ALERT - HUSBAND NO LONGER NEEDED
Dear Stella
My husband travelled out for some weeks and will be back soon.
I don't want him back
He will stress me out when he gets back home.
I'm happier without his lies, philandering , cheating, i wish secretly that his sidechic snatches him with her full chest and inherits this package
He is constantly blaming me for his woes in life which is heart wrenching since I know nothing about his business dealings.
I have been blamed by his family marabouts and prophets for the downturn of his business,even with the general lull in the economy.
They say I'm married to a spiritual nonsense which has caused him misfortune
I've been mocked. Scoffed at , blamed for crap I know nothing about.
Worst still I think he may be jealous of my growth professionally. Im doing quite well.
It gets more interesting when you attempt to make him accountable and ask to see the books of his business.
I find myself panicking as the date of his return draws close.
I wish I could just disappear from him and have my peace.
I plan to real soon
Thank you
My husband travelled out for some weeks and will be back soon.
I don't want him back
He will stress me out when he gets back home.
I'm happier without his lies, philandering , cheating, i wish secretly that his sidechic snatches him with her full chest and inherits this package
He is constantly blaming me for his woes in life which is heart wrenching since I know nothing about his business dealings.
I have been blamed by his family marabouts and prophets for the downturn of his business,even with the general lull in the economy.
They say I'm married to a spiritual nonsense which has caused him misfortune
I've been mocked. Scoffed at , blamed for crap I know nothing about.
Worst still I think he may be jealous of my growth professionally. Im doing quite well.
It gets more interesting when you attempt to make him accountable and ask to see the books of his business.
I find myself panicking as the date of his return draws close.
I wish I could just disappear from him and have my peace.
I plan to real soon
Thank you
If you are no longer Interested then leave, Marriage is not by force and this mindset is a time bomb in a marriage.....Do all you can to end it if itswhat you want.....What kind of family members are those? why do Nigerian people always interfer in Marriage like this? I mean its OK to be nosy but to be this nosy is alarming.... Ah ah......it is only in Nigeria that people have spiritual husbands and wives, why? mshceeeeeew!
From your write up you are physically, spiritually, Emotionally tired of that marriage,, the best thing at this stage is for you to peacefully leave that marriage.. before had I know will enter it..
ReplyDeleteSo what stops you from filing for divorce ehn? On top all this your talk.
DeleteAbeg don't kill someone else's child oh madam, if you're as tired as you wrote up there, then walk away, them no tie you down.
So since u can wish for another woman to snatch him, what exactly is stopping you from walking away yourself?
ReplyDeleteExactly what i wanted to ask her, what's the point of this chronicle poster? You are doing well for yourself financially so what exactly is keeping you there abeg?
DeleteAbi your peace of mind is not important?
TAKE A WALK SIS.
I just taya!
DeleteAnother husband hater again, wahala.
ReplyDeleteUchu
Deletewahala wahala wahala
DeleteThis is just too much for your sanity. why blame your spouse for your misfortune. Poster just intensify prayers and may God intervene.
ReplyDeleteIf you are tired because of what people say then you can block them off. But if you are drained and exhausted because you no longer love and can no longer love your husband or work on the marriage then leave.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you still in the marriage? You are being attacked from all corners, his family, him, and his spiritual advisors. There are very strong human beings but nobody is so strong that they cannot break. If you need to see a divorce lawyer then do so. If there is not much in the way of assets to divide and you don’t need a lawyer then move on. If you still hope for reconciliation then do a trial separation of no less than 4 months, see how you feel after that. But separate yourself from the madness for peace.
ReplyDeleteExcept if what she wrote are lies, I don't understand what she's still doing in that marriage.
DeleteBiko separate or divorce him,before we hear story of a woman who killed and chopped her husband due to lack of peace in the marriage. .....to stay married is not by force.
ReplyDeleteChai na wa oh...This is what bible says ''Been unequal yoked with someone'' people think it's about just religion and people's lifestyle...It is also about mindset...
ReplyDeleteI dislike people who are never accountable for anything but quick to apportion blame then add another mix of religious delusion and family interference...A receipe of marriage disaster and doom....Such a hypocrite..He follows sidechicks and he does not know that could be contributing to his 'problems'
When I say that you people should avoid these set of people in marriages..One anonymous will be arguing needlessly...Avoid these people (a) Jealous/envious people (b) Pathological Liars (c) Proud/Haughty people (d) Narcissists (e) Stingy (f) Violent persons...All these are centered on the 7 deadly sins mentioned in the bible....
Poster when the kitchen is hot, you know what to do...If you can, focus on yourself, your health, your mind, your well being, your children, your job/career...Like channel all your energy on making yourself better...Dress very well and modest...Make yourself happy, behave like you are the only person in the world, pay no attention to him...It's not gonna be easy but you can do it....
If you are cool with your conjugal duties, please protect yourself always no lose guard at all....
I am rooting for you
All the best
Please walk out of the marriage, it's not a do or die affair. Moreover, u r done with the marriage already
ReplyDeleteyou never ready to leave this marriage cos if you are you will do the needful. You are waiting for someone to tell you leave when you no longer enjoy his company and his words. You should leave already if you are fed up with him, since he has side chick you should encourage him on that so that he can move on with the other woman. I hope one guy is not somewhere giving you force hope to leave your marriage? you better look before you leap.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband cheat, lies as you said why have you not spoken with him about it? hope you are not saying all these words you wrote just for us to tell you to go ahead and walk away?
Truth is many women want to leave but not all of them have the courage to do so. Some are so worried about what people would say, some feel their family, church or community would not support them, some are financially handicapped, some deep down don't really want to leave, they just flirt with the idea of leaving, some are afraid of what they might lose if they leave especially after all their efforts etc. Poster for your mental health, at least take a break to think about what you actually want to do and how you should go about it. The earlier the better.
DeleteSis I feel your pain, I understand why you want him to go with the side chicken. That way the break up will be easier. Most times it's better for him to be the one who leaves that way there is no wahala because of his ego. Also avoiding all the talk from people. At some point you just have to leave him. Start planning now
ReplyDeleteYeah I suspect this is the reason. It’s easier if he leaves by himself.
DeletePoster what if you do as someone said and encourage him to go and be with his side chick permanently? E go too shock the man and that may be just what he needs to kickstart a change.
I thought every woman knew how to make a man leave them. All my life I have only broken only one relationship. I always knew how to make you feel you are the one dumping me while I might even pretend to be begging you sef. You will only realise what you've done to yourself when it far too late.
ReplyDeleteRelationship is different from marriage
DeleteMy dear if you are tired and not Happy in the marriage.Leave with your full chest.
ReplyDeleteStory of my life . Poster you can't fight this war and win. I left mine for my sanity and I'm as free as a bird. He is now blaming his new wife for all his woes now. Na sitdon look I dey now.
ReplyDeletePlease poster since,you're financially and emotionally capable,take a walk from the marriage. This kind of emotion for your husband is very dangerous. And unhealthy for both of you,bikonu.
ReplyDeleteWhat's the point staying there when you don't have peace of mind? Why not do things the proper way?
ReplyDeleteGood morning SDK
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day
Dear poster,the Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteWhy not separate for now, maybe seek professional help?why will you stay in a place you don't find peace.
So what's stopping you from leaving him? Because if you were actually serious, you for Don move since, instead of chronicles of a pending move, that you may not even actualize at last. Or he has big peepee? That's what's holding you back? Ajuju 😆
ReplyDeleteAhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteWhy are you still in the marriage
Hope you won't Regret oo
This one you are wishing Another woman to snatch him
Okay oooooo
Wish you Luck oooo
Hello iya boys
Let him come home first and see how it goes
ReplyDeleteAnother ''husband hater'' chronicle🤔
ReplyDeleteI keep asking myself, what happened to the sparks that lead to marriage?
Has it always been this way, yet you chose to endure, thinking it'll get better?
And why remain in a place where you've been robbed of your peace🤷♀️
I pray God gives you wisdom to act accordingly ✌
Since you are doing and to marry don tire you, leave na
ReplyDeleteAbi you want us to help you bash your husband? Will it make you feel better?
But you are not a tree na?🤷 So what's stopping you from moving, abi he also tied you up in the house?? Mtcheewwwwww.😏😏😏
ReplyDeletePieces like this is just too dramatic ,madam who got you inside the marriage before,tell the person to get you out but if na you buy the market why not return him and go your way
ReplyDeleteIf a husband or wife attributes post-marital success defined in any way to his wife or her husband, the praised partner would bask in the glow of the praise.
ReplyDeleteBut if post-marital woes is attributed to the other marital partner, it is never readily accepted. Even when accepted because of red-handed evidence, the reason for the act or consequence is always shared. And the partner being accused always keep the smaller portion.
Is there a reason for you to want him to be snatched before you leave him? If not, why not just leave without brouhaha. Leaving is your best bet.
ReplyDeleteI cant imagine living with someone and I have all this in mind about the person, I'll feel drained already.
Ah! You never ready to move, when you are ready, you won’t be writing chronicles, you know what to do.
ReplyDeletePoster you should seek your peace of mind. You have all it takes do it then do it. Time wait for no one.
ReplyDeleteThe trouble with many marriages these days is that too many children are getting married.
ReplyDeleteBishop Oyedepo made a very heavy statement in his book titled Understanding Financial Prosperity. He said and I quote "If there is any marital problem, the man must first be held responsible." This doesn't sound fair right? No it wouldn't since every fool claims to be a king now.
There is a mindset to marriage! Not until you have that mindset, chronicles will never be far from you! Except it is cases of threats to life and domestic assault, every other situation in marriage needs wisdom.
1 Peter 3: 7 says, "Handle them(wives) with wisdom... So that your prayers be not hindered. " This is exclusively meant for men.
To all men on this blog, married or intending to. If your wife don dey post chronicle, you have failed. God will never blame a woman for anything that goes wrong in her marriage. He made them. He already factored skoi-skoi into their head. He also loaded her with goodness and benefits. That's why she is a helper. Treat her right and enjoy a life of ease. You will get the best of her.
I drop my pen here.
Poster from your write up,you're doing extremely good financially. Why not leave the marriage for your peace and happiness? Are you scared of what
ReplyDeletethe society will say?this life has no duplicate my dear,your happiness is Paramount so do the needful.
Wow. If you're this tired, tell him off and be on your way. No one is stopping you
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