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HUSBAND IN COMPETITION WITH BABY
Please help me post.
I need to know whether this is a normal behaviour or not.
I'm married with a 1 year old daughter.
Please help me post.
I need to know whether this is a normal behaviour or not.
I'm married with a 1 year old daughter.
I noticed that anytime we buy provisions for her, my husband will be following her to eat them like it's a competition. It's very annoying. Even if I buy perfume for her, he will be spraying it like who has body odour.
Imagine if he soaks garri for instance, he will go and scoop from her golden morn or cerelac and add inside his garri.
I will now ask him how he was drinking garri before this child came. He won't answer me. What triggered me to write this was that the other night I left one sachet of hot chocolate in case baby wakes up and wants to drink it, she's been doing so lately. She actually woke up and started crying for it. This was around midnight. I went to look for it and I didn't find it. I woke oga up and asked if he saw it and he said maybe he drank it, he can't remember.
Imagine the response. And he knows very well I bought it for our baby. I had to improvise and cajole her to drink something else Which luckily she did and went back to sleep.
I was so pissed. I've told him so many times that she is priority in this economy. Anything we can do without so she can have, let us gladly make do without it. Even after this speech, if you go and check his lunch bag, you will see her happy hour, caprisun or biscuit or whatever provision is in the house at that time.
If you see the quantity he packs ehn, you will understand my disgust. He is saying I'm too stingy and baby isn't complaining. I've resorted to hiding provisions. Note that this behaviour isn't dependent on who buys them. Whether he buys or I buy, it's the same behaviour. And right now, e get as things be financially for us and these things are getting expensive so I'm really struggling to see how to stretch things and make sure baby doesn't lack. But this attitude is pissing me off.
Please am I overreacting? Am I being stingy? Is this a normal behaviour for men? Am I wrong for hiding the things?
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LMAO!!!.....This your husband na agbaya ooooooooooo.I dont even know what to say sef but my hubby didnt do this...
Please am I overreacting? Am I being stingy? Is this a normal behaviour for men? Am I wrong for hiding the things?
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LMAO!!!.....This your husband na agbaya ooooooooooo.I dont even know what to say sef but my hubby didnt do this...
My sister just hiding them..to avoid wahala..
ReplyDeletePure you are right, poster continue to hide it and it looks like you call your dear husband baby/babes😂🤣😁, husbands called babys are likely to behave like this 😄😃😄
DeleteYa husband nah big baby nahhh
DeleteAbeg leave him make him self dey enjoy oooo
As you know the kind of person he is now
Anything you are buying Nne buy in bulk
That hot chocolate you for do am two places nah
Leave oga he's having fun with her daughter okay...
Be collect Ego for double Extra o
Pele dear
Hello iya boys
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I like as they share problem give everyone inside marriage
DeleteMadam this is not an issue try using play play to ask him what is the issue
Maybe he didn't eat any of these. So he decided to eat them now to balance it.
DeletePlease hide or lock them.
See me laughing all alone!! I feel your husband needs attention. You seem to have shifted to baby and ignored him. Please try give him some attention so he would stop '😁competing' with baby.
ReplyDeleteLet her also be breastfeeding him and bathing the old boy, inukwa arurala
DeleteThere is one song we sing for people like this
Orinri nwa ijiji bekwa gi n'onu
Meaning eater of pikin food,at fly perch on your mouth.
Madam pls hide the ones u can hide and maintain your cool.
Keep talking to him one day it will sink in
Another funny chronicle. Poster kpele you just have to keep buying more. They are both babies. I'm sure you call him atimes baby or babe. Na you cause this one. Seriously, let him be buying it and when it finished just remind him so that you don't get worked up over nothing.
ReplyDeleteYour comment is even more funny than the chronicle.
DeleteLol.
This is one of the reason why that pastor said wife should stop calling their husband baby
DeleteLol, your husband is so funny. There are actually adults that still take cerelac as cereal and drink baby formula. You will have to accommodate more baby meals in the budget to cover for everyone. Don't get angry pls poster
ReplyDeleteIf he likes cerelac or baby food, let him buy for the baby and buy his separately. If he finishes his within a day, it will give him an idea of how to make it last if his pocket cannot keep up. It screams irresponsible to eat before your child but I've noticed that it's normal for most people from the West while it will be considered almost an abomination for people from the East. Keep hammering it until it sinks in. Ask him to buy his own box of juice, cerelac etc.
DeleteI like some of this baby food but that won't warrant me to be consuming the babies food in large quantity, it's not fair na.
DeleteHmmmm. I saw a story online where a man said he likes baby milk, that he felt it was richer than ordinary milk and he was encouraging people to ditch normal milk to start taking baby milk. *Sighs*
DeleteSaw another story where a man was happy to breastfeed from his wife and wife was okay with breastfeeding him. *Sighs*
Men there is no need to compete with babies, kids or children. Truly some women overdo it. That is, they face the kids squarely and forget about their hubby's needs. This causes a build up of resentment. Couples should try to balance things. It is not easy for mothers of babies, toddlers and children, especially when they don't have extra help, fathers try to show concern and pitch in when you can. Then couples should learn to communicate better. If you as a husband is feeling neglected, please speak to your wife about it. See how you both can work towards making parenting less of a chore and deliberately create time to be together alone, even if it is weekly. With love and understanding all will be well.
Poster maybe ask your hubby what he actually wants or needs in a convivial way, and try to hear him out. Ask him if he would be needing snacks and things, and you both plan how to add this to your budget. If money no dey you both agree baby food will be kept for baby. Maybe make more adult treats as much as money will allow. Also explain to him about healthy eating. At a certain age, children's food may not be so healthy for an adult.
All the best and update us. Take am easy you hear?
My husband does the same too, he even uses the baby's soap, baby oil. He even uses the girls hair products. I complain tire! He says he prefers theirs and that I take care of the children and leave him, so he would join them and enjoy everything I buy for them.
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteMadam thanks for this sallah laugh,
Sorry ma but you have two kids
Good luck with both
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ReplyDeleteMadam thanks for this sallah laugh,
Sorry ma but you have two kids
Good luck with both
Please, in all you do, don't give birth to another baby just yet, till thing stabilize.
ReplyDeleteExactly and ask him for money for to cover the excess as he cannot leave baby food for the baby, you guys needs to be buying extra.
DeleteGbam
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteBut some of us adults take children snacks na.
Before the child he may not have put his mind. Now, his baby introduced it to him. And he now enjoys it.
Let him buy and enjoy himself.
Madam no vex eh. Or just vex small.
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Hydrogen
Maybe hubby didn't enjoy these provisions when he was young. Please let him be buying it , then if he likes make e finish am in a day.
ReplyDeleteI'm confused and no you're not over reacting. He should please stop. It's annoying
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should start buying for 2... I'm sure the professionals have an answer as to why he is behaving like this..
ReplyDeleteBut wait fess, isn't he your baby too?
Madam please kindly keep them in the shop where you bought them and take them daily from there.
ReplyDeleteIf push comes to shove , then so be it
Stop buying the provisions. Let him buy them or you Bill him for them/replacements.
ReplyDeleteI am not trying to invalidate your feelings but I don't see any competition here.
I still eat my kids snacks. Cerelac was worst.
A lady put up a video of her partner eating spoonful of their a lil above one month old daughter's milk as father's day post.
Lastly, your daughter doesn't need perfume at her age. Do away with those harmful chemicals on her body/skin
"Lastly, your daughter doesn't need perfume at her age. Do away with those harmful chemicals on her body/skin"
DeleteThank you for this. 100% correct.
I used Pears baby perfume for a while, it was a really nice fragrance and it wasn't toxic. Poster, bill him for the replacements regularly.
DeleteThe issue here is that they can't afford it. It wouldn't be a problem if he is able to buy them as needed. If there is only 1 sachet left, why would he drink it without thinking of what the baby will drink? Poster, make him buy them. By the time he sits down to make the calculations, no one will tell him that it's not sustainable.
DeleteLol 🤣🤣🤣 Poster haven't you heard that men are big babies.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you collect money from him and buy his caprisone and bobo 🤣🤣🤣
I think he didn't enjoy these in his childhood so he is using this to make up for all those times.
Since you have complained enough, I just focus on other things and keep your baby's stuff with you.. Gradually, he will get tired and move on.
All the best
I think you are over reacting. Just be giving him list of the baby items to buy as the things are about to finish. Then let his pocket advise him, if he should continue or not.
ReplyDeleteCase closed.
DeleteMadam please if you still call your Oga " Baby " please allow him ooo. I dey on top this table, but like ur oga dey for another whole level. Please manage big baby like dat.
ReplyDeleteLol
Delete😂At least you talk true.🙄
DeleteI was expecting a "you don't spend enough time with me, since the baby came" type of chronicle - based on the title!!
ReplyDeleteThis scenario is far worse!!
I'm so pissed on your behalf!! 😡😡🤬🤬
There are some people who will see sweets, snacks and some drink products and not buy, because they feel they are for kids. If he was one of those people, but has now had a taste, and actually enjoys eating/drinking them...then why not buy his own? Why take from your daughter's stash, and deprive her?? Your own flesh and blood!
Sadly, you are married to a man to a selfish and greedy man. Even worse, you're married to a man that doesn't know how to love his own child.
Since you've complained and he isn't stopping, I honestly don't have any advice.
Sidenote: please stop using perfume on a child. She's far too young, and her skin is far too delicate for the chemicals. Fragrance-free [products] is the way to go!
Wow!!! I feel so stupid for laughing now. Because you're spot on with this angle. He shouldn't be doing that.
DeleteI agree with anonymous 15:27
ReplyDeleteSo far he's the one providing the money to buy these stuffs,I see no problem here, na him pockets go tell am. Just be buying plenty and tell him it's because you're feeding 2 babies
ReplyDeleteSee me laughing so hard cos I've someone doing same but in adult foods.
ReplyDeleteNo wonder one pastor said if you keep calling your husband babe or baby, he'll be behaving as one.
Madam just let him be buying it and remove your eyes.
You are not over reacting,if he is likes baby provisions,then he should get his own instead of taking what belongs to a child without control.
ReplyDeleteContinue keeping them where he won't see it.
Call me grumpy or overly serious, but I fail to see the humour in this chronicle. I don't know why so many of you are laughing!!
ReplyDeleteThis isn't a case of an adult enjoying sweets and snacks.
I enjoy it too. Heck. I am a woman in my 30s, with a confectionery side-hustle, because I love all things, sweet!
This is a chronicle about a man who doesn't know how to sacrifice for his own offspring. A man who knows there is only one left, yet will wickedly go and consume it. It wouldn't be an issue if he takes some of her food once in a while, but to actually take heaps of it daily, is appalling!
It's also not funny to me too. Raising kids can be so draining and you want to have all these things at proximity just to keep them calm. Imagine going to reach out for one and you just can't find it there cos her dad has finished it. It can be frustrating.
DeleteIn order no to carry out that frustration on her husband, let her just buy his own while keeping yhe baby's own elsewhere, that way everyone is fine.
He might stop with time.
I tire oo. There is nothing funny about this. How can a grown ass man take the only beverage left for his little one and some people find it funny? Nah! I must be a Grinch then.
DeletePoster, stop buying it with your money. Bill the werey and make sure you buy the biggest sizes since he wants to partake of his kid's foods. By the time he spends 200k in a month on baby food, he will have sense by force. If he wants to be smart by half, let him carry the baby when she is crying at night for her food. He must partake of the tears and sorrows.
I also don’t see what’s funny!! Especially when they do not have enough finances to take care of an extra adult- baby…. Madam hide your baby’s food very well…..
DeleteThank you. You have saved me the stress of typing.
DeleteI just came here now and I’m so pissed seeing people finding this poster’s pain funny and trying to make excuses for a grown man acting like what I don’t know! Some are advising her to buy more like they didn’t see what she wrote about the financial difficulties. Na wa.
DeleteAre these the kind of people someone should be expecting sensible sensible advice from going forward?
Lol.Maybe your husband is the big baby.very funny.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to tell you
ReplyDeleteYour husband is so funny. You're too stock up. Loosen up.😁😁😁😁
ReplyDeleteBloggy, I don't think she's being up-tight about this issue, her hubby needs to understand their economic situation and learn to sacrifice for their baby. If it's a once in a while thing, one will understand but all the time? No na.
DeleteBaby milk and all are too expensive now. If he likes them, he should get his own since he enjoys eating these things all the time.
Taking care of kids is a big task na.
He's not funny. He's indirectly competing with that child. Its a case of serious jealousy. Please be watchful. A man who would eat the last thing meant for a baby is not considerate at all. Its well.
DeleteIt’s it funny truly
ReplyDeleteHe should be ahead of you in managing at this time
So far he's replacing them, no wahala.. let him have it. Its not an issue that will cause chaos.
ReplyDeleteSo far he's replacing them, no wahala.. let him have it. Its not an issue that will cause chaos.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteStella, no be small agbaya. Oga misses his childhood. But let's not lie, let's not steal, those stuffs are kinda additive. God forbid, I stock treats, I will finish it that day. The crazy part is if I don't have it at home, I won't miss it.
Well, since you have devised a trick. Let's hope Oga will get tired and move on.
Please ma'am I don't think a 1 year old needs perfume.
ReplyDeleteThen to the main issue, use wisdom and start collecting more provision money from your hubby to buy in bulk. Convince him that it is cheaper. When you buy in bulk, make sure to hide away a few day's supply for baby. That way he wouldn't really know you hid some. Let him keep enjoying himself, don't even correct him. As soon as the bulk provision goes halfway, start disturbing him for another batch of supply. Keep disturbing him until he brings the money. Remember to keep the ones hidden in a place he can never find it, even if it means keeping it in your outing clothes box. Surely, by the time he brings out high sums of money like 3 or 4 times, he will discipline himself and start acting normal.
This is freaking annoying. Just keep hiding your daughter's snacks. Obviously your husband is not getting enough to eat that is why he has alighted on the child's food. Cook more hearty meals that leaves him full for longer. Even if you are on a budget there are always options. Have fruits like oranges and watermelon around so he can eat it in between meals.
ReplyDeleteI really laugh 😂 because this chronicle is funny.
ReplyDeleteThere are a number of things yoir spouse will do that will just kill the love you all share
ReplyDeleteLike this thing now will kill love?
DeleteYes! It is irritating and disgusting as hell to think you married a man & find out you married an immature creature that lacks reasoning skills and who has become so unappealing as to be abhorrent to behold.
DeleteTufiakwa!
You must be a bitter single jealous woman. Hahahaha
DeleteMadam Relax.
ReplyDeleteNo competition.
Na cash flow issue.
Let him buy them most of the time or let him provide the cash always for the provisions.
Playfully tell him to avoid taking the last two of any until he buys another set.
Plenty men than you think do this. Especially homely fathers, men who do not drink alcohol, and fathers who are playful and pro-children.
Please do not ask if Madam and I do it too. Lol
Funny Chronicle.
May God provide for all caring parents, Amen.
Lol..
ReplyDeleteDo you call him Babe or Baby?..
When that pastor said something about not calling your partner babe, Una no understand..
Like me, I noticed when you begin to call a girl baby, she begins to misbehave like one..
Like my favourite baby cous even told me point blank to remember she's my baby and I should leave her to act like one, when I chastised her for 'moving' my perfume without my consent.. na since that time I stop that calling baby rubbish o ..
Now na mamma I dey call them and them dey act like mommy..
If you call him babe, stop it and start calling him daddy, my king, my lord and other things you want him to act like .
My own view oh..
Blessings 🙏
😂😂😂 you have come. I thought we all agreed that this not calling baby issue should be directed at the men alone 😂
DeleteI can feel your anger and disgust from here though I haven't seen such before.
ReplyDeleteI'll suggest you buy his own biscuit, Caprisun and hot chocolate for him when you're buying for your baby and also hide your baby's own. This way there won't be issues. Let him drop the money, by the time he has spent so much on ijekuje as an adult, he will sit up.
I suggested this so you guy won't be fighting over what should be a non-issue.
Poster, see the way I am laughing 🤣😅🤣😅🤣 here. Some people like baby food o. Just hide it from him. But mite that he still looks for it o🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteContinue hiding your baby provision till he has sense,he should buy the ones for himself and allow baby take hers. She is more important than the both of you.
ReplyDeletePoster, see the way I am laughing 🤣😅🤣😅🤣 here. Some people like baby food o. Just hide it from him. But mite that he still looks for it o🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDelete😂 While it's not uncommon for parents to share snacks or treats with their children, the extent and frequency of your husband's behavior seems excessive and disrespectful of your concerns.
ReplyDeleteYou're not overreacting or being stingy. As a parent, it's natural to prioritize your child's needs, especially when resources are limited. Hiding provisions might not be the most effective long-term solution, but it's understandable given the circumstances.
This behavior doesn't seem like a normal or healthy way for a parent to interact with their child's belongings. It's essential to address this issue with your husband, reiterating your concerns and setting clear boundaries. Encourage him to understand and respect your priorities as a parent.
Consider having an open and honest conversation with your husband, explaining how his behavior affects you and your daughter. Seek a compromise that works for both of you, ensuring your daughter's needs are met while also addressing your financial concerns. Remember, communication and teamwork are key to resolving this issue.
For peace to reign in your home, pls hide those provisions.that child needs it more to grow well.your hubby can buy his if he so wishes.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣 poster na me and your husband dey this table oo 😆 sometimes when I buy chocolate and biscuits for myself and my daughter when she notices that I have finished eating my own then she would be like Mummy don't beg from me o because I will no give you 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteOne or two spoons is ok for a taste. If he really cannot control his long throat for baby's food, then he should always buy his own and keep separately so that anytime he needs it , he can take it without being questioned .
ReplyDeleteWomen always looking for probl3ms were there's none.hows that an issue ? Reasons most men don't take you lots seriously and are always serious minded
ReplyDeleteThat's his own style of bonding with the baby.
Some stuffs are deep.its more than that that's a binding between father and daughter and it seems to make him feel relaxed and good that's his own way though sounds weird but you should understnd too many selfish people and I wonder why you both got married hiding provisions? Omo the kinda thing happening ehn ..you want to start hiding provisions? Or you wana start billing him because you buying and he is joking his daughter to do the moment ...women !
It seems most of you enter this union with a predetermined mindset no wonder issues from nowhere starts
Good luck..someday he won't have that time and I hope you understnd too.
Anon 18:22, what are you saying? Have a handled a crying baby all through the night before? Then the only beverage you kept to feed her incase she wakes up has been taken by her father who's enjoying his sleep while you're trying to manage the baby on your own? Eating from a child's provision isn't bad but he's doing it irresponsibly, not caring about the effects on the child and his wife. "Someday he won't have that time"...time for what? Please call out bad behaviour irrespective of gender. Inukwa!!!
DeleteThis comment is as confusing as nigeria's problems
Delete"His own style of bonding with the baby"??? 🙄
DeleteThis chronicle cracked me up.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he lacked most of these things growing up, now that he is seeing these things, he wants to have them alllll. 😂
My boyfriend's character is similar to your hubby's character, just a slight difference maybe.
My boyfriend doesn't rest until he sees the end of things we buy. We might decide to buy a box of extra large pizza, we will eat and get full then decide to keep the remaining in the fridge, give my man just 10-20 mins. He'll go pick it up again and start eating, he doesn't rest until he sees empty pack, carton, nylon or takeaway.
I tell him only greedy people act the way he does and don't even make the mistake of telling him to dish out food himself, he'll pack all the meat for himself not minding if the stew or soup or food is for 2 days.
He acts like he was deprived of these things when he was growing up.
I don't even know if this is a strong enough reason to leave him. God helpe oooo
I've also had a long throat boyfriend before, not that he doesn't have oh, he just has the habit of feeding on women and being boasting about it to his friends,even when he can see you're struggling, he'll be gisting you how his ex girlfriends buy him phone, clothes etc, spends his money very recklessly, then expects a woman to bring money to cater for him. Very nonsense irresponsible person!!!
DeleteWhy do a lot of you find this funny ? What’s funny about this ? This is a man who’s selfish , glutton and lacks self control! Nothing funny about this post , the man is acting in excess! Ah
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DeleteI wonder o. This is not funny at all, if my hubby behaved this way we will be having a serious conversation about it. Poster, don’t mind most of the people laughing about your chronicle, I totally feel your pain. My advice, continue to hide what you can and bill your hubby heavily for what you can. I hate this kind of nonsense, how can you be dragging food with a child???
DeletePeople react differently. Some will laugh, it doesn't necessarily mean they are laughing at the poster. They could be in stitches at the absurdity of the situation.
DeleteI remember when I was still married to a highly abusive man. He and I would drink pure water but I would use from my pocket to buy bottled water to boil for our child.
ReplyDeleteThis man would come & take it away to drink while there were bags of p water but he wouldn't provide.
The pots I bought exclusively to boil baby's water & sterilise things, he suddenly abandoned the other 6 pots & wanted to die on those 2. Her soap & towels nko?
The feelings of disgusting these acts roused in me just added to the hurt of his abuse & killed the tiny love left for him.
Chai! This is like double wahala.........
DeleteI am annoyed on your behalf sef ,because this kind of situation can be very frustrating.
ReplyDeleteJust get more money from him to buy when it finishes.
This isn't even funny..I know how pissed I would be if it were me. I love cerealac so much. But you see this economy, I can't afford to eat it anymore..I've left it for my kids. So how can't he just be considerate? Na to hide am.ooo because I don't know what else to say
ReplyDeleteThe challenge here is that her husband has longer throat. Why would you eat baby food when the family is managing to provide for the baby. Not even once in a while or small portion hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThe most B
Hubby need your attention madam poster
ReplyDeleteHow about buying some for him? Label his and keep hers away
ReplyDeleteYour husband may have some unresolved childhood trauma. Did he ever feel abandoned as a child perhaps in favour of a younger sibling
ReplyDeleteDear poster. Threw the. To expose his behaviour to people he respects. And see what his reaction will be.
ReplyDeleteAnother important thing. How come you are spraying perfume on a one year old?? Please please stop it at once. You are introducing her young body to chemicals. She does not need that at her age. Please desist so that she will not develop health complications when she is older.
Poster be careful o. Most of the women here are single and unhappy if you doubt me go and check all the Single and mingle posts of all the past years and check the gender that floods it with requests. While most of the married ones marriages are improper. Better have sense. This isn’t much of a big deal, na just say money no too dey. Mind you, your hubby will not keep doing this for long so just look for a more diplomatic way to handle this issue before you will start calling relatives to come and settle divorce issues.
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