Hmmmmmm...
BEFORE YOU SAY I DO.....
This relationship is leading to something already, both parents visited, Oga is pushing that he want to settle down this year with me. All discussion lately has been you and I, our marriage plans but I am feeling that he is all set.
My fear is that he told me that his turn on is giving him head, we started dating officially last year but we met in 2020. We have not had s** yet but this talk of giving him head when we finally say I do.
I am not comfortable about it cos of the ugly stories how it affect the tongue or can cause some terrible illness. He also said he love to lick his woman’s plate well and that alone can make her cum without penetration.
I have told him I don’t like doing that, I don’t also like someone to lick my plate but he says those make it happy. He said not a regular thing but once in a while. Should I go ahead and forget about my fears? Is there anything I can do about it since that makes him happy.
If you are not comfortable about this then discuss with him before you venture into what will not work...Not that tomorrow now,he will want to do things that you dont want and your saying No will be a reason to have Ladies outside...if you are both differently s#xually orientated,then it will become a big problem...I saw a lady the other day with a big h#rpes sores on her mouth and my mind went immediately to the oral brouhaha
Remember that it is different strokes for different folks
Have discussion and please follow your instinct. Marriage is a hard business not to talk about not sexually compatible. Pray for guidance
ReplyDeletePoster,I don't know if this is enough reason to call off your plans with him. Can't you learn to compromise? I don't like giving head either,but I do it sometimes to please my husband. I don't like him licking me either cos I don't ever reach orgasm through it but I let him sometimes cos I know he likes it. Other times, I say no and we continue with our business. Sometimes,a little compromise goes a long way in life.
DeleteI dislike that head of a thing!
DeleteI can give you but no give me abeg
That thing can make me shy and uncomfortable eh!
Poster, don't make it sound too difficult. Marriage comes with a lot of compromise to make it work. I don't see this as a reason to call off your wedding. I started my marriage with no this, no that etc. Today I'm d one even craving for all of it. Now, I prefer Head to penetration because it's more thrilling and more intense. But i was very against it before.
DeleteDon't listen to anyone telling u to call off. This ur concern is not enough a good reason to.
This is a disaster waiting to happen. Abort mission.
ReplyDeleteTell him now o. Both of you need to be sexually compatible. Else he will go get his D gobbled up and lick tohtoh outside then use that mouth to kiss you.
ReplyDeleteExactly BB
DeletePoster relax!!! By the time they give u head and u reach heaven. U will not want to come back
ReplyDeleteI think what you should be worried about is wether he remains faithful to you seeing that he is used to being given head and you as a newbie may not give him head that will excite him initially
He has been having it before u met that’s why he is really into u doing it for him
Talk with him and let him know that u are willing to learn but that he should give you time since u are not a pro. He should teach u the ropes and help u navigate it
Tell him also that going out is a deal breaker for u because herpes has no cure oh. It can even lead to cancer
So thread cautiously and have that conversation
Zendaya
Of course, he has been having it for him to tell her he likes it. How is she even sure he has not been having it since they met considering she isn't currently sleeping with him and he likes it a lot? Is he going to be starving himself waiting for her till they marry before he goes to enjoy what he likes?
DeleteI think this poster guy and yesterday's poster girlfriend would fit each other.
That's if he does not have herpes already.
DeletePoster, you people should go for medical checkup to rule out herpes. You can't come and kill yourself because of another person's careless lifestyle.
DeleteIf you don't have money to to series of medical tests then look for those that uses a perfect working phantom machine to run over all tests on you . It may not cost you more than 1k
It's quantum machine not phantom.
DeleteThe good thing about this chronicle is that the man plans to give too, not receiving alone. I dont see a problem here sha, all you need to do is to compromise so long as both of you are exclusive.
ReplyDeleteWetin dey tie pipu to s3xually different orientated pipu?
ReplyDeleteMoney?
Desperation to marry before certain age?
Desperation to leave parents home.
Wetin?
D man go do am weda you like or not. With you or with woman who wants.
And nothing sweet wicked outside woman than she is giving a husband what his wife cannot give. Because she pocket the man by that forbidden giving.
You wan work make another woman dey collect the pay?
Stop whining.
DeleteIn this life ehnn, there is hardly perfection. Maybe he ticks her other boxes, but sometimes it is the little foxes that spoils the vines.
Delete@16:14
DeleteAre you as an unmarried person (male or female) holding a married man to your profit by giving him what his wife says is against her healthy living standard?
Clearly what pained you @16:14 is the mentioned outside woman otherwise the comment is not different from what majority of Bvs have commented.
DeleteApologies if you are an outside woman or you patronize/keep one.
Go lick your plate or have you spoon licked outside in peace.
you should relax cos i did not see any problem here, your man will give you and you give him too.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.... I won't even advice you to go ahead with this marriage if his sexuality styles is not your style too, alot of problem about this issue has lead to home wreakage.
ReplyDeleteI know of someone who left her marriage cos she said her husband can wake her up 4times at midnight for the do, so you can imagine the lack of compatibility. Have a heart to heart talk. Oral sex is ungodly.
Missionary is the only godly style,right? Dey play.
DeleteCan you explain why it is ungodly?
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣@ oral sex is ungodly. God did not give anyone a manual on appropriate sex acts or positions for marriage
DeleteAll you people know about is SEX SEX ! Nothing more. No self control! Perverse generation! Poster leave that ungodly man, he won't help your heavenly race o!! You people always pray for Godly men right? So tell me what is godly in this sex pervert
Deleteokay o, dont come back to cry that your husband is gay oo, someone looking for ways to avoid penetrative sec is gay. he is stylishly diverting your attention to just oral sex while he plans his penetrative with his likes outside. we know you will still marry him so enjoy your marriage
ReplyDeleteThese gays and their many deceitful ways to get straight women to marry them ehn. One day one day, just a matter of time
DeleteMeat wey you forbid to chop.
ReplyDeleteYou go take mouth divide for people?
WHERE DID THE BIBLE TALKS ABOUT ORAL SEX / INFACT SONGS OF SOLOMON ADVISE IT
ReplyDeleteContradicting question and statement.
DeleteBecause of disease please. Allow her, her fears are valid.
DeleteNo big deal here as long as he's also giving you, and more importantly, he should also be faithful, because there are plenty diseases outside, otherwise...
ReplyDeletePoster, follow Stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteAre you even sure he isn't gay? This one he is talking like someone avoiding penetrative sex. Ask him well poster before he tells you after you are married that you never asked.
ReplyDeleteMust be a very gay man 🤦♀️🤦♀️
DeleteNa wah oh, is this not how they Will spreading diseases up and down. The man has been doing it before he met you. Why did think he will satisfy with what you will be giving him, don't go ahead with the marriage.
ReplyDeleteThose who emphasize on giving head are men with small cock. They know their thing cannot reach very well that's why they opt to giving you head...
ReplyDeleteMy ex had a very big D. He loved giving me head because it gave him joy to pleasure me
DeleteI have no words for you
ReplyDeleteLulu lee pls tell us why oral sex is ungodly so we too can learn and not perish
ReplyDeleteIf you are in doubt, ask God to give you insight on the issue.
DeleteOral sex doesn't have the natural pattern rather the pervasive flow. It was devised by men whose mind were reprobate.
Life, ones man meat is another man's poison..do you know how women would be so happy with this revelation? That being said, this shouldn't be the reason for a break up if this is all there is. This life, E no dey ever complete. My advise is go with the flow. You might eventually like it.. all the best
ReplyDeleteWhen you research how many women actually reach climax with penetrative sex, it is not up to 50%. For sure this is what so many women want and that man sounds like he knows how to pleasure a woman.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, to each his own, I cannot dictate what you want in your life dear poster. If you can’t deal with oral sex, then you are likely not sexually compatible. Sexual compatibility is important in marriage.
In marriage you are meant to enjoy each other. Pastor and evangelist has no business in your bedroom affairs. That’s all I will say.
Poster, please go ahead and marry him. My wife does not like her plate being licked, and unfortunately for me, that one is my specialty. It took me some time but i had to adjust to my new reality - which is bye bye to cunnilingus (she allows me sparingly whenever she gets tipsy). Women who enjoy head really know what's up, squirming under pleasure from a guy's mouth....anyways, you will be fine. Just try and compromise sometimes, relax and let him lick you small and you too learn how to suck his D.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know why sex counselors are not popular. During my friend’s bridal shower, we got one for her and I couldn’t believe how little people know about sexual compatibility and ways to pleasure their spouses.
ReplyDeleteYou need to find an experienced woman who isn’t a pick me to have these talks with. You’d be surprised what you would learn.
If it’s about diseases, that’s where a full examination comes in.
Please know that if you’re not comfortable with these things at all, then don’t bother because sex is meant to be enjoyed by both parties and not endured for the sake of another.
I wish you the very best and trust that all will be well. Seek experienced and expert advice and make a decision that works best for your peace of mind.
Finally have time to catch up..wetin people dey find this one dey reject.
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