CHURCH BROTHER
Hi Stella help me to post
I am a lady in my late 20s. I have a good-paying job but I have been trusting God for a life partner.
I am a worker( choir) in my church. There is this guy in our media department in the church I attend.
His name is D***. I am seriously crushing on him. He is tall, dark, handsome calm and jovial. We usually exchange greetings whenever we meet in church.
When I was trying to charge my phone before the commencement of the workers meeting, the socket was shaking, so I was unable to charge my phone properly but he came to assist me in charging my phone without asking for his help.
Hi Stella help me to post
I am a lady in my late 20s. I have a good-paying job but I have been trusting God for a life partner.
I am a worker( choir) in my church. There is this guy in our media department in the church I attend.
His name is D***. I am seriously crushing on him. He is tall, dark, handsome calm and jovial. We usually exchange greetings whenever we meet in church.
When I was trying to charge my phone before the commencement of the workers meeting, the socket was shaking, so I was unable to charge my phone properly but he came to assist me in charging my phone without asking for his help.
Should I equate his action as him having an interest in me or he is just being kind? I thanked him afterwards. He is jovial to everyone, I don't know if the feeling is mutual.
My colleague at work said I should approach him for a relationship but I am scared because I am a lady and I feel it is him who should ask me out so I won't look cheap and desperate. What should I do?
My colleague at work said I should approach him for a relationship but I am scared because I am a lady and I feel it is him who should ask me out so I won't look cheap and desperate. What should I do?
You sound so Naive.......Na wah!
My Dear you dont need to toast him, you can give him signals to show that you are Interested in him and wait for him to pick up the signal...
Remember also that Church brothers can have so many girlfriends in Church and know how to hide it...Before you even begin to send out the signals, please do small ground work on him::::Also note that you cannot be trusting God for a life partner that is not ready to settle down
You've even discussed him with your colleague, start showing him green light, be friendly towards him and ask him how his work life, family is, then you can exchange contacts
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Hmmmm.
DeleteIf you are attractive enough, the average man (not all), will pick up on your green light.
However, if he isn't interested in staying, he'll take whatever you are offering and move on.
After all, you are the one flashing lights!
Na this guy fit end you!
DeleteIf u try it see u see shame
Inside same church? What if the relationship ends? Enough of this thinking of only today's pleasure
Will u be able to attend church again if this relationship ends?
Avoid that distraction
He was just being kind.
ReplyDeleteMtschheewww. And you say you are in your late 20s. I am a woman and I'd have helped you charge your phone. Does that mean I have an interest in you? Better have sense and wait for him to come for you before you embarrass yasef.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 assssin the babe is seeing things that aren’t there. Nne calm down so you don’t fall and give out the cookie then later regret it. He probably just assisted you.
DeleteExactly
DeletePoster,please don't mistake kind gesture,which was only once,for love advances. Rate yourself high and don't appear too available.
ReplyDeleteMy mind o
ReplyDeleteWhen i saw that his name is d***
Gifty
Dominic
DeleteDamian
David
Divine
Destiny
Donatus
Damini
Gifty, you and your mind sef 😀
Me too. I immediately thought what you were thinking
DeleteReminds me on these charging phone skits.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are not alone. From time immemorial till tomorrow, a lot of single females are in the same situation as you.
Just give am small green light and see what happens after.
Poster that was a good gesture!! Wow why is your mind travelling that far...It does not show he has interest in you; please be careful oh those church guys can be very bad guys....Don't approach him or toast him oh as wrongly advised by your colleague...Try to get a grip of yourself...
ReplyDeleteMost guys that are jovial are usually for everybody and for nobody like Baba Buhari...Ask questions before you start building relationship in the air inside your head...Be ready for disappointment incase he is hooked with someone...
All the best..
Na wa o on top charger. Very desperate moves. Na only five nija guys e work for and they're all married. Pls auntie respect yourself
ReplyDeleteYou are a church worker, why don't you pray and ask God to reveal who he is to you and if he is the one.
ReplyDeleteHe was just being nice.
Seconded!
DeleteFranky
Apt 👌
DeleteWhile you are praying about Boaz, Ruth is going to his house
DeleteBe gentle as doves but wise as serpent is what Jesus said
I didn’t say go to his house oh but sis find a way to make a move
You can ask someone that knows him to mention your name without being obvious
you should hold your peace and keep your head high before church brother will chop you and clean mouth. You should appreciate him for the other day and keep moving. If you sell yourself so cheap and he decided to take such advantages on you hope your will not come here and cry?
ReplyDeleteThat he is calm, hard working or attend your church does not mean he will be faithful or your husband. Why don't you take your mind off him for now while you concentrate on God to find out if he is the right one for you. If he is the right one for you everything will fall in place without you talking to him.
That you make a love doesn’t mean you’ll have sec with him so how will he chop
DeleteCould be any of the above
ReplyDeleteWho knows anybodys heart
If you already exchange greetings, why not turn it up a notch and ask him some leading questions
Depending on your liver, you can ask
Are you single
What are you doing for Valentine’s Day
Are you attending the next singles meeting
Etc
😀😀
DeleteOver the years, I’ve learnt not to crush on any man but to face front and focus on God for the man he has for me cos noticing any man or crushing on any man is time wasting and only leads to heart break. Poster, focus on God, continue to praise and worship him in the choir you’re in and stop looking for man. Your husband will find you at God’s appointed time.
ReplyDeleteLate 20s sounding like early pubescent teen.
ReplyDeleteBetter face front.
Before you start sending awon 'plix hide my ID' stories.
If HE wanted YOU, HE would have asked YOU out.
Simple.
Person wey hungry, dem no dey tell am come chop.
Na person wey don belleful go dey circulate around you like hot air.
Secondly many many many of you grew up loveless, with no credible male role models and it's so pathetic.
So anytime you see a well behave young man offering the MOST BASIC form of assistance that any well mannered person should, you immediately term it as having feelings for you.
On top of fixing socket in church, abi is church mot where they do good deeds again?
Please don't go and shame yourself further.
Be kind! Your last paragraph is so mean. Poster, what you feel is normal, you’re a human being. Try and be friends with him first and find out basic information about him. Then pray and decide the way forward. Best,
DeleteMen have been led to ask women out from time immemorial
DeleteNot every time waiting for him to make a move
Post if you like follow 16:36. Sebi is Nigerian man? Shit go full your body.
DeleteDo you need to give a guy green light? If a man is attracted to you, he doesn't need green light, he will enter you.
ReplyDeleteIf he's not attracted, and you offer yourself, he will collect. You will be on your toes to keep him liking you. When he sees whom he likes, he'd toast. That's the way I see these things. Call me archaic, I agree. If you no enter man eye, chill. He may even have a girl.
I honestly do not know how to tell you not to be attracted to someone. Most marriages and relationships today started out with both individuals being attracted to each other in some way. I would never tell a young person not to feel attraction, it is through attraction that most of us find ourselves on the planet. Unless everyone becomes an eunuch and we start making babies in labs and birth them in labs, then attraction will remain a part of the human landscape. You should not feel ashamed of your attraction.
ReplyDeleteThat said, it usually does not work in a woman's favour to be the chaser. However, I have read chronicles from men who did not move on their attraction for a woman and had to stay in the wings and watch the woman marry to someone else, some were angry, all were regretful. Stella gave good advice, do some preliminary research to see if he has been involved with other women int he church. Do not read too much in him assisting you with the cable, people tend to be very helpful in church; however, if he was at a distance, speaking to others and seemed to interrupt something just to come and help you, it could mean something more. We need courage in life, and fear is almost never good. If you find out that he is a clean slate, then drop hints like Stella said, very subtle hints. Also, remain prayerful, and let wisdom and discernment guide you in everything.
Poster, I can imagine how you feel but he helping you is not a sign. My advice is go to God in prayer, tell him exactly how you feel towards the guy and ask God you want the guy to toast you if he's a good person and it's the will of God. Ask him also to reveal exactly who the guy is to you. Make sure you do things in God's way when the time comes.
ReplyDelete"If he WANTED you, he WOULD HAVE asked you out. This is one of the lies ladies believe about men. A lot of men find it hard wooing ladies. We are more terrified than you all think. A guy can want a lady and still not woo her for fear of rejection.
ReplyDeleteThen let him REST.
DeleteREST in the mighty name of Jesus.
Is it compulsory to be with a woman?
Or let him wait and ask Jesus to woo on his behalf.
Binam ehen sebi it's a man's world abi? Enter bush and go and hunt na. As per the great Ikezulike the agrarian hunter. Abi una need help for dat wan again too?
DeleteYou need the babe to toast you as per you are to weak.
But weak man cannot transfer to his wife's place of work as per head and tail of his nyansh.
Confused lot.
Better hold your peace ,many people are crushing on him and you want to beat them to it may blow in your face better face God that you come find for church not crushers
ReplyDeleteE be like say, you dey look for person wey go help you scratch your toto bah?
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooooooo
ReplyDeleteAhh Stella abeg chop kiss 💋
ReplyDeletePoster this kind guy na heartbreaker o.
He fit get like 20 babes wey he dey gbensh for that una church.
If I were you I no go send that side.
He is obviously a lady's man.
If you must try him just make sure you pray first and employ other means to be sure she is not really the ashawo type.
What kind of senseless daft statement is this? Is this the type of men you've been exposed to your entire life??
DeleteSomeone is warm and jovial and proffers assistance without waiting to e asked and your what exists as your common sense immediately assumes he must be gbenshing 100 men in the church?
How bush and disgusting.
Whose fault they didnt train your brothers properly?
On another note, what if he's using that as an opportunity to sample you. Don't you think a tall, dark and handsome won't be taken yet? Anyway, you can try your luck but don't give your cookie to him. Fear some men o, they are scam artist.
ReplyDeletePoster don’t mind us
ReplyDeleteYou’re the one that witnessed it maybe there’s a way he rushed to help you that made you think he’s feeling same
Next time he needs help, rush and help too or join his group in church. If he’s In media, go sign up
Hmmmmmm church brothers lol
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Tall Dark Handsome guy when he turns you to his punching bag don't cry out
ReplyDeleteSuch dark comment!!
DeleteMay God heal you from what you are going through.
Stella's advice is the best
ReplyDeleteIt feels good to be here again after many years
ReplyDeleteAsk him if he has a girlfriend nah
ReplyDeleteIf he no get
Then you make a move😁😁