When I lost my uncle back then, after burial, they brought out his belongings and asked his sons, brothers, cousins, nephews to pick their choices, the rest were burnt. I didn't touch anything.
This man in the next compound died recently, all his personal belongings were brought outside the gate and burnt by his wife and children.
His brothers came and started making trouble with them. They almost beat them up if not for the intervention of neigbours. They said what she did was against their custom and that her actions shows she has a hand in his death.
Who even feels comfortable wearing a dead man's clothes? definitely not me. Thank God I don't wear Okirika, so I can't even wear them unknowingly. Lol.
Well, they have travelled to their village for burial. I await gist when they come back.
I think some of this custom talk is just made up lies. If they could want to fight over dead clothes then that wife would be on the streets if the man had property and money.
ReplyDeleteI would have no problems wearing something from someone who I loved that was deceased, it would help me feel close to them.
Pinky, ppl come into intimate contact with each other everyday. If you have ever drank from a glass at a restaurant, used silverware, gone to the dentist, slept in a hotel, gone to the barber, then you have come into close/intimate contact with complete strangers. Wear what makes you happy but do not be deceived.
lol what’s pinky got to do here ? Or the identity of this column is pinky ? You people na wa
DeleteThat's suspicious, why burn his clothes when they haven't even done burial. They have a lot to answer
ReplyDeletePlease explain what is suspicious in their action. Maybe they rushed but it could have just been an unintended mistake.
DeleteThey should have waited till after the burial.
DeleteNo mistake. The things that happen in marriage are unbelievable. Some couples are just waiting for their partners to die. However, when both are seen in public, they shine teeths together than couples having slight disagreements over tfare or lateness to get ready for the outing.
DeleteOn the other hand, the burning of his clothes is proper if the man died from a contagious ailment. Burning them in the front of their house in public was how
As dey burn his clothes hope say dem go burn any money left in his account. Though that is a crime sha.
Marriage!
Maybe his ghost was showing up and they decided to burn his things. Maybe these ppl never used to visit them so they didn’t expect them to show up. There are actually some legit reasons why they could have burned his clothes quickly.
DeleteMy side when someone dies they paint the exterior of the house immediately, in a bid to keep the dead from coming back to the house. Married women do some things to themselves so their husbands won’t try to have relations with them.
Do they hate the man so much that they couldn't even wait for the burial to be over before disposing his stuff?
ReplyDeleteIts after the burial that they are supposed to dispose his stuff,if no one is interested in having them.
ReplyDeleteThey didn't apply sense at all.
My Dad died May last year, but his things are still like that, nobody has touched them. We have a custom of sharing properties but house, cars are not included in the sharing😁.
ReplyDeleteThe wife and kids should at least have waited till after the burial before deciding to do whatever with the clothes.
I think they disposed his things too early. Though I don't know about custom or whatsoever but they should have waited till after his burial at least. My uncle died 7 seven years ago and almost all his belongings are still intact. I even took one of his jalabia, same as my younger brother and so many people that are interested in them. I don't see anything wrong in giving people interested or in need deceased belongings sha
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong in disposing his things if they don't need them but they should have waited and hear from his people after the burial. Some of his brothers and cousins may need the things if they(immediate family) don't want them.
ReplyDeleteThe woman and her children knew what they did. Burn his clothes and then do so in public!
ReplyDeleteIf they didn't want them, why not leave them for his family? The thrift clothes sold in the market, are they all "sold and returned to stores clothes"?
I've never even though of this. My dad died almost three years ago. My brother just parked his belongings from the city to the village house and hasn't touched them since then. I've never even bothered to ask what he intended to do with it
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