Some of you will definitely identify with this......
She posted
''My surprised look because In October 2022 , I agreed to marry mustapha because he said , he doesn’t care if I like cooking or not and he likes to eat out a lot
I said I love cooking , he said Wanne “all those things don’t matter , I love you September 2023, Mustapha forcefully made me relocate to America I told this guy I can’t do it , I have help here , I have a chef and someone to run errands and take care of the kids for me , again this guy said “ Wanne I’ll help you out with everything, narrated what he will do before work , what he will do during his lunch time , what he will do after work , I said ..Torr, it is settled. I follow this man come California, he said he will allow me come to Nigeria every other month , perfect plan my life looked soo perfect.
Brethren in the lord, na everyday Mustapha dey ask me “Wanne what are you making na everyday Mustapha dey ask for fresh food and then says, no restaurant in the world can make this particular food ( every food is this particular food)
I don cook tire , I have been here now for 4 months since my last trip to Lagos and there’s no plan of letting me come to Lagos soon okay babe can you even arrange our room before you go to the office Leme just do other things, Wanne let’s just book people on task rabbit to do it, you don’t have to stress haaaaa but you said you will do everything with me
My people was this not a lie?
My actual question is …
Isn’t this grounds for divorce?
God no go let my enemies laugh me but pls isn’t this enough to move out? I can’t be cooking everyday na even Ghana food . It’s not right na . Omoooo I know I have been giving advice here that love is sweet oo but just hold on Leme figure my life out and come back with that advice again pls becauseeeeee what is this ''
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣marriage will humble you
ReplyDeleteMarriage to a toxic person will humble
DeleteMarriage to a healthy person will help one grow
Marriage humbles anyway.
DeletePlenty people said they cannot or will not do this or do that or do those for their spouses.
Today, they do even more. Some even had to learn what they now do. And they do it with all joy.
Why?
They have been humbled by the goodness of their spouses.
Only selfish (or nearly wicked) people hold on to their pre-marital planned dos and don'ts about marriage even in the face of the genuine need for change.
Her honesty is refreshing.......
DeleteLmaooo, I believe this is a tongue in check post.
ReplyDeleteWhat I ordered vs what I got situation. Wanne, you can do it, that's what love is, sacrifices.
I had to laugh at some point while reading this. Wanne, we'll be waiting for you to figure your life out and come back with the advice 😊
ReplyDelete😂 marriage no be joke..
ReplyDeleteEven if he is ur friend before marriage after marriage please add husband to it, he is not just ur friend again.. He will make demands and u as a wife must compromise..
Odiegwu.
DeleteOnly one person MUST compromise to someone else's DEMANDS?
as per slave and master now abi?
Entitled men will use and drain you
DeleteMarriage is sacrifice from both partner. It's not a one way thing.
DeleteWanne, you're not graduating from that school anytime soon🤣, unless you want out.
ENJOY YOUR HOME❤️
I really love this 'reality check'🤣🤣🤣.It has happened to the toughest of Us and still happening.
ReplyDeleteMe I love doing anything for a man that loves me and shows it......
DeleteI don't withhold anything even if it's money
Why did I laugh so hard ovef this. Wanne I have left mine too for now. I left to figure mine out outside. Your own is good you are figuring yours out inside. Me I needed my sanity intact while trying to figure it out. Ha, make I no go mad inside trying to figure it out . I hope I wouldn't be figuring this out forever ooo
ReplyDeleteLol,we go dey wait.
ReplyDeleteMarriage na learning school,its all about kindness, empathy,sacrifices compromises etc
Some men Sha...
ReplyDeleteMarriage bis another school.
ReplyDeleteSacrifices must be made. It will never be one way street.
DeleteHad a very good laugh reading this🤣
ReplyDeleteMy dear na so oo,that is why marriage is meant for mature men and women and not for boys and girls,gerrit?😅
😂😂😂. Marriage na to just dey with your witch or your demon but you must dey pour am with anointing oil every morning. E no easy o but if you get mind you fit run am.
ReplyDeleteAs you use your full chest enjoy the sweet part na so you go use your full chest enjoy the bitter part. 50-50 no dey inside marriage o! Na 100-100 o.
Marriage na work and if you want make your marriage work you must work am.
They say wives are crazy and husbands are stupid and the reason why wives are crazy is because husbands are stupid. So na so we go dey run am.
The deceit and lies insincere and manipulative men tell before marriage then change goalpost inside marriage is coercive and ABNORMAL
DeleteShe's still competing with veekee hahahaha
ReplyDeletevery stupid comment...competing with veekee how? do some of you even reason before talking? no be veekee dey try show everything for her marriage for social media?
DeleteLol.
ReplyDeleteNow now?
ReplyDeleteBut what's wrong in cooking and taking care of your family.
If you're too busy with work, then cook in bulk and put inside fridge na.
Na everything be wahala for this generation?🤷🥺
And he does what exactly in the marriage?
DeleteAnd he does what exactly in the marriage?
DeleteApple of God's Own Eyes
DeleteShe can't cook in bulk as her husband insists on eating fresh food
"... everyday Mustapha dey ask for fresh food..."
@Apple of God's eyes, Na everyday Fresh food the man want.
DeleteRelationship is theory, marriage is practical, infact show working o! My husband that knows how to arrange everywhere neat with everything on point, will do laundry & everywhere will be sparkling, now he does not no where to keep his boxers, you can even find it in the sitting room... My dear it is what it is but the days he wants to spoil you silly, you will forget that you made Goatmeat peppersoup at 2am & still have to go to work the next day. Its been almost 15yrs na God dey run am for us.
ReplyDeleteI thought say na only me dey this table, never knew everybody dey on the same boat. Like seriously, person wey dey help me arrange my room while we were datingooo, even cook and wash my clothes then. As I don marry him fiam, he can't arrange room again, in fact he scatters his clothes everywhere, he even want me to be washing his clothes join my own. He can't even enter kitchen again. Like seriously, men can pretend a lot.
DeleteMarriage nor easy.
ReplyDeleteOne BV was said, a blind wife and a deaf husband makes a great home.
Manage your home.
What is there in cooking and arranging the house?G zen generation na wao
ReplyDeleteReality check 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeletePele ooo
Abeg cook The food Wella o
Hello iya boys
Now this is funny Wanne, these men will promise everything just to wife you, once it's done the real them is out😂🤣
ReplyDeleteNgwanu we are waiting for you to finish checking
Lol comment section don kpia me
ReplyDeleteThe Most Complex B
As the age old saying goes, A promise is a comfort to a fool
ReplyDeleteIt's well
ReplyDeleteMarriage no easy 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteHahahaha😅... Mustapha has wanne button
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your marriage oo.
You and veekee are just totori social media with una marriage.
I love her sincererity. Marriage is different from wedding. And this Mustapha is still coming. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteLMAO 🤣
ReplyDeleteWanne durling you're just getting started....
Marriage na your mate, na God dey run am.
My first few months weren't easy at all, I almost ran back to my father's house...
I was always crying at night. At some point I felt I wasn't ready yet mentally.
Awwwww.....
DeleteMarriage no be beans.Both parties have to make a lot of sacrifices.
ReplyDeleteLol
ReplyDeleteMarriage!
On the good side there's electricity 24/7 so you can cook in bulk and store. Fresh food daily in the abroad is ridiculous, but seems you don't have a 9 to 5 so that works. There are very healthy restaurants in the US.. sweet tomatoes, sweet berry where you can have the best salads and vegetable dishes.. and the options can be healthier than your home meals. Try it out... or subscribe to fresh food delivered to home daily (such as blu apron) based on your account $
ReplyDeleteBlu Apron & all those “fresh” food delivery services are NOT fresh but have high preservative content. Even with 24/7 electricity, it is still stressful with a 40-hour work week to do all the cooking, laundry, cleaning alone. She doesn’t need Task Rabbit or Thumbtack, she can get Merry Maids or cleaning ladies in her Zipcode or by asking her neighbors for recommendation. It is not cheap like house helps in 🇳🇬, my cleaning lady increased her charge to $300/month for just one time cleaning per month. It’s $500/month if she comes twice. It was $150/visit for many years! They charge by bedrooms, bathrooms etc and live nicely. The ones that are illegal don’t even pay taxes to the govt, mine drives a nice SUV & owns her own home albeit in a lower income zip code.
DeleteLife is tough in the US in a different way for any woman whose husband does not help out. Mine loads the dishwasher & helps do grocery if I give him the list but the bulk of the work down to loading his boxers in the washer & dryer & sorting the ones to be dry leaned is on me. He does all things cars, takes the one I drive for servicing etc & deals with the lawn guy.
If you have a macho guy who needs food dishes out, cannot help out at home, you will not enjoy the 🇺🇸. We both are high earners and both work some days remote but it’s still hard intellectual work. Before you Japa, know your spouse. I have been married for decades and we are now empty nesters but we have to share tasks to the best of his ability because some men just are t good with domestic work regardless of how well intentioned. I love that he is trying his best.
Hahahaha. 🤣🤣🤣 Very relatable story. They will say all.sorts and then do the direct opposite
ReplyDeleteMarriage is about compromise and you need to reach it with your partner if you want to stay married. What if you divorce this man, marry another and it's another difficult and different need again, will you leave the second time again?
ReplyDeleteThe Koko of marriage is commitment.
DeleteI thought her husband was white Arab?
ReplyDeleteSee me laughing so hard. This is me till today. Those days my husband then boyfriend will cook and serve me on the bed but now he will tell me please please I am buzy, I am tired, shooooo. My brother in law who is my best friend will laugh and say Chi na marriage be that for youoo
ReplyDeleteWhether you marry your best friend or not, marriage na another school of its own. Just pray make God give you your own. Even your best friend of 15 years can still change in marriage.
ReplyDeleteBut it's really crazy. Why make promises you can't keep?
ReplyDeleteAs humans, there's always tendency to grow, except you're outrightly lazy or don't care about your partner.
Why does it look like one has to lose oneself to last in marriage? Aren't we supposed to complement one another?