Hmmmm.....
Stella, I'm the lady that sent chronicle about the treatment I got from my mother when my brother that has left her without looking back started showing her love.
Hmmm hvsy, what I went through in the hand of the woman I've been catering for with everything I can afford,she throws everything I've done for her back to my face,my bro is now the Messiah, i was treated as in f I didn't exist, I never knew the kind of mum I had until now and this made me to start questioning most of the things she told us about my dad, my mum is very manipulative and I never noticed all these days,she used manipulation to make sure I never thought of myself even though I was working I don't have anything to show for it, and this same situation is what she's now using to mock me with my brother, my brother brought home another woman this time around I think he's left the wife or something,I'm not sure because they hardly discuss in my presence.
He left on the second of January,and dear mama wanted to turn everything that happened on my head that I was the cause because I was jealous my brother is taking care of her, can you imagine? I just pray I settle all my loans ,get another and move out from here ,then I'll be sending her whatever I can afford and never at the detriment of my needs again.i just hope my brother keeps up all his promises to her if not...I won't ever make her my priority again, never!
As for my brother,I told him my mind but instead of reasoning with the point I raised,he said I'm being entitled,well true true he owes me nothing but he owes his mother alot,so far he's taking care of his mother no problems one day God go pick my own call too,
Hmmmm imagine the rubbish!.....This your story pain me cos truly some mothers are useless...I am sure your borther is still married and brought in his side chic to see your mum, if she doesnt welcomethe sidechic he will cut her off nah, so she too is playing the game with him but not being smart with you...
Please get yourself out of staying with your mum and build yourself, you will see her begin to put some respect on your name when you stand alone without her or your brother....
Dont bother about habouring any bitterness or ill feelings towards them, just take it that God is trying to move out out of there to your 'promised land'
Dont feel bad OK?
I actually detest women like ur mother, those women that favour one kid over another just because of money. Don’t worry, just hustle to be okay on ur own. Mark my words, a day will come when she will regret all she’s doing now.
ReplyDeleteAmennnn poster God will definitely pick your call.
DeleteThey are toxic divide and rule mothers
DeleteShe may not regret anything Eka till the day she dies. They are never wrong and it is always someone else's fault
DeleteWow 😮 not the kind of update I was expecting. I’m short of words. I pray you get sorted out sooner. The earlier you move out, the earlier the contempt dies off.
ReplyDeleteGods grace and blessings upon you.
Whether your brother keeps his promise to her or not, make YOURSELF your priority. And pls do not take another loan, for you or anyone.
ReplyDeleteSimple
DeleteFirst step, MOVE OUT FIRST
ReplyDeleteIt's well
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
May God come through for and bless you so you can move out of that house. It's time for you and yourself.
ReplyDeleteDid you borrow to find your brother's stay after the warnings given to you that day?
ReplyDeleteSo you still haven’t moved? Didn’t you say last time you were going to move to your cousin and get a head start on your life from there. So the update is that your mother has made a complete 180 on you, we all anticipated this as you had alluded to that previously. Please start taking meaningful steps in transforming your life. Forget about your mother and brother, please put your razor sharp focus on yourself. You won’t get anywhere focused on others and watching what they are doing. Anyhow. I wish you all the best, but please get out of your comfort zone and get moving.
ReplyDeleteThis one looks a bit like my story. Worked Jan to Dec nothing to show invested all for my mum, I don't hv cloths, no shoes, nothing, I even collected huge loan to help solve issue for her in all she is not apprective, if she start abusing n insulting me like this I will just b crying. I do things to make her happy, my brother who does absolutely nothing for her, my elder brother oh, she doesn't talk to him anyhow, I pay house rent, buy her medicines, buy food for d house, give her money at the end of the day my account bal is zero naira, I can't even buy bathing soap for myself becos no money, it is the same dettol soap we share. I pray God help me this year I want to move to my own place even if is one room. I have served her enough.
ReplyDeleteFocus more on your self hence forth, they can never change
DeleteTalking from experience
Nawahoooo it is well with you poster. Look out for yourself and see God prosper you.
ReplyDeletePoster do not regard all you did for your mother but focus more on yourself going forward. It's well with you.
ReplyDeletePlease please please do not put yourself under any pressure for any damn body even your mother
ReplyDeleteYour mother was just like like late mum,she so loved my half sister so much that nothing Good I did for her is ever appreciated
ReplyDeleteMy sister is not 30yrs old yet but with 7 kids with 2 men.
Read on scape goat,gold child, black sheep and narcissist mother
DeleteStella do a series and if people open up you will marvel
Abeg let there be a series on positive things, good news, grand opportunities. Na so so negativity series dey here. The world has enough.
DeleteWell poster, don't feel all you have done for her is a waste to you. You are sowing good seeds into your own future too.The Good book says Honour your father and your mother, so your days may be long... It didn't specify a good or bad mother... Just honour. And you are doing so.
ReplyDeleteAlso remember that every experience we go through in life, is to teach us a lesson, . This experience with your mother, will definitely teach you to have empathy on your own children when they come.
Keep your head up, your best days will soon be here.
Hmmm, this update really saddens me, but wait o,did you collect another loan or the one you were servicing before? Please move out of that house ASAP
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh
ReplyDeleteI feel some families can snuff life out of you if you let them. I'm here stranded on how to put my child in school because I took a loan for a sibling who promised to pay up in 2 months time. Going to 5 months now, just paying the first installment. How about the initial agreement? Saying you can't kill yourself. I've been getting my salary slashed to pay all this while. Na my child no go go school? I just tire.
Hmmmm, the reason why parents do this, is what I don't understand.
ReplyDeleteDid you pluck one child or pick the child from the road?
Is it not equal labor and childbirth?
Na wah😔
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So sad, pls make urself a priority.
ReplyDeleteI used to carry my entitled family on my head until last year. On their birthdays, I will send them money. On my birthday, they will just greet. Last year, I decided to not send them anything and they were really angry up to the stage that they forgot my birthday (theirs come a month before mine) and started sending greetings on an entirely different day. Laff wan kee me.
ReplyDeleteNew year resolution, focus more on my happiness. Everyone gonna be ok.
It's well with you. God will raise a financial helper for you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteAs a mother I tried as much as possible not to be a burden on my kids. I can never loved one child more than the other. But some children can snuffle the lived out of their parents. Your mother is lucky to have a child like you. I thank God for my kids, I prayed may good Lord bless them.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, I really feel for you, I perfectly understand what you're going through, may God help you
ReplyDeleteIt's well poster, just focus on yourself and move out.
ReplyDeleteAll the best
May Almighty God Come through for you in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 AMEN AMEN AMEN 🙏 in Jesus name
ReplyDeleteI hope you didn't take any loan again to buy things for your brother's home coming because I can't understand the loan you are servicing, please explain better.
ReplyDeleteDon't hold anything against your mom but concentrate on your well being and move along cos your mom will look for you one day
ReplyDeleteLook for her for what?
DeleteWith empty hands?
The parents that hand over properties and assets to their child, do they have 3 heads?
This one will only 'look for her' when she needs someone to take care of her in old age. By then she will know the son doesnt send her.
You don't know some parents are beyond useless. Beyond.
It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteDon't regret anything you have done in the past, it was from your heart and God will bless you for it.
This new year focus on you and become the best version of yourself 💗
Very sad..some mothers tough. I pray you put yourself together and move forward
ReplyDeleteTruly some persons are pure evil , weak, some people are so blind, and stupid.
ReplyDeleteYou need to distance yourself from all these drama. You need to start over again and enjoy your life without all the burdens from ya mama and brother.
Leave them Let them live however they want. Put yourself first