ADVICE NEEDED
Please Blog visitors, I want to know what I should do regarding this situation.
So a friend of mine was going for a six months course from Abuja to Lagos, he requested for my 6kg cooking gas cylinder that I use as support cos I have 12.5kg. The agreement is he will return it when his course is over...
At the time he requested for it the gas was filled already cos I always fill it since it is my second support.
He travelled with it during his trip to lagos but didn't come back with the cylinder as agreed when his course ended in October 2023. The gas cylinder is very new and I handled it with care before he took it from me.
This week he is currently in Lagos for personal business trip which he drove down and will be driving back to Abuja. I reached out to him telling him to please remember to come alone with the gas cylinder as I am in need of it.
This week he is currently in Lagos for personal business trip which he drove down and will be driving back to Abuja. I reached out to him telling him to please remember to come alone with the gas cylinder as I am in need of it.
This guy told me his cousin was at his place one time but took it to camp and that was the last time he knew something about it cos his cousin's whereabout to him is unknown...What do i do?
What kind of nonsense response is this? if he has given it out without your approval he should refund the money you used in buying it or he should replace it at once...It looks like he did not plan to return it to you and that is really bad ....
Some friends are like this, they take and keep taking and do not keep to their words when they promise...Trust that if the tables were turned, this person would put heat on you to return whatever you took
That is why I hate borrowing out my stuffs to people especially an outsider, my own opinion is for you to respectfully tell him to buy you a new one? Since your agreement was for him to return it after using it..
ReplyDeleteLending. When you give to people with the hope of them returning the item or refund then it’s lending not borrowing out. When you are the one receiving, Then it’s borrowing. There’s nothing like borrowing out or borrowing in pls.
DeleteI see and hear this a lot in among Nigerians and I wonder if it was somehow this error was ever taught in our grammar curriculum.
Aunty Yvonne borrow (proscribed) To lend), she's still correct.
Delete@Yvonne O, you're right that 'borrowing out' is incorrect.
DeleteHowever, borrowing can be used to reference 'loaning/lending' an item to someone'.
In the present context Pure could have simply said 'I hate borrowing my stuff to people...' that would be correct English. Alternatively, Pure could have said 'I hate lending my stuff to people...' That would also be correct.
@Pure, you may have rushed your response to today's chronicle, but I hope you have found the information about grammar helpful.
Blessings
Tell him to get you your gas cylinder or buy another one.
DeleteDon't be soft on him. Ungrateful people everywhere
@anon 15:59 and 16:04
DeleteI had to check dictionary after seeing your comments because I’m always open to unlearning and relearning, maybe the actual meaning of borrowing and lending has been recently changed ;
“Lend'- means to give something to someone to be used for a period of time and then returned.
'Borrow' means to take and use something that belongs to someone else for a period of time and then return it.
Ref- Britannia.com
Borrow
:to receive with the implied or expressed intention of returning the same or an equivalent
borrow a book from the library
borrowed a dollar
borrowing a cup of sugar from a neighbor
b
finance : to borrow (money) with the intention of returning the same plus interest (see INTEREST entry 1 sense 3a)
borrow money from the bank
Lend
: to give for temporary use on condition that the same or its equivalent be returned
lend me your pen
(2)
: to put at another's temporary disposal
lent us their services
b
: to let out (money) for temporary use on condition of repayment with interest
The bank lent him the money for home improvements.
Ref- Merriam-Webster.com
Very Ungrateful
DeleteHow can he borrowed without Returning back
I do not like sure people..
Gosh..
Nne Abeg leave him
He will come back again
Sha you have learnt your Lesson pele dear....
Hello iya boys
Anon 16: 04 noted one love ..
DeleteYvonne why you dey write epistle ontop another person own?
DeleteThe way they collect things is not how they return it. Humans
ReplyDeleteI don't get how does his explanation make even an iota of sense. Tell him you have agreed and he should return your filled up cylinder.
DeleteIf you no wan help, you ll be called all manner of names. He should compensate you Shikena
Very nonsense behaviour, poster tell him to please buy you another since you gave him a new one.
DeleteI hate when people borrow and act like they have amnesia when it's time to return.
Such a rude begger.
He should send the current monetary value of a new gas cylinder with gas in it, nonsense.
Your gas cylinder is gone, and he doesn't sound like he'll pay for it.
ReplyDeleteHe should buy a new cylinder for her simple
DeletePlease tell him to pay the cash equivalent or replace it. There are things I don’t lend and there are people I don’t give such room for before it turns into something else.
DeleteThat story is irrelevant to you. Tell him what he did with it, its none of your business. The agreement is he was going to return it. So hebif he wants to buy that's his call, all you want is yout 6kg cylinder filled. Some people are very careless when it comes to others.
ReplyDeleteShikena!
DeleteHis explanation na him dey vex me like what gibberish is he yarning
DeleteExactly!! He needs to replace it, the story is none of your business.
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DeleteShe doesn't even need to tell him. Common sense would have made him call to apologize for 'losing' it and replace it with the gas immediately he gets back to Abj.
DeletePOV: he sold the cylinder and gas to fund his trip.
DeleteNdi mmadu sef
ReplyDeleteThis is so annoying
Please, put an end to that friendship. Block him everywhere. Such height of mannerlessness.
ReplyDeleteIt is obvious your friend lacks self-respect and is rather shameless. A self-respecting person would bring back your cylinder the same state he got it.
The fact that you had to be the one to ask for and remind him of it while he feigned amnesia by not talking about it in the first place is enough reason to be disgusted by his mannerlessness. Very crude behavior.
So his imaginary cousin took it from his house without giving him a prior notice, is that what he is trying to say? Let's even pretend that was the case, so are you telling me, he isn't bright enough to know the next right thing to do?
Such a covetous and greedy being! He knows you have two gas cylinders, so he has been eyeing that one for himself for so long.
Don’t bother yourself. You will never get it back, nor the money. Just block him and his filthy ways. Stop making friends with Users.
Words on Marble.
Gbam. Curse the sh*t out of him though before blocking him. Or drag it out as long as possible. If you can get your money back then please by all means get it. Your friendship with him is definitely over. He lacks respect for you. I don’t know why some of these naija men don’t respect women. My husband was like this until I put him in his place. Don’t play with me. Shittttt.
DeleteThat's the word, User!
DeleteFriendship with such people will be so draining which you don't need.
Werey don dash babe, e sure me.
ReplyDeleteImagine giving out something that isn't yours.
Ask for your money, or make he buy the cylinder carry come,.
Don't even smile about it, and if he doesn't follow through, escalate the issue..
Make sure you tell him how stup!d he is, post him on your status detailing what he did, send same to everyone that knows him, then you can go ahead to block his a5s..
Only do this when you're sure he doesn't want to buy a new one or return your gas,. Give him a national disgrace first before blocking him off, after all, you do not need such a useless person around you
Upvote!!! Like which kin okpata d guy dey talk
DeleteSee what he is saying abeg he should buy another one and fill it with gas.
ReplyDelete3kg is now 16k only God knows how much they will sell 6kg.
Disturb him very well. Gas cylinder is now expensive.
DeleteThat's why I don't like borrowing people things, it's better to give what you can your mind will be at peace that way. Poster tell the guy to buy another 6kg gas cylinder for you since someone else is using the one you gave him or just leave the matter and don't ask again. At this point just cut him/her off because he/she isn't a good person, don't ask again. God will provide for you to get another better gas cylinder. I hate all this entitled mentality, alot of Nigerians have it. Pele poster
ReplyDeleteYou see this borrowing of a thing eehn, this is the reason i hate it. Abeg let him refund you or go buy another 6kg for you, what in the nonsense is he talking about? No gree o
ReplyDeleteKindly ask him to replace it however, if you know you can let it go, please do but never show him kindness again no matter how desperate he appears.
ReplyDeleteIf you can forget it.pls do But next time don't ever do favors that will affect you.Some people will borrow things from you and be careless when you complain, you become a bad person.
ReplyDeleteSince he doing father Christmas for something that is not his own .
ReplyDeleteHe should get you a new one .
Some people are just nasty. These are the same sets of people that will enter a newly washed public toilet and leave it messy in their wake. Once they get your things from you, they will never return it and if they do, it will be in a bad condition. I have so much detest for them.
ReplyDeleteIf na me, Poster, I won't mind spending more than the amount they sell gas cylinder in the market right now as a transport fare to go get my things. Yes, na why dem dey call me crazy. I can pay the transport fare to Abuja to collect my cyclinder, I don't mind. But for someone to use their intelligence to call me a fool. I won't allow it. Nonsense behaviour!!!😏
Me . Oga I need my cylinder between now and end of month. I don't want us to talk about it again. . It is important to me that is why I bought it. I will not allow your phone rest. Hello Sir. Just to remind you of my cylinder. I don't want my 12.5kg gas to finish without me having a backup.
ReplyDeleteFind boys that'll break his ungrateful legs for him
ReplyDeleteAsk him to tell his cousin to return it or he should buy another one for you since he didn't tell you that his cousin will inherit your property and that you don't have money to buy another ,pure and simple
ReplyDeleteIf it's possible,forget about the cylinder.if you can't ,tell him to replace it for you.
ReplyDeleteHe has given it out. No respect for someone's property... what a nasty behaviour. Girl, remind him steady, let it be a pain in his neck.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm. na to replace both the gas and the cylinder na. For ihe isi Ikea? No na. Agreement na agreement.
ReplyDeletePlay it cool for a while and ask to borrow something of his. when he ask for it back, tell him someone took and is yet to return it.
ReplyDeleteif he ask of payment tell him to pay you for your gas cylinder.
for simple.
Hmmm nice but will he be dumb to borrow her something
DeleteIf you cam just let it go cos this person is not ready to replace or return that gas cylinder. The same attitude is making it too difficult for people to give a helping hand or assist.
ReplyDeleteWhen he was in need of it no complain but immediately he got it and did all he wanted to do with it, he have complain. I am sure this gas cylinder is still new for him to come and lend it from you. Is nit easy to let go of such thing especially with the present economy but please forget about it and end your friendship with such person.
Next time tell another person who comes to lend from you that you are using it and do not lend it out no matter what they tell you. Humans are not to be trusted at all.
Waoh, he doesn't sound so apologetic. He should get you another one not feed you with stories. If you can let go, though, you should forget it.
ReplyDeleteThat's humans for you always doing otherwise. You just have to let it go and keep your property away from people next time
ReplyDeleteSee. Just leave him a message.
ReplyDeleteGood morning ggggg
How is your trip going. Please, while coming kindly bring my cylinder along with you as I have need for it. Thank you.
Leave it like that. Do it on whatsapp and SMS and hear his response.
If he doesn't replace it which I believe that he won't. Make it known to him that he should never reach out to you for anything again because you won't be kind enough to give next time.
That way, you have successfully removed one liability from your life.
Human beings!!
Next time when giving out something to someone. Speak up. Let them know that you are expecting it, and it's not a giveaway
Hydrogen
Just Negodu dz kind tin🙄
ReplyDeleteThat's why they say, don't borrow what you can't let go... Ingrates everywhere
Tell him to replace your cylinder
ReplyDeleteHow can he give out something that he himself borrow
Mtchewew
Gas cylinder now is very expensive, put heat on him to return the cylinder or he should send money to buy another one, he is ungrateful.
ReplyDeleteWhat sort of nonsense behavior is that
ReplyDeleteHe should buy a new one.
Just know that this friendship won't be the same.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask him to replace it, he will feel offended.
If you chose to let it go, you'll feel betrayed and not see him the same way it used to be.
Someone said if you lend some people money or something, you'll either lose the thing or the friendship.
He doesn't want to replace it, else, he would have quietly replaced it without you asking.
Collect your thing back abeg. He's not being nice, what a response!
He should give you the money equivalent for it simple.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what is wrong with some people. Why will you give out something that's not yours.
ReplyDeleteTell him to buy your cylinder asap
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense
Very nasty attitude on someone property shior
If you can, pls forget about him returning or paying for the gas cylinder.Next time,avoid repeating such act.
ReplyDeleteI have never heard of someone borrowing a gas cylinder from anyone for a trip and I have been on the planet a while now. However, I guess you learn something new.
ReplyDeletePlease tell your friend that his excuse is none of your concern and you need a full cylinder of gas returned to you in a new cylinder just like he received it when he needed it. You did not send for him, he found you to come seek for what he could have taken care of on his own and he received it when he asked so you need to receive it when you ask for it to be returned just the same. Tf he is going to come tell you about his cousin for, did you and his cousin have a conversation. I cannot stand folks like him. Always watching to see what ppl have to ask of it but refusing to return when they got the use of it. He didn’t even think to send you the funds for a replacement but telling you story, no apology, no contriteness. This beech is fckn entitled with ego to go with it.
Just imagine his response,abeg post er, insist on getting your filled up gas.
ReplyDeleteIt quite funny how people do not return stuff with the same energy they used while borrowing.
ReplyDeleteAn ex-colleague chatted me very late at night in the first week of May, stating that his wife was at the hospital and needed me to borrow him 70k for assistance saying he will refund once he get his salary on the 28th of May, i told him i didn't have up to the said amount and i can only borrow him 20k, i requested for his account number and credited him.
3rd of June i asked him of the money he claimed he his yet to be paid, and my 20k is yet to be returned.
It quite funny how people do not return stuff with the same energy they used while borrowing.
ReplyDeleteAn ex-colleague chatted me very late at night in the first week of May, stating that his wife was at the hospital and needed me to borrow him 70k for assistance saying he will refund once he get his salary on the 28th of May, i told him i didn't have up to the said amount and i can only borrow him 20k, i requested for his account number and credited him.
3rd of June i asked him of the money he claimed he his yet to be paid, and my 20k is yet to be returned.
People sef..
ReplyDeleteYou have every right to demand that he return your gas cylinder or pay the equivalent of same. Infact, he needs to pay extra for the stress and not keeping to the agreement. And please don't be nice about it.
Poster it depends on the kind of friendship you guys are doing,what he did is very very bad now that cylinder is expensive,from the look of things you're not getting that cylinder back! The door of collecting from you is closed by him already,so just let it go for tomorrow sake.let his conscience judge him
ReplyDeleteThe way I hate nonsense like this ehn..when you ask for something, why can't you return it in one piece? And cylinder is so expensive now. Ask him to replace it. You need it
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