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My people, I have this issue which has been on my mind but I actually have not been able to come up with an idea on how to go about it.
I am going to withhold some details because some people might decode the characters involved ...

I dated this girl in 2013 ( she is 4yrs older than me), more experienced than I was then. So, eventually she became pregnant for me and then her parents got to know about it. My plan was to go settle it with her parents and then marry her.
I was and still doing very well financially, I own houses and different properties around in one of the biggest cities in Nigeria. Her family attends one of the old " churches(not catholic)" while mine attends RCCG.

While she was still pregnant we started having issues regarding church matter. They were calling my denomination " my religion" because to them I was/is not a Christian.
They were saying I would have to travel to meet the father in the East, go through some religious process/initiation of faith conversion for one week. The idea didn't sit well with my people( I am from the North), while still dragging the matter, she put to birth eventually through CS successfuly, but we losT the baby the following day at the hospital.

The MD of the hospital called me at night that he would want to see me in the morning because when it was confirmed that she had put to birth successfully bathed the baby, I was advised to drive back home and then comeback to see them in the hospital the following morning( my sister and her own sister were with her).

It was towards the end of late hour of the following morning my sister called my line that I should get up and start to pray because the baby was not in a good condition. Few hours later the baby died, so I was later told by the doctor. But in his office he advised me to not blame " my wife" as she was introduced.
I also didn't ask him why because truly I loved her and I didn't want to hear stories that would make me to view her differently. I cried my eyes out but later bought a place at the cemetery and the boy was buried. Since the time she told me she was pregnant till the moment she delivered, I made sure she lacked nothing. Infact my late mom clearly told me when she was still alive then that before she would open her mouth to ask for anything make sure you provide it

Throughout her pregnancy period she was going for ANC and I employed 2 nurses and a doctor to privately attend to her emergency needs if any. So, everything was good apart from the church wahala.

After the incident and she left the hospital, she returned to my flat, her sister was also given 1 bedroom flat in my house since she was working in the same city as us. 

One day I was on official assignment outside the State and I got a call that they had moved out of my house to an undisclosed location in the city. When I returned, I called her and was not mad at her. So, she apologized and said that her sisters advised her to leave me, etc. This was 2 months after the incident. But she insisted we must see and I told her I wouldn't want her to take in again.

 Guys, the moment we met we continued to have s*x every single time. However, I didn't know her father had already found a man in the same " religion" of theirs for her(not catholic pls). 

One day she called that she wanted to see me at 11pm, ah what could have happened? She said I should come over, I drove to her place, we did it again and I kept getting confused and crying to God for forgiveness every single moment. Remember church had punished me the other time for 6 months or so. I didn't know that this girl had travelled for introduction in her place and returned almost immediately before she invited me to her place that night, she brought out pictures of the introduction and wept badly that so she would never be my wife in this life. We both cried and I left.

Two months later she got married to the other guy. And six months later she called my number with a number I didn't know her with, that she had just given birth. Who is this please, I asked and before she could respond I asked again is this not XYZ? And she said yes. So, I was shocked but didn't want to ask too many questions. I congratulated her and that was all. We stopped communicating because I insisted we should as she kept calling me at night soon after her wedding that she would want me to travel to her place(close to 800kms or so) but of course I could afford flight every single day but habba nah.

So, by the time her baby turned 1yr she called that I should buy birthday clothes for the girl but that if I was not wiling, at least I should buy birthday shoes. I told my mom about this, and she asked if the baby was mine, I didn't know what to answer her. I later sent her the money sha.

 So, in 2023 I got her call that things were bad for them, she and her husband have been suffering etc. I sent her money 3x or so. This year she called me and reminded me about the birthday of the girl. I think she is 8yrs now but before she requested for the birthday clothes this year, she had asked me for Christmas clothes for the girl in 2023 but I didn't send her anything because I asked her to send me the picture of the girl, it took her weeks before she later agreed to share the most recent picture of the fine girl.

 I am also married currently with kids but I later noticed the constant communication between us both was gradually affecting my relationship. On her side, she was already unhappy but just that she said her husband loves her so much even though he has been struggling to take care of them. She is hardworking and has been supporting him( skipping many details please). 

We were supposed to see 2 months ago, according to her she wanted to see me, she was missing, when we spoke on phone the feeling was different, her hormones blabla. Hmmm, I almost booked flight to fly the following day but God helped me, I was able to deal with that feeling/lust.

My concern is, how do I ask her without causing issues if the girl is mine? We are both married with kids because aside this girl in question she has other children. Should I just face front?

Hmmmm, please let sleeping dogs lie and block all communication with her..Cut her off totallz. if the child is zours and she gave her to another man,let the guilt be on her but dont go and ask and stir the hornets nest oooooh... Please face front!