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In 2019, shortly after our initial meeting, my prospective in-laws reneged on their willingness to marry off their daughter due to ethnic tensions. Despite attempts at reconciliation, they remained steadfast, and we ultimately parted ways. 

Similarly, in 2022, my plans for an introduction with the family of another woman were thwarted by her persistently unpleasant behaviour, which did not sit well with me and my family.

My parents cautioned me against introducing a partner to my home until we were certain that our relationship had progressed beyond the dating stage, and both parties were committed to moving forward as a couple. As the second youngest sibling and a self-sufficient individual with my parents and a few cousins residing with me, I understood and respected their stance. It's only reasonable that responsible parents would prefer not to have their child randomly bring numerous potential partners home before settling into a committed relationship with marriage decision.
This principle influenced my decision to end my relationship with my newest girlfriend shortly after Valentine's Day this year. Despite embarking on a long-distance relationship in February 2023 devoid of s#xual intimacy, she resorted to emotional manipulation and blackmail. She insisted on visiting me for a week, expecting me to cover her travel expenses, but I stood firm in suggesting that she arrange her own accommodation while I covered other expenses during her stay in Lagos. I stressed the importance of slowing down our relationship's pace to foster a deeper connection and ensure we were both making rational decisions.

Despite my girlfriend's persistence, I reluctantly agreed to her visit, with the caveat that my family's opinion would ultimately have a strong influence on our future. As I cannot make such decisioj without family parental approval.

 Unfortunately, her week-long stay proved to be tumultuous, and my parents and a few friends who came around perceived her as insincere, domineering, and manipulative - traits that had already raised concerns for me. While acknowledging that no relationship is perfect, it's imperative to address and work through any areas of concern before committing to marriage.

During my prior four visits to her base in Abuja, she insisted that I should have a reason other than coming to see her for visiting, as she couldn't accommodate me due to her family's presence living with her. I complied with her wishes, arranging my own accommodation and adhering to our boundaries and our mutual decision to abstain from s#x until our relationship's trajectory became clearer and well pronounced.

Now, she contacts me sporadically to hurl insults and slander, tarnishing my reputation among her friends, family - people whom I've never met. Many of the protective measures we agreed upon were initiated by her, aligning with my desire for a relationship built on mutual respect and commitment. Despite my brother's suggestion to pursue legal action against her for threats and blackmail, I believe it's unnecessary, as I never made any promises to her or took advantage of her in any way.
Adults should understand that relationships don't always culminate in marriage unless both parties are intentional, invested, and actively participate in its progression. A stagnant, passive approach is unlikely to yield positive results.

Stella, I implore you to be generous with the scrutiny of your blue pen, in case I have inadvertently offended this woman. I've inquired about my transgression, yet she has failed to specify any wrongdoing on my part. I've even proposed compensating her if she feels wronged and entitled, although I neither acquired nor appropriated anything from her. It's worth noting that we're both single parents.

I will comment whichever day this is published, thank you.

Hmmmmm, your story is too perfect..... You did nothing at all and she is reacting like this?You did not state her age, it would have helped to know some things....

If this story is exactly as you have narrated then something is wrong....cant you block her number and her social media handles?.....cut off anyone and everyone that knows her?Take a walk from her life and take a good look in ward and work on yourself...I do not believe that you are without flaw and I believe you may have contributed to her reacting this way.

You also need to stop letting your familydo what they did with this lady or you will never marry......They had no right to put her on the hot seat and you had every right to protect her but you did not......who will not make mistake under the scrutiny of prospective in laws?

Try to make peace with her and not talk about compensating her if she feels wronged and entitled.

And why is a grown axx man livinig with his parents?.....get somewhere else to stay if you did not build that house....Abi where will you live with your wife? And how will your girlfriend visit you to see if you have red flags or not?