OH DEAR!!!
A wedding has been reportedly cancelled because the pregnancy test came back positive!
Why in heavens name will a church carry out pregnancy test on a couple? Where in the Bible is it written to do so? PLEASE!!!
"Wedding is Saturday, asoebi is ready, money has been spent everywhere and anywhere.
Today, pregnancy test result conducted by the church came positive
Church has decided they won't wed them... In fact they have been slammed suspension.
This evening just tire me abeg, midweek service turned to another thing. I'm even wondering what pastor's wife means by "as a departmental head you're supposed to have followed things up to avert this kind of occurrence" like how am i supposed to determine my department members life or actions???
In this case as the guy what will u do? Obey church verdict n cancel the wedding or seek alternative n shun the church."
Church has decided they won't wed them... In fact they have been slammed suspension.
This evening just tire me abeg, midweek service turned to another thing. I'm even wondering what pastor's wife means by "as a departmental head you're supposed to have followed things up to avert this kind of occurrence" like how am i supposed to determine my department members life or actions???
In this case as the guy what will u do? Obey church verdict n cancel the wedding or seek alternative n shun the church."
All churches have their rules especially if you are serving in a department in the church.Even catholic charismatic renewal in the catholic church suspended a girl cuz she got pregnant before her wedding and was well known in charismatic choir.The church still conducted the wedding though but CCR stopped her from singing for some months.
ReplyDeleteIf brother or sister knows their church rule why engaging in pre-marital sex & when the result comes out and the pastor refuses, internet will start abusing the pastor and the church.
DeleteSimple rule, people don't wanna keep it.
If an organisation says so now, everyone will adjust and adhere.
If you wanna test, test your test with caution.
Tomorrow another couple will do same knowing the church rule.
The question is, is it no pregnancy before wedding or no sex before marriage? If the couple have been having sex and the lady didn't get pregnant, the church will gladly go ahead and wed them. Churches are trying their best to curtail certain things but in the end, who is deceiving who.
DeleteGeneration that doesn't want to be held accountable, sad! Let me save myself the stress of typing
DeleteThe church will go ahead with the wedding because there is no evidence of sin. God's standard hasn't change even if many of us struggle to obey. They both should have gone for the test before going to where church suggested and safe themselves from this wahala. They should change the venue, communicate it to their friends and family and make sure they have someone at church entrance on the said date to direct their guest. Life continues, plead to God for mercy.
DeleteWedding will still hols. They should look for a pastor to bless the marriage using the venue of the reception. Then if they've not done court,they should do it. Case close.
DeleteIf this doesn’t even defeat the whole church doctrine of not having a child outside wedlock, I don’t know what does. Should they not even happily wed them sef?
ReplyDeleteChurches say they don't join 3 beings together (pregnancy makes the 3rd) so it doesn't stop at the outside wedlock thing.
DeleteBut they know the church rules, if it is embassy or european law on getting passport, you will see them going extra mile to get all the requirements. How many months does it take to wed that they are unable to wait. Even royal family with all their influence dont get pregnant before wedding. The same way we have ruined our country is how they want to ruin the church.
Delete15:15 = Balanced.
DeleteIn so far they have done traditional marriage, let them go on with the reception.
They can return to settle the church matter later.
Thank you. Why can't they wait till after marriage? Something that they will be tired of in the long run. Mtchew fornication has now become a normal thing; God help us
DeleteThey are voluntary members of an organisation and opted to follow the rules, no matter how ridiculous.
DeleteWhat if the girl found out earlier that she is pregnant and terminated it, I believe the church will still wed them , I don't think that particular doctrine is necessary because it will lead to the intending couple to take some drastic actions.
ReplyDeleteDrastic action like not gbenshing before marriage.
DeleteThat would be good
Hehehehehe, let me Laff like my tribes woman, Stella.
Please seek an alternative church to Wed. What if they have been doing the do without the woman catching the goal, would they have known?
ReplyDeletePlease go ahead with the wedding and ask God for forgiveness.
people should follow their church rules or doctrine or leave
ReplyDeleteSimple
DeleteIf you don't want the rule, go to court and wed. Don't start painting the church or the pastor black.
Thank you
DeleteAs simple as ABC.
DeleteAnne K
It's one of their rules, if you want to wed in a church (which is not compulsory), then try to play by their rules.
ReplyDeleteAlso, this doesn't stop their marriage in anyway, all that will be missing will be a church event (again, no big deal,), reception and engagement will still hold, nothing spoil.
Abi
DeleteYes is possible, a relative of mine experience such thing. His fiance was from Nasarawa State. ( Akwanga ) the lady got pregnant before the wedding. The church refuse to wed them , they shun the church but went ahead to do the wedding .( The wedding did not last though)
ReplyDeleteDisobedience to church or God can't last ,sin is sin let the lost people say anything they wanted to say
DeleteSince plans has already been made, proceed with the reception then go yo the registry on a later date to make it official.
ReplyDeleteFinish!
DeleteThe question should be: did they or did they not know of this doctrine before?
ReplyDeleteCivilization don ruin everything, sex outside the marriage arrangement is now a thing and God's instructions on sex is now obsolete.
Obsolete says who ?
Delete@goke, says a whole lot of people. A lot of peeps don't want to hear no sex before marriage. Sex is now so common that if you're of that school of thought, you're on your own.
DeleteThey should proceed to Court and wed there
ReplyDeleteA similar bathing happened to one of the ushers in the church we attended before. His finance got preggy before the wedding. The Church didn't we'd them. They only did reception and that all
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Deleteseek alternative and shun the church
ReplyDeleteyou can have the wedding in a court or get a pastor to come pray for you in one garden, they should exchange ring and move on.
The church aims to discourage fornication, which is immoral. Every church has its own rules that must be properly obeyed. They shouldn't have been gbenshing when it's a church wedding they have been planning to do; they could have settled for a traditional or court wedding..
ReplyDeleteThey should go ahead with the reception,and look for a pastor to blessed the marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhy disobey the rules,when you are aware of it..
Every church has their rule and every organisation has their law the church has done nothing wrong after all they didn't say you can't but not in their church ,I know some keypad warriors will begin to attack the pastor and the church but they won't reason it that the church didn't beg them to be members and as long as they want to be part of the church they are bound by the rule of the church where is it written in the bible? Excuse me is that a question by an unbeliever in Jesus because to christian sex before wedding is sin and it has punishment ,so keep the church out of your mouth
ReplyDeleteIf God cannot get ppl to do as God pleases then it is a church that will. What lofty ideals they have. Look at all the deviance that still happens in strict Muslim countries. Humans cannot be controlled and will always do as they please.
ReplyDeleteSo we'd in court or traditionally where those rules don't apply.
Delete*wed
DeleteLook for another church? Anyway, pay as you wed churches dey.
ReplyDeleteThey should get a man of God who can join them at their wedding reception venue.
ReplyDeleteThe couple are to be blamed. Why will you be a deviant. Every society has its own rule abeg
ReplyDeleteThis happened to me. The church refused to wed me cos I was in the choir. Did court and traditional but husby was insisting on church so we did a church blessing in another church. I am not proud of the way things turned out, but that pregnancy is my only child 14 years later. I thank God for making me a mother cos If I aborted it (trust me the pressure was there) I will be looking for pickin up and down. Hmmm. I cannnot advise anyone to abort a pregnancy to please any man. If the abortion is medical advised i can understand. Ask for forgiveness and serve your punishment and life goes on.
ReplyDeleteYou actually should be proud of yourself. You did not give into to any pressure to please any human or institution. You have your child and as you said, life goes on.
DeleteWell, I don't think anybody is advising them to abort the baby.
DeletePeople should try and respect themselves and the organizations they are part of. If you know your organization shuns that kind of thing, why not just go straight and do court and/or traditional wedding, instead of trying the church first so that when they refuse, you will feel offended.
Did they know about the rules of the church they were pl to wed in? If yes, they are at fault. If no, they need not feel guilty .
ReplyDeleteI advise they find another willing church and go on with the wedding.
No Bible based church permits sex before marriage or pregnancy (traditional proof of sex) before marriage.
DeleteThis is the reason you will always see this in my church bulletin. Church shall start your marriage with you from introduction to wedding, we obey traditions which agree with the Bible only during marriage, no wedding if pregnant and if the above are not strictly obeyed or kept. Every church have rules and their members are fully aware. They should go for marriage blessings.
ReplyDeletei wonder why people are still fanatical about church wedding...
ReplyDeletelet me shock some people here...it is not in the bible..
the ones mentioned in the bible were all customary marriage ceremonies..
Abraham's servant getting a wife for Isaac, Jakob marriage to Leah, and later Rachael were all customary marriages.....Jesus Christ followed his family to a Jewish marriage ceremony where he turned water into wine..
By not telling their followers that wedding is a white man's traditional ceremony, the church has caused and is still causing a lot of damage..
You are right but that does not change the rules this couple voluntarily subscribed to. They can always wed in court.
DeleteHappened to someone in my church, the guy wasn't a member of our church he just agreed to wed her in our church. As they were told that morning that they won't wed them because the lady was pregnant, they kukuma left to his church and were wed in his church that same morning. They are happily married today with 3 kids.
ReplyDeleteIt's the one whose pregnancy got revealed that they will crusify. What about those that kept gbenshing all through the courtship period but protected themselves from pregnancy? Who amongst the two category is holly in the site of God?
ReplyDeleteWell, sex before marriage is not acceptable in church so since there is no way they can know if a couple had sex during courtship or not, let the ones who came pregnant serve as example to let members know that sex before marriage is not a good thing for Christians. Forcing them to wed pregnant couple is just like when people try to impose the act of wedding gay couples in church .
DeleteWhat the couple should do if they are pregnant is traditional and marriage registry. The church wedding should come after child birth and it should be just blessing of the marriage.
All of you people shouting upandan that people should respect the rules of the church they are part of, i laugh at you. Who are you talking to?
ReplyDeleteThe people that openly break God’s own law and shamelessly have fornicate? Why do you think they would respect church when they feel nothing disrespecting the one they purportedly go to the church for?? Then later we be crying that our partners keep breaking the rules and oath they swore on wedding day. Ai we deserve each other
Reminds me of a funny story. So the intended groom's parents are elders in the church (ECWA) a week to wedding, result showed the lady was pregnant. Guy went home to break the news to his mum, mama just fainted immediately, and guess what, yeye groom fainted also🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteLike... even if he was surprised, you no faint wen you heard at the hospital o. I wish I was there to slap him back to consciousness
Stella, why that emoji? This has been a norm in most pentecostal churches right from the time of Adam, any one that is gbenshing should also expect to fall pregnant anytime so therefore should not bother to seek church wedding because na gobe go end am
ReplyDeleteThis brings to memory my cousin sis, that was about to wed and pregnant, went and terminate the pregnancy for the church wedding, only for her to be married for 12 years without a child only for the husband to die and we discovered that the man has a child outside,but as we speak my cousin is awidow and childlessness, so is left for the couple to decide, when the ship is down you are on your own no church no doctrine
ReplyDeleteThey dont wed you even though it is cancelled. You only do church blessing and go your way. Not the whole walking down the aisle planned for
ReplyDeleteThis isn't about church doctrine and all, what does the word of God say about defiling the marriage bed? God forbids it! But humans, we are so disobedient always breaking God's laws. Thank God for his Mercy if not i wonder what would become some of us
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