SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Hi,
I am a 34-year-old Journalist who earns just about N200K monthly. It is not much but I have been comfortable until three months ago when I started dating this girl who lives in my area. I really like this girl and she has been making a lot of financial demands on me which I've been struggling to meet up with.
She has mostly been understanding whenever I tell her that her demands are overwhelming and I can't keep up. But lately, she has been giving me attitude whenever I tell her that things are tough. Sometimes she would give me silent treatment if I tell her that I can't afford to pay for her to go to fix her hair at some fancy place or that I can't upgrade her phone. She is 25, just graduated from University, is yet to do her NYSC recently and she is looking for a job.
Her character and mood change whenever I tell her that I have no money really bothers me. I love this girl and I want to provide for her, but I worry sometimes whether she is the sort of person that can leave me if I don't have money.
Anyway, my dad passed away a couple of years back and my sister and I are finally getting to share the property he left behind after some tussles with my uncles have resolved. My dad was a career civil servant who didn't have so many properties, but he owned one major property in Maitama which he bought from the government many years ago which is now worth over N1.7 billion. The property is about to be sold and when the transaction is completed in a couple of weeks I will personally pocket over N750 million so my financial situation will change significantly.
Should I tell this girl about my incoming windfall or I just keep quiet and keep observing her.?
Thank you.
I am a 34-year-old Journalist who earns just about N200K monthly. It is not much but I have been comfortable until three months ago when I started dating this girl who lives in my area. I really like this girl and she has been making a lot of financial demands on me which I've been struggling to meet up with.
She has mostly been understanding whenever I tell her that her demands are overwhelming and I can't keep up. But lately, she has been giving me attitude whenever I tell her that things are tough. Sometimes she would give me silent treatment if I tell her that I can't afford to pay for her to go to fix her hair at some fancy place or that I can't upgrade her phone. She is 25, just graduated from University, is yet to do her NYSC recently and she is looking for a job.
Her character and mood change whenever I tell her that I have no money really bothers me. I love this girl and I want to provide for her, but I worry sometimes whether she is the sort of person that can leave me if I don't have money.
Anyway, my dad passed away a couple of years back and my sister and I are finally getting to share the property he left behind after some tussles with my uncles have resolved. My dad was a career civil servant who didn't have so many properties, but he owned one major property in Maitama which he bought from the government many years ago which is now worth over N1.7 billion. The property is about to be sold and when the transaction is completed in a couple of weeks I will personally pocket over N750 million so my financial situation will change significantly.
Should I tell this girl about my incoming windfall or I just keep quiet and keep observing her.?
Thank you.
I googled your name to be sure that you are a Journalist and I am quite impressed with your work .
That lady is only using you as her ATM and you should know this already. Please do not tell her anything about the money you are expecting otherwise she will become the most loving girlfriend ever and confise you with her display of emotions...keep it secret before them kidnap you cos of the money...The amount is much and not even what you should tell anyone..
Please be very careful!
Stella please block the amount because of wicked people. Anyways your father didn’t leave that property so that you can squander on a lady. Continue leaving on your 200k salary and keep the money for the wife that will marry you based on that salary. When you have your kids, you can upgrade your wife and your kids life and also buy a property that you will leave for your kids
ReplyDeleteThe babe is not ordinary. She’s a slay queen runs babe. I can tell. Na why poster wan die there. She got game. She’s using carrot and stick approach. Dangling the carrot for Oga and withdrawing it when he doesn’t behave. She’s well versed in this act and has got Oga hooked.
DeleteShe’s basically training and conditioning this poster like a dog
Anon 15:43
DeleteWhen he said he loved her, despite the glaring red flag, I laughed because I instantly knew she was a 'bimbo'.
Words on Marble.
Anon 15:43 you know the game well.
DeletePoster I would tell you like I would tell my son, that is not a woman you can marry. The way you are sounding so simpish, if you are not careful you will look for what you used that 750mil to achieve in the next five years and you will not find it, because you would have used all the money to impress a slay queen.
Instead of you to be asking us what investment you can do with that money, you're asking whether you should inform a girl of your inheritance. If she arranges kidnappers for you nkọ? Or scammers? Better go and wash your eyes in a river.
Keep money for wife kè? What's the difference, oh! The wife is just a dfferent poverty-striken woman. Pls invest money in you and in your name, go for a higher education, travel, put money in stocks in your name. The woman you will marry will come with her own property, abi she no get papa ni. Ole women, thieves, keep money for wife ko.
DeletePoster are you alright? You want to divulge that kind of information to a 'fair weather' girlfriend, ahannn, abeg learn to love with your head held on tight please.
DeleteThat girl does not mean well for you, she is probably dating someone else aside you.
Keep your mouth closed please.
So only you are collecting almost 1 billion. Are you the only child?
DeleteI hope i will be able to leave something meaningful for my kids. i have no advice cos me self i am scared at the amount you are about to received.
ReplyDeleteThis is the real case of what Morayo said in SP today about enjoying your wealth and not living it for next of kins.
DeletePoster, do you think your dad could not have sold the said property and flex with the money? Or that your dad will be looking from above seeing you waste the money on an insatiable girl all in the name you want to wife her and be happy?
If you have good relationship with your sister, tell her this your Chronicles story and see what she will tell you.
Instead of finding ways to multiply or triple the money, you're thinking of how to fill a ghost whole.
Go buy properties in multiple places that will appreciate in future and leave that girl if you don't want to regret your life.
I'm annoyed.
I'm also annoyed and pissed off at a grown man that have brains and refused to use it.
DeleteWith the happenings in Abuja and Nigeria as a whole, are you not supposed to seal your mouth when you receive the money?
Be falling in love with your head nau because what's all these?
You think she loves you, you're just her ATM while she's your bed mate.
Poster, receive sense and think with the brain God gave you......
Poster be wise, in fact you need e-slaps! You actually want to tell her about the money?! So she finish it with her demands or even arrange for you to be kidnapped?!
DeletePlease aside your sister, no ear should hear about this money, not even your closest friends! Sometimes we need to put feelings aside and be Intentional about stuff.
This girl is clearly after what she can get from you and trust me,you are not the only man she's dating.
Please invest in properties that can fetch you good rental income and also a personal property. Invest in further education, if possible abroad & also leave at least a third of the money in fixed deposit or treasury bills.
Please, please and please 🙏,, tread carefully with this money, don't rush in investing, take your time. I no see even 75k from my father, as I dey so even 750k will do a lot for me right now but I no see, please apply wisdom.
This is not love, you need to wake up. She is making financial demand because you are her ATM or what? what happened to her parents or family? you are being used and can get dump when the highest bidder shows up.
ReplyDeleteYou see that property you want to use to win her will not satisfy her, once you get to that high level, her taste will change.
Dante to the rescue
Felicity
Person wey dey broke dey make hair for fancy places imagine. When you show her you’ve blown, your money must finish. How many designer bags and how many. million naira wigs do you think you can buy before 750mil finishes?
DeleteAre we now "using" Dante? 🤣
DeleteNa only him get mouth and strength to treat this dude fuck up...34year🙆
DeleteWetin this babe don give poster chop bikonu? It can only be power of beauty and pussy!!🏃🏃
As innnn a grown ass 34 year old man!!!! Be very careful poster!!! Yes I’m shouting!!! That girl might set you up and kidnap you once she knows how much you’ll be receiving. Do NOT tell anyone about this money! Do you need a resetting slap or what??? If you’re not street smart, at least use your brain!!!!! Gosh I’m so upset. You’re a man, think logically like a man that you are and not based on emotions!!!😠
DeleteI am telling you. Na only Dante word fit reset the poster mind.
DeletePoster, your instinct can't deceive you. You are already seeing the handwriting . Follow your instinct. She is only after your money. Don't even try to tell her anything about the incoming money. Please don't think you have gotten to your destination. She is only using you as a cash cow. The fact that she is not working doesn't mean you should shoulder all her needs. I pray you don't send in more chronicles.
ReplyDeleteLearn to love with your head and not only your heart.
ReplyDeleteQuickly invest that money in purchasing properties ( Houses and Land) in your name only.
If you let that girl know you have money coming in, sorry is your name.
Remember, that a fool and his money are soon parted.
Don't be a fool, please.
I had a family friend that a slay queen like this hooked. It took prayers to unhook him. He was shopping, phones, for her, her mum etc. she would get angry if he doesn’t spend, even refuse to hang out with him. Imagine
Delete😂🤣😂, using prayers to unhook him..damn!! Slay queens will slay you join if you are not " kiaful"
DeleteYou and I, same sentiment shared (your first statement).
DeletePlease after this money comes be wise
ReplyDeleteMay God give you wisdom also remember that if this money isn’t well invested you’d be back to ground zero , people have to love you for you and not what you have to offer .
Tell yourself that you are worthy of unconditional love , that thing you’re feeling for that girl might not even be love , please be wise I’m very bad at writing but I had to pen this down for you .
When you use money to buy love you'll always need money to keep it. She doesn't really love you. If you like go pose for her she'll arrange kidnappers for you.
ReplyDelete💯
Delete💯💯
DeleteOil dey your head, lol @ kidnappers
DeleteImagine dating a jobless lady who makes hair in fancy places. Such an irresponsible act of indiscipline!
DeleteHow could you love someone like that? How??
This is why sometimes rich parents shudder at the thought of leaving an inheritance for their children if they don't seem reliable enough.
Imagine a father who worked hard and suffered only for a son to wake up one day and give it all up for one 'bimbo'.
He is a glutton for punishment.
I just hope he listens.
Words on Marble.
poster you be big mumu
DeleteIf you decide to become a simp at your age, you will suffer, with this type of girl. At your age you no fit spot someone who's with you for money. Better build yourself, whe you set, women will offer themselves to you.
ReplyDeletePerson dey vex for you Ontop your own hard earned money, you still dey write chronicle. Small pikin oo. Na wa oooo.
DeleteDante where are you please
Is it jazz or what? Why would you want to tell someone u are not sure will be with u when u lack about 750 million? Is she ur wife? It’s like they’ve not sent armed robbers ur way before.
ReplyDeleteMight be jazz. After all all those kayanmata sellers are always sold out
DeleteIt's not jazz. Some men like the poster never believed they could date a girl like the girlfriend. The kind we call "jew man" those days.
DeleteThis poster is the kind when the girl is sleeping he will be awake and be looking at her telling himself "so na me dey date this girl?"
Poster please be very careful,that lady is too vested in your purse,I know,from your write up,you really care but take each step with purpose and clarity.
ReplyDeletePlease poster use sellotape and tape your mouth, she will mess you up with too much romance and rip you off your money with her outrageous demands. If you love her this much, you can be giving her what you usually give her, help her get a job first and see the real her!
ReplyDeleteDump her after getting a job and she's still seeing you as her ATM mechine .
Well, I'll advise you keep it a secret to her till you know her intentions if she's really inlove with you or just using you to pass time till she gets a rich boyfriend. A girl that gets angry when you can't provide what she needs is a no no for me sha, so far you've been helping out once in a while. Just be careful cos once she knows about the money yet so you'll not carry someone else's bone o
ReplyDeleteShe has made her intentions open. No love for him but his money.
DeleteA secret remains a secret when you are the only one that knows about it..
ReplyDeleteYou want to tell a Girlfriend;not even wife? that you are about to be a strong millionaire??
Happy Billingversary!!!
Only you,your financial advisor and your sibling is supposed to be aware of the 750M info;now we know;and your GF might even be a BV too..
Help your girlfriend if you wish when the 750M lands;it's your choice;but never disclose your financial worth..
@MARTINS
Thanks..Poster Use your tongue to count your teeth..You are dating a leech not a girlfriend..Doesn't she have parents to take care of her..Why should you be her oniduro when it comes to money..What value is she giving you?
DeleteOne thing I see with men like you is: You love the baddies so much and you know you will burnt but you rather burn so you can come online to tell us how women are bad...You should know a woman of substance and value when you meet one. So if you give her money, what next?
Ask God to give you wisdom; even the walls or housefly, rats and wall gecko in your house must not hear the money you are about to earn...
No he shouldn't help her anything..
DeleteShe doesn't deserve it.
Let him leave her now!
Like you said, she might even be a BV and start pretending..
She has to go
Thank you oh Phoenix! Men like these love the so called slay queens and when those ones finish dealing with them, they will come and be ranting that women are this and that. You're earning 200k in this economy and you're giving new girlfriend money to make hair in fancy places. How do you cope with your own needs then?
DeleteWhat if she's on this blog and reads this?
DeleteAre you ok? Have you never seen women before? Is her pussy made of gold? Don't you have any sense? You need your Mama's prayers if she's still alive.
What nonsense! See as I'm shaking in anger.
It's like you are not wise
ReplyDelete34 year old man oo. Somebody’s first son. Na wa.
DeleteYou say first son? Only son oh! Only son! If his father was an igbo man who left the whole property to him, na so 1 billion for just waste like that.
DeleteOga dont tell her anything about that money. It is obvious she dont love you enough..she is only with you because of the things you are doing her if she finds out about that money then you are finished..
ReplyDeleteShe is not a good person sir. She will use a straw to finish the 750 million.
ReplyDeletePlease keep your mouth shut, invest wisely keep most in fixed deposit while you think on what to do with it don't be too flashy just calm down Please and leave Domitila alone.
ReplyDeletePoster, be very careful with the way you share sensitive information. Take this from a banker who handles fraud and scam transactions regularly. As for the babe, what are you asking us? It's the temptation to be a big zaddy that is shacking you, right? Because a man of your calibre should have lined up profitable investments by now that will ensure you never lack cash again. You will never end up as an "I used to have", in Jesus' name, Amen.
ReplyDeleteHonestly the thing tire me
DeleteOh and poster, if your sister is getting the balance of the money, you should guide her (if she isn't astute in investing) to make sure she invests well, not asking us annoying questions. God provided an opportunity for your father to give his children a better qualify of life. Don't mess it up.
Delete17:17
DeleteThat is why intelligence and wisdom is not penis related. His sister may be more intelligent in this area
I can’t believe naive men like this exist. Like weren’t you loved at home,?.
ReplyDeleteSo , I was told growing up that men marry women they want their daughters to be like . Is she a good role model to your child???.
Anyways, on this one, I trust the slayer of simps to answer you properly
He's not thinking that line. Just infatuated with the girl.
DeleteYour mates are marrying up and you’re marrying liabilities
ReplyDeleteShe's after what she can get from you. And be rest assured she will move to a bigger pay master when she finds d opportunity.
ReplyDeleteWho knows she might already be keeping two to three of you to finance her largesse.
I will advice you quench that love.
And free yourself from her.
Get someone who will be satisfied with your person and will be willing to grow with you financially and not see you as a cash cow.
As for the expected money, both you and your sister should keep a sealed lips and don't live flashy lifestyle.
Start praying from now on Good investments to venture into; instead of thinking of impressing a woman with 750m🙄🙄🙄🙄(no be ju.ju be that?) Stay safe out there and look out for your sister too.
Run oooooo
ReplyDeleteYour papa sweat na im you wan take use spend on woman. Chai.!. Btw, Why should your financial status change too much?.
ReplyDeleteI expect you to buy lands , shops, and property with almost all that money oo.if you dey buy car, e no suppose pass small Corolla .
Be careful, na your type dem dey dupe.
I'm sorry but are you so desperate for love that this small geh is whining you like this?
ReplyDeleteGod forbid you end up with this one. The day you don't meet her demands. She'll so beat you and punish you.
My neighbor is on this table.
Remember that song when money day, love go day. When money no day.... Yowa. That's it.
The woman will use knife to cut him. Sometimes she'll try drinking sniper that she's tired of suffering in his house. Someone that cannot afford anything.
My brother. Please use your masculine energy and run.
I know you are loving. True true na Mumu day love. Because why is this one frustrating your life.
Love is not stressful. A worthy partner should learn to support. She wants to fix but cannot afford it.
I know people will say, if you can't afford her bounce. Dearly beloved, please do bounce. This girl will suck you dry.
Please, hide your money o. Ehen
♥ &💡
At 34, you don’t know that girl is not into you and she’s only using you?
ReplyDeleteShe’s not even an understanding chic. Even if you give her the whole world, the day you’ll not have to give, she’ll bunch you and move to the next “giver”
Girls like her can never be loyal. Na her type we dey call “seasonal girlfriend”
Note that you can’t build with her.
If you know what is good for you, better seal your lips cos if you dare mention it to her, she will make sure you use up all that money. Ask me how? She will intentionally get pregnant, or even use “jazz” for you.
That way, whatever she says you’ll give her until the jazz fades.
You better put that money to good use and leave that girl alone.
Bro pls dont use your inheritance to remove any stupid gold digger from poverty.You don get money now,go and look for a girl that will not be asking you for money for hair and transport.Time for dating broke girls don pass abeg.let her go the girl ba owo epo
ReplyDeleteDon't tell her or anyone,750million is a lot of money that will make your enemies becomes your friends.
ReplyDeleteIf she gives you silent treatment because you can't afford some of her expenses,she would do worse if you stop being a provider God forbids.
please let her go,your own love will fine you.
What would be your aim of telling her you are expecting such huge sum, is it for her to increase her demand or for you to hold on to something you know is not real? Please keep it to yourself and even do the most of not meeting her demands now, the answer which is already obvious will be more glaring.
ReplyDeleteHis sim is to buy affection. It’s all very sad. He’s hooked into making her happy. Pleasing her
DeleteWhere is Dante? This poster needs brutal advice 🙄
ReplyDeleteBro, be careful. Keep quiet on this and go about your business as usual.
ReplyDeletePoster, you can buy a house to live in and two houses to rent out with a little savings left. Please don’t tell anybody anything about the money you’re about to receive
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly, rental and interest income, a personal property and further education abroad.
DeleteI can’t say she’s not a good person
ReplyDeleteMaybe a little immature but I don’t know about bad
She’s probably treating you the way she treats her dad. These our Nigerian fathers always say they don’t have money but when you whine or act funny small they finally give you
No I’m not saying it’s right to transfer it to your man. It’s just y’all be saying no money but you have lol
You like her. Instead of breaking up, tell her how you feel and give her assurance
All this I like you with no ring makes women try to figure out if you love them
It’s possible when you finally give her money she really thinks yeah he loves me
Why not wife her already
Don’t tell her about the money tho. But use it to spoil her small
It’s Valentine’s Day what’s with break up talk. Abi you’re getting cold feet
Poster, don't listen to this.
DeleteI suspect you're the girlfriend. See your mouth like broom
DeleteBaltika una too dey suggest break up
DeleteThis thing they will use to joke with each other na im una dey say break up
Poster, pls don't take this advice of 15:54.
DeleteInfact pretend not to have next time she asks, use it as an excuse to tell her you can't take care of her.
She is a manipulative person. And no we are not supposed to whine our parents to give us stuff. That's selfish
Mtcheww if you re the one can you take this nonsense advice, poster,wife her like what nonsense is this , somebody that can't appreciate little now money don enter make the poster spoil am like how mtchewwwwwwww
DeleteHer lawyer has landed see advice abeg o
DeleteAre you guys sure that the girlfriend is not here?
DeleteLol, poster I hope she has not gotten the info about the 1billion you are expecting from this chronicle?
If she knows about the 1billion now you will see how she'll start pretending to love you
DeleteDon’t pay for a lifestyle for any woman that she cannot afford for herself ..
ReplyDeleteAHH God🙆🏽♂️
ReplyDeleteWhich kind guy be this..
First thing first.. dump that girl right now!
No matter how painful it might be,. Dump her entitled ass .
Pay for nail fixing? Like she can't even do that herself..
Guy, dump that thing right now, like Now Now..
Don't even make the mistake of keeping her around until the money comes cos you'll still regret it in future..
Let her go.. and you'll be the biggest s!mp of the year to tell her about that money..
Don't even tell your friends..
Keep it to yourself..
But that girl has to go..
Tell her you can't provide for her so she has to go,. Na blank her.. Asin no look her face again no matter the tears and begging..
You won't understand this now, but you'll thank me in future if you take this advice..
I for tell you how to act when the money comes, but that will be unsolicited.. just stay humble like nothing changed..
You might have to relocate 'for schooling' cos you have to keep yourself safe.. it's wild here.. kidnappers can take all those monies..
Stay blessed
LMAO 😆 Na true you talk 👍🏿
DeleteI like your advise, abeg.
DeletePoster, take this, go with God and better your life.
Correct guy👍.
DeletePoster, just follow this advice.
I concur 💯, I gave similar..
DeletePoster take this advice; nothing else to add!
DeleteForget this girl. She is high way to depression and mental pain.. Cut off from her. Look for a working class lady with a good brains inside her head.. You will surely see a decent woman that values hardworking and will love you on your 200k salary.. Keep the windfall a secret from everyone..
ReplyDeleteInfact, buy properties and invest..
Relocate out of Nigeria for the future of your children.
Poster please go and date your age mate , with a job too. In this economy why are you willing to date someone so young and inexperienced in life and unemployed ?? You’re a career man, find a career woman in her late 20s or in her 30s and start life with her. Forget about this slay queen and think about your future
ReplyDeleteYou should break up with her.
ReplyDeleteWhenever you can't afford to give her she changes her mood and it is not that you don't give her when you have. She is ungrateful and doesn't love you.
I don't like people like this - people who are only nice when they receive from you. It would have been a different case if you had never supported her at all considering her financial state.
Anyone who lives in Nigeria and still needs their fellow Nigerians to explain to them that things are tough should be avoided with utmost alacrity.
She is one of the reasons why most guys do not love to date ladies without any feasible form of income. You don't have a job and are lucky to meet someone who doesn't mind yet you won't respect yourself and be appreciative.
Please avoid her. Be on the lookout for your real wife. She is out there. With the new development on the ground, you need someone who will build with you, not someone who will drain you. You need a woman with her head screwed on tight not this entitled lady you are with.
Don't you have the qualities you look for in a woman? Does this lady look like someone who can be there for you tomorrow if the benefits stop coming? Don't you read stories of men whose wives treated them badly when they couldn't keep up due to challenges despite how loving and generous they were when the going was good?
Please be guided!
Words on Marble.
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DeleteMr. Journalist,
ReplyDeleteAre you genuinely asking or are your questions rhetorical? Surely, after 34 years on God's green Earth, you cannot be this naive?!
Had her demands been 'needs', rather than 'wants', I could have somewhat excused her behaviour - but only be a smidgen!
I don't see true love from this so-called relationship. Telling her you're expecting a windfall soon will be the biggest mistake you can ever make. For your safety, don't upgrade your lifestyle quickly and openly.
Oga forget about that girlfriend, either you use the money to relocate abroad or buy properties that your unborn kids will inherit. My 2cent
ReplyDeleteAsiwajuBaby
Poster
ReplyDeleteHow are you sure that your girlfriend is not on this blog?
Pls keep your mouth shut.
Keep observing her and if she continues behaving that way, dump her. Keep lying low until you get a good girl cos if girls see that you have hammer, they will show you fake love.
Original fake love . Poster, I want to carry you and cage you where you will never have access to that girl again. What is this? How can you love somebody that doesn't give you peace of mind? How can you be madly in love with a person whom your happiness is not paramount to? What ever she does for you that you call love is all fake my brother.
DeleteA woman who can not love and manage with you when you have little, will leave you even when the little is gone.
ReplyDeleteChai. This life ehh, problems don't go where they will be solved.
ReplyDeletePoster, LEAVE THAT GIRL. She's baring her fangs now how much more when you marry her. Bp and depression is knocking on your door.
I guess you must have come across a story as a journalist about people that squandered their inheritance. Did you think it will happen to you? Stick with her and be a part of that statistics.
Shake off that foolish thing you feel for the runs girl you call love. You blow your inheritance on her, she leaves you for another ATM. You write another Chronicle looking for sympathy, you will be asked if you did not notice this trace in her while you guys dated.
She's sent from wherever to destroy the discipled life you were brought up with.
Remove love from whatever you feel for her.
Poster, do you know the girl nor even send you?
You’re not a wise person at your age, how are you asking this JAMB question? 34yrs?! And why aren’t you married at your age ? Obvious you love baddies because what’s a man at your age doing with a girl 10yrs your senior? Eh ?
ReplyDeleteHe will spend his money foolishly I can tell
You’re so judgy
DeletePoster if you try it I'm coming first
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you gave a way yourself a little too much with the amount of money coming and what you do. You can keep that away from the public and give a range, as long as you communicate what you are seeking, end of story.
ReplyDeletePoster, ask the Lord for wisdom and pls be closer to God. You can find himself without anyone's help by reading the Bible. You need God's protection from women like this and from bad people. Selah
Poster
DeleteAsk GOD to remove every single wrong person from your life, deliver you from manipulation in Jesus Christ Name Amen
Midnight prayers
He's not wise 😕 at at.
DeleteThe problem here is the length of time involved. You are barely getting out of the strangers stage and already she wants many things. She is not a bad person, she just doesn’t have anything and her life hasn’t started yet, worst you are dating in a terrible economy. And I am thinking she is asking for these things because you started a sexual relationship with her?
ReplyDeleteShe is not at the maturity level to take on a serious relationship, you must set her free so she can go discover herself and become whomever she is ordained to be. When your money comes through you can give her a small token, 100,000 - 150,000 and tell her to help herself with it. The amount is small enough not to raise any suspicion and she won’t feel so bad when you break it off with her. Yes, break all ties and please stop having sex with this young woman. Just set her free, and break all ties.
You too also need to figure out yourself. And have a plan for your inheritance, will you do a business, what kind? Keep your inheritance quiet, tell no one and do not make flashy purchases that attract attention. Blend in and stay under the radar. Put something away for your retirement from it. Get a modest but comfortable home of your own. Remember that no money is so great an amount that it cannot be wiped out. You must use wisdom to ensure it stays with you and grow. Protect your fertility and do not get involved with wild or loose women.
You have received some of the best advice, quite a lot, so take heart and use wisdom and discernment through it all.
Stop dating begi begi girls
ReplyDeleteThe money you're expecting it much..there is no person that would hear it and not want to stick with you..just keep watching her for now..till the money lands
ReplyDeleteNo need to watch
DeleteLet her go
My heart kept palpitating while reading your chronicle. My brother, I just pity for you. I am so sorry for you because you don't know what you are about to go into.
ReplyDeleteMaybe this girl has used one of those kayan Maya on you self, who knows.
Them no dey use money buy love o o o o! If not you go pay taya !
Can't you see that the girl doesn't have an iota of love for you ? A woman that loves you will bear with you if you truly are not financially capable at the moment. There is a different between you not having enough to meet her demands and you having enough but don't want to give.
It is quite understandable that the act of giving is a love language . Yes, a man who truly loves you will give to you according to his capacity but the bad side of that giving is that many men who are ready to give you much more do not love you.
Here again, a lady who loves you will accept your gifts no matter how little bit any lady that demands more than you can afford does not love you my brother. It is inhumane of her to demand what you cannot afford. I am sure she has idea of how much you earn. So how can someone with conscience demand more than what your salary can afford? You sure say one politician or Yahoo boy is not somewhere promising here heaven on earth? Leave her let her go. She will learn and by then it's too late. I met one of my girls last week and she was talking about how she will chop somebody mugu, and of course I told her what I had to. I don't know where people get their conscience from.
So, my brother, the act of giving must be balanced. People pretend to love you but what they actually love is what you can give to them. Give the little you can and if she doesn't appreciate it then know that she is wicked. This kind of person will abandon you in the hospital when you are sick o.
One thing with people is that they can hardly leave a person whom they have sacrificed a lot for, no matter how bad the person may be treating them. I think that is what is wrong with poster right now.
ReplyDeleteNa only 3 months oh
DeleteHe never sacrifice
Mono- thinking Nigerians. What if this girl is posterseating like Juds and Jesus? And karma is about to visit posters father through him to squander the so called inheritance BVs are hoping he worked hard to acquire. What civil servant has house in Maitama through moral means? What civilsevantage in Nigeria can ethically leave N1.7B for children? As a man gathereth, so a man scattereth.
ReplyDeleteDo you know what Abuja real estate is talking now
DeleteThat lady is not a wife material but a knife ready to cut you to the lowest level in life,you are seeing the red flag already, please run away from that lady,she is the type that will eat you dry and run away with another man she is ready to suck dry again.......... Josaria
ReplyDeleteThe problem here is will the poster listen to advice? I hope and pray he listens to the voice of reasoning and do the right thing.
ReplyDeleteRemember that your life is indirectly involved if you don't handle this wisely. Be very discreet not only to your girl friend but to your friends too.
If you are my son I will simply tell you to cut her off . Why will you even be dating a girl that had no career, she is a graduate, that is okay. Pls date a lady that is already a ready made. With that both of you will be able to build a solid foundation in relationships, not begging begging girlfriend, who had nothing to offer to you than to be cleaning the house and be cooking.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh
DeleteShe has graduated na
You are eating her cake and you do not want to pay.
ReplyDeleteLearn that the typical Nigerian woman does not give free out of love.
She collects much than or as much as her man can pay.
You have just graduated into the real world of man-woman relationship in Nigeria.
If you have been reading the women who praise their husbands here, please tell where you read any saying they love their marriage because their husbands gave them opportunity to pour all the love and resources in them into their husbands (or even their own children). All is about how much their husbands (and some, his family) pour into and give to them. And the better part of Nigerian love is material things.
The typical Nigerian woman empties her man. She does not initiate, but only reciprocate in "love". If her man pay bills, he gets false or the semblance of real affection. If he missteps, he gets insulted, punished in revenge, or deprived, or snubbed as you are being treated.
If you wait for the kind of love you want or wish for from this woman, you will be waiting till 40 years plus.
Lets take a bet! Participate in the next singles/mingles here and profile yourself as the expectant inheritor. And see how many hits you will get from this place where your girlfriend has been so labelled as this and that. Then profile your self as normal in another entry if permissible and see.
Note that this comment is of the typical Nigerian woman. There are exceptions.
Until you meet the exceptional women, know that as you dey chop dis woman's cake, you must pay. And she has made her price clear. Na only sense you go use moderate the price demanded until she moves, or you move, or you marry then continue to pay.
Wait first, Nigerian woman dey form vex for you because of money wey you no get, and you dey panic? Brah, you never ready for Nigerian love or marriage be dat.
And before I forget, ask yourself whether you would have inherited anything if your Daddy wasted his money paying for women cakes as you plan to do with what he left you. That would tell you whether or not to guard your expected inheritance or spend it on women cakes.
No vex o! Truth dey bitter.
You guess right. I am a man. I have seen women in all scenarios you can imagine. None hates money. Only few will do better than the woman you are with.
Best wishes.
Poster biko listen o my problem is that the lady is even an unappreciative girlfriend.biko take our advice o be wise
DeleteYou kept meeting empties
DeleteGood women exist
Many women love selflessly or the vast majority of men who are average or below financially no go see girlfriend talkless of wife. It is men who rarely love without condition so assume and project that others are like them
Best comment! @19:59. Truly Naija relationship na trade by barter, money for hand, back for ground! What a society!
DeletePoster, it's the season of valentine, abeg try do giveaway for blog visitors o🥰
ReplyDeleteAbeg how much have you given the girl na
ReplyDeleteMy only problem is she gives attitude when you don’t comply
May your late wake up from this resting and SLAP your yeye face bcos of sex wake up man the is reading your write up. chop my comment SDK
ReplyDeleteShe doesn’t love you, most especially when we men deceive our selves with sweet pussy over love. My guy you are not in love!!!!
ReplyDeleteyou dad bought a property back then and the sale of that property is about to make you so rich, the best you can do now is buy a property you can comfortably live in with like 20m and invest the others so that when you are gone your kids too would benefit from you just as you did from you dad
ReplyDeleteas for that your gold digger girlfriend dont do more than you are currently doing, if she cant stay then let her go
with the way the world it right now, i bet someone here has decoded him
ReplyDeletePoster marrying this babe might be your worst nightmare
ReplyDeleteNo be only her get sweet pussy, look for a sweet pussy that still cares!
..she doesn't love you, shes only with you for maintenance money, if she loved or cared for you she won't be misbehaving.
Once you tell her about your money, you go see how she go change..dump her, there are so many babes who will value you.
Biko no let them use u, she's not worth it
Ive missed this blog. Stella has even changed the colour of her pen.
ReplyDeleteWell, to the chronicle writer, I don't think she loves you, babe is only after what she can get from you.
I 100% agree with Stella’s advice! Never reveal this windfall to anyone: friends, cousins, girlfriend, best friend!
ReplyDeleteBe sure to invest it wisely. Wisely.
No one needs to know what you are worth.