I have a distance cousin married to an irresponsible man. She caters for their three kids alone, pays house rent and other bills. The only thing her hubby is good at is getting drunk and womanizing.
I called her in the first week of January to wish her a happy new year. She told me that she is tired of everything. At 44yrs, she looks ten years older. She said someone wants to help her travel out of Nigeria to go make her life better and that she will abandon her kids in Ogun state and go, if she dies there, so be it.
I now asked her "which country do they want to help you to?" She said she doesn't know yet but they said it would be a country that is better than Nigeria.
I shook my head in pity. I now took my time to educate her on the dangers of being trafficked to one of these evil countries like Libya and co. I told her to remain in Ogun state with her kids and keep doing her menial jobs.
She told me she doesn't care, some people are making it there, she will go when the arrangement is set.
Seeing that he mind is made up, I wished her luck and collected her account details and sent her a token.
My people, I pray she changes her mind. The stories I hear these days from those who passed through that route that she intends passing are horror stories. A co-worker's sister was deported from Saudi Arabia recently.
The stories I heard made me wonder how she survived. She was sponsored by one of these illegal agencies to go work as a maid. She said she washed and scrubbed five toilets every morning, scrubbed the floors in the whole house too, cooks, etc and sleep for less than four hours everyday for months.
Her Madam's husband too was raping her every other night, she did your abortions for him and kept working while in pains and bleeding. Al the months she was there, she never stepped foot outside the house, she only saw outside through the window.
The inhuman punishment they give to her for little mistakes is unimaginable. Imagine asking a human being like you to lick po#p as a punishment. She later got the chance to run out of the house and got "rescued" by a fellow Nigerian guy who camped her in his house and used her as a $#x slave before she was able to reach out to the Nigerian agency that deported them home.
Her story is a very long one my people, I had to leave out some gory details.
As for me, I prefer to to remain here and suffer normal suffering than to japa through the wrong route and suffer a hellish kind of suffering.
Her Madam's husband too was raping her every other night, she did your abortions for him and kept working while in pains and bleeding. Al the months she was there, she never stepped foot outside the house, she only saw outside through the window.
The inhuman punishment they give to her for little mistakes is unimaginable. Imagine asking a human being like you to lick po#p as a punishment. She later got the chance to run out of the house and got "rescued" by a fellow Nigerian guy who camped her in his house and used her as a $#x slave before she was able to reach out to the Nigerian agency that deported them home.
Her story is a very long one my people, I had to leave out some gory details.
As for me, I prefer to to remain here and suffer normal suffering than to japa through the wrong route and suffer a hellish kind of suffering.
Suffering now have normal ad abnormal one..Eh God abeg o! I pray she will change her mind and endure the "normal" suffering in till God smile on her and her children. I pray people currently in such bondage will gain their freedom soon.
ReplyDeleteAmen. Just advising a woman with 3kids that want to go same route. I told her Naija better ooo but she no wan hear word. If you know what some people outside the country are going through hehehe, I prefer to dey my dey here o. A senior friend that was a senior officer in his place of work with at least 2m take home monthly in Naija here just called last week that it's not easy for Canada o. He Neva get job, naa toilet he dey wash to sustain himself and he no wan come back cos of shame
DeleteMama, I bet if anyone had told him not to go he would have labelled them negatively. Some ppl you can’t tell anything to, they have to just experience life for themselves. He better pack up and go back. He can tough it out enough to get his permanent residency if he wants to. That’s why I always preach have something back home to return to. Two refugees have died on the street in Toronto in the dead of winter, they were Africans. A Nigerian student was killed by the police in Manitoba. Abroad is not perfect, and just because person A found success doesn’t mean that person B will too. Imagine a man at such a level gave it all up for what? Unless he needed to be humbled cause his village ppl don reach.
DeleteU see dis topic? U go talk taya,u go advice taya,Dem no go hear u. Those ova dia hu went Tru dubious channels, don't always come out to tell d truth.my own is how can u be going to Saudi, Egypt,Libya for greener pastures and u no go even follow straight road sef.hmmmmm may God help ur relative change her mind .
ReplyDeleteAm not one that like to jakpa , unless it's necessary, my mum just returned from a six (6) month trip to Canada after my late father burial, my mom said it is not always Greener in the other side, she said many not all that traveled out are suffering and regretting .
ReplyDeleteIf japa is not original just let me be
ReplyDeleteThe grass is greener where you water it. Whatever dey for sokoto dey inside your shokoto. If you think say Portugal or Saudi better pass Nigeria, oya go and slave, do maid and wash oyinbo people poop for there
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Mtcheewww
DeleteOponu
DeleteWhere this one craw out from..
DeleteLeave her, experience is the best teacher. I even wonder the kind of woman she is that would leave three children. Na wa ooo
ReplyDeleteSelfish, Self entitled, Heartless woman.
DeleteNot everyone is fit to be called a mother.
Hmmm true @Mr married man. There is normal suffering and hellish kind of suffering. One person too has suggested this sponsored travelling to me before. She said I will be working as a maid. I rejected the offer
ReplyDeleteGod saved you Mercy
DeleteIf it's not straight forward kind of travelling, don't go oo
Na wa, person go just open eye enter hell firer on earth
ReplyDeleteAm telling you ooo
DeleteAbeg ooo talk to her to still Endure ooo
If Japa is not Original make she just stay Niger
The suffering over there no go smile at her st all ooo
Let her manage ,she can as well reduce her spending o
See me now I drank Garri yesterday morning
And today morning
I make sure my kids eat two or three times daily
But me twince or once
Is not easy any where oo
That money she's using to wanna Japa to a country she does not know
Why not use the money to start up a small business
And Add to the work
It is well🙏🙏
Chika, go back and read, they want to sponsor her, she is not using her money
DeleteOhhh I see
DeleteThank you🙏🙏🙏
I wouldn’t sent my dog to go do anything in some of these so-called better countries. That raping business is no lie and in some of those homes even the sons and father are molesting the maid together, seven days a week. Folks think these domestic workers are making up those stories, but it is gospel truth. Going to some countries is right up there with signing your death certificate. And that is the torture those women have to put up with those beasts of men. Let the domestic be an attractive woman, she will see shege banza from the wife, as though having beauty is something a person is responsible for. Those wives in many cases are no different from the men. They have NO humanity in those lands, just money without souls. Decide if you want to deal with Satan daily for access to his pittance cause the pay will not transform your life. How many go and see life transformation doing domestic work. The things women go through in the quest to help their families😢
ReplyDeleteYou will talk till you blue, some of these japa fever ppl figure any place is better, they see skyscrapers and big roads and think they have entered prosperity not knowing they are fully in hell. I saw few in here on the blog, not even using their cellphone for anything useful like a basic Google search. Last week one wanted to go to Poland, bout agent told them they would get them a job driving a taxi in Poland. Now, even if you are not a graduate, wouldn’t common sense tell you that as a person who does not speak the language, know nothing about the culture, driving a taxi is a stretch. Poland that so many polish ppl are running from to go pick fruits in other parts of Europe. Another one was asking about Kazakhstan. If you have japa fever at least do some basic research and go somewhere that makes sense. Mtsscchhwww
My former bas***d Lebanese boss would do all those things started in your first paragraph if you left a maid with him.
DeleteThis guy was using his house help in that very Nigeria like the lowest of the low slave.
The girl will clean his house 24/7, wash duvet like every 2-3 days with hands, he was that finnicky, even to socks and pants, they must be ironed after each wash.
The worst part was this girl was bathing this stupid 40 something year old lanky man!! As in an adult while stand in the shower and tell his house help to bath him, dress him up, wear him slippers like a tata. Always oggling girls who came to the pharmacy like a sex starved fool, I couldn't wait to stop working in the same space with him, I despised his guys. A lot of those middle Eastern men are not it att all, they see women as their tools to use as they please.
Samir wherever you are in this world, e no go ever better for you!!
Dainty, thank you for sharing. They take that dirty spirit anywhere they go. It’s a pity they never reach me cause he would have itched with no relief and have diarrhea with no relief when I was finished bathing and feeding him. Preying and exploiting the young and poor.
DeleteSamir, you will meet your match one day and then you will learn why a snake has to lay eggs. Mofo your time is coming🖕
Why did the girl not run away? Did he tie her to the house? This is Nigeria, not their country where she won't have anywhere to run to.
DeleteAnon the girls all left oh, myself and the other babble in the pharmacy used to talk them into leaving his dirty ass, a lot of them really need the money to survive so they wanted to just keep managing with him till they found something else.
DeleteHmmmmm....l pray she change her mind. I read lots of experiences on Oyiza's page yesterday and had nightmares. These Arabs and some of our people are h*artless
ReplyDeleteEach time I remember this " Japa" stuff, I look at the ones around here that have in my to relocate but always sit down with their entilement mentality and be looking for a woman to take care of them. A woman that is neither a friend nor wife, Imagine such mentality.
ReplyDeleteAs in , when you now travel to wherever, " you wake up and tell your oyibo neigbour that he is to be held responsible for your problem"
One of them was telling me that he is the price, I was just looking at him muted.
ReplyDeleteWanted a serious relationship after one drink up.
Next thing I want to come to your house, just to hold you and sleep.
Most of them are not mentally okay.
They think by just been a man - any woman will accept them like over there in Nigeria.
Instead of them to look for other japas to date, they are looking for big girls - ready made.
Is it every post that should be genderised?
DeleteHow made is the girl.
DeleteA made girl who drink up on the floor will stand up with fleas on her skirt.
Why is the girl not drinking with a big boy - ready made or even a boy bigger than she?
Any man a woman drink up with is her mate. Any word she hears from him, she deserves to hear.
Men do not see any big deal about these matters because they know that any woman they move with is their mate. Learn that and have peace by making better choices of men.
Mr. Mann
I don't like to japa since when I've known right from left, I like it here, but if God really bless me, I'll love to be going on vacations in different countries.
ReplyDeleteThe only thing that can make me to japa is marriage.
This japa thing, may it not put us in trouble. Me sef, I'm looking for where to japa to. I pray God leads me in the right direction
ReplyDeleteDon’t waste your time advising her. Nigerians like to run into a burning building and then start crying for help. Wish her luck and RIP in advance. If she makes it good. If she doesn’t, good. People in Nigeria especially women have no idea what awaits them outside the shores even as close as Benin Republic or Ghana. They will be bought and sold like goats unknowingly but then it is too late. The journey will start with a kind and loving sponsor who will change 100% into a devil immediately she reaches her destination and becomes vulnerable and helpless
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