IN SHOCK
A woman turned my husband to vegetable . My husband took our documents for the house we both built and handed it over to the woman to keep including our wedding certificate.
Someone alerted me about it ,I searched the box where we normally kept it and it was not there. So I kept my cool bcos he was on a sick bed . I prayed over it , then I asked him about it and he told me that he kept it somewhere.
Then I lied to him that someone wanted to send money to me to help her get a land property in Nasarawaj State and I needed the land documents to present to them. That will give them the peace of mind that their money is safe.
Immediately I said so he quickly went out and came with documents, he wants 1 percentage from the money and I agreed.
I took the papers and I kept it away from the house. No be me man go send back to village. Since that day he became gentle and behaves as if he loves me. Me wey no send, my kids is my priority. I Am still in shock.
Why would he take your marriage certificate to give her to hold?what was his intention?Your life might be in danger and i hope that you know that if you are killed, they wont need the papers? I also hope you know that papers can be sorted out at Oluwole? shine your eyes oh
A lot of people are married to their enemies sha. But how did u know he gave the documents to the woman to keep or is there a part of the story I skipped?
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DeleteHmmmmm wahala!
DeleteThis!
DeleteTrust is dead in that marriage. Something must have happened for him to make such move. May the best schemer win.
ReplyDeleteI think so too
Delete"": A woman turned your husband to vegetable, how?? Who is the woman?? Why would he sent those documents out including your marriage certificate??
ReplyDeleteDo you have issue with your husband!?
There is no smoke without fire, till i hear from your husband's side of story..
As you said that "you no send your husband again'. You didn't tell us what happened.
This is weird. Do not cease praying, whatever is hidden will come to light
ReplyDeleteYour husband turned himself to a vegetable.
ReplyDeleteLearn to make your men accountable for their actions.
They are not toddlers even though they behave like they are.
I just taya, vegetable ko, banga soup ni.
DeleteYep
DeleteThis chronicle is half baked
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly.
DeleteLicious babe
Exactly, who's the woman to him.
DeleteThis one no be marriage oooo
ReplyDeleteBV, something is just not right in your marriage, one of which is trust issue which is very critical. I pray that God intervene
ReplyDeleteI was waiting to read the part where the woman turned your husband to vegetable. Don't of you married women always shy away from facing your cheating husband.
ReplyDeleteMadam you chronicle is incomplete and makes no sense, next time you are uncomfortable with giving appropriate details, just keep ur story to urself.
ReplyDeleteBoth couples don't trust themselves... hmmm 🤔
ReplyDeleteWho is the woman? Perhaps a lawyer? Maybe a bank worker, who has access to safety deposit boxes?
ReplyDeleteWho is the person that alerted you to the documents being missing? How does an outsider know what's missing in your house, before you do?
This is an incomplete write-up!
Poster, you will come back and write a proper chronicle if you really need input on how to go about the challenges you have in your home.
ReplyDeleteWhere does one begin to dig?
Once a man has the audacity to date a lady to ur face without any respect, then that marriage is over, even if he stop, don't ever trust again and a woman start having a plan B...
ReplyDeleteWho to get money, property to live without him..
She said someone alerted her about the documents.
ReplyDeleteLet peace reign.
This chronicle is not complete, please poster come back and tell us how a woman turned your husband to vegetable!
ReplyDeleteDem give your husband better kpekus to the point wey him even carry him marriage certificate give dey woman. Chai! That kpekus must be really worth it. Some women really do gat it. OP abi no be so?
ReplyDeleteIt is good you caught wind of the matter on time. But I sense that you are more drawn to salvaging the material parts of your marriage. You didn't mention nothing about winning your husband back. I understand sha.
Any man wey play away match to the point wey him carry him wedding certificate dey dash side chick, na useless man. But OP does cold indifference really cut it? I mean I know men stray but how bad is it at home that he has to carry very important documents and keep in another woman's custody?
I don't understand. Why stay in a dead marriage? You aren't meeting his needs and he gets it from outside. He isn't meeting yours. So....why? Nothing is worse than staying in a dead marriage. Your husband is obviously planning his exit. I am sure you know that already. But if you people want to keep papering over the cracks instead of working on them that's just fine. This marriage died long ago.
Your husband is spiritually separated from you, probably already divorced. There is no marriage union here, just two ppl living together who made children. And now that all documents are out of the home that seals it all.
ReplyDeleteGo and speak with a lawyer at a legal aid clinic or through a charity if you cannot afford one.
Is this even a marriage? Living in suspicion, deceit, cold heartedness, revenge, lovelessness. Living like strangers all because of children. If it can't get back to the way it was, of what use. Material things damaging homes on a steady. Most marriages are purely transactional and immensely competitive. "Me", "me" "me".
ReplyDeleteAm the poster of this chronicles. I did nothing wrong but rather he thought he could sell the house without my permission bcos he is afraid that nemesis may caught up with him bcos of numerous atrocities. He knew I had the evidence of all his atrocities. And he thought that am planning to sue him to court over the sexual abuse of my daughter ( though no sex but he ask for it and my daughter decline) he could not face the shame. (2) he had habit of fingers young girls from our community and he thought the issue might come up. The mothers of those girls are very poor ( am sorry to say that) to pursue the matter. But they all told me what happened and I ask him but he denied. My husband has health issue so sexually he can't perform at all. But he will fingers those girls and give them money to keep quiet. I have evidence of everything, so he thought he can run away after selling the house. I kept all this secret to myself bcos of shame in the community and also to protect my kids from embarrassment. The person that alert me about the documents is a friend to the woman my husband gave the documents to. I read all your comments both good or bad and I say thank you for your concern. Am on top of the issue, am fine and not bothered by him bcos he can't do anything. I won't divorced him , he will divorced himself from my life at times goes on.
ReplyDeleteWhich type of vegetable did they turn your husband to? Na pounded yam them dey turn women to. Yeye
ReplyDeleteDear poster we need the full details of how the other woman turned your husband to vegetables
ReplyDeleteIncomplete story
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
This is way deeper than it looks. Be very vigilant.
ReplyDeleteThis story get as it be
ReplyDeletePoster we do not have the entire summary of the story as many have pointed out. Dear young ladies, stop getting married for the sake of a wedding party or for “marrying” sake. It just appears like there was never any actual relationship built on trust in this marriage as with many other chronicled marriages. Marriage and life is a long journey, not a sprint. The usual sequence when I was in my 20s was to start thinking of marriage after NYSC and a job but the world is now different. Even in the 90s, many graduates of both genders, did not get good jobs after NYSC. Some of us were blessed but many started hustling for contracts asking their wives to sell shoe and bag from England or the US which did not bring in steady income. That was the begining of the stereotype of the full time soft life Nigerian housewife, many of the moms of the current GenZs. They just did not find jobs as the economy had gone downhill since those years.
ReplyDeleteFocus on being the best version of who God made you. Pursue a career or a serious business. Our young adults should to make decisions they are “not likely” to regret in decades to come all things being equal. There is no “perfect information” as economists will say and Yorubas call marriage “selling market in the dark” or “Oja okunkun” because you are making a lifelong decision on the basis of imperfect information. Poster your write up does not even indicate there is any love (if there ever was) and it describes an obvious breakdown of trust. You both need to come clean, reevaluate the state of your union and decide on the way forward. I’m guessing you are still in your 40s or 40s, I may be wrong but are you going to remain in a union “for the children” the rest of your lives without trust or love?
No offense, but you sound a bit dramatic with the “vegetable” statement as his behavior after giving you the documents is not consistent with a man who has been turned into a “veggie” though you need to complete your narrative in a factual manner to get good counsel. May God give you the wisdom you need in Jesus name.
Huh it is complicated.
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