DUMPED BY LOVER
Good Day Stella,
I have being in a relationship with one of my female colleague for a while now and
I thought the relationship is heading somewhere,
Recently, she just informed us that she is getting married ….HMMMMMMMMMMMM
Now she is avoiding us discussing, and she doesn’t pick my calls again, and she doesn’t reply my messages again.
I thought the relationship is heading somewhere,
Recently, she just informed us that she is getting married ….HMMMMMMMMMMMM
Now she is avoiding us discussing, and she doesn’t pick my calls again, and she doesn’t reply my messages again.
If I go to her department to see her even in break period to discuss with her, she will be acting busy, I called her cousin sister to ask her what is going on with her sister, her response was “her sister has taken her decision…and she is surprised and her cousin told me that she is pregnant….I really love her and she is fun to be with…
The funny part is that, December period we were fine, I even sent a bag of rice, a bottle of wine and little cash to her parents but it is only her mother that called me to thank me, ,
How should I go about it?
What did I do wrong for her to ghost me like this?
And if she is pregnant, who is responsible for her pregnancy?
Hmmm
Oga she didnt ghost you, she dumped you straight!
I dont know who has the pregnancy but it shows she was not sleeping with only you......You may have to ask for DNA if she delivers cos this might be looking like paternity scam if it is your baby and she is giving it to someone else.
Dont feel bad, it is possible that she was just having fun with you and that you were the one that was thinking so,mething would come out of it... You were her side opiece and that is why she didnt give a second thought about announcing it in the office that she is about to get married..
I know its painful and you need closure but please try and stay away from her and harden your heart towards her
Tell her to return the money for December gift and make that’s not your baby
ReplyDeleteI hate nonsense
🤣🤣 dey play.😁
DeleteThis heartbreak una dey like complain about, don't u like jellof rice and plantain?
DeleteWhenever u feel sad eat enough food enter Facebook u must see funny posts and videos.
Nothing wey concern human beings dey move me again cos I know that everybody has a tendency to hurt you even your child!
Life wey only me come and na only me go follow go? Na em u allow person dey play with your joy?
You done vex ooo🤣🤣🤣
DeleteBut it painful shaaa
Bros abeg move on oooo
Sorry bro. The child may not be yours. Just accept that you were the side boo and move on. Unless you want to be malicious and spoil show for her, then you can meddle and demand for a dna test, if you can foot the bill.
ReplyDeleteNo need for malice
DeleteMove on my brother
Not cool
ReplyDeleteNot cool
I pray you meet Your Yang❤️
You will get the needed advice about your heartbreak but my concern is, how do some of you sleep with people anyhow? You slept with her and she slept with another man who is likely sleeping with another woman. Aside from Dna test (because you might be the father of the child but maybe the other one is richer) do other tests like STI's and next time stop fornicating. It saves you a lot of unnecessary headache but you will not hear
ReplyDeleteBe strong and look ahead. Love Will find you
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your heartbreak, may you find love again is so painful working in the same place
ReplyDeleteSome men like to play and ladies don't like men that play with their time. How serious did you take the relationship?? Did you have issue with her?? How did you get her cousin's number??
ReplyDeleteLet's say she was cheating while she was still with you.
Is she aware that you were the one that sent those items to her parents??
Give her space or rather make out time again to go and see her .
Her cousin told you that she is pregnant ,you are not sure till you hear from her.
Just know this blog is not the best place to seek for advice as a man. Look at this kind of writeup.
DeleteOgbeni please I beg you in the name of God, lock up. Don't seek any closure. Please be a man and move on, don't even ask her for any explanations again, delete her numbers, don't go and look for her. Give it some time, you will be ok.
Someone that's already sending bag of rice to the parents, you open your mouth waaa to ask if he's serious, I just need someone to educate me the reason men still take this marriage of a thing serious. What do you stand to gain as a man
DeletePoster was clearly serious if he was in contact with her family, sending gifts and all. Poster, she has dumped you, it's sad but accept it and move on, it will be difficult, especially as you are in the same office and she wasn't mature enough to tell you the truth to your face (reason why office romance isn't encouraged).
DeleteAlso, she might not be pregnant, maybe she told that to her family to justify leaving you as they were all aware you were in the picture. Watch closely and if she is really pregnant, demand for a DNA test and decide what's to do if it's your child. Take heart...heartbreak happens to the best of us.
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DeleteIt is childish to ask what men gain in marriage
A stable home
A mother for his children
Continuing of his lineage
19:13
DeleteStable home indeed, your home is far more stable as a single man this days,
Mother to whose children? tell me who get more from you between your father and your mother, at the end of the day, the children belong to the mother.
The lineage you just labour for and die without any appreciation. Men please wise up, this thing is not design to favour you, you stand to gain nothing.
Poster,no gree for that your yeye girlfriend. If you guys were sexually active(unprotected) up till December then that baby she is carrying may very well be yours. You have every right to demand a DNA test from her. What kind of wickedness is this? If a man does this to a woman now,we will not hear word. Infact,that her marriage plans must scatter. She owes you an explanation and an apology and she must give it to you. Ghosting will not help her in this situation. Wicked woman.
ReplyDeleteI agree with this💯. Show her pepper!
DeleteI totally agree
DeleteI wouldn't say I understand how you feel cos I haven't been dumped before. Rather I always walk away when there's a red flag. I think she was stringing you along all the while and it's very bad for anyone to do so.
ReplyDeleteI know it's difficult but let her know you found out and then walk away.
Bro, you dodge a deadly missile and not a bullet here. She was a cheat and I'm afraid, she may carry that into marriage.
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So sad!
ReplyDeleteMaybe they are using the pregnancy gist to make you give up easily.
Shit happens, just move on ok
Gifty
He should turn it around by quietly telling her that he would ask for DNA.
DeleteYou're probably the side hen...... Sorry about that, for the pregnancy, if you're a good mathematician you can do the calculations when the pregnancy start showing forth or when she might have delivered.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry bro,let her go,since she can't even breakup respectfully. God will bring your wife,your way. She is a mean person.
ReplyDeleteIt could also be that the husband to be stays in another country while she was using you as a side boo to pass time..
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the heart break, just manage and move on.
You will definitely find love again okay.
If you have money pursue the DNA matter when the child is born..
Poster, don't you think you dodged a bullet but scrapped your hand in the process?
ReplyDeleteWas she not two timing you and the other guy?
I know you would say you invested so much in that relationship: time, emotions and resources but hold your self together and thank your stars you have not gone through the processes leading to marriage.
Don't look for or expect explanations from her.
Just be watching her from a distance and be ready for any negative energy she brings your way.
Maybe, you weren't that serious with her!
ReplyDeleteSome of you don't take your relationship serious, that's why some girls dey look for another place.😎
She should have left then and not allowed him send gifts to her family
DeleteI won’t gree if I’m him
Return my money or I call your man with evidence and let him decide for himself
Apple, stop blaming the victim, especially when you don't know the poster personally. Anon, asking to return gifts is childish, he showed he is a responsible boyfriend by sending gifts and she showed she is irresponsible by recieving his gifts, knowing fully well she was planning to walk away.
DeleteJust tell her to that you need to speak with her and that it's not about her getting married but say you to clearify things.😎
ReplyDeleteDid you tell her your intentions. All these time wasters. You want to date her for years. Better leave her alone.
ReplyDeleteOP. It is 2024. No gree for any yeye girlfriend o! Scatter any scatterable😂😂😂😂! Turn up on the eve of the wedding and let the world know she is carrying your baby. She wan chop and clean mouth. No gree o! Anyways try no collect beating on top sha.
ReplyDeletePoster, take this advice.
DeleteSluttychic.
Don"t. Respect yourself even though she did not respect herself and you.
DeleteI am a man. I know a man who attended the reception. Congratulated the woman. That sealed the office gossips and taunts. But since there was no sx there was no need for DNA etc.
Please, don't do this.
DeleteDon't take this advice
DeleteNothing strategic or intelligent about it
Anonymouses above, how hard is it to know that I'm just catching cruise?
DeleteJust catching cruise indeed. Someone already advised poster to follow your advice. Everything na play
DeleteHmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteMr man, focus on your life and look for another woman. Don't stress her or cause problem for her abeg.let her be, she has made her decisions.
Concerning the pregnancy, do not stress yourself because it's a 50/50 thing. When she gives birth and she dea it fit to let you know that, you are the father then accept it and if not, life goes on.
This is just the truth.
Let me shock you..You were not the only one she was having sex with when yoy guys werw together. Know this and know peace
As hard as it might be,respect her decision and move on. At least she told you and you didn't find out on social media. Her avoiding you could be how she can focus on her forthcoming nuptials and nor fall into your arms again for goodbye coitus.
ReplyDeleteEhya she dumped you. It hurts, sorry bro.
ReplyDeleteJust move on.
Manage your heart you will e fine.
Leave that pregnancy issue alone biko don't go and scatter her new marriage abeg. And if you must do a dna let it be a secret btw you and her. And if she doesn't want,just let it go. One thing is for sure what goes around will surely come around.
It's quite obvious the lady didn't attach any string to the relationship you had with her, you were used just like a spare wheel, too bad you catch feelings and believed that relationship was heading somewhere.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you to move on as the lady had made up her mind. It was obvious from your post that the lady has never had any future plan for the relationship. The truth is, at this point, the more you try to reach her the more likely she will resent you. I know it's not easy, but you just need to stop trying to reach her, please. Delete everything that has to do with her from your life, no contacting her or any of her relatives, you don't need no more closure from her. Start behaving like she doesn't exist. Stop being soft, stop whining like a baby, focus on yourself, and be positive. If it happens you walk into each other in the office, be casual, no reminiscing. Don't go looking for her in her department anymore.
She didn't just wake up to dump you, the signs would have been there but you were ignoring and instead trying to prove Mr nice guy to her and her family, buying stuff for her parents when they didn't request one from you. Can I ask if she bought anything for your parents in return?
As regards the pregnancy, I will advise you to only bring it up when you think you are no more hurting and emotional stable, but be matured going about it.
Did he tell her or hint that he wanted to marry her? Is he even sure he would have proposed if she didn't move on to someone else?
DeleteShe should have broken up with you before announcing her marriage but it seems you didn't exactly ask her out and you guys just started sleeping together without any wooing or declaration of love.
That’s how one guy that we smashed each other real good for a month started catching feelings. Like are you mad ? Must every smash lead to a serious relationship? Abeg getat.Guy was shocked say I no send am despite all the smashing. Una think say na only men sabi smash and run.
ReplyDeleteHow are you sure she is pregnant or just a way to chase you out of her life.
ReplyDeleteThat lady isn't getting married, she's using that as an excuse. You see that package you sent her parents and only received a call from her mum? There lies your reason for the breakup, they didn't appreciate it. She wants to date someone above your pay range.
ReplyDeleteIf that is genuinely the best you could do then please forget about that lady, she and her family members are ungrateful but if you could do more but didn't give much in the relationship then learn from this for future relationships.
Allow her to go, she's not your wife.
Wow!!!
ReplyDeleteHow is she marrying someone else knowing she was sleeping with two men?
Does she not care about the paternity of her child?
Please confront her joor😡
Oga just face front, you both are dating but you didn't ask her to marry abi did I miss the part you said it. The baby has said it and don't want to discuss the breakup with you cos she is feeling terrible or doesn't have the balls to say it in your face.
ReplyDeleteCount your lost ans just move on.
Ayya sorry about your hurts. Just move on pls. May be the baby is yours, but if actually is yours the baby will find her way back to you some day.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteAll this one no concern me I just need okokobioko very good one with vein
ReplyDeleteIf a boy did this to a girl now, men are scum. But since it's a Guy it happened to now, he should just take it. It's the double standard for me the guy is clearly hurt. So sorry about it
ReplyDeleteThis is so unfortunate for you, but take heart that now you know she was not the woman for you. Since you know the family it is obvious that she was bringing you around her ppl which gave you the feeling that things were secured, and in which case would make you deserving of some form of closure. But from your own words it does not seem like the relationship was clearly defined, you even referred to her as a colleague. We’re you fwb, social companions, lovers, or committed to pursuing a marriage together? I don’t think either of you truly defined what you were and that is why it was easy for her to go elsewhere. We have said it multiple times in chronicles that you must define the relationship.
ReplyDeleteJust ask God to bless her and the baby and move on with your life. Pray to God for right connection, perhaps you should also explore practicing abstinence in your next relationship so you both can concentrate on learning each other and bonding spiritually without the distraction that sex brings.
She don serve you breakfast, sorry try and move 💔
ReplyDeleteEgbon sorry just moved on.
ReplyDeleteTypical example of don't put your eggs in one rickety basket, at a point some ladies have option A,B and even C
ReplyDeleteI do not understand. Why be with a woman who is clearly in a relationship with another man? What you thought you shared was one sided.
ReplyDeleteLet her go please, you will be fine.