ADVICE NEEDED
If a lady tell you that she want to test your manh#od strength before marriage, because she doesn’t want to cheat in marriage, and you don’t want s#x before marriage, and you really love her and you don’t want to lose her…what is the best solution…..?
If your woman wants s#x toy, when both of you get married, is s#x toy advisable? Who have experience it?
She wants to test before Marriage and you said that you cannot? Hmmmm i dont blame her cos a lot of women did not want to do before marriage and are now stuck with men who suffer from erectile dysfunction and this is the reson most cheat....
Oga e no get as you fit let am taste the thing?sebi una wan marry already?abi is something wrong? Please nobody should preach anything to me oh, lots of you come online to do goody two shoes but in real life are onidokudos.
As for the toy, it comes in when you no fit do and it is very addictive
Please marry your kind to avoid pathetic stories; there is someone for you whose beliefs resonate with yours. Can you match her energy? This is the point where they say love is not enough; use your senses to avoid buying problems with your eyes wide open.
ReplyDeleteFelicity
True.
DeleteI hate the mention of sex toys!
DeleteI would rather cheat than use sex toys!!!!!
Oga, you don't have the same values as this lady and that would become a problem in the future, please marry your type. If you don't separate now, her lack of principles will make you resent her in the future.
DeletePoster, it’s like you don’t like yourself and your future. You really love someone who has shown you her true self which you’re uncomfortable with. Both of you are not even compatible. It’s like marital mistake is calling you. Continue.. had I known dey wait for you for front.
ReplyDeleteBrother next time bend her for a D*ggy before she even pop the question! Tasting no bad
ReplyDeleteRubbish advice
DeleteThe society we live in nowadays leave many with too many negative thoughts,I can't deal. Because he said that he doesn't want it before marriage and the only thing in the mind is e*ectile dysfunction.
ReplyDeleteThe Chronicles questions are for men , waiting to read .
My own question is, will you let go of love because your partner doesn't want s*x before marriage??
Testing no bad ooo🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteBut real christians do not test ooo
Especially if you be worker for church
If nah RCCG you cannot test ooo
Just make her understand that you can't do it till after marriage
Shebi una wan marry..
Your denomination shouldn't be the basis for your decision to avoid pre-marital sex but obedience to the word of God for your own good.
DeleteI have a pastor friend, RCCG member wey taste before he marry, na the issue cause him and some of his close pastor friends relationship crack at the moment.
So, the issue of no sex before marriage isn't just to please your church or anyone/anything but obeying God's perfect command. What am I even saying?! If anyone is truly born again, pre-marital sex should not even be something you discuss with pleasure let alone engaging in it rather you should vehemently rebuke any talk that will make you compromise.
Double standards. You are not here and you are not there. Pick a side and stand for it.
DeleteExcept if you were being sarcastic. Even at that, let your yes be yes and your no be no
DeleteDate and Marry people you have similar values with. Love is not enough. she’s already talking sex toys that should give you an idea of what your sex life May look like, if you are not open to such take a walk now.
ReplyDeleteYou don't want to fornicate I guess, yet you don't see an issue dating someone cool with fornication? No wonder she feels she could sway your beliefs by suggesting what she did.
ReplyDeleteShe gave her reason but to me, what she is asking is synonymous with a man telling a woman to get pregnant before he can marry her to check if her womb is intact.
The question isn't what to do about her request but rather; "Why are you in a relationship with someone whose moral belief contradicts yours in the first place?"
I am certain in every other aspect of your relationship the huge disparity in your godly views and beliefs would have caused a lot of friction that goes beyond the purview of fornication alone, if you look deeply.
You would always have different views on issues and lifestyles since she doesn't seem to be spiritually inclined enough to adhere to or respect the godly way of living you seem to pursue.
The issue is not what she is demanding but the fact that you can easily get into a relationship with someone whose lifestyle and moral proclivities hampers yours says a lot about the shaky foundation of your own morals.
Go back and trace the root of your decision to keep yourself till marriage. You want to live a holy life and avoid sexual sin, So I believe it goes beyond sex alone. You and your lady are operating on a different plane but you are blinded by love.
Try and see the bigger picture.
I honestly don't think she is not right one for you.
Words on Marble
The poster appears from the narrative more of a trial and error moralist than a godly person. Abeg, wetin concern the daughter of Jezebel and son of God for marriage matter?!
DeleteWhen the concept is contracted without taking yield to forewarnings because of so called 'love', the moment the belief and value disparity starts creating a visible crack, the impressionable single ones will begin to wail "God what is happening to marriages these days?", When it could have been avoid if the supposed believer had followed the precept of our heavenly Father.
Honestly their value systems are so different, Op, don't be swayed, if she's not buying into your stance, please wait till the right one comes.... Hello WOM.👌🙌
DeleteStella!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely real, and crazy @ onido......!!!! LMCAO
😁 what's onidokudos, it sounds so funny. I don't have a man 😁😁😀 so how do l give you advice, when my opinion may not be needed, as per say l no get experience for that side 😂😂😜
DeleteLicious babe
There is a Big Difference between erectile dysfunction and dick strength.
ReplyDeleteThe one is ability to stand. The other is
how Long is the standing and how well the standing works.
Erectile dysfunction can be confirmed in the hospital. Some churches insist on such test result before permitting a marriage. The other is confirmed in the bedroom by the woman, and the test or standard is determined by only the woman doing the testing.
Poster, do you have the strength to match the woman you want to marry? She clearly likes s33x a lot. Even man has not been enough for her. Toys join too🤔.
Here is wishing you more power to your heart and waist in your planned marriage.
Oga, you need to have a deep conversation with your lady, sexual compatibility is a big deal in marriage.
ReplyDeleteDon't do it! Since you have decided to stay celibate till marriage stay that way, if she doesn't feel up to it, wait for the one that will.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. Just imagine if this story was the other way round .
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, don't fall into her trap. If she loves you, she will wait for you.
My ex lady tried it with me, I was team celibate before marriage coz I played the game and called it quits just so I can focus on long term marital bliss and challenges, but she questioned my virility. I showed her I could get erect and stay hard, but she wanted me to mount her. I refused. 3 quarrels and a threat to call off our engagement, I decided to give in. I made sure she took my whole length till she tapped out. After proving it, she wanted more as days went by, I obliged but my mind left the relationship. Na she dey chase me up and down now, but boy! I'm onto the one who won't push me to do what I won't.
ReplyDeleteThen end the relationship and neatly move on
DeleteThen end the relationship and neatly move on
DeleteVery simple, you already know your women's sexual alignment, just have her when you need her , which she will gladly oblige. Whenever she want the extra? She can enjoy her sex toys, which you can be helpful in admitting it. Don't just waste your time looking for Mrs. Perfect just marry Mrs. Sincerely yours truthfully.
ReplyDeletePoster don't listen to wrong advice
DeleteShe is not aligned with your values, move on
Poster don't listen to wrong advice
DeleteShe is not aligned with your values, move on
There are sexually wild ppl who are practicing abstinence and celibacy, your tone does not read as one such person. If you were, you would have known exactly what to tell her quite explicitly and she would not be concerned about what her intimate life after marriage would look like after that conversation. Her mention of toys is not really good, because a woman with a man isn’t thinking about toys, the man is the toy and no toy is going to do for a woman what a man can, unless you are travelling for work and always away. I am actually concerned that she feels you will need help in the bedroom. Are you are sickly or disabled, these are not things a woman would normally bring up, she is afraid of her sex future for a reason. Her suggestions are based in fear.
ReplyDeleteYou love her, great. If you know you cannot reassure her that the sex life will be good and satisfying then let her go with love. You can love someone and still let them go. She may be wild but I feel that there is something about you that makes her worried about a sexual future with you. Bedmatics is for some ppl the most important part of a marriage, because they will be forced to only be with that one person for the rest of their lives, and they have a point. Life is too hard to settle for lacklustre sex for 50 yrs. If you can’t tear up that woman’s sheets and break the bed legs and give her bow legs then set her free.
Lmao @ break the bed legs and give her bow legs then set her free. 🤣😅
DeleteLol @onidokudos 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteOga the only solution is to do the do.
Or you move on to the next babe.
There are many fishes.....
Wether you allow her test it on not, she will still me marry you if she loves you. You know yourself , if you know that you are medically certified then why fear if you are going to perform well in marriage or not?
ReplyDeleteEven if you give in to her request, the fact still remains that you still won't perform perfectly like a pro for now because you are a novice. There is always a novice stage for everybody. Every pro was once a novice mind you. With time you will get to master the act.
If she can't be patient for you to fulfill your vow, then she is not for you. Somebody that wants to cheat will cheat. Mary a girl that loves you bro. Anybody girl that can't help you protect your values and beliefs doesn't love you and is not meant for you. But I hope your reason for being celibate is not because of some erectile diffusion? If that's the case, then stop being deceitful.
Don't break your covenant because of any human being.
I once had a suitor like that he didn't want sex before marriage, but he showed me his kini plus when it stand just to confirm he was good down there. I wished I married him I was just too young and wasn't ready to be married but he wanted to marry asap. Gozie I am sorry for disappointing you 😞
ReplyDeleteApology accepted.
DeleteYou never know the value of what you have until you lose it.
My kini is now perfectly servicing my wife that waited.
Lol @onidokudos 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteDear poster follow your mind and your belief
I've read all thI've read all the comments above. I think the fundamental thing being overlooked here is misalignment of expectations and disrespect of boundaries.
ReplyDeleteOP says he doesn't want sex before marriage. That's very commendable. His potential wife says she is team test. That's still fine.
I think OP should ask his potential bride to show him her collection of sex toys. I'm damn sure she has multiple of them. She may have a lexington steele size dildo among them. Oga, can you in your dreams even measure up to that?
Your potential bride masturbates and heavily too. Is that something that sits well with you? She won't stop even in marriage.
Plus, you as the man have stated that you'd rather not have sex before marriage. I think she should respect that. If you guys can't agree on this rather not small matter, how then will you handle the bombs in marriage?
I'll copy from my alter persona, the raw one; DOGgedity. Guy, if she wan free you cookie, run am! No time. If you no run am, babe no go send your matter.
However, as DogA tonight, I'll advise you to stand firm on your principle. No sex before marriage should remain that way. You are the man and your lead should count. You lose ground on this, you have lost ground in that marriage when it happens. You do not know the power and blessings you have available to you starting your home with an undefiled bed. If she no gree, make she bounce. e comments above. I think the fundamental thing being overlooked here is misalignment of expectations and disrespect of boundaries.
OP says he doesn't want sex before marriage. That's very commendable. His potential wife says she is team test. That's still fine.
I think OP should ask his potential bride to show him her collection of sex toys. I'm damn sure she has multiple of them. She may have a lexington steele size dildo among them. Oga, can you in your dreams even measure up to that?
Your potential bride masturbates and heavily too. Is that something that sits well with you? She won't stop even in marriage.
Plus, you as the man have stated that you'd rather not have sex before marriage. I think she should respect that. If you guys can't agree on this rather not small matter, how then will you handle the bombs in marriage?
I'll copy from my alter persona, the raw one; DOGgedity. Guy, if she wan free you cookie, run am! No time. If you no run am, babe no go send your matter.
However, as DogA tonight, I'll advise you to stand firm on your principle. No sex before marriage should remain that way. You are the man and your lead should count. You lose ground on this, you have lost ground in that marriage when it happens. You do not know the power and blessings you have available to you starting your home with an undefiled bed. If she no gree, make she bounce.
Before I got married, I was engaged to someone else. Told me no sex before marriage. Turns out the guy had erectile dysfunction. When I met my husband, I no form ooo. I said whatever will be will be. I tested it before anything. So do whatever makes you happy
ReplyDeleteAccording to researchers “ ED affects 8% of males aged 20–29 years and 11% of those aged 30–39 years”. I am assuming your age falls into either range. Where did ED assumption enter this self control and celibacy conversation?
ReplyDeleteThis here is a red carpet, not a mere red flag, another chronicle waiting to be written in a few years time.
No offense but are you compatible with this woman in all areas? I’m not a prophet but a woman like this is likely to cheat on you whether you a stud or not after marriage. I never get tired of repeating the risk of ending up as a babymama until you get to the altar. BM excludes widows & divorced women. Women who end up as baby mamas are some of those who engaged in premarital sex & for some reason, did not end on the altar. Anything can happen, life happens, people get jilted after engagement, even days before weddings, God forbid. There is a reason the Bible encourages us to save it for marriage “ “marriage is honorable in all, the bed undefined but whoremongers and adulterers will be judged by God”….What is the matter with her waiting? This over exposed, hyper-sexualized generation needs to exercise old fashioned biblical self control. No wonder three of the top 10 searches by Nigerians in 2023 are porn sites!! There is nothing good for you not in the Bible. All the public health policies of quarantine, not eating dead livestock, that apply in 2024 were in the Bible so it’s a current book.
Courtship period is when goals, dreams are aligned, purposes and plans are discussed, etc and you get to know your man or woman more. No offense, even if you use the best birth control or are an expert, premarital sex can lead to pregnancy, the proposal and ring mean nothing until you get married. You can still end up a babymama hence my personal belief of a woman as the decider & one to hold responsible for bringing an unplanned baby into the world. If I was born outside wedlock, I would never have blamed my dad but my mom. Women are generally more circumspect with who they sleep with and when, better at exercising self control.
A woman is already pressuring you to the point of toys, your chronicle in a few years could be that “she likes it a lot more than you can offer and does it around as you cannot satisfy her”! Date someone whose values & outlook on life align with yours. Find out what else this woman is passionate about apart from sex. Do not marry an airhead and complain years later about inability to engage in an intellectual conversation with her, you saw the red flag and carpet.
I see why the scripture says “he that findeth a wife”: it’s not every good girl or boy that is meant for you, it’s like conducting a research to find something on Google, the answer could be on page 12, not the first few pages. Young people should take courtship serious (marriage is lifelong once you get it right) and pay attention to the red flags. Find out how to exercise self control from those married for decades, there are times sex is not feasible, maybe the guy travels or isn’t feeling fine. Is she able to exercise self control? True love can & always WAIT! Lust cannot wait. Erectile dysfunction is the devil’s way of immersing young folks into a life of premarital sex that he and his demons sold to them through p*rn. Dont give in. Learn from Joseph who would have missed his destiny if he did not exercise self control “ Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!”… He ran, suffered temporarily (you will if you don’t give in and leave her), but got vindicated.
One of you is headed to Austria the other person is going to Australia, how is that gonna work?
ReplyDeleteYou both need to sit and have a honest conversation. Looks like your values are not aligned.