Is it right to always call your spouse's younger sibling to report your spouse?I feel it's demeaning to report one to his or her younger sibling. The person being reported will lose respect.
This my friend has been having issues with his wife. Each time there is a misunderstanding, she reports him to his younger sister who is his only sibling, they are just two and orphans..
The younger sister is very rude, she would call him and talk to him rudely, sometimes she reports to her own husband and that one too will call my friend and talk to him anyhow, what an insult!
He has warned her several times to stop reporting him to her but report to me or any of his other friends, if she must report, this wife refused. I have warned him too to stop doing the things that bring reports, he refused to stop.
Now, he is fighting with his only sister because of this. They don't talk at the moment. Wife now went to his boss to report him as sister is fighting with him.
My friend is contemplating a divorce, I told him that if he marries another wife and keeps doing what he is doing, he will still divorce that one too.
Now, what does he do that makes her report?
He watches p#rn and m#sturbates.
Where are those that said there is nothing wrong with the above habits?
Let your friend try and stop those habits first
ReplyDeleteThese habits abroad leads to divorce in many cases. He seems not to know how big of an issue it is. Tell your friend to research about porn addiction and divorce on reddit. Let him read stories.
ReplyDeleteOh I forgot, he's the one filing for divorce. LoL 😂.
No woman will accept his habit except he meets his own match. Someone like him. Then he himselfzl, will be the one complaining.
Let him seek help. He should get a recovery coach. Not just a therapist oh. Therapist is different from a recovery coach. They're different.
I am currently going through my own recovery.
He's going to have to put in a lot of work. I mean a lot to control this behavior. It's worse than drug addiction. Because the dangers don't show up immediately. They're subtle and pile up.
Example is him losing his marriage because of porn and masturbation.
Note; He can't quit on his own. He needs a community and a RECOVERY COACH. Later he can get a therapist.
A RECOVERY COACH first. He should go on Facebook and look for one. Or research about them.
Sometimes it brings see finish, some habits are hard to let go off easily. Rather than reporting she should look for another method to tackle it.
ReplyDeleteIt is his responsibility to look for a way to tackle it, he is an adult. She can then support him.
DeleteWe are here o Oga minus the P@rn addiction though. Mastu#bation is recommended for singles and married folks who are physically apart. You cannot pray away sexual desires for 3-6 months straight as some religious folks would tell you.
ReplyDeleteNeither can you prevent either partner who needs to make an important journey not to go because you want them to be available to you at any time. You'll become either sexually frustrated or cheat eventually if you lack enough self-control and that's where miscellaneous children by strange women and paternity fraud come in sometimes. S€xting can even be done without watching p@rn at all if you and your man have a great vibe.
However, if this woman does not starve her husband in za oza room and he still can't stay off the two addictions, then there is no marriage to protect or fight for to begin with. It's also good that she is reporting him to those who need to know so that tomorrow now, when she moves on the man will not start telling us tales by sunlight like Israel. In fact, tell your friend to remain single henceforth. Marriage is not for him. Full stop.
Abeg o, ndi Daddy and Mummy G.O. of SDK blog, na my own opinion I type so. Scroll up or down to type the Bible verses that can drive konji away in seconds. After all, it's not your h€llfaya; mbok go your hefun jeje. Thank you and God bless.
Some people can manage to hold body , some GOD'S grace because you cannot doesn't mean everybody cannot
DeleteSome people can manage to hold body , some GOD'S grace because you cannot doesn't mean everybody cannot
DeleteYour guy na unrepentant human. Why does he keep doing it?
ReplyDeleteDoesn't the wife satisfy him?
I kinda have a feeling what is going on here. The wife needs to help her husband get therapy. Constantly reporting him to his sister will setup a three person marriage which always leads to divorce, always.
ReplyDeleteSince his history is likely to have been traumatic, those activities may have been a habit formed in early years as an act of self soothing as a mental survival strategy that is now hard to break. The wife may have to accept a decrease but not a complete elimination, even with therapy habits cannot always be eliminated especially when so many hormones are involved. Building trust and a loving union is extremely important for the husband to feel a sense of safety to allow him to let go off his habit and fully attune to the present. The more discord in the home the less likelihood that he will stop or may even go underground and it transition into the addition of something new and more dangerous. Love is a better healer here, real agape forgiving and hopeful love.
If he stubbornly sees nothing wrong in addiction and seek help himself first then be supported then he cannot be helped
DeleteYour guy is threatening to divorce his wife when the reverse should be the case. See the dirty acts he's even involved in.
ReplyDeleteEntitlement, strong addiction and shamelessness
DeleteI hate reporting a spouse to anyone whether elder or younger because see finish dey enter inside but eh, that porn watching is a bad habit so he should stop it.
ReplyDeleteWatching porns and masturbating is a very bad habit that one needs the grace of God to stop.
ReplyDeleteShe shouldn't report her husband to the younger sister, yes,it's demeaning instead she should look for some of his trusted friends and discuss this to or better still madam, take your hubby to church.draw him closer to the things of God.ensure he goes with you to church and soon when he gets involve and keeps hearing the sermons, that will help him faster to put a stop to such habit.
Report to the friends who may likely be like him? At the first report to his sister, shame should have made him seek for help. But he wants the wife to tolerate his excesses and addiction
DeleteReport to the friends who may likely be like him? At the first report to his sister, shame should have made him seek for help. But he wants the wife to tolerate his excesses and addiction
DeleteMy husband will wake up in the midnight to watch pornography and also sex talk with women. We sleep in separate rooms , mind you he doesn't have erection but this thing has eaten deep into his life. Have talk and talk he will denied but he never stopped. His blood pressure continue to rise bcos of lack of sleep, am less bothered again. ( He is almost 70 yrs) I don't report him to anybody bcos nobody to even report him to .
ReplyDeleteReport him to GOD for him to have an encounter
DeleteReport him to GOD for him to have an encounter
DeleteOld man wants to feel young again. Some ppl just cannot handle aging with grace. There should really be aging preparation classes for all middle aged people to take, I think if more were prepared they could handle it better. A dead dyck and shaky heart is a lot for any man to come to terms with. Penises have an expiry date for the majority of who have them, and very few are prepared for the day it cannot do anything anymore, even to pee easily from.
DeleteAs you are doing, letting him have the illusion of fun and control he has in the body he is living in. Take time occasionally to remind him of spiritual pursuits from which meaning and purpose can be gained from life even in a broken body.
Reporting him upandan has not and cannot help him. It takes a long time - possibly years - to break free from an addiction. First, he needs to want to break free. On his journey to freedom, there may be times he'd stop - maybe for some months - then, fall again. He should pick himseLf up and continue. If God helps him, he'd wake up one day and find out that he has a deep hatred for such things. The hatred wIll be such that he'd wonder what he was thinking, wasting his life on porn and masturbation. Is he born again?
ReplyDeleteDoes he want to change?
DeleteIs porn and masturbations not part of sex life? I beg make dem leave guy man to relief himself of surplus sperm, can the wife meet up to his demands? Make guy man carry olosho instead?
ReplyDeleteProstitutes are a shameful option to any dignified man
DeleteProstitutes provide a needed service for some ppl when the choice to enter the sex trade is of one’s own and the pleasure specialist is of an adult age. I do not believe that disabled or highly unattractive men should not experience sex because they cannot secure wives or girlfriends. And there are both men and women living in bodies who will never be able to secure a partner although they have sexual desires just like most others, they are still ppl. Prostitutes provide the only opportunity for those men to have some form of short term companionship and a sex experience. I am speaking about these men specifically, as men who can secure girlfriends and wives who are willing to copulate with them have no need to entertain sex workers. And being born in a disabled body does not make a person undignified, it’s simply their reality.
DeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
This watching porn and masturbating thing dey cause wahala.. he had better stop it
ReplyDeleteIt's not really about pornography but a case of addiction. Many will enjoy a glass of wine here and there once in a while but some will fall into that pit of slavery to it. Same with gambling, drugs, women or men, money, risk... Dealing with addicts is hard.
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