ABUSIVE BROTHER
My brother abused my cousin's child of 15 years staying with him, he has been abusing this girl since she came at 13 years.
My brother abused my cousin's child of 15 years staying with him, he has been abusing this girl since she came at 13 years.
The girl could not speak to his wife cos he has threatened to kill her same way they kill chicken. The poor girl was so scared that she could not tell her aunty (My sister in law)
The other day, he beat her so deadly cos she refused to allow him have his way and threatened to report her to his wife (her aunty).
The other day, he beat her so deadly cos she refused to allow him have his way and threatened to report her to his wife (her aunty).
The girl is currently in my house but how can we make this girl to forget the evil my brother did to her? what measures can i take to make sure my brother is taught a lesson to avoid him abusing another girl?
My sister in-law has been so close to this girl that i thought this girl will never hide anything from her, she could not tell me, my SIL or my mum till recently, my SIl constantly asks her questions from time to time but this girl said nothing about it....
The only way to stop your brother from continuing this is to first off, file a report of abuse at Police station and set him up to get evidence the way that actor was set up and sent to jail...If you are willing to do this it will not be hard but will other family members agree to support you when the time to make him pay for his crime reaches? will the 15 years old be ready to talk in court or give evidence? There are so many things to consider here... Will the wife be willing to send her huisband to jail? I know how Nigerians think, when the time reaches people will beg you to forigve for Godssake and that he wont do it again......
Call a family meeting at once when all else fails and disgrace the sick mofo..
Well that your brother is a dirty He goat and he deserves to tot in jail..if you have the mind like stella said report him to the Authorities they will take it up from there..useless wicked brother you have
ReplyDeleteBesides the child abuse, rape etc. Isn't this incest? WTF. What is his wife saying? She should never bring another female help especially a child into that house. If she has daughters, she should know that the man has no boundaries if he didn't see anything wrong in sleeping with his cousin's child.
DeleteReport him to the police. Hope he does not bribe his way out. I just wish he could be beaten and tortured. This may not even be his first victim
ReplyDeleteWhere are the parents of that girl? I really pity that girl, she needs counseling. Get that werey arrested, even if he won't end up in jail, let people know him for who he is, let him be disgraced
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
@ Poster, pls this your niece needs Therapy. Trauma Healing program can be organized for her. And you have to keep a constant watch over her. She can't go back to your cousins house.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, you need to report that evil man. Because he will do it again to his daughters or sons or young children he can dominate and scare. Don't cover for him, you won't be helping him.
He needs help that's why you must speak out so he can get the help he needs to stop this dirty habit.
OgeMaMa
ReplyDeleteThis is a serious matter. Please don't keep quiet or else he will continue this evil. Let your family members know about it, you can call a meeting and disgrace him. This is not good at all.
ReplyDeleteBecause you said he is ur brother then, do the following
ReplyDelete*Report the case to Area M division in lagos or kirikiri..
He should be arrested and jailed for like 15years because he has done so wrong and I hate when my family disgrace me
This is so sad.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to inform you that she will never forget what your brother has done,she will only suppress the memories for now.
Please, inform your SIL,your mum and other family members first.
Honestly,if my husband tried this,I will get him arrested and yes I know I will have enemies from my family for the rest of my life.
Tough, while you think of what to do, please protect that girl fiercely and if you can,let her undergo therapy.
Your brother is a monster. You have good intentions but you are restricted by family ties.
Whatever you choose to do ensure help the lil one is a priority on your list
Poster, your brother is very sick. You must call him out and demand he goes for therapy if the family says you shouldn't report to the police. But it's a criminal matter. That young girl should not be allowed in any way around him.
ReplyDeleteDon't hide or cover for him, because he will do worse if he gets away with this.
It means young girls are not safe around him.
He needs help, i sense he was abused. Abused people abuse others.
Please, report and call for a family meeting. and arranging boys to beat him up, will not a bad idea at all
ReplyDeleteThis is usually the end product of consuming copious amounts of pornography.
ReplyDeleteGuys flee pornography.
Porn is bad. Addiction to it is bad. But there are people who do this that have not watched porn. Agreed porn is bad and can disgrace a man or woman. Molestation of children is a different genre of perversion.
DeleteLong before pornography existed pedophila existed. Just like beastiality, which has never required those who do it to have seen it before going ahead. Both are demonic deviances that are rooted in a display of power by subjecting a party that has no ability to consent to the activity being forced upon them to come under the power of the perpetrator who is able to harm them in various ways. I suspect the pleasure comes from overpowering the weak and defiling them in a manner where they will eventually hate themselves and their life and watching them cower in fear and thriving on complete submission of the victim.
DeleteIf you are in LAGOS STATE, contact the Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency. Check online for relevant contact information. The officers are trained to guide you. This is no patronage - the Agency is apparently the best in Nigeria today in its field of work.
ReplyDeleteOR let your Mum handle it at family level. She knows already and she is the best placed person to do so.
#theLegalTrainee
I think handling it as a family is better, let influential members of the family call him for a meeting and tell him what he did, impose it on him to get help or matters will be escalated to the police. His wife and other family members need to be watchful around him to make sure it doesn't happen again. Please get help for that child, it is well with her.
DeleteThis is a criminal offense and should be treated as that. The fact that he knows this would be your preferred choice is also enabling him
DeleteMa'am/Sir @16:35
DeleteYou are right that it is a criminal offence. However, Poster is not really in a position to handle it by just treating it that way. Hence two options were suggested to her.
Since the mother is aware, Poster needs to tread with wisdom in handling it. If she was the only person aware, it is easy to go to the relevant agency who can devise a plan to cover Poster and still deal with the matter as a full criminal matter.
Experience shows that when the full consequences of some criminal actions become clear, only a united family can stand against one of their own.
The man risks a long time in jail. Without financial rootedness and cohesion, his own family and extended family would be asunder by the time he returns, if he returns well.
The important things are not to sweep the matter under the family carpet, to shame him, to let his wife be on the alert.
This in no way supports his actions.
#theLegalTrainee
Chai!!! Oh God who sent me to read this chronicle....Why would you molest a minor for goodness sake then add violence to the mix....
ReplyDeletePoster God bless you for standing up for this girl...Please do anything in your power to make sure this guy pays dearly for his crimes.....Haaa God!!
All the best....
What kind of abuse???
ReplyDeleteShe has been in pain for a long time, and it seems that the pain has left a wound inside. She must be living in fear. She couldn't speak up but you saw it all happened, why didn't you caution him!!?!!
It's easy to forgive but sometimes hard to forget. Your brother is he still the same person, abi he has changed?!
What you want the police to do is what they will do for you if you have the money.
ReplyDeleteTell them it's your brother and you want him to be thought a lesson but he should be freed when ever you want them to free him. Make sure you go with evidence so he won't deny it .
If you can't take him to the police, you can pay the local security service to deal with him. Show them evidence before anything and tell them not to take the case further than you want.
I won't advice you to tell your family because I know they will blame you for exposing your brother to torture and will even try to stop you from doing anything that will hurt him. Let your family hear about it when he has been disgraced outside.
He abused his cousin's child! Such level of depravity. Call family meeting and disgrace him. Tufiajwa for some people.
ReplyDeletePoster send details to stella, I'm ready to take up with the case.
ReplyDeleteThanks
So this child has been sexually abused for two years and when she finally had the strength to stand up for herself she was beaten to an inch of her life and none of you thought of reporting the brother to the authorities? This is why children continue to be mistreated, families protecting perpetrators because of fear of shame. Your brother needs to be behind bars for a very long time. What you mean how to let her forget? Who the hell is going to forget being raped two years straight by an adult male? The girl’s body is not even developed to accommodate an adult male’s penis, she could be damaged for life as her body is still developing. She will never forget it.
ReplyDeleteLook for programs where she can receive counselling for sexual abuse victims and where she can see specialists who are trained to handle the trauma care that she needs. She also needs to get medical attention with a FEMALE obgyn who can check her to make sure that her pelvic area and internals are not damaged, and if they are, she receives the physical therapy needed. She needs immediate psychological and medical care. She needs to never be around your brother again. He also needs to be ostracized by the family.
If you don’t understand what I am saying related to physical trauma/damage to the body. How many times have we received chronicles from grown women who are unable to accommodate their husbands because of his size. Now imagine a 13 year old whose body is not fully formed being forcefully penetrated by an erect adult male. If you took a few physics class in high school you will understand that the child has a very high chance of being physically damaged for life. Soft bones will develop abnormally and the cervix will be shifted, vaginal tears could lead to scar tissue and a heightened chance of infection. Even problems with painful urination and incontinence for life. If she gets pregnant later in life, the weight pushing down on her could cause pain through the pregnancy and a vaginal delivery not possible, and that is if she can even conceive and carry a child to term. These are the things pedophiles cause in a child’s life. They create lifelong physical, mental, spiritual and emotional trauma in their victims. No pedophile should go unpunished, and they should feel great physical pain similar to what they gave.
DeleteI can only imagine the number of people your brother has raped, in time past. If he can do this to his close family, imagine the terror he will be to non family members.
ReplyDeleteIf you tell your family members first, especially your mum, they will want to deal with it hush hush.
If you really want him to pay for his sins, report straight to the bodies in charge of dealing with sex offenders before letting your family members know what's going on.
These kind of people disgust me to no end.
I hope his wife packs her load, the kids and run far away from him, he deserves to be in isolation.
Report to police and get the idiot arrested
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad and your brother is a monster!
ReplyDeleteHope you’re able to hold him accountable by reporting him to the family members and POLICE! I know they will come at you to drop the matter and settle it at home but please don’t do that .
For the sake of other girls your brother intends to defile /rape!
I’m so sad by this , the poor child . 😢
Paedophilia is a crime, he should be reported to the police and jailed...What am I even saying. Nigeria is a big joke, I doubt anything will be done to him, infact some will say the child seduced him..always hiding under the cloak of religion...Damn! what a society!
ReplyDeleteI don't think poster will take all these advice of reporting to the police or calling family members to disgrace him, because this is Nigeria that we always like to cover nonsense.
ReplyDeleteIf na my husband I go use stick almost beat am to death then I'll divorce him.
ReplyDeleteThis guy needs to pay for his evil deeds.... But i doubt if his immediate and extended family would want to involve the police.
ReplyDeleteI really feel for the poor girl😥
You need to report your brother to the police ASAP, he belongs in jail! I pity the little girl...she will be traumatized for the rest of her life.
ReplyDeleteIf only one has superpowers.
ReplyDeleteHe should be reported to the police
ReplyDeleteSuch an evil man , may nemesis catch up with him soon.
ReplyDeleteYour brother is so evil. I hate pedophiles who keep traumatizing children..I don't know how to tell you to handle this situation
ReplyDeleteReally awful story. Saddest thing is the people saying it’s a family matter. The disgusting things black people will cover up in the name of “not bringing shame upon the family” will never cease to amaze me. The moment I do my investigations and find out that the story is true, I will start singing like a canary and I won’t care who is shamed or not. Any of my brothers who try such a thing (God forbid) will be lounging in jail in the blink of an eye. Nastiness. Imagine if it happened to your daughter, would you say it’s a family matter and not report to the police? You’ll probably scream to high heaven. Poster, your brother is a rabid dog - Lord knows how many victims have suffered at his evil hands. Sometimes, the only way to deal with a rabid dog is to put it down. Imagine beating up a child for resisting his sexual assault. Report him to the police asap. He needs to be taken off the streets. Let him go and cavort with his fellow criminals in jail. Whatever sexual demon is disturbing him, I’m sure they will exorcise it for him in jail. Maybe he’ll then learn a thing or two about unwelcome sexual advances.
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