The story goes thus
''An Egbon got married when he started work at First Bank . His wife was doing her nursing rounds at Nursing School PH . Everything financial was on this man . When she finished , she had twins . God was merciful and he got promoted .
Somehow , SPDC came calling . Took the opportunity and they moved from Rumuola to Shell RA . They got a maid and this Egbon drops the kids at school on his way to work .
His wife said she didn’t want to work and he opened up a business for her at Okporo .
All the money used was from his single salary at Shell . This man talked about it for a while how she didn’t even bother bringing anything home and she retorted that he was a Shell worker and he shouldn’t have married her if he couldn’t take care of her
This Egbon never forgot those words . Man built 2 houses and acquired properties and his wife didn’t know anything about it. He was virtually funding her business . Holidays ? On him . Everything ( according to him and corroborated by her )
The marriage was never the same . This was someone who he made sure had no issues finishing school and still set up to earn when she said she didn’t want to work. Baba left SPDC in 2018 . 3 months later , he filed for divorce .
When he was asked , he said he had been living with a woman who saw him as a ticket and not a partner . It didn’t make sense to me since they always looked like a decent couple in church . They got divorced in 2019 . He said so many things that she couldn’t deny
I know a lot of you always talk about domestic Labour but let’s start being honest about our dynamics and why some actions make no sense . You can’t ask men to do better in being productive in the home and yet refuse to help balance out elsewhere. It’s a sin
We all know men who do a good share of domestic work . We all know women who contribute. We firmly know that they are both in the minority . We want to see a good spread across genders . You cannot ask for a change without refusing to change too
And let us stop using childbirth as an excuse . If you want to be paid for childbirth, please go and be a donor / surrogacy provider . We can all acknowledge the insanity of childbirth without weaponizing it as a gotcha moment when talking about contributory issues''.
''An Egbon got married when he started work at First Bank . His wife was doing her nursing rounds at Nursing School PH . Everything financial was on this man . When she finished , she had twins . God was merciful and he got promoted .
Somehow , SPDC came calling . Took the opportunity and they moved from Rumuola to Shell RA . They got a maid and this Egbon drops the kids at school on his way to work .
His wife said she didn’t want to work and he opened up a business for her at Okporo .
All the money used was from his single salary at Shell . This man talked about it for a while how she didn’t even bother bringing anything home and she retorted that he was a Shell worker and he shouldn’t have married her if he couldn’t take care of her
This Egbon never forgot those words . Man built 2 houses and acquired properties and his wife didn’t know anything about it. He was virtually funding her business . Holidays ? On him . Everything ( according to him and corroborated by her )
The marriage was never the same . This was someone who he made sure had no issues finishing school and still set up to earn when she said she didn’t want to work. Baba left SPDC in 2018 . 3 months later , he filed for divorce .
When he was asked , he said he had been living with a woman who saw him as a ticket and not a partner . It didn’t make sense to me since they always looked like a decent couple in church . They got divorced in 2019 . He said so many things that she couldn’t deny
I know a lot of you always talk about domestic Labour but let’s start being honest about our dynamics and why some actions make no sense . You can’t ask men to do better in being productive in the home and yet refuse to help balance out elsewhere. It’s a sin
We all know men who do a good share of domestic work . We all know women who contribute. We firmly know that they are both in the minority . We want to see a good spread across genders . You cannot ask for a change without refusing to change too
And let us stop using childbirth as an excuse . If you want to be paid for childbirth, please go and be a donor / surrogacy provider . We can all acknowledge the insanity of childbirth without weaponizing it as a gotcha moment when talking about contributory issues''.
This table wey dem wan shake so🤐.
ReplyDeleteThe man made the most foolish decision by divorcing her..I guess he has another woman outside urging him to leave his marriage and marry her..
DeleteHe will marry another woman,share bills with her and still pay child support for his children from the previous marriage..Add the child support and the half he is providing in his second marriage and it may be more than what he was providing in his first marriage..
And another thing is that once u divorce the first one,there are many chances u will keep divorcing..bcos there must be another reason to leave the second marriage..
Once a divorcee,always a divorcre..
No he didn’t make any mistake.Money is obviously the only important thing in your life that’s why you ranted about it..hel be able to sleep better and enjoy his life knowing that he’s not being used by his wife anymore
DeleteI don't understand, does she has the money without wanting to support?
ReplyDeleteThe husband got properties in his name not hers..
She is wrong for not working and be productive to herself too..
Before sending her to school, didn't then have a conversation about it?
Doesn't she take care of the house and family?
What happened to the business? Is it not growing? Hmmm
It takes two to tango!! Though we may not have all the full details of the story like if he has tried to convince her or teach her about collaboration and team work but she was just stuck in her ways...Probably ran out of options..
ReplyDeleteIn all, a kind person is key for any relationship to be sustained and going by this story, the woman was not kind at all, self-centered, not ready to compromise or sacrifice, I perceive stinginess too...
It is sad it ended in grudges, pain and bitterness...The better for them to be divorced..
Reminds me of that chronicle about a very wasteful wife that also had twins. I hope we get an update that she has improved. Gender roles in the family are officially blending in oh, men assist more in the home and women contribute more financially, we all need to move with the times.
DeleteNa this kain post women no dey like.🤭
ReplyDeletePerson go laff taya on comments today.
The man eye don dey outside before,which kind of flimsy excuse be that,after the twins you got promoted,did you talk to her to help and she refused to contribute, communication is everything in marriage, assumption kills faster than anything....Change is the only constant thing in life,there would have been room for her to change instead of this divorce,I pity those lovely twins,the trauma children go through cos of divorce is so devastating............ Josaria
ReplyDeleteSome of you will one way or the other still find ways to blame the man.
DeleteWhat hasn’t he done for her? He trained her. She said she didn’t want to work and he set up a business for her.
Why must the man shoulder all the responsibilities?
She is a very selfish and self centered woman and I am. Stop encouraging bad behavior.
It's not a flimsy excuse! He complained about it and she refused to change. She is selfish. There are some things that someone would do or ay to you and you will just be bidding your time to retaliate
DeletePlease let’s learn to call a spade a spade. This is not a flimsy excuse, how can she say he shouldn’t have married her if he can’t afford to take care of her when he put her through school and still opened a business for her. What’s now so difficult in supporting the house financially?? She’s just a very selfish and self centered person and I do not blame the husband one bit.
DeleteWomen will,in the face of obvious truth,lie and defend nonsense because that’s exactly what most of them will do.They always want lifestyles they can’t afford for themselves.Thats why we have very few trailblazing women because a lot of us would rather be in one billionaires house collecting monthly stipends instead of pursuing our dreams.
DeleteSo common sense do not tell the woman that she should try to show value to the man..
DeleteWell, many of 'you people' lack it..
Even though someone is ok and all, how comfortable do you feel to be always collecting without adding value back somehow.. haba..
Don't you have shame
When two selfless people who are in love with each other, get married, they wouldn't be having issues like this.
ReplyDeleteIt's mostly in Port Harcourt, extremely lazy set of women.
ReplyDeleteNa lesbianism be d tin wen dem know pass
Shots fired👀
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DeleteExactly. His eyes were outside..imagine my man divorcing me cos I don't wanna work. My man like me working tbh, he likes a woman with ambition, but will it be a reason for him to leave me? I don't think so, but honestly it may happen. Communication is key. He should have advised her well before he choose to switch off.
ReplyDeleteProudly feminist indeed, why should your man not divorce you because you don't want to work. Your man should kill himself because he got married to you? What a rhetoric and stupid questions
DeleteI don't know such women 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteUna plenty for ph. Lazy housewives
DeleteIf he was able to acquire two houses and properties on his income alone while supporting his household then he did not actually need any help, but only an appearance of help. She could have taken on payments of two bills or cover the food costs, that would not be unreasonable.
ReplyDeleteFood costs should NEVER BE BORNE BY ANY WOMAN
DeleteAbeg, it's a lie. Man is most likely dating another woman outside. He us just using this as excuse because he knows people including her fellow women who are envious that she hasn't been working will bash her.
ReplyDeleteWhy won’t it be a lie as it concerns your gender 🧐
DeleteSome of you are badly behaved and when the men react, you do and say all manner of trash.
If you like, don’t learn o.
Could be too. When ppl do wrong they look for an excuse. He was not struggling financially based on the story🤷🏽♀️
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DeleteResentment and lack of understanding killed the marriage . He wasn't struggling , there are men who are resentful of women having an easy life because they saw their mothers labour
If this is true. As in she has a privilege to met a supportive partner, and she doesn't wants to put in effort.
ReplyDeleteNot all slay queens are domestic wife material .
Know what you want and go for it so you don't have to regret or blame anybody .
Typical Naija wife. Open a business for her, you fund it monthly or yearly. She is working in paid employment, you give her lunch and transport fare. On top of that, you buy her cheap things like monthly pant liners because it is only you who enjoys intimate times. What ever she earns is hers to keep for herself or if she is benevolent, for her spiritual Daddy/Mummy and if left for her biological parents.
ReplyDeleteThe typical Nigerian woman is very unwilling to contribute financially in keeping her marital family. She does so by how-for-do after going to any length to shame the man. And when she does, the man sees pro max shege at her hands actively or subtly until he dies.
Yes, there are exceptional Naija women. But that's who they are - exceptional.
The reason they don't like to contribute is because nigerian men don't do anything chores ir child care!
DeleteA S!MP finally saw the Light
ReplyDeleteWe call them Shell wives. That's their stock in trade.
ReplyDeleteFor me it doesn't make sense divorcing her, he just had this mentality that women in marriage must also bring something to the table. The woman obviously left the job because she knows the man is capable of footing the bills alone. If he really loves her divorce won't have been an option, all he needs to do is keep investing the money he would have used to support her and watch the money grows rather than waste it knowing she doesn't want to work.
ReplyDeleteI'll bet she didn't want to work because the man does nothing in the home
DeleteGuys that work with Shell PH… their thinking is warped. Very arrogant set of people. See this one… if you like buy the whole world in your name, only God know tomorrow. How sure are you that you will be alive to enjoy whatever? How sure are you that one Govt policy will not render you a poor man? They can demolish your property, render your savings useless…that woman may start a patent medicine business and overtake you. You don retire oh! Look at the lives of other shell retirees and advise yourself. Mschew
ReplyDeleteYou sound so bitter.
DeleteSluttychic.
You sabi them wella. Na so dem be. I didn't even want to comment till I read your comment. Na dem Sabi abeg. When he is ready, he will say why he really divorced her.
DeleteAnon 19:24, if that successful young man came for your hand in marriage, you would forget all these things you typed.
DeleteIts you that will even go and throw out the first wife's things out of the house.
Una go just dey pretend on social media
Guy man eye dey outside before nah.
ReplyDeleteMen don’t want to eat healthy, give up alcohol or not smoke. Very few want to even exercise regularly, all while they fck down the world and expect that their bodies won’t go against them.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a good enough reason for the man to divorce his wife. Don’t believe everything you read online. There must be another reason. After all, a lot of women find themselves in the same situation - being the breadwinner of the family, when the husband has refused to work, or refuses to take care of the family. Women fall more victim to this situation than men. Let’s call a spade a spade.
ReplyDeleteThere is no wickedness in what he said. There are always what ifs in live especially when you and treating someone right. Anyways, I don’t believe this story. Not contributing is not the reason for the divorce.
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