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ANY REASON TO WORRY?
My guy gets angry each time he wakes up and gives me instructions without minding how i feel about the whole thing. He does not discuss issues with me before informing me but will just call and tell me meet me up so so place at so so time i want to do this and that.
ANY REASON TO WORRY?
My guy gets angry each time he wakes up and gives me instructions without minding how i feel about the whole thing. He does not discuss issues with me before informing me but will just call and tell me meet me up so so place at so so time i want to do this and that.
When i tell him nope i have some things to do or say its not convenient for me it becomes a problem.
We are planning our introduction come October 2024. I feel he does not like me to express myself, should i be afraid or not?
We are planning our introduction come October 2024. I feel he does not like me to express myself, should i be afraid or not?
RED FLAG!!!!....Yes, you should not be afraid but be very very worrried...Study the situation again to see if you really wanna marry someone who behaves like this...Marriage takes two to make it work and if he is already showing that your say does not matter then thae marriage would be DOA (Dead on arrival)
What kind of instructions is he giving?
ReplyDeleteI’m very confused
Poster please provide more context...Have you had any discussions with him and he does not listen to you? What you wrote does not suffice for us to tell you what to do...Because na you hold knife and yam...
DeleteBefore you reported him to us, have you discussed with him? Please do and you guys should stop dating men that you cannot discuss with or speak with...Haba this is not a master and slave relationship...
Talk to him first before you can give you advice...
She cannot go into details because there is truly nothing there. She needs an excuse to call of the intro as the guy no too hold bar and maybe another guy Wey get small money don enter the background as is mostly the case when most women want to get married.
DeletePhoenixe do you honestly think a typical Nigerian lady would consider what she wrote in ( assuming it’s even true) as enough reason to call of her intro if the guy in question is rich? Lol
‘Red flag Red flag’ na for man wey no get money.
On the contrary, he sounds like someone who’s wealthy.
DeleteI am tired of singing on this blog that generalizing and characterizing all Nigerian women as materialistic is wrong. Make una continue sha. You mostly receive what you expect and sometimes even worse.
DeletePoster what you posted is concerning. You need to be more observant and prayerful. Ask yourself why you really want to get into the marriage. Look at the pros and cons. Remember a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Once you enter the marriage you have entered and will likely bear whatever you see there, and if it's not good may eventually divorce. Divorce is not easy and best avoided. So do all you can to plan for a good marriage along with your partner. If both are not willing to work at it, problem go dey. Please update us.
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DeleteDon't bother na redpill small children reasoning be that, generalising to justify misogyny , resentment of women and struggle "love" na their way
Beardless men are always aggressive! Stay away from them for your own good
DeleteI hate seeing them in the morning cos they always spoil my day.
That's because you are not busy.
ReplyDeleteGet busy!😎
Hmmmmmm
DeleteWhy he is acting as if he own you .....
DeleteNah Love they shark you that is why you are still with him
Continue Nne he will wife you soonest okay
Pele dear
Hello iya boys
He doesn't communicate. He just tells you what to do, and expects you to do it (whether you have your own things to do or not). That's just wrong abeg.
ReplyDeleteThe guy is acting as if he's doing her favor by dating her, inukwa he gives me instructions 😁
DeleteAre you his student? Abi his slave?
Of course you should be worried. Think well before you say I do. It's a red flag so you won't send in another chronicles.
ReplyDeleteHave you discussed this with him before coming to discuss it with us?..
ReplyDeleteIf no, why not..
If yes,. Then you have 2 obvious options..
Bro no need for all those. Dem say na ‘red flag’ so Let her call the intro off and break up with him. Abi wetin she wan hear again. If you hear the guy side of the story now I promise you say no be as she put am.
DeleteI pray she leaves him because that’s what they surely would tell her to do here or better still they should give her advice that will make her become more strong headed towards the guy. The streets awaits her return.
It’s a huge!!! Red flag. My dear, you are going to be told to stop a lot of things that you like when u get married. A lot of ladies think that a man loves you when he wants to marry you. A lot of demonic men are out there looking for good, Godly women to torment. You are experiencing this sadness and lack of peace because the Holy Spirit is warning you that something’s are off. In your case you see it with your eyes. Not everyone that says will you marry me, you should say yes to. You may not have someone else but be patient with God believe you are better off single than with this type of person. And best believe if you call off the engagement he would come begging and act changed but this is his the real character. Fast and pray!!!. The devil is after you!
ReplyDeleteSMH!!! Your guy gets angry each time he wakes up. How is your “Man” Christian walk with God. Because it seems like this person’s spirit is under manipulation but hey my concern is for you than your man. This battle you are about to enter called marriage is it what it??? Do you want to be divorced in the future. If the answer is no then you have your problem already solved .
ReplyDeletePoster,the flag is damn too red,but if you don't mind receiving slaps,after the marriage. You can go ahead. 🙄🙄🙄
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Delete🤣😂😃😁, poster you don hear, imagine living with an angry bird all your life, e no go ease o..
DeleteEven if a man doesn't beat you up, if he doesn't respect you, always shouts at you, berates you, compares you negatively to others, and is cold emotionally, it is very draining and leaves you eventually as a shell of yourself. Run from such men. Some are so good at pretending before marriage, but if you are lucky to see signs or red flags before, don't enter what you know you will eventually regret.
DeleteAfter marriage means divorce or separation, which could be alive or dead. Or do you mean to say after wedding"?
DeleteThis Stella advice no enter. Some women likes to be controlled or ordered like a zombie, especially if he is paid up and takes good care of her. So, talking to him in a subtle way is better and more realistic. If you are not the type that likes such, kindly make a grand stand about his controlling ways before you guys get married.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣@ like a Zombie
DeleteShe definitely needs to discuss with him. But the vibes I am getting is she may be scared of the guy.
DeleteYes you should be
ReplyDeleteyour guy alone cannot take decisions without you saying anything.
ReplyDeleteyou need to have a serious conversation with him on this, express how to feel about the whole situation and give him some time to see if he will change. If he dose not change just walk away.
Not a good sign!
ReplyDeletePlease be worried do a double, triple , quadruple check.
ReplyDeleteThis in my opinion is a red flag. Please have a serious discussion with him about this and how it makes you feel. He may not even be aware of what he is doing.
ReplyDeleteHis behavior after the serious discussion will help you make up your mind.
I wish you the best.
This is a huge RED FLAG, you should be worried.
ReplyDeleteYou are an adult with your own thinking ability. He needs to understand that and treat you respectfully as his Woman
ReplyDeleteIf he does not change and you go into marriage with him, he might shrink you and won't allow you to grow
Red flag mixed with black
ReplyDeleteAll I can say you are so lucky. I ran from this type of men and entered the hands of one who heard what I was running from and pretended not be that exact person. Building to leave after almost 25years. Freedom!!
ReplyDeleteHahaha… I won’t pity you madam. Because i’m sure you broke the first mans heart the manner in which you left him for this richer man because i know ‘red flag’ na for man wey no get money. and I’m still sure when you were leaving you were so sure you knew what you were doing. This is what anyone whether man or woman who keeps looking for what is not missing should get…25 years of punishment.
DeleteAnd anyone who doesn’t agree with my take should just respect herself and pass jejely else I’ll send one eyed dogs to your dreams this night. Try me and see.
@16.45 may you get 50years of hard punishment and may those your dogs chase and tear you to pie es in your dreams.
DeleteOP while you may not exactly have a chronicle now, be assured if you go ahead and marry this man without having this communication lapse handled, you will definitely have the chronicle of all chronicles.
ReplyDeleteI don't know the color of the flag you are seeing here but I'm seeing a huge red flag. Study him more to be sure you can cope with this
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:57, building yourself or getting ready to leave the marriage after 25 years? Where you dey go? Nothing dey outside oh.. You better accept your faith and live your life.
ReplyDeleteSo if she's suffering domestic violence she shouldn't leave? You want her to die inside the marriage? Anon don't mind this person, leave if you are suffering in that marriage, leave!!
DeleteWell, if you can't cope, better leave him cos it will only get worst.
ReplyDeleterelationship that you don't have a say or opinion
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ReplyDeleteFunny how u are still asking if u should be worried.. Deep down aren't u?
This is someone that is not married to u yet, how will he become when he finally did..
Poster I'm married to a man that gives instructions without planning or discussing things with me, believe you me I have no say in my marriage so you better open your eyes before you marry
ReplyDeleteNo need guys she will still go ahead and marry him,
ReplyDeleteThese Chroniclers no dey take advice
Walai. Most times these days I wonder why I bother.
DeleteI'm sorry, Poster. You chronicle trigger more questions in me. If you don't mind me asking them.
ReplyDelete1. Are you jobless or does he makes those plans around your free time?? Because I'm wondering how anyone will wake up and make plans without putting you or your job into consideration. And still expect total obedience. Please no pun intended.
2. What kind of plans are we talking about??? Date?? Errands??? Occasions???
3. Have you discussed your displeasures with him???
Please if you have not discuss with him, do so now. Don't wait till you will feel it's too late to back out. He might not even realize his inconsiderations. He's probably the clingy type.
He’s bossy and he does not expect to hear the word no, expects obedience at all cost.
ReplyDeleteIf your soul is in doubt about pursuing a future with him then do not ignore your gut instincts. You did not say much about his other character traits and how long you have been dating. You have three months to decide what you want to do.
A disrespectful man is no
ReplyDeleteA man who doesn't see your opinion as important is no
A man who doesn't see women as human beings is no
A man who doesn't know how to talk is no
Discuss your corncern first and let him know your feelings,he might not be aware and more importantly maybe that is what is obtained in his family
ReplyDeletedark red flag. run for your life.
ReplyDeleteotherwise you will write more chronicles.
You will still go ahead
ReplyDeleteHow can a grown man be behaving like this in 2024? Sit down and talk to him. Communication is key. If he still doesn't get it, please let him go
ReplyDeleteExactly my thought @ Pretty tricky, communication goes a very long way in relationships
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