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I don't understand why some times i feel happy to be with my guy while other times i do not feel okay to even see him. He will irritate me especially when he offends me. He tolerates my excesses but i don't tolerate his like he does mine, i have even threated him to end the relationship but he is still very gentle with me.
I blocked him for more than a month but still unblocked him, he went as far as talking to some friends i respect and i unblocked him not like what he did was terrible just an argument.
I don't understand why some times i feel happy to be with my guy while other times i do not feel okay to even see him. He will irritate me especially when he offends me. He tolerates my excesses but i don't tolerate his like he does mine, i have even threated him to end the relationship but he is still very gentle with me.
I blocked him for more than a month but still unblocked him, he went as far as talking to some friends i respect and i unblocked him not like what he did was terrible just an argument.
I don't know why this keeps happening but he is willing to stay with me. Deep down i love him, i know he loves and respects me but from time to time i feel terrible to be with him while other times i miss him so much and want to say yes to him.
Hmmm you dont love this man so please free him......
This kinds of feelings is not ripe for Marriage at all........Love forgives all and sees no wrong but your love is not blind at all
Please dont say Yes to him, go and work on yourself to be better with how you treat him or free him to find someone who will love and appreciate and respect him and not allow him to be running helter skleter begging friends to beg his woman to unblock him .. Nah your type dey carry man leg comot when there is a small misunderstanding....
Maybe your marine spirit strong and they no want you to get married
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Exactly
DeleteHere comes the excuses as usual because na babe
DeleteYou need therapy you’ve a lot of toxic traits that might stem from deep seated issues
DeleteDon’t be in a rush to say yes to someone you’re willing to ill treat
Does pleases you financially that why u staying. Or he satisfy a wants. Madam u don't love I believe you crazy and pray he doesn't make a wrong decision marrying you cos ruin his heart
DeleteHave u dated before? Does it happen or its just with him?
DeleteSometimes we need a retreat on ourselves bcos you need to check your life backwards and know how it has been with u
How would you feel if he was the one treating you this way????
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DeleteA good question to start from
DeleteExactly
DeleteIf you don't work on yourself before it's too late, you might end up losing him for life when he finds someone that treats him better than you.
DeleteI said when because everyone have their limits, he will get tired soon and stop begging. At this point you'll be the one begging and he won't listen.
Treat people how you'll want to be treated. He's not a fool for loving you. If you don't love him enough to have a peaceful relationship, please free the guy.
If you don't work on yourself before it's too late, you might end up losing him for life when he finds someone that treats him better than you.
DeleteI said when because everyone have their limits, he will get tired soon and stop begging. At this point you'll be the one begging and he won't listen.
Treat people how you'll want to be treated. He's not a fool for loving you. If you don't love him enough to have a peaceful relationship, please free the guy.
I pray God sends him his soul mate and delivers him from simping.
ReplyDeleteAmennnn ooooo
DeleteA man behaving well is not simping, wild animal behaviour is what many think is normal
Delete16:09, pls is the op’s behavior not the wild animal behavior u r tlkn abt?
DeleteRemember is two imperfect humans, tolerance has to be there.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly he does that piss you off?? Have you talked to him about that?? Constant argument happens when there is misunderstanding ,disagreement or let's say he doesn't take corrections.
Try to overlook some things for love and sanity sake.
You love him and wouldn't mind to say , ' Yes'....Let love lead .
I have no issues with you..
ReplyDeleteWhy won't you be irritated by him when he is too dumb and soft like puff puff.. I'm also irritated by his stupidity and SIMPlicity just reading the chronicles..
It's the S!MP that's begging his goddess for a whole one month to unblock him so that he will not die I'm shocked about..
And person go talk say e get male child, asin that one go dey tick 'male' section when filling form🤦..
Omo,. Is it lack of love growing up or just plain stupidity..
Pink was right, we need to really focus on training the male child.. this embarrassment is getting out of hand..
PS: when your girlfriend wants to cheat, for the ones with conscience, shell quarrel with you, end the relationship, even go to the point of blocking you.. knowing you as a S!MP would beg to make up or you'll still accept her when she comes back.. so she'll continue deceiving herself that she has never cheated on you in the relationship, after all, you guys were were 'not dating' when she cheated 😁😁
Poster,what's the colour of your problem?
ReplyDeleteMe thinks its red blue spectrum
DeleteMe thinks its red blue spectrum
Delete@dante life is not really how you view it!
DeleteGod is a wise and perfect God, do u expect her or him to marry their kind? One must be the one taming the other be it female or male! Let me tell u, I have a very big pride that's my flaw that I have tried to work on but its a no go area! So now merging me with a man that has pride will be a disaster. Sometimes it takes the other party to stoop so he can conquer
N:B I am not lowering my standards for anyone even if I clock 60 years so God designed those simp men for us! And you the lion for simp women......You see God is wise😁
NK i like you lol..
DeleteYou never ready to marry, free the man. But you said he loves you, if you continue like this, one day you'll wake up and realize he has move on from your childish act to a more serious person, by that time I hope you won't start shouting men are scum upandan social media.
ReplyDeleteJust imagine u have a good man and you're here complaining. If the guy treats you otherwise, we will hear men are scum
ReplyDeleteYour man may not be so emotionally intelligent and self aware if not he would have realized how toxic you are to his mental health and overall well-being and moved on with his life after you blocked him the last time. And go look to date someone on the same emotional frequency as him who is able to regulate their emotions in a way that is considerate of others well being.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously suffer from unresolved children trauma and it’s your responsibility to seek out healing for your self and stop taking it out on others.
See a therapist are you bipolar? Past trauma? Also pray!
DeleteSee a therapist are you bipolar? Past trauma? Also pray!
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DeleteYou don't love him what you feel is probably pity to compensate his love which is more than you have given him. Unfortunately nothing can be done to make you love him, maybe test the waters and see what is out there for you, Goodluck
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DeleteHow long have you been on colos? 😆😆😆.
ReplyDeleteI have had the rather garish misfortune of dating a lady who acts similar to the way you do. Believe you me, you will wear that young man down enough to the point he'll become indifferent toward you.
I don't know whether it is a Multiple Personality Disorder or just an overall mental imbalance. The awesome highs and the rather depressive lows. These do get triggered for the most minute of reasons leaving your partner exhausted and wondering what they've done wrong this time. But it isn't them. It has never been. It is you.
I don't know how old you are OP but I believe this isn't your first relationship. If you have paid careful attention, you'd notice that the same issue seems to be recurrent. Don't take my word for it though.
The thrill of your man chasing you and pleading can get intoxicating I bet. Do you find that healthy for your relationship? If you really love that man is this the best way you think he deserves to be treated?
In the end, most men hate emotional roller coasters and will eventually go for calm and senerity. Your man may very well love you but that will not be enough to keep him when a better option surfaces. The cost of crazy may not be something he wants to keep paying.
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DeleteYou obviously don't love him enough. Free him please.
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DeleteAwwwww🤪🙄
ReplyDeleteIsn't this how they usually are when they are wooing you? Totally tolerant till them marry you and power will shift, then they will show you pepper.
I am not impressed! You can show him plenty pepper or dump him, whatever!!!
Hanty. Who hurt you?
DeleteNa money dey cause am.Na when he get and give you money you dey like am and na when he broke you dey dislike am.stop lying to yourself pls
ReplyDeleteThis is a one sided love.
ReplyDeleteWhy is he forcing himself on you now, you need to break up and stand by your word.
You don't love him.
If una dey gbensh, his behaviour is understandable.
ReplyDeleteIf not, he is depositing for the corn on faya.
If none of the above, it will not continue for like that in marriage.
However, there is nothing wrong with you. Contrary to well sold opinion here, a woman is a man in different body. Both men and women can be toxic.
Say human being be woman no mean say she is good by nature. Good as a human being is a learned behaviour.
We are all works in progress. Nothing do you.
Eni lori oni fila
ReplyDeleteTell yourself the truth don’t downplay anything
ReplyDeleteWhat did he do to annoy you and then start calling others to talk to you
Some people do you wrong and still make you feel you overreacted
It’s also possible he’s a nice guy so your mind says be with him but you have no emotional connection
Dear Poster dump him and go ahead and marry a guy who treats you how you treat him then stay up every night praying for redemption especially since God has blessed your kind ex sooo much you know it's heavens way of compensating him for how badly you treated him but e don too late. u Gerrit???
ReplyDeleteDon’t marry just cause he’s nice to you
DeleteIf you don’t like him, ask your heart why
Either you are not in love with him and probably feel you are doing him a favour by dating him. You probably think you are too good for him so you can't even waste your time or over-extend yourself in accommodating his flaws because agreeing to date him is enough favour already on your part.
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You are still young
How old are you? I don't mean this in a patronizing manner but you seem very immature. Guys like your guy are the ones some ladies are fortunate to meet in the earlier stages of their lives - some take them for granted then look back and reminisce after they must have met the bad and the ugly but at that point, it is already too late.
A very mature lady with enough relationship experience would value him and not be abusive. This is why I asked how old you are because it seems like you still have a lot of growing up to do.
He is probably a young man too because no mature man has ample to waste on you or would stick around tolerating these childish antics of yours; constantly keeping malice instead of talking things through like a grown woman which to me is synonymous with throwing tantrums like a child just to have your way.
One day you will decide to show yourself again and threaten to end the relationship and you will be shocked to see that he has called your bluff and left you to your devices.
You blocked him for a month because you lack emotional regulation skills and the mental capacity to handle conflicts in relationships. You seem stunted and lacking in better communication techniques needed to sustain healthy relationships.
Your prolonged anger is just a decoy from the real issue which you have refused to unearth. You have a huge flaw which you need to address before it is too late. You need some better coping and anger management skills with high impulse control.
He irritates you because he puts up with your attitude even though it sucks and you feel guilty because you know you deserve to be left high and dry but the fact that he sticks around despite all that, makes you see him as someone who lacks self-respect and confidence, hence you see him as a pathetic person.
It is a good thing though that you are doing some self-introspection. Hopefully, you fix the issue and change for the better but if you don't, he will break up with you eventually because everyone has a breaking point, so if losing him is the needed kick you need, to be a better person, so be it!
Listen to the song, "Let her go" by Passenger and substitute HIM for HER.
You need it.
Words on Marble.
And you say you love him? I doubt that o
ReplyDeleteWhat you have is not what you want. He likely isn’t your spec. If you love him as you claim, then you love only one portion of him, not his entire being. Be honest and never lie to yourself, you know this man ain’t for you.
ReplyDeleteJust don't cry when you meet someone else and then, you are the one being treated like this ooo.
ReplyDeleteYou do not love that man, let him go.
ReplyDeleteWhat could he have done that made you block him for a month?
It took the intervention of friends you respect to unblock him.
You are toxic!! You nor get good mind at all.
Please poster go and work on yourself and go for serious prayers you won't understand what am saying until you loose him and start to regret your actions,the man is neither a fool nor his he a simp it's just the way God created him and I tell you men like him are very rare, it takes a real matured man to tolerate a woman and her excesses.
ReplyDeleteI think you are having mood swing challenge, you also need deliverance cos is not ordinary cos for you to be feeling this way means that you are not proud of your attitude and want some help.
ReplyDeleteYou need to discuss with your guy qnd see how he can help you, you love him but some spiritual people don't want you to settle down the reason you are facing such in your relationship. Tell your man all that is happening to you and allow him help you out, do not lose a man over a rubbish attitude.
Maybe the man does not have money. You are just managing him.
ReplyDeleteI like the fact that you've acknowledged that you have scoin scoin..work on yourself because you ruin a good thing
ReplyDeletePoster, its obvious both of you are not compatible, if you dont miss him when you block him. There's really no reason for you to entangle yourself further through marriage. This time ,courtship time is supposed to be a time of creating fun loveydovey memories for the future.
ReplyDeleteIf you are not hitting this goal, consciously or unconsciously, its a red flag, and should be well looked into before taking the next major step
Stella has just hit nail on the wall.👍. Poster pls, leave the relationship ooo... because it will not end well for you. You don't genuinely love the guy end of story.
ReplyDeleteShe is just giving the guy normal training wey we dey collect as upcomers, in due time the guy should be giving subsequent girls enough breakfast
ReplyDeleteAnd everything is not prayer, praying for job is different from "praying" to have conscience.
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