

5 Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice and anger kill marriage

6 Unnecessary Arguments kills marriage

7 Keeping Secrets from your Spouse kills marriage

8 Every form of Infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc)

9 Poor Communication kills marriage

10 Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.

11 Relating more with your parents/family members than your spouse kills marriage

12 Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage.

13 Nagging kills marriage

14 Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage

15 Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage

16 Being too independent minded kills marriage

17 LOVE for party, money, impulse buying and spending/partying, financial indiscipline kill marriage

18 Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or Siblings kills marriage

19 Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit, not praying together kills not only marriage but your life

20 Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage.

21 Always wearing a sad face and being Moody kills marriage.

22 FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage.

23 MALE CHAUVINISM kills marriage

24 Uncontrolled or hot Temperament, Anger kills marriage.

25 Not understanding your role and position , not taking responsibilty in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage.

26 Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional, financial and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage

27 When anything threatens the position/security of a wife, her reaction(s) will be detrimental to her marriage.

28 Lack of the Knowledge of & Obedience to the word of God kills marriage. Please, save your marriage!!! 

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