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URGENT TIPS TO CALL OFF RELATIONSHIP NEEDED
I need urgent advice on how to go about calling off my wedding.....
I will leave out some facts so shield myself and those involved in this story.
I am engaged to be married to a man with enough money to be called rich but i have decided i want out but scared of the consequences cos it would be a big disgrace on both sides if i call it off...
The red flags are too many and i was ignoring it all and hoping that when we get married things will fall into place but i have developed cold feet from all this crahsed marriages stories all over the place.
My mans red flags are so horrible that some of them are life threatening....For example, he likes to hold my neck in a choke during s#x... The last time i almost died and he was not aware of it, i had blood coming out before he stopped...I was not myself for weeks and almost suffered memory loss...He compensated me with a ticket to go and shop abroad and i will travel in a few weeks to shop for the wedding...
I am no longer Interested and need tips on how to call it off ........
WOOOOOOOOOOOOW.......
OK i have an idea, why dont you start misbehaving? All the things that he likes you doing, please do the opposite, if he hates smoking, let him find cigarette in your bag...lol
Just begin to misbehave and dont agree to any form of intimacy again cos if you misbehave and allow him, the grip wont let go until you breath your last.
After misbehaving well well, travel and refuse to take his calls and be masty to him on the phone, he will use his hands to call it off but before then make sure you tell your family you r mind so they wont feel so disgraced...
I hope my tips or any you may follow here will work for you.
Travel abroad and off ur phone..
ReplyDeleteBe unreachable for some months.. Including ur people oh
Seems we forget that some people work@ travelling for months.
DeletePlease poster, I beg you, sit him down and tell him the truth. Don't treat him harshly. Thanks
DeleteSo you saw all these red flags and you still allowed it to get all the way to a few weeks to wedding before you realised this isn't what you wanted? Hmmnn just call it off then, I just hope and pray it doesn't end fatally.
DeleteWhy not complain to him about how you don't enjoy that and how it hurts you. How can one be pressing you neck during sex and you won't shout for him to know that it's choking you?
DeleteThis is huge, tell your family the reason and walk away. He had compensated you and hey, don't finish the money, save it and move on.
DeleteMao Akuh
The only good quality you alluded to about him is “a man with enough money to be called rich” you deserve each other. Tell him the truth and walk away if your love of money will allow you.
DeleteThis one na die ooo! Poster run!
DeleteYou don chop money finish you wan run. Else why now? Smh* Women!!!
ReplyDeleteI’m not saying your concerns aren’t valid but what have you been doing since with him up till now when families have finished arranging for marriage? You were busy enjoying vacation and shopping money. Aunty that marriage, you will do it o. This is fraud!
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DeleteHow did u allow it get to this stage? This man can haunt u and do you dirty afterwards!
DeleteI hate it when an adult can't think straight because of material things! You would have left but u stayed because he is rich!
After the entire experience she has decided it is not worth it for her, madam look for a family member of yours . Tell them to call both of you and call it off
DeleteAfter the entire experience she has decided it is not worth it for her, madam look for a family member of yours . Tell them to call both of you and call it off
DeleteTruly, she didn't complain all this while that sex chocking o
DeleteSome of these things start small small then build up with time. Maybe she felt she could stomach the fetish, until she saw red and almost died. Poster your life or wealth? You choose. Because you don't still sound convinced to me that you are prepared to leave all that wealth. Maybe just run away first, then tell close wise family, then from there, you know what to do. You didn't really describe the guy's temperament, so maybe one of his close friends can break the news to him. He may try to convince you that it would stop, but it only takes 'one day' and everything can go extremely south.
DeleteIf you actually and really wanted to call off the wedding, you wouldn't need tips from several people. You won't even be preparing to go shop for wedding stuff. Congrats in advance, coz me and you know, you ain't calling off anything. But if you Eventually do, don't forget to drop update.
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DeleteYou are worried about disgrace? It's like you don't like your life. Man has not married you and is always choking you nearly to death. When he pays bride price,what will now happen?.
ReplyDeleteIf you are worried about disgrace on calling off the wedding which is still months away..let me tell you about the one that happened here in Yenagoa. Maybe it will give you courage to do the needful. A lady called off her wedding a day to the white wedding and heaven did not fall. They had done the traditional wedding on Thursday and white was to be on Saturday but it never held as she called it off for reasons best known to her. Wedding was meant to big as her mother is a commisioner in the state and the guys was a lawyer from a known family here too. People talked and speculated for a while but they have all moved on. The one who did what she did knows why she did it. A word is enough for the wise,poster.
Have a meeting with the important members of your family and narrate everything to them.
ReplyDeleteIf they still insist to go ahead, quietly book your ticket to an undisclosed location for 2 weeks before the wedding or 3.
Make sure you tell no one. So as not to be rated out.
Just want you to know that all you have experienced will be multiplied in marriage. You might not live to tell the story. So forget who will be shamed and save your life.
Yikes!! Stella you blue pen is the illest 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteResearch the "gordian knot".
ReplyDeleteOr
Just say no and move out of reach.
Did you reject the choke shopping money and have you stopped collecting shopping money?
If no, it means you are not yet ready to leave.
Hmmmmm........ Make up a dream and tell him you dreamt about evil if the wedding should continue and ask for the wedding to be postponed until sometime ....... Then from there you can decide fate.
ReplyDeleteBlood of Jesus. Just tell him you can't marry him because he almost choked you to death. Tell your parents as well. I'm sure they want you alive ðŸ˜
ReplyDeleteGbam!!! No need to make up stories. Say it as it is and continue with your life except death dey hungry her. Disgrace ko, disgrace nii!! Ordinary stingy boyfriend that I had that my family loved, when I told them my reasons, their initial anger disappeared fast and they warned me against him. Well being first!!
DeleteStella these you stellar advices may not work for this horseband-to be o.
ReplyDeleteThis is a life-threatening chronicle. No time to check time.
Bloody red flags. Did you say memory loss? Hmmmm.
Poster, simply run for your dear life. Otherwise you will not live to write the next chronicle.
See, the longer we wait the harder it is. I still applaud you for recognizing that there are insurmountable problems ahead.
ReplyDeleteYou have to tell him first. I am not big on lying or pretence, I prefer the truth no matter how hard over other methods. Whether you choose to do it face to face or on a call depends on whether he has anger issues or not. If he has violence tendencies then I would avoid face to face, but if he is a level headed and calm guy you can do it in person. Tell him exactly why you cannot go forward so he knows that your decision is based on real hard facts, not flighty feelings or village ppl. He will plead and beg that he will not be like that or do those things, be prepared. Your family members too will come at you, especially since he is well to do, to make you feel that you are making the biggest mistake of your life. You don’t have to share any lurid details with them, if they love you then they should trust you that you are doing what is right. Once you start the process there is no turning back, so be strong. All the best to you.
Please remember to give him back the engagement ring.
DeleteLet me tell you. That your man is also addicted to BDSM and gay s*x.
ReplyDeleteI'm guessing he is in his forties so trust me, he is too far gone to retrace his steps. Someone like him will naturally be emotionally abusive and very selfish and manipulative.
If you are willing to endure being treated inappropriately and travelling to any country of your choice as compensation, continue. Otherwise, RUN
Cos there's no end to his type of character.
It will only get worse.
You are not calling off a new relationship but a wedding that has date fixed already.
ReplyDeleteHave you had a heart to heart talk with him to let him know your feeling, if yes what was his reply?
The life threatening asides s*x whatever you mentioned up there, guess not domestic violence??
My own suggestion is to let him know your feelings, you would have done that before you accepted his proposal since you have noticed the red flags.
Hope he hasn't started spending on wedding making plans.
Don't let him waste his time and money,let him know your mind ..... My own thought.
It's not fair to lead him on when you know you have something else in mind.....
He has already been spending nau. Shopping sprees, vacays and such.
DeleteYikes!! Stella your blue pen is the illest 😂😂😂
ReplyDeletePoster, I believe you must have really reflected on this and understand the emotions you are going through...I am sorry about how you feel...
The truth is there is no way you will call off the wedding that it would not spring up surprises and cause ''disgrace''...
1. You can do this in a respectable and considerate manner. Have an open and honest conversation with him. Focus on your own feelings, don't blame him or make accusations.
2. Choose the right time and place to have uninterrupted and focused conversations. Avoid a busy place or where he will be stressed.
3. If there was an exchange of gifts; find a way to have them returned to him or how you can compensate him.
4. Seek professional help cause indeed this is a tough decision and difficult time; give yourself some time to heal...
P.S Let your family know about your decisions and make sure you surround yourself with the right and great support system you need.
Ehugs and All the best...
There is no disgrace
DeleteYour life, sanity and safety is more important
Wow strange things are happening. And you're still there?? It is only the living that can get married or spend money ooo...
ReplyDeleteCos those are the only reason you're still there!!
What🥱🥱🥱, that guy is a murderer. No marry am ooo.
ReplyDeleteMy brother this one pass Murderer ooo
DeleteWhich one he dey press neck on top nacking
Is that Normal?
Just call it off with your FULL CHEST
ReplyDeleteWait, he choked you during sex, that blood came out, and you almost died. Does he compensate you everytime it happens? Cos I am trying to understand why you still stayed there.
ReplyDeleteWhy she stayed so long?
DeleteChop money
Shopping money
Pepper her gals dem money
Sponsonr-in-law money
Baby girl life money.
Real money than she had hitherto seen or received from a money.
Exactly! It was all about the money.
DeleteFirstly, you only mentioned the fornicating part, which wasn't to be done before marriage, and probably the choke hold is one of the consequences of engaging in extramarital affairs. If there are other red flags apart from the first one that you can't cope with in marriage, please call it off. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Money is not everything.
ReplyDeletePoster,You ain't ready yet 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletestella have said it all
ReplyDeletei will add that once you travel just block his line and refuse talking his calls. You can also make arrangement once you are coming back from that trip you will relocate to another state without telling him.
Make sure you carry your family members along cos that is the only people who can help and protect you from this man. Thank God you saw the red flag and didn't allow his money block your eyes.
It is better to call off the wedding if you truly value your life because this kind of nonsense does not end well unless you in for it because of his money.
ReplyDeleteYoung men, if you have porn addiction, even if it's twice in a year, you need to see a RECOVERY COACH before your addiction escalates. This right here is why a man would lose a marriage.
ReplyDeletePORN ADDICTION.
The confused creatures think they are enjoying themselves, not knowing they are in industrial strength bondage
DeleteHow will she tell her parents that she was almost choked when gbenshing,
ReplyDeletewhey u never marry am 🤪🤪🤪🤪, if na some parents you go hear the story of your life.
Pls call it off,no pretending just do it.i almost lost a friend to this rubish
ReplyDeleteYou are worried about disgrace in this our generation with very short attention span. Your scandal may not even have their attention for upto one week before another gist will drop and everyone will move onto the next.
ReplyDeleteBe selfish and chose yourself. Broken engagement is far better than broken marriage.
Na her life she suppose fight for.
DeleteYou mentioned that the red flags are so numerous and horrible but you didn't list any of them apart from him holding your neck during sexual act that almost got you choked to death. I believe the "holding of your neck" part is dangerous and you should have talked with him to let him know how you feel about it. It is possible that he picked this habit up from watching too much rough sex movies and he has come to the belief that some women only enjoy violent sex. Also his past sexual relationships might have been with women that are rough and wild in bed. I believe this is a challenge that is not unsurmountable. If you've had a conversation with him regarding this and he is not improving please walk away.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the red flags, we don't know what they are so it's difficult to advise, but I will say while you focus on his red flags, try and work on your own shortcomings as well because they might as well be red flags.
Overall, I think the guy is making a mistake trying to spoil you with material things despite the two of you not yet married. I see a very poor and shaky foundation if eventually you guys get married.
Your entire comment is zero
DeleteHer life is important , choking is a flag
Spoiling her or not is not the issue that comment comes from a poverty mindset
This choking thing is not new.... Im quite sure they've been doing it since... he may even think she likes it....the only thing is that the last time was too much. For HER TO BLEED!! As how??? It was too much!! she panicked and started remembering the plenty red flags that she failed to mention. Ma'am.. pls save your self.. Don't go and die like chicken untop nax.
DeleteHe always choke you during the do? You're in for a long thing, what were you thinking the first and second time this happened? If I were you it will not even happened the third time let alone leading to marriage.
ReplyDeleteI don't think he will ever change, he's addicted to it, just break up with him and call the wedding off and make sure you protect yourself from him in other to avoid the story that touches the heart.
I hate lies and pretence, just go straight to the point to him. Let him know why the wedding can not hold but pls make sure someone is there with you bcos he may turn to violence by him.
ReplyDeleteYour life is at stake. You need to call it quits fast. People that engage in that act of sex, I wonder what joy they derive from it
ReplyDeleteDo what your instinct tells you but why now if I may ask?
ReplyDeleteMy sister a broken relatonship is beter than a hell marriage,na one dat he will just choke u and u will die,he will remarry
ReplyDeleteRun for ur life
One day you will be going thinking you are coming. Sis run for your life.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster,why did you consent to his marriage proposal in the first place with all the red flags?so as wedding approaching you wan come cancel am,e no pure now you should have told him NO in the first place .this will break the heart of your family members.
ReplyDeleteTell him when you get to the abroad.
Do you need any advice or you don't value your life because of free money?have you forgotten that after marriage he is entitled to sex everytime and are you ready to be cooked everyday of your life,think about these and do the right thing tell him you are out
ReplyDeleteDon't tell your family now if not they will cajole into marrying him.
ReplyDeleteTravel within or out of the country if you have the money, on getting there inform your parent about your discoveries and concerns. Then switch off your phone.
Choke slam on top secx ahhhh.... God abeg o. Abeg run for your life. No two ways about it. Run and stop chopping his money
ReplyDeleteOh ChimðŸ˜.
ReplyDeleteYou are no longer interested and you still collected money to go shopping. Or maybe the money is compensation for the choking during sex I guess
ReplyDeleteCall it off tell and remain abroad wicked woman .
ReplyDeletePeople be asking us strangers questions they should be free to talk to their spouse about
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmm
Abeg is he on drugs?
Can't he adjust if this is the only serious red flag?
Hmm wahalur poster run for your life sha.