Nigerian Netizens are bashing her for this advice...
In her words:
"Do not marry young, I'm saying ideally- okay if my daughter came and approached me that she was ready to get married, if my daughter approaches me, as long as she's not I swear to God, not up to 28,we can rock with it. Anything below 28,please no.
Because you're going to change your mind and you don't know all of who you are at 20-something.Dont get me wrong, there are people who are mature oh. But you need to try different things in life, different experiences, to be sure of okay, I want to be stuck here, because it ts handcuff you're there.Because you're stuck- that's the social idea.
Unless you're westernized like me, then you're unstuck, you can unstuck yourself.
I'm divorced. The ones that are enjoying now, it will probably still reach a time where they'll probably hate each of other and still have to be in the same space.I'm telling you!.
Why do you think to say them get madam room and oga room? When the ground is shaking and I need space, I need space. Be in your room, I'll be in my room. To me, an ideal Marriage, my husband would have a wonderful house here, and mine would be over here, and there would be magnificent corridors connecting the two houses".
Why do you think to say them get madam room and oga room? When the ground is shaking and I need space, I need space. Be in your room, I'll be in my room. To me, an ideal Marriage, my husband would have a wonderful house here, and mine would be over here, and there would be magnificent corridors connecting the two houses".
IN an interview with Tacha on Cool FM's Big Friday
She's right..
ReplyDeleteShe is right. I keep imagining what would have become of me now if I married earlier because I love the fact that I have learnt and unlearnt many things about life in this my singlehood,lol, and I know I wouldn't have had the opportunity to learn these life lessons if I was married before now.
DeleteI couldn't agree more
ReplyDeleteSociety tries to stampede young naive and ignorant immature girls into marriage to please a toxic and destructive patriarchy
DeleteYou people are making this marriage of thing looking like a war zone. Na wah!!😯😎
ReplyDeleteEveryday here,' marry! marry!! marry!!.... Everyone has turned to marriage counselor .
ReplyDeleteThat's her opinion though.
Maturity has nothing to do with age.
I have seen 16 years old that acts and reason more than those in their 30's.
Here grown adults above 21, even in 30's still see themselves as kids.
The truth is that we are different with a lot of preferences. What you want and deem fine, may not be for another. Just be sure you're ready in a lot of aspects before settling with a partner in marriage cos it's a lot of work but it's really worth it!
ReplyDeleteThe day we stop using our clock to time other people, the better for us, marriage and proposal has no formula, do what works for you and let others do what works for them.
DeleteWhatever makes you sleep well at night Venita.
ReplyDeleteVenita this your advice no follow at all.
ReplyDeleteage is just a number... maturity in handling situations is what matters
ReplyDeleteLol... everyone with there wn opinion but that seperate Mummy and Daddy room it's a NoNo. Malice keeping for a long time will be tolerated
ReplyDeleteSeparate room is harmless. It's only when una no get enough space you will be talking a no no talk. So if you build house or you rented a duplex, then you and your hubby will squeeze yourself in one room because you want to maintain closeness? Akuko
DeleteSome of you talk very stupidly and always try to bring down other people with your supposed rich but very unexposed mentality ,
DeleteLeave her and her preference if she feels like separate bedroom is a No No so be it !!!!
A lot of people don’t like separate bedrooms and they live in mansions so rid yourself of this silliness @17:50 .
You are poor that's why you will vomit your rubbish 20:44
DeleteEveryone with their destinations
ReplyDeleteMy mum married @17 ,..marriage is over 40 now,how about it Venita?
ReplyDeleteShe's not referring to that generation. 9/10 ladies I know who married in their early to mid 20s is regretful. From your father's house to another man's. No independence experience.
DeleteThis living apart but married ideology is growing in popularity.
Your mummy's time is different from this age, abi did you also marry at the age of 17?
Delete28 is still young at least from 30 years and above lol
ReplyDeleteArmies worldwide accept women at 18. It is pure infantilism to say that a 28 year old woman can't handle marriage. If not for prevailing societal constraints, an 18 year old woman should be primed and ready to run her home.
DeleteHowever, biology and intellectual maturity don't always align so your argument may hold.
I have a stated preference for women more advanced in age sha. I find that the older a woman is, the sweeter her wine. Sensible women have a unique ability to distill experiences in a way that makes them better partners.
She is so right.
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ReplyDeleteIf you feel you are matured enough and ready then you get married
Shade her all you want, she has a point. It's not a one size fits all, but majority of the time, this is it
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteWhether you marry at 20, 25, 28 even 40, if you marry a senseless or unkind person, the marriage will still crash. Marriage is a beautiful thing when you marry for the right reasons, marry a kind partner and are committed to making it work. So, you all should dead this stupid idea of you have to be married at an older age to make it work.
ReplyDeleteSultry
Hmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's well oo
These days I just get easily pissed off by my guy...And we are preparing on tieing the knot in April....we had our introduction last week. It's as if I am just beginning to see his super annoying side and I am begining to question my decision on settling down with him. For example he sent me a link last week for a front line desk post In his company and I actually did apply but forgot to check my Email(school work has been sooo hectic due to how short this term is...I am a School teacher presently) He called this morning and started shouting that they've written the exams and that I didn't apply, he was just shouting and shouting and in my head I was just blank...Like can you not just calm down and let's talk ,I even told him that he would have told me or reminded me about it since it's where he works and he was still shouting and saying that I am not serious. Omorrr I just ended the call because it was sooo annoying.....I had earlier on spoken to him about shouting in the early days of our relationship but now that marriage is close, I am feeling and seeing that it's getting worse
The shouting will not stop. From shouting, it will turn to a slap and then serious beatings. So it's either you marry him for who he is or end everything now. People never change.
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