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My husband and his siblings have had an age long family problems due to their father's inheritance sharing. He is the only son with 4 sisters. His dad handed over all his properties to his care.
When his dad died we had financial challenges and sold one of the buildings. Heaven was let loose for this action.
The sisters ganged up against him and insisted the properties must be shared to everyone. In our culture, properties are not shared to woman yet his sisters insisted they must get a share.
He released two buildings to them yet they were not satisfied.
The family had been divided since then. They don't talk to each other.
The family had been divided since then. They don't talk to each other.
This affected their mum, she had HBP and died .
Things went from bad to worse for us financially to the extent we can't afford our children's school fees/feeding . I went from size 16 to 10 likewise my husband. My family took over the responsibility of training our children.
Things went from bad to worse for us financially to the extent we can't afford our children's school fees/feeding . I went from size 16 to 10 likewise my husband. My family took over the responsibility of training our children.
Recently my husband got ill and died because we could not afford money for proper medical attention.
My sister told me that one of my sister-in-laws called her to inform her that my husband died of HIV. She said it is rumoured that I also have HIV.
This is devastating cos my husband"s body is still in the mortuary. How do I handle this wickedness.
WHAT!!!!.....Going from size 16 to 10 is a lot and it is both of you that it happened to....To be sure that it is not wickedness, why dont you do a test to rule that out? Your sister in law might be right.....
Sorry about your loss poster & please go for check up because that reduction was too drastic.
ReplyDeleteNow the sisters can chew the properties
I beg to disagree.
DeleteThe reduction wasn't too drastic. There are problems one will face in this life that will make the person lose weight overnight.
I remember when I lost my father in 2016. I cried uncontrollably and shed over 10kg in a space of weeks.
I can now only imagine what this lady has been through both physically and emotionally.
Dear Poster, kindly disregard the rumours for your mental health. Bury your husband with the little resources you have. After the burial, you can then figure out the next steps as regards the disputed properties.
You're in my prayers 🙏
Disregard ke? What if she has the HIV gan gan. Let her carry out a test please
DeleteBtw from size 16 to 10 is super drastic abeg
The only reason to feel sorry for this poster is that she sadly lost her husband.,, however I have to say she is greedy… what does she mean in their culture women don’t get anything and as if that is not bad enough she and the husband sold one of the properties to finance their debts… absolutely greedy… you should have shared equally or sold everything and shared the money equally. So now you think they will let you the wife take over everything their dad had because you say it was in your husband’s care?
DeleteLet me ask you if the children were all girls, would the properties then go to their uncles? You people will be speaking like illiterates because you want to eat where you did not sow. You better go and take the HIV test and beg the sisters because if you are positive, you will need money to treat yourself so you can be there for your children… be there dragging properties with people who actually own them….
Poster you can start by conducting a test to know if it's true
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile why didn't you guys sell the other properties to attend to your very sick husband since they are in his care and name? Messy story indeed!!
Her husband has died
DeleteExactly what I wanted to type.
DeleteExcept all the properties were sold. I also think this is more spiritual than physical
In as much as I hate to blame people I will state you and your husband faults.....
Delete1 after selling the house you squandered the money instead of investing or you thought your father in law that left inheritance was this careless ?
2 sometimes know when to agree to disagree why didn't your husband share the properties and have his peace?
You saying in ur place women don't receive inheritance shows you fueled your husband into not sharing it.
I am sorry for your loss but let me tell you, prepare well o! Because u go hear nwii!
You will not even smell those properties by the time they finish with u!
NK u just spoke my mind. What do u mean women don’t share inheritance? I am sure u spurred ur husband on and now upon everything he is dead. As a woman u should even have begged him to share with them. U sold the house cos u had hardship what made u think the sisters also didn’t have hardship?? Anyway prepare cos truly they will show u pepper.
DeleteDon't mind her. I was hurt when I read that part of women not inheriting yen yen
DeleteI am sorry you lost your husband to the ailment.
DeleteTruth be told, what your hubby did was very wrong, would he have been happy if he was one of those female siblings? Look at it from the lens of the others, that tradition should be trashed, he shouldn't have sold those properties without giving the others their share.
Even if his father had handed those properties to him,he didn't have to Lord over it alone.
The just thing to do would have been to share them equally and move on with whatever is apportioned to him.
All that is gone now, and it's too late to turn the hands of time.
Bury your husband and move on with life. I hope they won't drag you by the jugular for the remaining property, and if they do, kindly hand it over and save yourself and kids the stress.
Please go and do a test. Your husband sister might be right.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, I think your comment is quite insensitive. What she meant was that the hardship and lack of money made them to reduce /lose weight. Sis, please activate your prayer life, some things are not what they seem , some can throw sickness arrow etc I’d advise you to pray and also check yourself medically if there’s any underlying illness, if there is none, start joining NSPPD(YouTube, Facebook and instagram) weekdays by 7am or go to MFM to see a strong man of God. All the best
ReplyDeleteGo to Mfm prayer city for deliverance, HIV can also a spiritual attack. Hand over the remaining properties to them and relocate completely. The problem was none of the ppty shld have been doldrums without the family's knowledge. Poster God will help you through
DeleteSorry for your loss. Unfortunately, your husband did not act fairly towards his sisters, culture or not They deserved an equal share of their father's inheritance so their grievance is understandable maybe not their behaviour or lies. Your husband should have protected his sisters. My father passed recently without a will and my elder brother ensured a fair share of my father's estate and even ensured my late older brother's children got their father's portion. I hope everyone will come to acceptable conclusion on how the rest of the properties will be shared. I hope you and your children are treated well
ReplyDeleteGod bless your elder brother,that's the right thing to do and not holding on to custom.
DeleteSo correct
DeleteA woman hiding behind culture to deny other women. So terrible
Nwanyi culture. I hope if they dish out the full culture to you now that you are a widow you will not start crying. You didn't even deem it fit to tell your husband to do right by his sisters. Maybe Karma is dealing with you. So manage. May it be well with you las las.
DeleteAnd even with the properties they withheld, they were still poor and suffering. What a brother!
DeleteUnfortunately,people hide behind deep seated greed to propagate and hide behind so many senseless things, claiming "culture" upandan.
DeleteAt all, he was very unfair to his sisters.
DeleteMy condolences dear, I have more questions than answers but I think you should after confirming that you are healthy as Stella suggests see how you can make peace with his sisters to avert more calamity.
ReplyDeleteSorry about your loss poster.
ReplyDeleteBut some of the deaths in the family would have probably be avoided if you as a wife had advised and also allowed your husband to share their father's properties among them all. Are female children not human beings? No mother wants issues among her children, it's heartbreaking. Sometimes, settle issues in love every thing should not lead to grab grab and fighting.
It is their father's property and they have every right to it. You are not living in the cultural age anymore and you know it.
Run the test from the hospital to know exactly what the issue is, the earlier the better.
Go and do that test to be sure it's no rumour.
ReplyDeleteWhat family land have cause in this life, only God can bring you out of this problem. Try to make peace now that your husband is dead, so that their won't be war during his burial.
ReplyDeleteFamily land does not cause anything.
DeleteIt is the PURE WICKED GREED of one or more person in a family that causes all that is attributed to family land, estate, or inheritance.
And in this case, tell her the bitter truth, it was her husband that was the wicked/greedy one. It’s unfortunate, she still doesnt see anything wrong in what he did. She even said, they had financial issues and they sold one of the properties without the knowledge of the remaining to solve their issues. What you guys did is not fair, it might not even be a spiritual attack, but the God of vengeance doing what only He can do.
Delete19:06, stop talking shit. They're both greedy and wicked
DeleteYou see why it is not good to support wickedness. Your husband sold family property without involving his sisters, didn’t the parents gave birth to his sisters the way they gave birth to him? See your mouth like where you come from properties are not shared to women. Did you not benefit from the proceed abi you sef no be woman? Now he has extended the wickedness to you by probably sharing hiv to you. Better go run a test
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Don’t be harsh to someone suffering. Your mouth no good .
DeleteI was shocked, to see that she didn't see her husband behavior as wickedness, if she was to be the sisters how will she feel? Let us always pray against the spirit of GREED..... only d husband inherited everything and it was fine by her, no spirit of sharing.... Madam you can't even advise your husband to share to the sisters.
DeleteFor the first time in years, I agree with you Fan.
DeleteSomething he would have shared along all of his siblings with provision to cater for his aged mother. Yet the greedy couple didn’t see anything wrong with it.
The only thing I would advise you to do is call a meeting, ask for forgiveness from his siblings for the sake of your innocent children, handover whatever properties are left to his eldest sister to handle for the family, fast and pray, then start your life all over again.
I’m sorry for being so harsh but all of this was avoidable.
Is her wickedness by supporting her husband to denyed his sisters their share of their father's properties, that contribute to the untiming death for the husband.
DeleteWhy men should always pray for a good wife.
English without tears- it’s didn’t… give birth. Take note
DeleteGreedy and wicked couple. Even if your husband was stupid must you be dumb too?
DeleteFan Emmanuel 👍👍👍
DeleteVery interesting chronicle.
ReplyDeleteBut I feel there is more to the story.
Why did you go broke even after selling a building and the land it was built.
The your late father in law didn't invest in his children to carry on his business.
Good question...@Anonymous
DeleteSorry about the death of your husband,May his soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThe custom of not sharing inheritance to female children should be totally abolished,it creates enmity in the family.
Back to your story,don't you think they went spiritual on you guys because despite the properties,you people couldnt sustain the wealth.
Your children need you more than ever,please do the necessary health
and spiritual checkup.
Sorry about the dealth of your hubby oo
DeleteMay his soul find Rest..
But to be sincere ehen your late hubby could have shared the property equally to let peace and unity reign o
You self did not advice him ooo
You were on his side nah that in your place women do not collect property hmmmm
Who knows if the younger sisters sent him sickness ooo
Abeg go check you self first o.
Now he's no more the sisters will collect every thing and give you nothing
It is well ooo
Hello iya boys..
I’m so sorry for your loss dear.
ReplyDeleteWe are Igbo and I’m guessing you are Igbo too. Culture or not your husband should have shared his fathers estate fairly among his siblings, their late father was as much their father as he was his. When my husband’s father died, he was in charge of his father’s estate as first child and only son, yet he shared everything equally among his sisters and himself. He even share the rent of a particular building amongst them since they all reside in that state and he doesn’t, six flats each goes to his 5 sisters plus his mom. I even applauded him because I’m an unapologetic feminist.
So your husband’s excuse didn’t sound well because since when does culture come before the well-being of our own family.
We all need family. Who knows Things may have turned out better and he may have gotten good support from his family when he was down if he had been fair with them from the outset. I hope you are able to get good healthcare for yourself now. Please go ahead and run tests including hiv, your late hubby may have told his sis something.
Also try and reach out to your sisters in law and see how you can make peace with them. Life is too short. We all need each other. To avoid carrying this mess to the next generation.
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DeleteNow that the tables are flipped belly up, I hope the " culture" that supported females not inheriting their father's properties that she boldly advocated for will be fair to her now that she is widow. Even the man that sat on properties could not be saved by said properties..naked we came, naked we will return to God!!
DeleteWhether they are females or not, it's wickedness not to share properties for them and your husband was even selfish and wicked, he wanted to inherit everything, that's greediness, in my culture, whether you're a man or woman, so far the person didn't write a will, males and females must inherit from the properties including children born out of wedlock, so far the person and the family acknowledge you as a child.
ReplyDeleteEven if culture says your husband's sisters are not entitled to properties, what happened to humanity and compassion, couldn't your husband give them their own fair share, your husband hated them and you want them to love him because it's not blood that's flowing in their veins.
You better do the right thing and don't let the greviances extend to the children by giving everyone their own shares.
Lastly don't forget to do test maybe your sister-in-law was right or not.
Imagine! I'm sure the sisters are behind your misery and we'll understandable. You didn't advice your husband well. The father left it for him to share not to hold. See what greed and culture can cause? Is it better now that he's gone? Why didn't he share it? Na wa for una culture, very archaic. You better leave the properties for them, let them untie your glory. I wish the man didn't die, its just sickening how he was so tied to culture and even lost his life. So sad
ReplyDeleteLol dude had unprotected sex
DeleteThat culture doesn't take note of them in sharing doesn't mean as a human you won't consider them
ReplyDeleteHaba. What will it cost you and your husband to give them something. The money will help them too.
Or you think they don't have financial troubles? Or it's not your concern after all "your" culture only counts your husband.
If it were you, will you be happy? Haba!! Even to the point of dividing the family. It is one thing to give, and another for them to ask for more.
Even one, was not given to them. You didn't do well. That's my opinion.
On the "talk",go and run a test to be sure it's not true. Don't sit down and pray it away. They probably can't come to you because of how they've been treated. Go and test yourself.
My condolences on your loss. May God grant you strength and peace to the deceased.
Hydrogen
My question is did the father left a will that his property should be shared amongst his daughter? If so he should have shared the property to them. If not. They don't have right over the property. Culture is culture. Your husband should have taken the matter to umunna. They have husband's. Their husbands have rights in their own father's house.
ReplyDeleteGod help your female children with this your mentality.
DeleteWho created the culture in the first place and why can't it be changed.
Male or Female children are all equal regardless.
Left a Will told me all I need to know about you
DeleteAgent, see your mouth! You have exactly the right mindset of an agent. Whatever kind of agent you are. Perfect profession. You are doing well.
DeleteSomeone asked her a good question up there, if the sisters in-law decide to treat her as culture demands for widows hope she will be happy? She better make peace now cos the spirit of her mother in-law might not have rested oo
DeleteFan Emmanuel
Really? Culture is culture?
DeleteHusband and wife were simply greedy.
You as the wife ought to have encouraged your husband to share with his sisters. Now, you are shouting about wickedness.
Neither you nor ur husband remembered that the one who worked for the property didn't leave this world with them.
And neither will you or your now deceased husband.
You no even carry any of the sisters near body.
Best u find out the status of ur health.
Maybe ur SIL knows something you dont
English without tears- it’s did the father leave a will and not did the father left a will. Pls take note
DeleteYour mouth like culture is culture, hand sef go touch you one day nau, I hope you don't change gears by then.
DeleteI honestly don't have any pity for you.
ReplyDeleteIf you as a woman could open your mouth and say in your culture, the female children are not consider as children and you could not advise your husband to share their father's property in a peaceful way, then I feel sorry for your female children.
By the way I am a man.
She never said she could not or did not advise her husband to follow culture.
DeleteShe only repeated her husband's stand point.
Apparently and clearly, even the husband's MOTHER could not get the husband to change his mind till her death. The mother's death also could/did not cause a rethink by the husband.
See erhn, not every man can be convinced otherwise by a wife.
Wetin Una want Poster to have done?
To share the property by herself?
Abegi lets us cut her some slack.
What can be said is her fault at all, is that she did not quickly go back to her family for advice.
But if she supported her husband's stance actively as BV @16:13 would do, well you guys are justified.
Your SIL's assertion of HIV may be malicious or may be true.
ReplyDeleteThe only way to find out is to go do two quality HIV tests. One in a government hospital and the other in a quality private Lab.
The results will tell you whether your SIL's assertion is malicious or true.
After the burial of your husband, call your family.
Tell them you want your FIL properties shared equally into 4 equal parts.
One part for your husband to be inherited by your/his children.
If you know apologies to your SILs are needed, be ready to render them from your heart. And start mending fences. Your SIL talks to your sister so you have a bridge to use in mending relationships.
Be content with what you get and move on.
It may be rough. Be prepared to adjust according to income.
Hopefully, you have the properties' documents secured in your hands for now.
Then hold on to God. Do not seek vengeance because your SILs may just be innocent of all your travails. Some people just keep plain malice while some act on theirs.
The fact that your husband could not meet his financial obligations despite having the more of the properties, tells that he was a spendthrift, or something bigger was in issue with your husband or is in issue with the properties.
So, steel your heart and mind because you may find out more.
Avoid running from spiritual homes to spiritual homes.
How the moneys from your children's share of the properties go will tell you more than any other person.
As said before, go back to your family. Let the men there help you since your culture does not recognise women's rights or words.
It is always a surprise that women do not want their family to advise them on important marital issues.
If your family cannot help, seek help from the local branch of FIDA (International Federation of Women Lawyers), the NBA, or nearest Welfare department at your LGA or State government Secretariat.
Best wishes.
Mr. Mann
Mr. Mann, it’s like you didn’t read the part she said that her husband died due to lack of proper medical care due to lack of funds and also that, now it is her family that is catering for her kids cos they can’t even afford sch fees. What does that tell you? They have disposed all the properties, squandered the proceeds, and now they are poor again. Remember, she stated that when her FIL died, they entered financial crisis, sotey, they sold one property, the one that caused all the chaos in the family, so with this, does that sound like a family that would be broke to the point of not affording their kids sch fees, while looking at pprty handed over to her husband, without selling? Dfntly not. They have sold everything and back to being broke, hence her chronicle on what to do next. When the going was good, and they had pprties at their disposal, she never write in to ask if sharing wt the SILs was right or wrong.
DeleteThe point i’m trying to make is that, ur advice of her handing over the remaining pprties to the eldest SIL will not hold water, cos there are no pprties to hand over. They have squandered them.
@19:33 Thank you for your insights.
DeleteI chose to focus on the story as told. She said her husband kept some properties after selling one and giving two to her SILs. Experience shows that some people do not sell all properties even in hardship. They may prefer to rely on the rent or are ashamed to sell because of some reasons.
My suggestions were based on the fact that the properties may still be there. If they are sold, the Poster has to go check her health first and start afresh.
Those of us calling her out must also understand the psychology of culture. We are all bound one way or the other by culture. I experienced this culture about 25+ years ago in Lagos State. The son deprived his sister who has been litigating to protect the property of the same property as soon as their parent who owned the property died. He said the woman should go inherit through her husband. So, even the SIL if they are married to benevolent and rich family would also enjoy the benefit of that culture which is that a woman inherits only through her husband.
A typical person needs a new world view to break free from culture. And few of us ever break free from all our cultural practices. The nature of man/woman is to ferret out and hold on to only the parts of culture that benefit him/her the most. Sometimes, it ends this way.
Again, thank you for your sound analysis, That is why we come here. To learn from others as we put our comments, ideas and observations to test.
A sad story all round.
Mr. Mann
Ibo wicked culture has put you in soup and madam you should have been a mouth piece for his sisters when your husband sold it and divide it among them ,now the same properties has come back to his sisters now Which you can't fight them ,better go and test yourself and forget about insensitivity or not life is a gift so that you can be their for your children ,women supporting women is really true.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband and you did right thing by sharing with his sisters from day 1 just maybe his mama n him will be here and everyone will be rich and happy. From personal experience, my husband is a second son that left property outside village for his elder brother just to avoid wahala. We have triple of that property in the same city today. Elder bro say their sisters have no share ndi anambra. Mother is 100 with 1st son. Avoid fam wahala.
ReplyDeletePoster are you sure something spiritual didn't take place. You would have advised your husband to share the proceeds from that property now look at what has happened now.
ReplyDeletePlease my dearest women,when our husbands are making wrong choices let's not support them.
ReplyDeleteImagine your own brothers sharing all his properties without giving you a dime? How would you have felt?
I clearly see this as a spiritual than physical battle so kindly go on your knees and ask God for directions
I couldn't agree more with the comments! All these would have been avoided if your husband didn't allow greed blind him. The property would have been shared, and he would have been free to do as he wills with his share. I hope for your sake that he has not infected you truly.
ReplyDeletePoster it's a pity you lost your husband.some woman are so wicked and selfish,some will be the one encouraging their husband against their siblings,all this could have been avoided if you as the wife pleased and cry to him to share the properties among his sisters,but you were busy supporting him about culture,the sign was there,when your hubby sold the frist property and money vanished, your mother inlaw died because of this issue.you and your hubby weren't move to do the needful,because you both want everything to yourself forgetting tomorrow is not promised
ReplyDeleteYour sister in laws might have done that to you both cos I have seen a lady that HIV was sent to her and she later died. You should go check yourself out and if you have HIV just find a way to take your medications and stay alive for your children.
ReplyDeleteYour husband already made a big mistake by not sharing his father's property immediately his sister's insisted. If you have siblings which are not interested in their father's property, just thank God and stay close to your family but when you have siblings which are ready to die cos of property another person suffered to acquire, just let them be.
Now your husband us no more to even fight or get anything, why didn't you make peace between your husband and his siblings? You should have begged him to share the property accordingly with what they want and pray God bless the little you guys will get. Your husband has passed away and you are left with the issues he left for you to handle, you should expect worst now that your covering is off. I pray you find the strength to handle but try and ignore them so that you too will not die before your time.
Lmao at HIV sent to her. Ikwakwakwa.
DeleteUnfortunately, your husband got a responsibility that he was neither trained to handle nor prepared for. Irrespective of culture, he should have divided everything equally for peace of mind, especially since he did not appear to be particularly business savvy. I am very sorry to learn of his death and the severe hard times that you all went through. Stress can kill, and it seems as though the stress brought on by family wahala and diminished finances took a toll on him.
ReplyDeleteEverybody marries into a family with their own secrets. He very well could have told them of his health condition and did not tell you. The sister could also just be a mischievous loud mouth who likes to stir up wahala. Do your own blood test for your peace of mind. You can also have a sample of blood taken from your husband to be tested to know his status and clear his name if they are lying.
I hope God turns your story around and things get better real quick for you. May your husband’s soul rest in peace.
It was wrong for your husband to have unilaterally sold of one building, it IS FAMILY PROPERTY, not his property and it is inconsequential that his other siblings are females.
ReplyDeleteYour husband started this trouble that degenerated and resulted in these dad events.
See the way you said it so casually, "we sold off one property" and you see nothing wrong in it.
His father handed over the properties to his care, his father did NOT Will them ALL to him ALONE.
It is sad that several years after, you and your husband still see no wrong in his actions.
Perhaps, if he had amicably shared the properties equally with his siblings, things may have turned out differently.
GREED IS BAD.
When my father died, my brother managed all his assets for the BENEFIT of ALL MY SIBLINGS, including my females siblings and even sent my SISTER Abroad with dad's money.
Would you want your OWN DAUGHTERS disinherited!!!!!! Ehhhheeeeen!!! Answer!!!!!
It was wrong for your husband to have unilaterally sold of one building, it IS FAMILY PROPERTY, not his property and it is inconsequential that his other siblings are females.
ReplyDeleteYour husband started this trouble that degenerated and resulted in these dad events.
See the way you said it so casually, "we sold off one property" and you see nothing wrong in it.
His father handed over the properties to his care, his father did NOT Will them ALL to him ALONE.
It is sad that several years after, you and your husband still see no wrong in his actions.
Perhaps, if he had amicably shared the properties equally with his siblings, things may have turned out differently.
GREED IS BAD.
When my father died, my brother managed all his assets for the BENEFIT of ALL MY SIBLINGS, including my females siblings and even sent my SISTER Abroad with dad's money.
Would you want your OWN DAUGHTERS disinherited!!!!!! Ehhhheeeeen!!! Answer!!!!!
Poster you're the wicked one here, You encouraged ur husband to sell a property without the consent of his siblings. What did you do with the proceed from the property? You squandered it right . You don't have hiv rather it is the spirit of ur late father in law that is tormenting you. Seek for peace and forgiveness from the family and you will be free
ReplyDeleteWhen my father died, the first son said we shouldn't disclose the inheritance my father left for our last child to him, since he was still quite young. Our first son was acting with a sincere heart and INNOCENTLY, but I also knew he was acting in GRAVE ERROR, which would come back to hunt the family. I refused!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI insisted that our last child who was only 17 years at the time deserved to know, so I made sure he was told. After we told him, we also pleaded with him saying that we needed to pool all our inheritances together for some family projects, HE AGREED and we did so..
Many years down the line, this our last born often complains that we never give him rent from our father's property (we use the rent for some family investments, which he knows about ohhhh, yet he just complains casually sometimes). So Imagine we hadn't told him that our dad left him some inheritance, devil would have used that as an avenue to cause problems for us.
There was no EXCUSE for your husband's GREED.
Well, now that your husband is dead, you would not be entitled to anything nah, since you are a WOMAN.
Greed is bad!!!!! Kaiiiiiiii And you still don't see the wrong in your husband's actions.
When my father died, the first son said we shouldn't disclose the inheritance my father left for our last child to him, since he was still quite young. Our first son was acting with a sincere heart and INNOCENTLY, but I also knew he was acting in GRAVE ERROR, which would come back to hunt the family. I refused!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI insisted that our last child who was only 17 years at the time deserved to know, so I made sure he was told. After we told him, we also pleaded with him saying that we needed to pool all our inheritances together for some family projects, HE AGREED and we did so..
Many years down the line, this our last born often complains that we never give him rent from our father's property (we use the rent for some family investments, which he knows about ohhhh, yet he just complains casually sometimes). So Imagine we hadn't told him that our dad left him some inheritance, devil would have used that as an avenue to cause problems for us.
There was no EXCUSE for your husband's GREED.
Well, now that your husband is dead, you would not be entitled to anything nah, since you are a WOMAN.
Greed is bad!!!!! Kaiiiiiiii And you still don't see the wrong in your husband's actions.
Repercussions of greed.
ReplyDeleteIt may just be God repaying back your husband wickedness not his sisters. Rip to mama that your husband did not allow to life long in sound health to enjoy her labour.
It better not to be greedy with inheritance it's not worth it
ReplyDeleteThere is something that is called siblings love you mean your husband and only child sold their dad's inheritance without giving his sisters because una feel say it's his right as per custom, what happens to fairness and equality even if they re married.
ReplyDeleteSo if it's a bet or lottery he won't even give his sisters ,a whole inheritance from their dad the same blood, Omo una dey get mind me as a married man I can't partake in that kind of arrangement.
Pls go to the sisters beg them seek for peace , ask God for breakthrough your kids is still in the family you need them
The suffering in Nigeria is too much. Rest in peace to your husband
ReplyDeleteYou mean you supported your husband in withholding the properties from the sisters ? What in God's name do you mean by Women don't inherit properties in your culture ? but your are benefiting from the property you did not labour for indirectly as a wife. Want kind of nonsense mentality is this ? Now look at where it has landed una. Pls go do a comprehensive test first to know the state of your health. Na who dey alive dey fight for property. Sorry about the loss of your husband.
ReplyDeleteBe Wise ... Try settle with the sisters !!
But my question is, what did you people use the proceeds from the house you guys sold to do? Una still went broke after selling the house, it's true when the elders say, eni jogun o dabi eni Ogun gbe.
ReplyDeleteYou should have called your husband to order, his father died and left inheritance for them, but in his own case he died and left enemies and poverty due to his greed
You people have said it all. I am Igbo but Igbo culture treats women very badly. Tufiakwa. Thank God I am wealthy in my own right
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