She had so much in front of her to just let go............Is there anyone reading this Blog that feels like doing this?Please comment and let us know, after you comment you can send me a mail.....
Friday, January 12, 2024
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What if she didnt unlife herself? I have been thining about this whole suicide thing and it doesnt just click...... What was she desperate for? how bad can it get that it will result to this?
She had so much in front of her to just let go............Is there anyone reading this Blog that feels like doing this?Please comment and let us know, after you comment you can send me a mail.....
She had so much in front of her to just let go............Is there anyone reading this Blog that feels like doing this?Please comment and let us know, after you comment you can send me a mail.....
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Suicide does not stop the pain
ReplyDeleteIt just moves it to others
Please don’t do it
Mamannukusdkblogceleb
Exactly,it moves it to other
DeleteI struggle with suicidal thoughts. The first time I bought the 'snipper'products was 2020. I first mixed water and bleach. It was when i saw the words slipper instead o sniper that I left that zone for a bit, angry that even sniper as fake.
DeleteThen December 2023 came with health related bills, someone agreed to supplythem on credit and and completely changed it. I was so scared and also ready to quit life. I normally use music to still my mind but the few times I went online was to see trending toxic topics and stray bullets hit my kind of personality hard.
My netizenpersonality is the type that says "good morning. hope you feel better, God bless you. You are doing well. It will only get better. No matter how dark the night is, the sun must rise. People only poke at ripe fruits" and so on.
But I was being threatened over that bill that i will be stripped naked and paraded and disgraced. I volunteered my phone, but they said the screen is cracked. I wept& wept my intestine but No one was there for me.
A dear one called to speak with me about her issues and I gave her the usual motivation speech but I was also telling her that i love her no matter what. I told her to remember to tell some close people that i love them forever. She casually said she will tell them but the dear girl was having her issues, I assured her and she left. I got ready again, then I remembered visisting this blog and logging of quickly because the topic was about delicious chrsitmas food. I could only soak indomie .Then my mum called my with her caustic tongue about my refusal to marry, and how her expectations from me and so many more. She doesnt know that night was my plan. My eyes teared up to the irony of preparing to die completely alone and no one cares.
1. You dont know who to trust
2. You dont know how detailed you should go when relaying your problems all leading to no sense of hope
People who go through it succesfully ultimately feel that there is no hope for them, they dont want to be burden or they just want the pain (sometimes emotional pain cuts deeper than physical pain) they want the pain to stop.
Its so difficult typing this with tears. People that have deep sense of empathy are going through a whooole lot.
Brangel
Stella, I have same thoughts. Why at the bank? How bad was the economic situation for her? Was she being blackmailed? Did she have a deadline she was not able to meet? Was she forced into what she did? The note she purportedly left looked well articulated from beginning to the end, no fluctuating emotions in the penmanship. I wish someone can involve forensic and psychologist in the matter. Her body didn't show a lot of struggle from the pain. Well, it might be me but I have so many doubts. She is gone but an answer can prevent another!
DeleteBRANGEL, I am saddened with what you are passing through and that your mum is not even helping matters. Hey! I must say you are a strong one for just sharing your story, you are a conqueror! Depression is a chronic mental illness that needs long term treatment and management and those affected with it should not be overlooked but unfortunately, the strongest are sometimes the most affected. People come to you sharing their stories, seeking support from you nor knowing you are breaking. You conquered suicide in 2020 and 2023, you will forever conquer it! You had indomie that Xmas period to soak, some slept outside with no food, some slept in the hospital unable to eat. You can read and write, some are paralyzed from neck down, they can’t even hold a phone not to talk of tying on it or even making a voice note but do these comparisons make your situation less severe? No! Our situations are unique,
DeleteI don’t know how spiritual you are, I am not talking about being religious but spiritual. Make a connection with the creator of the universe, allow him to minister to you and listen to him. I am very empathic that stories replay themselves in my head. For my sanity, I try to stay off social media and the news. We tend to report more negative stories and some people are broken by these stories. If those things hurt you, try to stay away from them. Download the music or songs that align with you and play them offline. If you don’t have someone to talk to, talk to a journal. I do it sometimes. Write your thoughts now. Have an imaginary friend you talk to. Yell and cry sometimes, it helps. Turn your frustrations into art. You can paint or draw. Abstract drawings which are unique is an example. Turn that frustration into abstract jargon. You can dig out hidden talents. When I am down or frustrated, I try to do a small task and finish it. I can alter a dress, draw rubbish, turn a left-over meal into a new dish, make headgear, or even plan an occasion in my head. Keep your mind busy and the devil will stay away!
You can try to talk WITH your mum, not talking TO or ABOUT her but talk WITH her. Be open with her. Tell her your struggles without blaming her or making her a victim. If you can talk with her in person, send her a voice note. Remember, you alone hold the key to your happiness, not your parents, siblings, friends, Nigeria, the world, or blogs but you! For you to share your story, you have conquered suicide, remain a CONQUEROR!
Exactly my thoughts @ Olannaya.
DeleteHer body was well arranged. No sign of struggles with the excruciating intestines melting pain of taking sniper.
Then why do it in the bank? She could have done it at home and not make it a public spectacle for all. Depressed people don't want that, I presume.
The note looked really clean, no sign of tears as she wrote. No squeezing or stains from the buccal discharge the sniper should have caused.
I hope the bank looks into it.
@ Brangel,
DeletePsalm 139 helps sometimes.
Talk to God, look to God, lean on God. Lament, cry, pour out your heart to him.
He's the only one that won't betray your trust and will do something about it all for you.
Franky
Brangel drop your email i want to assist and encourage you.
DeleteMay her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeletethis is so sad!!!
ReplyDeleteshe was going through alot alot!!
I read her suicide note. It was sad and tragic. That's why i always maintain that we should treat each other with as much care and affection as possible. Everyone is going through one battle or another. Don't add or be the cause of it.
ReplyDeleteShe mentioned specific members of her family and sought their forgiveness. But that's asking too much of them.
The economy is tough and getting tougher. There are no answers anywhere. But it won't go on forever. It must change for the better. We need to keep maintaining a strong mental fortitude for as long as it takes.
What if she unlife herself by herself?
ReplyDeleteThis morning in my area a father broke his son hand, just because the boy said he's hungry. We are all surprised about the whole thing, like that man is the most caring father I have known. He always put the children first.
People are going through a lot.
Hmmmm, broke his son's hand because he said he's hungry. I'm sorry to laugh 😂 but it's funny in a way. I feel bad for the son too.😥
DeleteWhat kind of frustration will make a father break his child's hand because the child is hungry? It is well oh.
Sorry for the laughter tho
Too bad! I feel for the boy. He only asked for food but got his hand broken in return. Nigeria is really happening to many of us. It's well oo.
DeleteThere is nothing 'funny' about this.
Delete'Nothing'
Check yourself men.tally.
Peoole like you will be giggling during burials.
Si.ck.os
What if she was killed? Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteAnother angle
DeleteSuicide is selfish Anger
ReplyDeleteSuicide is not selfish anger, it is a mental illness. Do it speak on what you don’t understand. Pray and have compassion for those that feel so helpless and hopeless that they think death is better than trying. I have spent time with a suicidal person and I was humbled by that experience and the torture they go through.
DeleteSuicide is extreme and utter hopelessness for most ppl who go that route. Be kind to ppl, and show empathy. Sometimes one kind word is enough to turn someone’s day around.
DeleteI have been thinking about what painful and seeming hopelessness that drove this young lady to do this.😭
ReplyDeletePeople are going through a lot quietly, talk about and be shamed by the same people that will reprimand you for keeping quiet 😔 this life no just balance.
ReplyDeleteIt's a very sad situation. I pray her soul finds rest.
ReplyDeleteThere are voices that make people do this, demons to be precise. It is not always ordinary. A family friend, her daughter just graduated with first class in engineering, 1st class oh. The week she was to come back home, she said a voice told her to drink sniper, and she did.
ReplyDeleteIt was the mercy of God that saved her. She was discovered in time and rushed to the hospital. I saw her last week, very beautiful and sound girl oh.
We all need to fortify our minds with THE WORD OF GOD in order to silence those voices that magnify failures and mistakes making them seem insurmountable. There is nothing new under the sun. There is nothing the eyes see that will make it cry blood. CALM DOWN.
..casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of Christ, and putting into subjection every thought to the obedience of Christ..
Very powerful scripture. Consciously cast down negative thoughts/ voices/ notions/ imaginations. Create your positive pictures.
LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE OF LIFE. WHAT IF EVERYTHING TURNS OUT ALRIGHT 🤷♀️🤷♀️.
It is well, may God comfort the bereaved. So painful.
GOD bless you
Delete💞
DeleteMama nnuku!!! It has been long I heard that name o. Wetin happen?
ReplyDeleteSuicide is never the option! To think that she complained how bad the economy is ,that she can't cope and what not,yet she was working in a bank..what of those who doesn't work but still hopeful? She's just a selfish person..the suicide note she left was full of complains..leaving her family to bear so much pain ! God abeg oh
ReplyDeleteThat's what I asked myself too but remember she's a marketer and they're given targets to meet up. And it's also possible she's the bread winner or training her younger ones. We can't tell and life can be very though for some people.
DeleteNo Paris dear..It takes a whole lot to be strong especially in Nigeria..Nobody has it easy...She was in deep pain and a dark tunnel.... We don't know the full details of what she went through cause even that suicide note may not be all she complained about...It is just unfortunate it turned out this away..Let just pray for her soul...
DeleteHonestly!
DeleteShe is not just selfish but greedy. She still get papa,Mama
and siblings too...
While some of us no get
Mtchewwwwwww 😡
You have no idea the type of target they give staff in banks and if you don't meet your target, no salary. It's enough for someone to commit suicide. It was God that helped me when I was working in a bank, imagine a target of 100 million every month, who I know wey go give me that kind money... I simply walked away before I kill myself, my salary was withheld three consecutive months because I couldn't meet the target and I refused to compromise my values. I quietly stopped going to work when I ran out of transport fare.
DeleteMay her soul find eternal rest.
@ Paris, please show empathy because you don't really know what she was passing through. I'm not saying that suicide is the best option, but you really can't say till you walk in that kind of shoe. I was once a marketer but ran for my dear life after 5 months because I became depressed and suicidal. Not for lack as I wasn't lacking anything, but the psychological, emotional and mental stress I was facing at work.
DeleteI sent a mail to Stella, even though I didn't know her but I felt she was the only person I could talk to but I guess all the scam and sob mails she receives made her very careful, which I didn't blame her.
Eventually, it was my nephew that noticed it and informed my family and they helped me get over that phase.
Working in a bank means nothing these days unless you are at the top. Nanny and driving jobs pay more than many office/white collar jobs with accomodation, feeding, and other perks included if you get a good employer. Many bank marketers are now hired through third party companies as contract staff. I know someone that got the job with the bank that starts with 'S', salary was 20k/month and you sort out your own transport to go and look for customers to meet the high monthly target. The person walked under sun tire to save on fare. If you don't meet your target, they sack you after 3 months.
DeleteI have thought of commiting suicide a thousand times in the last 6 months, started having these thoughts last year.
ReplyDeleteThings ain't going well for me, I have been teaching for 6 years now, started immediately after service year, I have applied for other jobs but nothing is forthcoming, tried 2 businesses but they failed woefully. I have a brother who is a drug addict, I have a father who sleeps with anything under skirts, my parents have been divorced since I was 4.
It feels nothing is working for me, I'll be 30 I. Some few months, no good job, no money, managing my life, a disfunctional family, no boyfriend and no friends.
God please help me, I have been holding on because of my mum, my death will shatter her and I know she won't survive it.
God please help me.
I think the Bible said there is no food for a lazy man, here I am not lazy, ready to work for my food but there are no employer wants to hire me.
Getting a good job will be a start for me, I have a 2:1 in international relations and a master's degree (I know how I starved to pay for this just so I can have a good prospect of getting a good job.
Sdk and bv's please help me, all I want is a job that pays well so I can take my brother to rehab and take care of my mum too. My father is on his own
Your Dad needs therapy too so don’t cast him away.
DeleteHe is obviously sick and needs help.
Wow! Great qualifications.. I tell you what, can you do voluntary job with a good charity that advocates for UN SDG.. Be applying for international opportunities. Check UN and their voluntary jobs.. Check other voluntary jobs that can take you to one of the African counties with travel cost paid for. They won’t pay you salary, but it is a stepping stone. We will be fine. Just trust God
DeletePls don't harm yourself, it is well with you. 🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteIt is this lack of jobs in Nigeria that is our major problem honestly cos not all of us are business-minded, some of us just want a good-paying job where we can put in our best and progress.
May God come through for you and all of us seeking employment 🙏
Ehugs to you..You are indeed a strong woman and I know you will pull through..What course did you study in school? You need to make friends and a support system to ease the burden on you ..I will advise if you can join Linkedin and network with people who are in position you want to be in...Trust me help will come your way..Don't cage yourself, people are going through a lot but speak and talk...A closed mouth is a closed destiny...Check your CV..is it tailored to attract and make employers call you for an interview? This and many more...
DeleteHang in there, Friend...2024 is your year of redemption.
Can you reach Stella so I can get your contact through her and link you up to where you can get a job depending on your location? Other bvs with better job offers can assist her please. I wish this your plea came in December.
DeleteSet up account online and teach there
DeleteLook for his online to teach students in China etc
Anon 14:26 thank you very much. I'll reach out to her now.
DeleteI'll send my email and phone number. God bless you abundantly.
Phoenix I'm not the anon on your neck but seriously read to understand and not always rushing to type.
DeleteNa wetin dey make those ofofos dey yab you steady.
She clearly said she studied International Relations and has a Masters degree.
The dad chasing skirts upandan also needs therapy abi? And that should also be the poster's responsibility abi? Imagine how different things could be if the man could invest all the time, energy and resources he does in chasing skirts into his family? At least he is satisfying himself not caring about his family.
DeleteI nearly did this last December when the only family I was living with gave me two weeks to leave their house here in Abuja, knowing that I don't have anybody here. Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteI even later posted how God came through for me and how I was looking for any bv that wanted to sale any fairly used house items like mattress and pot at cheaper price for me to buy but Stella didn't enabled my comment.
God sent angel to gift me money to pay for single room in Dutse. At least I have a roof over my head, laying my clothes on the floor to sleep is least of my worry now.
how much b the single room for that dutse? you fit still tell me how much self con b 2 make i see weda i fit come dat side.tanks
DeleteAnonymous 14:44
DeleteI paid 90k then 10k for agent. They said if not that am in a hurry, I would have seen lesser price own
13:45 and I just left Abuja. I sold a ton of things at rock bottom prices.
DeleteI would have given you at less to nothing.
It's well with you.
Dutse will favour you and everything you need will be supplied in abundance.
Watch how all them Evil bullies go come here now with the same Evil fingers they have been using to bully the ones that speak up to Yan dust about speaking up with same fingers.😁😁🥴🥴🤒
ReplyDeleteSuicide is not an opition,pls take things easy
ReplyDeleteAnd if this is don by human,thoo,its left for him and God
God almighty pls save your children. It's not only poverty that makes people commit suicide rich people also do. Some comments hurts me so bad. But they're all anonymous how can one help them. God please come through for your children
ReplyDeleteSuicide has never been an option for me yes I am going through a lot in my life,family,business also but i have hope in God that he would never put me to shame.
ReplyDeleteShe is so young. God please have mercy. May her soul rest in peace amen.
ReplyDeleteSuicide is not for the weak it is for the strong hearted. I know the plenty times that I have thought about giving up but there's no painless way to exit this world.
ReplyDeleteExactly! it is for the strong hearted. I have contemplated it sometimes, and really, there is no painless way to exit this world. I am an only child with an aged mother. I lost 4 of my siblings including my father in the space of 9years. If I commit suicide, my mother will surely die from the news. so we are both just holding on and trusting God for good things to happen to us.
Delete5 deaths within 9 years? Jesus ooooo, that is a lot to bear.
DeleteMay God who is the almighty come through for you and your mum.
Thank God we don't look like what we pass through or even passing through at the moment.
ReplyDeleteMost times, family can be our greatest undoing because of our soft spot for them.
Just look at the suicide note, you could tell she was tired of trying to live up to family expectations.
It's well😔
Have I been suicidal? Yes.
ReplyDeleteIt took the intervention of a dear friend I met through this platform and I'm eternally grateful to her, she saw my status and kept calling, praying and giving me reasons to live for despite the fact that we were in different states.
Why was I suicidal?
I was diagnosed with an illness that had no medical cute but I'm better now.
Lately it's not been easy on me, first son, so much responsibility, dad is a civil servant but down with diabetes and HBP, I have an uncompleted project (4 bedroom flat for my parents presently at window level) due to lack of finance, the home they are living rent is almost due, my own rent is almost due too, one of my siblings is due to sit for waec and I learnt registration is closing on 22nd and I have not paid, school fees for my other siblings will soon be due so many things and things but I can't think of suicide again because I'll be putting them in more pains especially my dad.... I can't write more than this......
May God in his infinity Mercy provide for all first borns, amen.
Amen! May God come true for you
DeleteHi Stella and bvs. I'm not a very good writer but I'll try to put my thoughts down. There is nothing worse than being a young, driven ambitious man but jobless. I had a job as a manager in a firm in Lekki for almost 2 years before the economic downturn happened and I was laid off. I had sunk a huge portion of my savings into a business that has gone belly up. I had to even borrow money from those money lending apps. I've decided to go back into the tech space and Im doing a cloud certification course. How I'll pay for it is still a mystery and worse of my laptop's motherboard just went bad . Meaning I'll need to get a new one.Honestly most days when I sleep I pray/hope I don't wake up because I'm an introvert and the thought of reaching out to people I know personally for loans/help feels me with dread. When I read Amarachi's story I heard a voice telling me to stop being a coward and just follow her example and drink sniper . Please I don't want to hurt myself but I don't know what else to do.
ReplyDeleteDon't give up! There is light at the end of the tunnel
DeleteGod didn't say there will be no pain. What matters is how you handle the adversity. It is only God's word that can give you peace of mind even in the storm . You can't find peace anywhere during your time of adversity , no matter how hard you try to give yourself peace except you have the word of God hidden in your heart. Read the bible and discover peace there-in. Remember, for you to become gold, you must be refined in the fire. If you loose faith in God during trying times God may not come true because you don't actually believe he can do it because of the delay
DeleteI nearly did this 2021. I had multiple fibroids, heavy bleeding, protruding stomach and emaciated. Then my mother connived with my younger brother to beat me up twice. I remember seeing the rat poison but when I made up my mind to take it, I couldn't find it, I turned everywhere upside down looking for it. After the second beating, I was so scared for my life and hardly sleep at night. One day with tears in my eyes, I cried out to God and then praised Him in my pain and tears, I danced and sang His praise and declare that all things will work together for my God. Barely two weeks later, My God showed up in a way that I haven't recovered from. A successful fibroid procedure, financial stability and joy and peace that knew no bounds. God can be trusted, He will come through for everyone going through tough times.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have left that mother and son destiny killer combo behind , move out and move on
DeleteParents that encourage their sons to beat their sisters are breeding future wife beaters.
DeleteThe lady is a friend to one of my good friends. Infact she was one of her bridesmaids. I reached out to my friend to ask what happened, apparently she is bipolar. Its so so sad. RIP Anarchist.
ReplyDeleteI meant RIP Amarachi
DeleteThis is my current situation. I feel so depressed and overwhelmed by everything around me. I've been an advent reader of sdk blog but I got lost due to life's pressures.
ReplyDeleteI am a single mother of three beautiful daughters. I live only for them but right now it seems I'm not even doing enough. I am a hairstylist but I had to take up the job of a cleaner when my salon got demolished years ago. And ever since,it has been difficult surviving, providing and caring for my girls. It has been from one travails after another. I lost a lot of money last year. I was scammed twice of all my savings and of the money I had to borrow just to start up a new business.
I'm currently in a lot of debts. Loan sharks are dragging and threatening me here and there
My landlord has threatened to throw me out of I don't pay up my rent.
I'm currently six months overdue.
I've tried getting help but no one is willing to help me as they feel that I'm well to do.
I'm tired.
The only thread keeping me alive is the thought of my daughters and mother.
I've considered a lot of things even prostitution if it'll help me out of my current dilemma.
I need peace.
I've forgotten what it feels like to be happy.
I'm not a lazy person.
I've tried getting a support system in form of a companion but the fact that I am a single mother drives them away from me.
I hear my mother's prayers for me and I weep because little does she know how thin my life is right now.
They say it's only a phase that will pass soon.
But my soul has grown weary and I've lost my will and strength to continue.
Ask GOD to renew you afresh and speak in tongues in midnight prayer and dance like no mans business
DeletePlease hang in there. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
DeleteToo much tears. :( :(
ReplyDeleteI was sure it was that night, so through out the day, I kept crying that all this people staring at me in tears, dont care or dont know that I would be gone for good. The story long :(:(
Rest in Peace Younger One.
Why circulate this pic? She had mental issues..... Nigerians need to speak up and understand that many people have mental health issues!!!!
ReplyDeleteThat is what I first thought of. The pertain who uploaded this picture to social media needs to face consequences.
DeleteHmm. Suicide. A terrible place to be in is the suicidal stage. Nothing makes sense to you. It's not about financial situation alone. You may have money but lack Joy.
ReplyDeleteAs a student, I was suicidal in 2015. I was just not in a good space mentally. The very day I had carried a knife to slash my wrist. A pal from school called. He it was who spoke to me. This was someone others won't expect to counsel properly. God used his voice. When others returned from work in the evening, I was bubbly and my usual fun self. No one had an idea I was suicidal.
Presently, graduated since 2018 yet to serve. I feel stuck in my life. Nothing seems to be working. The moment I start planning to go clear my result and proceed to serve something happens and I can't gather money together. I've been working since 2018 till now yet I don't have savings. Heavily indebted, have a child to cater for. Have aging parents to care for. People think it have money because I try to stay positive but I'm not okay. I don't have anyone to voice out to. People think you want to beg. Others laugh and make jest. Humans can be terrible at times. Someone used my child to taunt me. He volunteered to fix her in school. I refused yet he insisted. After sending the details, he wanted xes. I refused. Before you, there was God. After you God remains. It is well.
It's not everyone that's business savvy but the situation is forcing hands. Working without salary. Enduring although it seems it's getting worse.
I console myself because it could be worse.
I detest people who offer sex for help. They are devils.
DeleteGod have mercy.
ReplyDeleteI can't even judge her. People react to things differently.. Nigeria has kept people in a place where you can expect the worst out of them.
ReplyDeleteNothing, I repeat nothing in this life can make me think of suicide again, I had gone through many tough things in life right from my childhood and I'm still going through some stuff which I know it's a phase and will soon pass.
ReplyDeleteI'm motivational speaker of myself, I don't need anybody to motivate me, I cut off toxic people in my life no matter who you are or how close you are to me, I stand up for myself whenever someone tries to bully or intimidate me.
I believe in this life, nothing is guaranteed except death, so anything I don't have, I manage to live with it and don't allow anybody to make me feel sad on something I don't have power over.
Cutting toxic people away is very important in maintaining mental health and in your overall well-being in life. It helps push the narrative in your head from negative to positive and fuels a more 'can do' attitude that can push you further in life. I am a God person so I will always encourage people to hold on to God.
DeleteHmmm I only thought of suicide once in my life but the thought of my kids and putting the kind person that house us in trouble made me snapped out of it. I take life as it comes everyday, get worried and still snapped out if it. Economy is harsh I pray to God to cont to sort us out.
ReplyDeleteHmmm I only thought of suicide once in my life but the thought of my kids and putting the kind person that house us in trouble made me snapped out of it. I take life as it comes everyday, get worried and still snapped out if it. Economy is harsh I pray to God to cont to sort us out.
ReplyDeleteContract Staff! what people don't know is that a lot of this banks no longer employ full staff, what they now do is to contract it out and this contract staffers are paid peanuts. There's no way she'll be a full staff of a bank and wrote what she wrote in that note, because as a full staff there's promotion from time to time if you work hard, the govt should look into this contract staff thing in Nigerian banks.
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is horrible. Some banks promise to convert them to full staffers after four or five years. And then proceed to do everything possible to legally fire them when that time starts approaching. It is the worst horror of capitalism.
DeleteCorporate organisations too
DeleteMost banks have only 4 - 5 staff the rests are contract.
DeleteMao Akuh
I’m not sure this is related to her reasons but most female bank managers in Nigerian commercial banks are monsters. They are an absolute horror to work with, especially in their ill treatment of female marketing subordinates. Marketing in commercial banks in Nigeria is a thankless job. Unrealistic targets, vendetta, meanness, gosh! It took me a minute to overcome the emotional trauma after I left the bank. I went through therapy once I left Nigeria a few years ago. Funny enough some of the perpetrators tried to keep in touch , I blocked everyone on every medium , for my own sanity and to move on. May her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteGood you blocked their asses
DeleteThis just seemed as if I wrote it because it was same thing with me. My business manager was a monster that started bullying me because I refused to compromise my virtue for a business that wasn't even mine. Most bank marketing managers are evil.
DeleteSuicide is never an option for some and it is for some. There are some kind of situations you will find yourself that would make you think that this life is meaningless and cruel. Life happens to me in 2018 when I lost my Most beloved in this world and hereafter (My lovely Mum). I couldn't help but to think of suicide.i was was also stagnant in life then, no child in marriage, no job, no money and no everything. My only supporting system was my mum and she died in cold blood. Hmmmmmm I died and woke up.
ReplyDeleteIf I can right about my life experience within this my 3 decades on earth, It's enough to publish a book. Growing up was tough for me 😭 but I thank God for who I am today, I am not where I wish to be but certainly I am better than who I was. I strongly believe that with time I will be fine.
People are passing through a lot, some get it easy, some of us are not. In all I still praise God for the gift of life and good health. May God ease our affairs and cleans our hearts from any forms of pain that will make us think of suicide.
I felt for her and her family right now, it's not okay at all.
ReplyDeleteHopefully govt will do something about Adhoc/contract staff, this is my third year in a federal institution with 30k salary, it doesn't only affect you financially but mentally
Most superiors in the banks are heartless
ReplyDeleteI wish I can share my sisters experience working in some banks. They must have frustrated her
The most complex B