Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - UPDATE

 This is a shocking update....

REF - Issues with BabyMama
As a follow up on the last chronicle I sent last year ,these are the updates
My husband side chick gave birth this year in the month of March and events that followed it are :
The delivery was through CS and the baby came out distressed, My husband called me that they need to take the child to the general hospital for oxygen cos the baby was not breathing well, this was around 10pm and they got to Luth around 1am but his vehicle broke down so the friend to the baby mama was with the child at Lawason road , when the car broke down, Oga has to stay with vehicle while the child was taken to the hospital, the child was admitted immediately and placed on oxygen ,while the babymama friend was with the child.

Husband was later attacked by armed robbers , his phone stolen and money withdrawn from his account through his pone, He was attacked with big stone and blood was everywhere ,people gathered and rushed him to Luth where he used the baby mama friend pone to call me and explain what has happened.

I didn't know what to do , was afraid and frustrated, anyway, he asked for the pone number of his family members from me so that he can tell them not to transfer any money to his account for that period , the reason for that call was because Oga was planning for the burial of.his late mother and he was in charge of collecting money from his siblings, the robbery incident was on a Friday and although he blocked all his accounts he wanted to be careful.that was why he had to call his family,unknown to us the friend of the baby mama sent all the family pone number of my husband to the baby mama and she started calling them to inform them about the child but unfortunately they abused her since they didn't know her and warned her not to destroy our home.,this drama was going on without my husband and I knowledge , the family thought I was not aware so they were calling me to know about his welfare and were careful not to spil but one of my husband sister called me and told me everything and I told her am aware of her pregnancy but didn't think she will forcefully announce her delivery, the reason she was calling Oga family was to get money from them as per hospital bill.

The baby stayed at Luth for a week and I was going there to check on the child cos the friend left and Oga was not strong enough to attend to the need of the child, a lot of tests, diapers, string and drugs , I spent a lot of money and stress , Luth can frustrate you with unending tests.on the fourth day, Luth remove the oxygen and the baby was left for observation. Meanwhile I was told to get breast milk for the baby, so I sent the baby mama friend to get and bring while I wait at the hospital, on Friday of that week ,the child was discharged.

I carried the child to the babymama in another hospital and she thanked me and I left for my home, all these while my husband didn't know what to tell me, he was begging for forgiveness and reconciliation because l discovered that he has been cheating on me since 2021, this pregnancy was the third one they aborted two , while the babymama refused to abort this one ,that she wants to birth this one and i was TTC all those years. I can not forget and forgive cos the hurt inside was like a fresh big wound.

I refuse to say anything but was crying none stop for days ,pack my things and went to lodge in a hotel but could not sleep and rest
His family begged and begged , eventually I came back home but things are no longer the same. The baby mama and Oga fought when Oga discovered the lies and drama surrounding the life of the baby mama, a lot was exposed on all their affairs to the embarrassment of Oga, I took time to investigate and found out even more heart broken details.

The thing affected Oga that he refused to see the child and even ask for a DNA test but mere looking at the child, nobody need to say anything na Oga get am.
Oga said he would collect the child and be responsible for it welfare but the baby mama said she will not release her child dat he should be sending money monthly

Now the reason Oga wants the child in his custody is because the baby mama has 4 different children for 4 different fathers and that is how she is leaving her life. Those children are her meal tickets , so she can't afford to release the child.

She even threatened Oga that if he fails to comply she will take him to Human rights to make my husband pay for child support.

I called her and told her that her plans is the best ,at least human rights will know that she has a child for a married man and up till now the wife is aware and has spend a lot on a child that is not her own and that since our marriage is a legal one I will gladly assist in sending her and Oga to prison for adultery or a choice of fine for both of them to pay. She didn't alter a word and cut the call.

Stella I love that child but I can't have him, I have spent a lot of money on the baby for her feeding since she is on exclusive, l also paid half of her delivery for CS ,I thought maybe I could raise the child but again I have learnt not take what does not belong to me. The child is so fine that you can't help loving the baby but the child is not and never be mine. Painful but I have accepted it .
I would love to move on but I don't know how, Oga is trying to make me forget but dat looks like it will take ages, l see him as a betrayer, a cheat and things can never be the same.
Menopause is almost here so I really don't have any will to try get a baby of my own maybe I will try to adopt ,just maybe.
Please BV, how do I move on with the pain inside of me, I see men in another dimension, I don't want to leave my marriage cos, he is not violent, he is trying to show remorse and have called everyone to beg me on this issue but all I do is cry and wish I could just get out of the bad dream.
Help me please! So sorry for typo issues still crying

This must be so hard to bear but please accept the child as yours but dont adopt him oh.....And dont let him stay with you cos if anything happens, they will say its deliberate...Go to these adoption agencies and adopt a baby or use your husband sperm, buy an egg from unknown and use a surrogate,it will still be your husbands baby and you will be the mum.....Let your anger and pain make you act now!
I am so sorry about what you are going through!