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BROTHER GONE SOUTH FROM THE WOMB
Mother has just two of us, but different fathers. She had me as a single lady but when she got married, the husband adopted me. When the marriage packed up the man disowned me hence I left them to fend for myself at a tender age...
I trained myself to University. I have a very good paying job and i am doing very well. They don't know anything about me.
When the man died, there was no money for his burial that's when they started looking for me. However, I sent in money for the burial.
My brother who is the biological son kept bragging that he will be a millionaire. I don't know if his father has anything to inherit. I am not interested. .He is a drop out .Even his WAEC is not good. I don't know which certificate he will use to work
Our mother retired 15 years ago. This guy is the custodian of mother's accounts and the ATMs including Sim card. He keeps her money instead of giving her and leaves the burden of taking care of our mother on me.
I am not happy about this. He does not relate with me except when asking for mother's upkeep and care giver salary
Our mother retired 15 years ago. This guy is the custodian of mother's accounts and the ATMs including Sim card. He keeps her money instead of giving her and leaves the burden of taking care of our mother on me.
I am not happy about this. He does not relate with me except when asking for mother's upkeep and care giver salary
Even when I try to help look for work for him he will say he is going to work in an oil firm. I started hearing this since 2009 till now no job and living from hand to mouth in his 40s.
When his father who adopted me passed away, my brother thinking he will make money from father's friends despised me so much during the burial.saying I have no stake. He was rude and arrogant even though I am his senior. He embarrassed me. I kept my cool cause I know who I was. He thought I would come and struggle with the burial monitory gifts which never happened. The programm still accommodated me as first child.
Father had another wife who had other children for him who are all trying to outdo him. Those ones are now trying to relate with me. I took his excesses with calmness because I knew the man was not my biological father. But if he tries that nonsense on mother's burial. I will show the other side of me.He does not even have any shishi but he will try to frustrate me like father's own.
Our mother is now very old,sick and weak and still not relating with me well, only desire the money. I find this funny as she despised me as a little girl and initially hid me from the husband. My mother still regretted not aborting me. She says that to me all the time. It hurts my feelings.
I can say I am a product of God's GRACE.
My brother does not know how comfortable I am. He thinks I am a struggling woman as I don't bring out much money. I live in the city while they are in the village and they have never been to the city nor know about my houses.
Due to his attitude towards me, I have made up my mind not to have anything to do with him after God calls my mother.
They don't let me know how much comes in as her pension . They try to milk me for medical
Though I am not happy that we are not close . I am tired of my mother, tired of my brother. I want to cut off.
Our mother planted the seed of hatred and now she is reaping the effect. I am worried how her death and burial will be like due to our frosty relationship.
What do you all think of my situation?
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Two gates from one woman and she did not secure it well...How in heavens name will you breed enemity between two children that you carried in your womb?Anyway i support the cutting off but please still give money for her upkeep so that you dont feel bad later that you did not do enough.
After your mum is rested, you can cut off from the other gate because he is toxic and does not feel or have blood ties with you......
Like i said, cut off but please do all you can to make life easy for your mum before God calls her.
Even on her sick bed, she still doesn't want to have a relationship with you? Na wa. If she dies, do what you can for her burial. As for your brother, just cut him off.
ReplyDeleteI low key despise women who favour one child over other(s), or abandon a child they had out of wedlock once they get married to someone else, I have no ounce of pity for them, such wicked souls.
DeleteYou will go dump your innocent child carelessly because of one good for nothing marriage.
Cut off from both of them, they don't deserve you, they should go talk to God about their problems.
Like mother, like son.
Honestly for your peace of mind just cut off that your yeye brother from your life? And please no matter what dont let them no about your financial status if not that brother of yours can do the undo!! As for your mum keep doing ur best for her..
ReplyDeleteBest way to enjoy life is allowing people underestimate you and your capabilities,especially financially.
ReplyDeleteWhat they don't know;they can't frustrate,kill or destroy.
Keep sending money for your mum's upkeep;if she is no more and you don't send it now,one way or the other it will surely prick your conscience.
Yes he will eat from it;but see it as you paying a nanny to take care of your mum.
All is well;God has blessed you and Grace found you,so keep a positive mindset and always do the little you can to help.
There is nothing you have got to prove to your brother or anyone;enjoy life on a low.
@MARTINS
Pls take this advice.
DeleteYour first and the second paragraph I'd just the fact. Most people don't know this.
DeleteWhat people don't know, they can't kill or destroy. 💯💯💯💯
Upvote!
DeleteHow are people so careless about destiny?
DeleteLike is there supposed to be any rivalry? I even thought it was a guy narrating this, so what will ever make a guy and a girl be at loggerhead over Father's inheritance?
I know women might not be good people but we hardly care about fathers properties so why did this woman break the hedge for the serpent to attack her two children not even seven children?
Anywhere u see the woman pls tell her that ekenekwam ya!
Gbam! Well said!
DeleteI wonder how some woman bring up their children to hate each other.
ReplyDeleteNow that Gid has bless you, don't forsake your mother, keep doing what you are doing for her but cut off that brother of yours, you can also reduce communication with your mum. When God has call her home, you can now completely cut off with them.
I am going to do this as anonymous. Parent should be careful the kind of seed they plant in their children's heart it can make or mar them. After the demise of our mother, my dad began to take sides with some of us, and neglecting some, especially me. We are gown ups now but there is no sincere connection amongst us, we hide things from each other, we pretend to love each other, and it's beginning to affect our children somehow.
ReplyDeleteSee what I said up there, some mothers are not it at all, picking a fave and ignoring the other kids like they sent you to give birth to them, this matters dey vex me.
DeleteI love the fact you did not abandon your mum despite her maltreatment towards you,and I also applaud you for hiding your net worth from them,your brother is a terrible person and might not mind hurting you, siblings rivalry is not a good place to be,I wish you love and light.
ReplyDeletePls don't cut off your mom out of life. Do your best for her.
ReplyDeleteAs for your brother, just stay away from him , disconnect all communication and watch how his brain will return to factory settings, when he finds out your worth.
All the best poster.
Poster please find another way to send food stuff and other things as your brother have access to your mother's account. Do your best for her so that your conscience will not bother you that you did not do enough while she was alive. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteyou should try your very best to take good care of your mum now that you can, please find a way to put everything behind and take good care of her medical knowing fully well that she has just little time on earth. For her son please just manage him for now till your mum is gone then you cut him off cos people like him can kill their sister and take over her wealth. Continue hiding your achievement from him so that he will not plan evil for you.
ReplyDeleteYou need to give your mother a good life to enjoy herself, i know is not easy to forget everything but please for you to have your peace. Forgive her everything she has done, allow her to enjoy your wealth a little more.
Oh dear, I feel your pains poster. It must really hurt to be hated by one's blood, especially mum. Pls keep sending money from afar and try relating with your step siblings from your father's side, if they are not toxic.
ReplyDeleteLove and light to you
Please on the day of ur mother's burial, let them see and know u are loaded, then cut them off all of them..
ReplyDeleteMake sure do pepper Dem 😊
DeleteA person who grew up in polygamy will NOT advise you to listen to advice @15:33. Don't.
DeletePoster, be wary of your your siblings who are coming closer than your brother. They know what is going on between you two. Same thing is going on between them and your brother. They just want to use you to spite him.
Care for your mother till her rest since you can afford to. Otherwise, there would be no need to go to her burial ceremony at all or to go there to put your brother in his place as you really want to do in your heart .
Sorry for all that happened to you. However, let go of the desires to prove yourself rich to your family or your brother despite all or to put him in his place. He that is down cannot fall lower. But he can drag you lower and hold you down with him. You have been told experiential proverb(s).
There is no need to make them know she is loaded. It will cause a different war for her if you know you know. Just do what you need to do. And face front. Life is deep.
DeleteShowing off may cause plenty problems for her
Please, you dont need to show them you are loaded. Of what benefit will it be, you already know you're better off than your brother. The heart of man is desperately wicked, just live a quiet life and be careful of your brother.
DeleteDo your best for your mom from afar as much as you can. Cut your brother off like you plan to do. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteYou have tried, kudos to you. Please keep doing what you can for your mom till she's gone irrespective of how she treated/treats you. She probably doesn't deserve it but just do your part as her child to fulfill all righteousness.
ReplyDeleteWe need to do better as mothers/women never to sow seed of hatred in our kids
Remain neutral, don't cut off but zero your mind that you never had him as a brother.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel you are not married.
Is the marriage part necessary ehn, Agbaya?
DeleteIs the marriage part necessary ehn, Agbaya?
DeletePoster,your story is almost like mine.I would have share but I don't like typing too much because I need glasses which I can't afford for now.
ReplyDeleteSame thing my late mum did.Immediately we buried her I just disconnect myself from my half sibling for my own mental health. I just pray for money to enter my hand like yours so I can do my mother's burial ground 🙏
Eheya
ReplyDeleteDearie just keep taking care of mummy okay
God Almighty will Reward you more
Abeg ingnore your brother o
Dnt pick fight or quarry with him
Biko🙏🙏🙏
Help from afar
Epele it is well
Hello iya boys
My mum's husband and her with their children ruined me with expenses and family problems. When I was left with nothing they all abandoned me
ReplyDeleteI know my Redeemer liveth
You'd be wiser in your next life.
DeleteTypical case of "money finish for giver hand,receiver say him no plan im life well"
DeleteHmmm, Stella, some of us have wicked parents and siblings. That’s just the harsh reality. Approaching issues emotionally with wicked people, be they our relatives or friends, will only get the person burned. A zebra cannot change its stripes, because that’s its nature. Some wicked people only pretend to change to achieve their aim, but with time, they revert to their true nature.
ReplyDeleteIf I begin to type my chronicle, it will leave blog visitors traumatized. Poster, listen to your guts. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. This is 2024. Use your logical sense of reasoning.
God bless you Anon 1542! Poster please safeguard your mental health and let Jesus be your family.
DeleteTake care of your best you can not draining yourself in the process. Do it for you and you alone as for that riff raff she breeder you know what to do... All the best to you.
ReplyDeleteFrom what you wrote, I think deep down you want some form of relationship with them. Even a basic familial relationship connection. You did not mention if you have a family of your own, only the comforts of your life. Sometimes even those comforts and accomplishments feel like nothing when there is that void with the ppl we call family.
ReplyDeleteI think you should see a therapist. Having your mother telling you more than once that she wished you had been aborted will affect you whether you believe so or not. Cutting them off will not feel as good as you believe without dealing with some of this emotional trauma that you faced through them. All of them rejected you, stepfather, mother and brother. Nothing you achieve in this world will soothe the pain of that rejection, that will kill something in you. So please get the counselling and get the best therapist that your money can buy. When the pain of their rejection has truly healed, you will be in a better place and have the freedom and peace that you now seek.
Don't you think that everybody has his own life to live for you to be in the midst of those that are nothing but pains whenever you have them around.?? What you should know is that when there is hatred, nothing you can do to please them.
DeleteShow love and be there when needed but don't give them that chance to be a thorn in your life.
Just keep fulfilling all righteousness by your mom but don't exert yourself.
ReplyDeleteYou will be fine, dearie. I pray God grant all heart desires.
Poster avoid that brother of yours writing from experience but take care of your mom.though.
ReplyDeletePoster you don't even have a problem atall, I think your brother is the one that should be writing this chronicle.
ReplyDeleteSis listen just keep being good to them especially your mum.
If your brother wan do gra gra for your mummy burial, pls stay for corner and watch him, it's good you his your financial status from them.
What about your biological father, don't you want to look for him.
I think where u need to channel your energy is in praying for a husband because you did not mention that.
You are already blessed so don't bother about your mum and brother, just imagine if you were suffering how they would have treated you.
I thank God for where he placed you.
Do all you can for her now that she is still alive but stay far away.
ReplyDeletePlease don't drag funeral rites with your brother when God call your Mum, you will have more to lose if he kills you.
Take good care of your mother and leave the yeye brother alone
ReplyDeleteHmmm the rejected stone has become the corner stone.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what would make a mother so hate a child she suffered to carry for 9months.
Do what you will for her as her child
Good evening bvs, sdk and martin has really nailed it. Do not allow your brother to know anything about you let alone visit you. He doesn't have good intentions
ReplyDeleteIndeed your mother created the seed of discord between you two, she may probably be blaming you for all the bitterness in her life, but do not let that deter you from helping her in her frailness, after she is related please cut of from your brother and see if he comes to his senses. Weldon!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, keep caring for your mum, do it cause you're her child and you are capable of it.
ReplyDeleteBut you see that your brother, flee from him, and stay on your lane.
Those other siblings, kindly cut them off too, they may not have good intentions towards you. Shine your eyes pls.
Don't let your brother know your net worth before he will kidnap you, I also knew one woman that sew a discord among her children, the children always fighting one another until they saw the real her, even though some of them aren't too close till now, but at least, they are cordial and some are very close.
ReplyDeleteGbam!! I know a woman like that too. Some mothers let their bitterness and frustrations as a weapon to foment trouble among their children and turn their children against their fathers. May God not make us mothers like this type.
DeleteIf not for God I would abandon that type of mother
ReplyDeleteI would have left her since
She’s sorta still looking for her love. Best thing for her is to heal first honestly. If she can cut off communication from that mom for some time and heal properly, I don’t think she’ll have anything to do with her. I mean a mother that says she wished she had aborted her, is that one a mother? Na she decided to born pikin. Pikin was not asked to be born. It’s a very selfish thing.
DeleteIf not for God, I for say, cut that mother off completely. But God is already dealing with her. I’d say ask her questions poster and don’t just use the ignore button. Ask questions now that she’s still alive. Do you know your biological father? Ask her why she has so much hatred towards you yet she’s taking your money! You Nigerians need to start speaking your mind and stop this nonsense ignore button thing. It will help heal you. Wishing you the best.
Don't do anything just continue to do good for your mum
ReplyDeleteMy sister I understand your struggles. Forgiveness will do you more good that revenge. Never wish bad on your parents or anyone cos it might have ripple effect on your mental state. It might make you feel guilty. Be good to them cos love heals everything. I pray the Lord gives you understanding.
ReplyDeleteI am the poster.
ReplyDeleteThey just got a new care giver cause the former just left. I am yet to meet this one. she does not call me unless I call her. (On top my money!) They stress me so much
Can you all imagine me calling the new care taker since morning to send the account so I can send some money, ( I am trying to bypass my brother) up till now she has not sent her account. Yet complaining she needs money to buy fruits and other things for my mum.
I think my brother may have told her not to deal with me directly so everything will be via him. I have to Pay her June salary.
I am heading to some of the advice given here.. Thank you all.
I want to be very tactical with my brother from now on.
@Poster, Just be patient and take it easy. Don't fall into any trap set for you. Anger will cloud your judgment. You need to see clearly so keep your mind at rest.
DeleteWhy do i feel your brother wishes your Mum dead.
Give her the best care you can. If your brother demands for what is too much because he wants part of it, play it cool and tell him what you can afford per time. He may be testing how much you are worth by his demands. Call him, and don't let him get to you. Make up your mind.
Pls be careful and be wise. If you need to visit your Mum, dress as simple as you can manage. Don't give yourself away.
Best wishes.
If God gave you wealth, it's for a reason. If I were in your shoes. I will by pass my mum and make peace with my brother. Caught off from those step brothers Life is deep. You will get married someday if you are not already married. One day you might have need for this your brother in your marriage. Your children might need to know their uncle or mum's relatives. God made you the head, gave you money and education for a reason. Create time to have a deep conversation with him. Establish him if you can and leave him with his conscience.
DeleteAs per your mum.'s burial when God calls her. I don't know where you came from, if you are from my place, as long as you are a woman, your brother will have an upper hand during her burial despite you are richer.
Why will an only son and only daughter be in competition? Please ask the holy spirit to direct you. Make peace with him. You need him and he needs you
But why are you calling the caretaker
DeleteYou like wahala oh
Let them send account when they are ready
You face your life
God bless My darling
DeleteBe Strong dearie
It is well with you 🫂🫂
Hello iya boys
Zaram which kind yeye advice is this?? Poster after your mum passes CUT HIM OFF!! Do not let anyone of them know where you live ooo
DeletePoster please be very careful but cut off that man. Some mothers are just like that. Bitter till the very end. There is no redemption for them. You have your life ahead of you. Just send her upkeep and keep your distance. Do not divulge your wealth or its source to anyone oooo
DeleteZaram I disagree with reconciling with that brother, that one is a bloodsucker and can kill her for her money if he knows she's loaded.
DeleteA fool at 40 is a fool forever.
She does not need him for anything, there are people without siblings and they are doing just fine.
Poster it's well with you. Please find time and visit your mum,have a heart to heart discussion with her,tell her your mind,forgive all her negative thought towards you,don't wait till she die before going home to bury her, you're where you are today because you stood for yourself,God has already blessed you and more blessings are coming .
ReplyDeleteSuch a toxic environment..I feel.so bad that you had to go through all that. Just do what you can for her since you know she has little time left
ReplyDeleteSometimes some children can turn the other way , no matter the love you spread towards that child he or she might not love you back or if care is not taking those type of children might used their parents or simblings for money. The best things to do is to keep your distance Bcos no matter how much of money you invest in them it will be wasted.
ReplyDeleteEven you too have too much hates, dont go and die young, i can sense pride in you, "they live in the village, i live in the city" for your own peace of mind is better resolve the issues in the family
ReplyDeleteyou are daft and stupid...how is that pride? some half baked illiterates in the village see life a different way and it affects how they behave.. some are just nasty and have a high sense of entitlement...if you are not daft and just being a hater how do you think the issues she raised will be resolved only by her? go back and read again before dropping foolish comment
DeleteOnly you, your mum ur brother and your step Dad dont love you, what about ur own biological Father i hope he loves you, i dont know all the fact, sister try to check yourself, it might not be all their faults.
ReplyDelete"I find this funny as she despised me as a little girl and initially hid me from the husband. My mother still regretted not aborting me."
ReplyDeleteThe above quoted might throw more light on why your mum seemed to despise you. In her struggles then, she probably saw it that having had a child would pose a threat to her marriage (and who knows if that contributed to end the marriage). Some people still hide things like that even these days. This is not to excuse her mistakes towards you at all but I can imagine way back then how it was frowned at for one to get pregnant outside of marriage or even have a child, thereby, she seeing you as a mistake.
Please find it in your heart to forgive her and do all you can to make life easy for her. Also, find an opportunity to have a one on one with her and get to know some truths. She is the only mother you can ever have and may be full of regrets when she is no more. This might even help both of you find closure.
Also, be cautious how you relate with your brother as I don't see him changing positively any time soon.
What you typed is my mother and my siblings. I am the one my mother calls to beg for things… but my brothers who have nothing going for themselves, she protects and bad mouths me to them. I have spent over $50 k on my mum ever since I was 21 and had a good job. I never got a chance to be a child. Now I am 30, I stopped. Let her 4 other angels help her.
ReplyDeleteA lot of parents breed animosity between their children and die and then it continues.. I made up my mind to never do anything for my mother and I have peace. I call her to check up on her. If she complains she is struggling, I tell her sorry and keep it moving.. it’s wild to me how mothers detest their female children. I try my best not to hate my mother but God knows if she dies tomorrow, I won’t shed a tear!
Poster, just do your due diligence as a child but create strong boundaries before them chop you dry. I’m sorry your mum said such hurtful things to you.