Hmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.
IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED COLLEAGUE
Please I need serious advice and not curses like you BVs always do when it boils down to married people issue....
I work in a place where I am well paid, we all are well paid and all hold unto our Jobs jealously....
I have fallen in love with my Colleague who has been encouraging me to love him, it has not gotten to the sleeping stage yet but it will soon..He has promised me heaven on earth and i was overjoyed until i found out that has a family avroad where he relocated from....
I found out my own way and he does not know that i know.... The thing is that i dont mind and just want to carry on with the pretence until i get pregnant....I just need a child and dont want marriage at all with anyone...I am almost 50years and he somewhat younger but does not know.....
Doh (thank you), Stella.
ReplyDeleteMadam please go ahead with your plans . Age is not on your side.
DeleteStella pls dont tell her getting pregnant at her age wont be essy só she and others wont go having intimacy thinking they cant fall pregnant, people have babies well into their 50s as long as they are still menstrating , it isnt só common because before that age loads of peoole already finished with having kids. I know many people who had kids or their last babies in their 40s.
DeleteLife is already complicated!
DeleteTo me I feel as we do not know where life is headed, I think whatever makes u happy should be your top priority but remember whatever consequences to ur actions please try to take responsibility for it!
Person no de shit for where e de chop. Never mix business and pleasure in your bid to fulfill a valid desire.
ReplyDeleteBV Sylvia
Go for it, poster. You can take care of the child right, if push comes to shove. You have nothing to loose.
ReplyDeleteThank God the world is a very small place. What you give out has a way of coming back to u. We are all gradually going bck to animal kingdom. Once u see a love interest, regardless of their status u jst snatch them. Since we are all rdy for this, it means even u n i are at risk, cos our husbands or potential husbands all work wt women, women like this lady up there, hope later we won’t cry blood if we find out that our men have impregnated work colleagues.
DeleteAnon 15:47, finally one person with common sense. A married man oh. So what happens to the wife's emotions. Mehn this is so sad.
DeleteLol. As men, we are amused when women complain about us on social media. At the end, we know that reality is a different ball game.
DeleteWomen will gladly and actively pursue their best friend's man, just because they can. Women will willingly knack a man who she knows is married .
Since I got married, I know how many ladies I would have had extra marital affairs with, without lying about my marital status.
At the end, there is no code for most women. They say one thing today and do completely anothers thing the next day. Even if it hurts their fellow woman
Why did you wait till 50 to become desperate?
ReplyDeleteIf you haven't gotten preggs all this time, why you think you will now? Sometimes not getting pregnant all these years except you have been on contraceptives. I have a friend who has never gotten pregnant before her whole life, as a single lady she knows something is not right. But she said when she meets the right one, she will try IVF
DeleteOr her husband or her sister's hu6
DeleteUntil the table turns,madam if you are still fertile,please get pregnant and take care of yourself and baby,you can even inform him since he thinks he is playing smart.
ReplyDeleteHope it's not your best friend's husband she is about to have a baby for. After the baby you will want marriage because then you will remember you must walk down the aisle before you die, because your type will want to achieve everything in life even if it means destroying others.
DeleteAnd if the name of this married man is DEMOLA...just know that he is cursed...
ReplyDeleteO chim
DeleteBest of luck and it's consequences ,that is the world today
ReplyDeletePoster have baby of your own since you can comfortably take care of yourself and the baby. Do it through him any one else.
ReplyDeleteDid you read the chronicle before you made your comment???
ReplyDeleteWomen are the problem.
ReplyDeleteAlways the problem and very short sighted and selfish when it involves their feeling they don't mind.here is a typical example.
Osinor you don't want to get married.your bad attitude and behaviour made no single suitor to come after you now you want to spoil another's woman home.
Let's assume the guy is a liar, where is your own good conscience as a lady.truthfully ladies don't like being told the truth.i pity men honestly that takes this generation of women serious.sorry to say.Nothing worth it.nothing at all.
When she born finish she go come dey find husband like mad. Most of the single women I know always wish to get married and they are ready to snatch other people's husband.
DeleteAnd you're stil poor, miserable and a non entity. Kpele.
DeleteShe asked for advice.
Not your thoughts on your mother sisters and yourself.
16:59
DeleteAre you the Poster?
If you are not, we expect to see your thumbs up for the husband and men the day a wife would send a chronicle on her husband being involved with a woman such as this poster?
Please do not lack verve on that day. It is likely to be before the next market day.
I am a male by the way.
Abeg, use him as a sperm donor. If you desire to have kids, the time starts now.
ReplyDeleteYou too? Smh. Crazy what this world has turn to. Someone's husband oh.
DeleteDAMN 😩
If it happens that 10 women later use your husband as donor make you no cry.
DeleteSo the male folk has no right to know he's been used as sperms donor ? You lots are wicked.
DeleteImagine the abuse on men.
So following the word of God is selective to you people. It is only on spontaneous post that you guys spread the word of God. So most of you just say the word but deep down it doesn’t mean anything. May God help the people of this generation because most of u are perverted transgressors. See the way you are openly encouraging adultery.
DeleteThe wickedness in the country should tell you they only do lip service in religion.
DeleteLOL @18:04
DeleteThe same you will come bashing Judy tomorrow.
DeletePoster if in desperate need for a child, then go to a clinic where you can be artificially inseminated or with a single person. Do not complicate your life. If you fall pregnant won't you still remain in the office? And what's the guarantee that he won't want to be a part of the child 's life. Leave that man, if he wants to destroy his home, then let it not be with you. Sometimes we humans plan and plan but when the consequences of our actions start playing out, we forget that it all began with just a simple yes or no.
ReplyDeleteLeave am, make she go watch crime station on relationships and she will know some men are ready to go any limits to protect their name and marriage if you want to expose their hidden sins by going as far as having a kid.
DeleteThank u o jare.if ur azs rich as u say.going for a donor in a clinic is ur sure bet.y do u want to cause anoda woman heart ache?alll of u women encouraging her nawa oh!!! Biko borrow her ur husband's or boyfriends.and stop supporting rubbish
DeleteChaii. This world don craze finish. See the advice given by women oh. Imagine it's your husband they want to use as sperm donor.
ReplyDeleteJust picture him thrusting into another woman so many times in different positions 😉.
Just imagine the sweet words they'll be saying to each other during sex.
Yet you (WOMEN) cry blood when you discover your man cheating.
Someone remind me again what is ADULTERY?
On a lighter note, what is CHEATING?
This world is truly coming to an end. What happened to the single guys? What happened to getting sperm donors at an hospital? Or is it because this is not expensive?
What a pity.
Why can't you go for a single guy, whether divorcee or a widower, even a single dad, do you think it will end well? Don't create enemies for your unborn kid because they will always see you as intruder whether you marry the father or not since the man is still married.
ReplyDeletePoster, pls go ahead.
ReplyDeleteMarriage these days is a scam. Just have your baby. I am almost in your shoes, 52 later this year, menopausal and lonely. If I knew I will reach this age without husband or child I would have gotten pregnant via any one to have a child. Now, I am brooding with regrets despite my affluence. Yes, some may ask why we waited this long, but what if you were not that lucky with the men? Many are just after what they can get from you and you kept trusting God till late age.
You have the means , please go ahead and see him as a donor. Maybe much later if need be you can reveal but not necessary if you don't want to. Depends on how your relationship with him goes later on
I wish I can turn the hands of the clock. Once again please ,and please go ahead if pregnancy comes though it may be difficult.
I wish you well in this journey and desire.
It's well,🌹
DeleteGo get a surrogate and get your baby or adopt a kid but have it in mind it may not still solve your craving. A 54 year old woman I know is getting married soon, ist marriage so dont be bitter. I used to know a woman growing up that lost 2 husbands before she turned 28 and she went into her sixties without marriage so please take life easy abeg. You can still marry and can still get your kids, if you adopt a 5 year old by the time you are 65 the child will be grown enough so learn to make yourself happy but not at the expense of someone else or trying to use one problem to solve another problem. God Bless you. I wish I could get your contact, I will get you a husband before next year, I have helped some people and I dont need any money or thanks.
DeleteNaomi Campbell just got two kids in her 50s, nobody knows how she got the kids but she is a mother to those babies. There are so many options to becoming a parent if it is really what you want.
DeleteSince you are an affluent person, there is also the option to adopt an orphanage and care for the children financially and otherwise. If your lifestyle is too demanding then being a full-time mother may not be the best option, so you can adopt the orphanage like Oprah did and eventually built a school if that inspires you. There are many ways to mother children without having one living in your home.
Get a surrogate since you can afford it, stop brooding.
DeleteThose advising her to go ahead,I hope you will keep up the same energy if the cheating husband is your spouse?Age or not, adultery should not be encouraged by people of good conscience.Technology and science have provided mankind with alternative methods of procreating, particularly where there is the financial means.Advise her to do right without hurting another woman which is what she is about to do.
ReplyDelete@17:15
Delete"Those advising her to go ahead,I hope you will keep up the same energy if the cheating husband is your spouse?"
Are you not extending it too near?
First ask them what they will say on a chronicle on a cheating boyfriend,
Second, ask them what they will say on a chronicle about an adulterous husband.
Note that most comments are made as Annon.
Today's comments on this post finally shows why the comments of one of the male Bvs cuts most so much.
All the prim na grime. All na wash??
No be only science provide the alternative, alternative of adopting kids or getting a single man to get her pregnant have always been there.
DeleteA man who wants to cheat also knows that a child could be a product of that cheating, unless he has had a vasectomy. Men know how pregnancy happens.
DeleteNobody wants a cheating husband but they are a dime a dozen. Why can’t married men just leave single women alone.
So men are not worthy of rights abi?
ReplyDeleteYou cam just use a man as a sperms donor without him giving his consent for a kid abi.
Better let him know you need a kid oh.because if you think you are smart and go ahead to get pregnant you on your own because you lady will come.back to blackmail him to take responbility.
All this talk of I can take care of the baby are aloes.you will definitely stary blackmailing the man and when he doesn't give in you tag him deadbeat dad meanwhile you didn't inform him of your devishly plan while boasting you habe the means to take care of the child yourself.
Wicked peoppe everywhere.
Wayward women lack conscience.
DeleteCome let me get you pregnant. I am single with no drama..
ReplyDeleteThe guy already knows you may not be able to get pregnant
As long as she is menstruating she go get belle wella because she will even go extra mile of taking fertility drugs to boost her chances.
DeleteStella never say never,she may take in more quickly than a woman in her twenties
ReplyDeletePoster if I'm in your shoes I may do worst so follow your heart and pray for God's guidance,all the best
Please pretend you don't know he lied to you, get pregnant with him and resign without him finding out you are pregnant and stop all communication with him. If you are sure you don't want marriage but if you want marriage please go look for another single guy even if he is younger than you.
ReplyDeleteResign?
DeleteHow many jobs pay as she describe enough for her to want to have a child from day one without any support from the father.
Stop communication?
So when the child ask for his/her father, who would she take the child to. We think children do not ask about their fathers once they have mothers by them?
No wonder Dante dey press una neck well well. I am disgusted at the advice being given by women here. How can you ask her to continue and get pregnant,what if it's your husband father,brother or son? So a man doesn't have a right to knowing he has a child? What happened to avoiding possible incest in the future. Poster you are desperate,abeg carry your desperation go Orphanage or look for a Single guy that is ready to be a sperm donor. Stop lieing to your self that you don't need him to be in the child's life. ,you don see place to petch as unofficial second wife, as per wife dey abroad next thing na to find how to off the wife and her kids. Yeye amotekun Judy apprentice like you. Shior.
DeleteIt’s easier said than done when reality sets in. What woman won’t want a father for her child especially when she sees other kids with their dads. This is a very selfish move and she doesn’t care about this so called child’s upbringing and future. No be only to have a child!!! Taking care of the child, and bringing her in an emotionally stable home matters a lot! This child will have feelings and emotions for Gods sake. Ahh some of you women shouldn’t be women at alll. No empathy at all.
DeletePoster, pls take it to God in prayers,you will find a single guy who will not only have kids with you but make you the queen of his heart.
ReplyDeleteI like your faith.Even@ 50, you can still conceive as long as you believe.Children comes from God not from man and he will perfect all that concerns you.
The bible says,if you have faith as little as a mustard seed, you can move mountains.
She’s not even 50 yet and I bet you, she looks younger than her age. Setting herself up for failure…so sad.
DeleteImagine all of u hiding ur ids to give this perverted advice. If you are proud of urselves, use ur Id, and pls miss me wt the not all of us have Id bullshit. We have never had this much influx of anonymous comments on one post, without all the known ids. It only points out to one thing, all the known bvs went anonymous to tell the op to go commit adultery.
ReplyDeleteThey are wayward women and they are usually heartless, dont you see them in hotels ready to stab anyone who crosses their part. Fear any woman that opens her legs to men who end up not marrying her, she will be close to a demon or demon himself.
Delete18:07 & 19:34
DeleteThe IDs are busy or engaged -
They are attending house fellowship service.
They do not read the blog everyday.
They are attending to their children.
They are attending to their husbands.
The are on outing with families and or friends.
They are out of internet access range.
Lol
Theres nothing wrong in her getting pregnant for the man. The man is african and nigerian, polygamy is not a crime here. All these selfish married women, cant u understand her predicament?
DeleteI am sorry for the predicament you have found yourself in. There is something about your story that I feel you are not stating. If you were as desperate for a child as you claimed, then why didn’t you sleep with him already. You searching out his history seems like you were also hoping on the possibility of a relationship coming out of the situation and a nuclear family will then have formed up out of the rocky start. We are all humans here and there is no shame in hoping and dreaming, so I don’t judge you if you had hoped that.
ReplyDeleteI always prefer a honest approach in life, because everyone knows their position and purpose without any blurred lines. If he is the only working penis that you can find then have the deep and uncomfortable conversation with him around your dreams for motherhood. Men are happily sharing their dycks and sperm with strangers everyday, why not just address the issue as an adult and lay your cards on the table. Maybe he and his wife are fine with polygamy and you could be the Naija wife, still getting the family situation you were hoping for🤷🏽♀️
If it seems like wahala will be with your colleague then for heaven’s sakes ask one of your male friends for a sperm deposit or go to a sperm bank. If all you truly care about is motherhood there are other options available to you. There are billions of penises and working testicles in the world.
Gbam. I hope she listens to your advise.
Deleteyou must be funny....so you think it is every woman that jumps to sleep with a man? moreso they are colleagues and she thought he was single....at that age you just dont jump into sex with everyone because she wants a kid..
DeleteGo ahead. How many people are without drama? You have my support. I know you must have given this a hard thought. Most important here is your ability to take care of the child.
ReplyDeleteGood luck.
Just know that you will be judged on the last day for leading a woman to hell.I hope she won’t say yes to this comment! Did you ask her why she waited this long? She must have met soooo many men including single men. But at the end, she wants to settle for someone else’s man. Ridiculous comment. Poster sha remember everything ends on this earth. Remember that.
DeleteHello Ma'am
ReplyDeleteWhy not look for a single man, never married, divorced or widower to do this with?
This is not right. This man belongs to another woman and married.
I pray the Lord blesses you with your own man and kids.
Which one is the man belong to another woman? Did they tie them together from heaven. The earlier we women accept polygamy, the better for us. You all should wake up from ur fantasy of one man, one wife and smell the coffee. The countless number of women outside, who will marry them? Yen yen yen yen.
DeleteSis stay away from married men. Don't invite curses into your life. Since you are well paid and don't necessarily need a father fir the child why don't you use a sperm bank . Go abroad and get oyinbo sperm and get a mixed race child.
ReplyDeleteWhy mixed race? Slave mentality
DeleteWhatttt what an inferiority complex comment. What’s wrong with dark Or having a black child?? Do you know the complex or identity issue mixed kids go through?? I live here in America and it’s not easy blending into both worlds. The black community won’t fully accept them growing up and white will tell them they’re technically black. But you don’t know this because you live in your own little bubble. To now add kid growing up without knowing his or her father. What a selfish sick lots like you!!
DeleteSis stay away from married men. Don't invite curses into your life. Since you are well paid and don't necessarily need a father fir the child why don't you use a sperm bank . Go abroad and get oyinbo sperm and get a mixed race child.
ReplyDeletePoster,na your type dey busy on Facebook deceiving young girls not to take shit from any man.
ReplyDeleteNow age is no longer on your side,you suddenly remembered you want to get pregnant ' yen ' yen ' yen
You even saw he is married man but you want to find a way to get pregnant for him.
Desperado,pls go and look for your towel where you bath and left it,don't destroy another woman happy home
Plenty of evil women here, see advice. Poster do what is right and not what you love
ReplyDeleteAll these comment shows who most of us, truly are. The clout sympathy my gender seek online is most times baffling, when the truth is finally told.
ReplyDeleteAs for the chronicle itself, I respect the sincerity of the writer, in admitting to the urge and urgency of deception. As sad as your situation is, it appears like you're facing a complex and emotionally challenging situation. While it's understandable that you have feelings for your colleague, which is normal. It's essential to consider the potential consequences of your actions.
Firstly, it's important to think about the impact this could have on everyone involved, including his family abroad. Infidelity can cause significant emotional pain and turmoil, not just for the individuals directly involved but also for their families subsequently.
Secondly, bringing a child into this situation without the father's knowledge or consent could have long-lasting consequences for both you and the child. Children deserve to know and have relationships with both of their parents, and intentionally concealing the truth from the father could lead to resentment and confusion later on.
Rather than proceeding with a plan based on secrecy and deception, consider having an open and honest conversation with your colleague about your feelings and concerns. It may be a difficult conversation to have, but honesty and transparency are essential for resolving conflicts and making informed decisions.
Ultimately, only you can decide what course of action is best for you, but it's crucial to consider the potential consequences of your choices for everyone involved. Reading through this comment section, and filter for the good advice, could also provide valuable perspective and support as you navigate this situation.
Above all ask your conscience if this is right or the best choice or decision to take.
She knows it’s wrong; reason why she brought it here.
DeleteSee them advising her to sleep with a married man. Very emotionless and wicked gender. This is one of the reasons I keep telling myself I want nothing to do with an "apanimayoda" gender
ReplyDeleteWhy can’t married men just leave single women alone and face their wives. Shyt, they can even go look for other married men to harass for sex, I am sure there are many who would be interested.
DeleteNo be lie, very wicked gender. If it was a married woman that is seeking for advise to get pregnant for another man you will see men in their thousands discourage the move.
DeleteI will join prayers with the wife, even if I don't know her... your plan will never see the light of day through this unfaithful colleague. May God have mercy on his wife and protect her marriage from this your perimenopause induced decisions. That belly no go enter through that married man, in Jesus name. You go knack tire.. nothing for you... save this post.
ReplyDeleteAmen and amen.
DeleteIt's a very dicey situation, but let me tell you that, for now you would feel like you don't need him in the child's life, but you will at some point in the future. And this would further complicate things. Look for a drama-free guy..I'm sure you would find one. All the best
ReplyDeleteIt's a very dicey situation, but let me tell you that, for now you would feel like you don't need him in the child's life, but you will at some point in the future. And this would further complicate things. Look for a drama-free guy..I'm sure you would find one. All the best
ReplyDeleteI won’t lie I’d be really tempted to do it
ReplyDeletePoster pls it's better you adopt or look for a single guy , so if it's my husband tomorrow now he will tell me eeh I got a woman pregnant because I want to help her life , it's somehow o everybody advicing get pregnant without his knowledge, is this not sperm theft abeg no correct this my new English .
ReplyDeleteThank God your morality compass is still intact, do what's right in the eyes of God its well with you
Oleeee, thief! Leave pesin husband alone!! I bet you, you’re one of BV that abuse Judy and Yul. What’s the difference between you and Judy now ehn??? Tell me. Selfish mean woman. You side chicks now have audacity and boldness nowadays. Na wa ooo. This is scary honestly.
ReplyDeleteMost women are really dangerous... No wonder we hate Dante so much...that guy should be given a PhD.
ReplyDeleteWhat a gender.
I guess we all see the world differently. I have come to realize that when someone is married, my thoughts are that this person is unavailable, stay away. Tons of single men in the ocean, find another. Friend was falling in love with a married health practitioner she was seeing for health reasons frequently. I didn’t encourage her. No matter how much she tried to get me see how the love was saving her, they were meant for each other etc. No. To me, this man goes home to someone, he tells her he loves her, he is out of bounds to others.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, your colleague is out of bounds. Look for love and a baby elsewhere. This one is not yours.
Poster why not do it with a single man? You might want more if you get involved with him
ReplyDeleteGosh!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of Evil Ideas and nah ANONYMOUS plenty pass.
I pray that all you Evil peeps telling her to go ahead with someone’s Hubby, that someone’s Hubby go be your Hubby.
How would you feel if you learn your Hubby is having an Affair with another woman and she’s pregnant.
You all disgust me.
I pray that she gets Pregnant for the Supporters club Hubby.
The Supporters club will send in her own Chronicles and the cycle reverberates.
Poster, you have so many Options.
Go to a Fertility Center and discuss your Options with the Medical doctors.
You can use a Surrogate after taking Supplements that can boost your Eggs, that’s if you are not already in your Menopause.
You can Adopt