Hmmmm...
FULL OF REGRETS
l Slept with a guy that's been asking me out and l like him oo and agreed we should date but l feel bad.
I have been celibate for 2 years and l wanted to keep it that way till marriage but l couldn't resist the temptation. I realised what l have been missing during the moment but now l am full of regrets. How do l tell him l don't want it again till marriage.?
Till Marriage how`? Did he propose to you?Sleeping with him and saying you cannot continue doing it until after marriage is trying to use tricks to get married....You should never have parted your legs.....
Remember he asked you out for a relationship? Tell him that you cannot continue and see how it turns out..Also prepare your mind for anything....Good luck oh
By telling him and accepting whatever outcome that comes from it.
ReplyDeleteGbam, poster you can only go about it by telling him and wait for his crazy response because you shouldn't have started what you can not finish
DeleteHmmmmmm any enjoyment I see now eh! I go enjoy am tomorrow is not promised
Delete🤣🤣🤣 while you're at it, be careful of oya na ndi otu fa.😎
DeleteNk you made me laugh sha. These days I am trying to focus on eternity. If you are celebate for christian reasons, then you have to believe in your heart that God's commandments are for your own good.
DeleteNk laundry, you're a character 🤣
DeleteI like ur position on sex before marriage, but has he promised you marriage my dear. It would have nice you made this statement before you started this relationship if really you guys are an item. You making this decision will look like a trap or desperation. God help you guys
ReplyDeleteI totally disagree, telling someone you don't want to have sex till after marriage. It's not just about him, it's a personal decision. Babe go ahead and tell him but I don't think you can stop the reoccurrence except you avoid spending time alone with him in a room or you are ready to forfeit the relationship.
DeleteHas he proposed marriage to you? My dear straight to the point and tell him what you want
ReplyDeleteOga o... body is counting, DONT OPEN YOUR LEGS AGAIN FOR HIM, CUT OFF THE RELATIONSHIP. REPENT OF YOUR SINS AND STUDYBTGE WORD OF GOD TO HELP YOUNOVERCIME TEMPTATION. The guy is a satanic agent sent to prevent you from having your breakthrough that's what happens when you have a goal , traps come to takeaway the goal from you Nd that is what happened .
ReplyDeleteSatanic indeed from where. All this condemning he nur reach na.
DeleteWith your mouth!!
ReplyDeleteYou should have maintained your stand. But all the same, talk it over with him and see how it goes.
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂. Oh you poor sweet summer child. You are trying to get the virginity vibe going again huh?
ReplyDeleteAunty o! Nothing like second virgin o. Once you don lose am e don go. So dey enjoy your collecting with your full chest. Prick sweet so why you wan dey hide dey collect? Tell dat young man to go quickly pay 1 or 2 naira for your head so dat you go waybill yourself enter him house sharply.
To dey do longer throat for prick no good.
Second virgin na Virginia. Hahahaha
DeleteNa, way! Longer throat on top prick? Na food? Na money?
DeleteMaybe you should ask yourself why exactly you want to remain celibate and the answer will definitely help in maintaining your stance and if he truly likes you, and also based on your reason(s), he might agree to stay off sex with you.
ReplyDeleteHuh Did he promise you marriage? Na wa oh.
ReplyDeleteHuh Did he promise you marriage? Na wa oh.
ReplyDeletePlease understand that you are not missing out on anything. Closing your legs till marriage has its benefits.
ReplyDeleteSo many people are out there who have chosen to be celibate till marriage,even men and women.
Same way you are telling us strangers, sit him down and let him know that you no longer want sex till marriage.
That will determine if you are to continue the relationship or not
Poster abeg no vex oooo, I wan ask you a question.
ReplyDeleteAre you celibated because you want to or because you don't have a boyfriend for that 2 years.
This one you have start what you can't Finish
ReplyDeleteHow we you do it now
Anyway just tell him
And see his Reactions
Hello iya boys
She's feeling guilty after enjoyment.
ReplyDeleteIf there was a way to turn this whole thing into a rape allegation, trust me she would..
Dear Kings,.
Stay woke.. don't ever apologize if you didn't do anything wrong, cos sometimes when they feel guilty after enjoying the s£x and pretending to be celibate, they find a loop in the process and then tell you how you 'forced' or pressured them to nack,. And some of you boys just apologize so the whole thing can rest because you understand she is shy, you see that nonsense,. You better no ever do am again unless you want to be tagged a rapist,. Women keeps proves of stuff they can use to destroy and call you out for flimsy excuses of trying to exonerate herself from a guilty feeling.. I repeat, don't EVER apologise when you did nothing wrong, don't humiliate yourself in that manner,. Especially in criminal allegations like this, that's suicidal, that's committing murder on yourself.
I have nothing to say to someone who isn't matured enough to take responsibility for her actions,., after using a guy to satisfy her urge, she wants to turn around and blame it on temptation, Asin say the guy tempt am.. nonsense
Dem tempted. Dem knack. Na now she be virgin cos she wants marry
DeleteDante, you sabi see erhn = "I realised what l have been missing during the moment".
DeleteAnd very good advice you gave in these days of the pen, phone and wristwatch being used as a recorder
Just imagine say na man talk this nonsense now, all of them for gather with insults dey accuse am say e just won chop the babe clean mouth, come use the opportunity insult all Nigerian men and give themselves advise isonu- on how they should be mermaids and never to path their legs blah blah blah..
DeleteBut as na babe, no wahala,. She can do all the nonsense in the world..
I wish the guy accuse her of using him to satisfy her urge, how she has gotten want she wanted and now wants to dump him, then block her silly ass everywhere..
Na real wa for una.
DeleteIf you can't tell him face to face,send him a message.
ReplyDeleteSometimes s*x before marriage tend to make the relationship tiring and open doors for Satan who will bring in crisis which will cause total ruin before it gets to the altar.
ReplyDeleteIf you really want this relationship to move to the next level,then you must be firm with decision.He should hasten and put a ring on it.
That is if putting a ring on it was his purpose for the relationship. He may just have needed her company. Let me ask you poster. What if he agrees to your celebacy but refuses to be celebate himself, what would you do?
DeletePoster, Accountability breeds responsibility. A lot of ladies say they want responsible men but they can't identify one because they are not responsible either.
ReplyDeleteYou became celibate after fucking around and you met a man and willingly opened you legs and have s^x, instead of being accountable for your actions, your irresponsibility made you blame it on temptation and you now want to blame an innocent man and make him look like the source of your temptation.
A lot of ladies lacks Accountability. They find it difficult to take responsibility of their actions. They always find someone or something to blame it on. They have this mentality of "it wasn't intentional" or "you made me do it" instead of taking responsibility.
TJ, this is a good example of 1 of the reasons why I told you to keep emotions aside while dealing with ladies.
This poster will now cry to the guy, if the guy is a SIMP, he will start apologising for what he didn't do wrong and it won't stop there, because she has spotted a weak point and it serves as her 1st step to manipulating the guy to do what she wants.
Madam celibacy, the chairlady of regret, the great figure of S3xual purity, I hail you.
ALL THE LADIES that are celibate are not doing it to be holy before God. They do it because they want to use it to manipulate a man into rushing to marry them. That's why you hear them say "if you want it, do fast and marry me and have it anytime you want".
And even after marriage, some pull the new one of marital rape out of their bags.
DeleteLol.
Any man marrying because of this xes matter is really on a long mission.
Better to confirm that a woman is worthy as a life companion even without xes before looking that way when seeking a wife.
Na real wa for una. Make una continue.
DeleteThat is what happens to you when you break your vows, you will feel rotten about yourself. You will have to forgive yourself and move forward. If your abstinence was religious based, then you also have to seek forgiveness from your God.
ReplyDeleteCan you go back to the way things were before you yielded to the temptation, likely not. Find out his spiritual leanings and see how he was raised. Based on his answers you will know whether to forget about him or confess your fall and you both commit to abstinence.
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DeleteYou better enjoy yourself. Youth is transient.
ReplyDeleteWhat's done is done..no need got regrets. If he insists that he wants to have sex with you again, tell him you're not up for it. If he wants to go, llthfn nu all means
ReplyDeleteSope otilo.
ReplyDeleteThe temptation is not going away until you break off with him.
Poster now you feel guilty because of your conscience. Do you know what may happen if you continue, you continue to feel guilty until little by little you silence your conscience till it becomes deadened. You continue without trying to stop yourself but find you are not really happy or fulfilled because deep down that is not how you wanted it. I think you should look into your motives for celebacy. Because there are some people that left their partners due to this issue, then later regretted with the passage of time especially if they remained single. Only if you want to be celebate 'no matter what ' should you continue. I hope you get what I am saying.
DeleteSome of you are just projecting your had thoughts on this poster
ReplyDeletePoster what you’re feeling is perfectly normal
It’s your body. If you want to wait till marriage tell him. If he agrees fine if not move on
Dear poster,
ReplyDeleteI was in your shoes December 2022, so I can relate. After a breakup and two years and three months of celibacy, I decided to let go for a long time suitor and regret kicked in. I cried after the first intercouse, he was worried and felt I was afraid of getting pregnant. Imagine crying about sex at my age, lol. It was embarrassing and ridiculous. The act itself was fun and enjoyable as it should be, but I wish I didn't do it because I didn't plan it that way. He took me to meet his family the morning after the dramatic episode and proposed two months later. I didn't use marriage as an excuse not to do the do, again. Although that was my intention and why I regretted having sex with him, without a serious commitment. He on the other hand was hoping I get pregnant and was very intentional about it after the first act.
Stay away from fornication by all means. Remember that once sex is involved, you may not be able to control the narrative like you are trying to do now. It takes two to tango.
Sexual intercouse is something to be enjoyed at the right time, with the right person and in the right frame of mind. But, this is not always the reality, sometimes.
Read about PCD (postcoital dysphoria).
Stella has given a good advice. I wish you the best.
Poster. Never start what you cannot finish. I was celibate for 25 years and I never put myself in a position to be alone with a man. I let men know my stand the moment they approach me. Some see it as a challenge while some are put off. Some even tried the engagement route but I stood my ground. My husband knew I was a tough nut to crack but accepted me like that. Celibacy is not an easy journey as body no be wood but you should take total responsibility for your actions and release the guy.
ReplyDeletelol.
ReplyDeletePoster you had sex. Nothing serious really. It’s even good you got it out of your system in a safe space instead of the camera sneaky guys we have all about town these days.
You don’t need to tell him anything. You owe him no explanation. Continue hanging out with him and if he wants to make a move again simply say no. If he asks why, then you can tell him you were celibate for a while, got caught up in the heat of things and now you are back to what you’d promised yourself and GOD. You can even throw in a compliment that it was really awesome but you’re back to being celibate. No need to mention marriage, cry, send lengthy messages or act like you’ve done one big bad thing. If he tries to force you, be stern with him and ask him directly if he’s trying to rape you, end the hangout and go home.
Sometimes we as women let things that aren’t so significant weigh on us. It’s really not that serious.
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