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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PRETENCIOUS MOTHER IN LAW
Dear Stella,
Happy New year to you and great job you are doing here…….
**sorry for the grammatical error in advance***side eyes
Please I need advice on how to go about the current situation I am in……..
My hubby and I are based outside Nigeria.God blessed us with our child 3months ago and we decided to invite my mother in law for omugwo since I will resuming work in February.Although I could have preferred my mum first but hubby insisted his mum first……….sigh#
Mum in law arrived days ago and honestly I am not really impressed with the way things are going or maybe I am just too bothered….please correct me if I am wrong ………..
Some scenarios;
1. She always want to be with the baby and if I request to play with my baby for some minutes she always decline but she never say no to her son if he request…
2. She praised her son for taking good care of the baby and never acknowledge my own effort but hubby corrected her immediately and she rephrased the sentence…….
3. She doesn’t assist with house chores or cooking even washing of baby clothes but do bath baby.
And she can be selective when it comes to food and you know local food is very expensive here………….
4. She’s always over happy when you buy something for her and that’s when she will be praising and praying for me…..
5. She wants baby to be sleeping with her in the night……..is this the normal way????????
Please I need advice on how to manage the situation or are the above scenarios normal???
Kindly note that discussing all these with hubby is out of the option please.
Thank you Stella
First off....congrats on your baby....
Happy New year to you and great job you are doing here…….
**sorry for the grammatical error in advance***side eyes
Please I need advice on how to go about the current situation I am in……..
My hubby and I are based outside Nigeria.God blessed us with our child 3months ago and we decided to invite my mother in law for omugwo since I will resuming work in February.Although I could have preferred my mum first but hubby insisted his mum first……….sigh#
Mum in law arrived days ago and honestly I am not really impressed with the way things are going or maybe I am just too bothered….please correct me if I am wrong ………..
Some scenarios;
1. She always want to be with the baby and if I request to play with my baby for some minutes she always decline but she never say no to her son if he request…
2. She praised her son for taking good care of the baby and never acknowledge my own effort but hubby corrected her immediately and she rephrased the sentence…….
3. She doesn’t assist with house chores or cooking even washing of baby clothes but do bath baby.
And she can be selective when it comes to food and you know local food is very expensive here………….
4. She’s always over happy when you buy something for her and that’s when she will be praising and praying for me…..
5. She wants baby to be sleeping with her in the night……..is this the normal way????????
Please I need advice on how to manage the situation or are the above scenarios normal???
Kindly note that discussing all these with hubby is out of the option please.
Thank you Stella
First off....congrats on your baby....
Now let me explain this game to you.....
When your mother comes you dont know what drama she will display to your son but now that his mum is around and displaying actress tendencies, manage her well without even reporting her to her son.....She wants gifts? nothing is too expensive so buy what you can afford for her everyday if possible? She doesnt to give you the baby to carry, oya make she carry am all day nah, you relax and use the time to get yourself well rested...... e no easy to see free time when the baby is around oh...
Shes doing fake praises? praise her back and tell her that she is the best mother in law..
If she is choosy about food, then collect money from her son to buy for her......
Since she is pretending to be too busy with the baby then do your washing, cooking and cleaning yourself, omugwo doesnt exist abroad and i did all of it by myself, so please!
She may be doing all that eye service to be in the good books of her son, so please let her be........just give baby food at night and let her have him as long as she no wan carry am go coven...LOL
Manage her well so that when your mum comes your hubby will also manage her well....
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If she is choosy about food, then collect money from her son to buy for her......
Since she is pretending to be too busy with the baby then do your washing, cooking and cleaning yourself, omugwo doesnt exist abroad and i did all of it by myself, so please!
She may be doing all that eye service to be in the good books of her son, so please let her be........just give baby food at night and let her have him as long as she no wan carry am go coven...LOL
Manage her well so that when your mum comes your hubby will also manage her well....
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Lol Stella. You've done well with the advice
ReplyDeletePoster why is discussing with your husband not an option?
DeleteLOL 😄😄 @ Stella. Your gave her the right advice.
DeletePerson want sleep with baby all night and u dey complain? Rest yourself and leave her with d baby nah!
DeleteEven though I don't fancy your mum in law coming for ur omugwo!
In my place the mother in law won't accept it knowing ur mum is alive cos she knows its not in her place to go but u might be from Yoruba!
Ladies marrying outside your tribe please discuss and try to understand how things are done in the other tribe o!
Na why I no gree for anything non Igbo because I hate explanation!
Stella, you're on point 👌
DeleteBetter use the time she holds the baby to rest. Hmmm if I see person wey go help me carry my baby all day so I can rest I go shout for joy. Please there is nothing to worry about.
DeleteSince she helps with holding the baby just take the time to do the other chores. Congratulations ma.
Stella has said it all. Nothing to add. Poster your MIL is an angel compared to some I know. Just manage her like that.
DeleteStella's advice is so on point
DeleteNothing to add.
I understand you poster. Your feelings are valid. As a new mum, not being able to carry the baby when you want to leaves you with a sense of guilt like you are not a good mother. If it's your first, you also want to just cuddle your baby and take lots of pictures. I've noticed that omugwo is done 'differently' by different tribes. Just manage until your mum arrives. Pele
DeleteMIL/DIL wahala. I suggest you follow Stella’s advice since you said discussing it with your husband is out of the equation. As long as she’s good with the baby do your chores and have no expectations of her after all if she wasn’t there you would handle your chores yourself. It’s really not easy to have someone reliable to care for your baby while you work so appreciate that, the mindset of gratitude would help you overlook her shortcomings.
ReplyDeleteAs much as you can let peace reign.
Goodluck dear.
On that food matter, collect money from her son and buy her what she wants. Do what your strength can carry, rest and rest. If possible pretend too and play the game.
ReplyDeleteDon't you breastfeed your baby? After breastfeeding, you can carry your baby around now, if your baby sleeps, go lie down near her/him. But if you go out and come back, you have every right to touch/carry your baby and cuddle him/her that mama is back. Always whisper prayers to his ears.
Mao Akuh
OP said discussing these with her husband is out of the question. Hmmmm... A major flag there.
ReplyDeleteI guess the counsel of BVs is more important than that of your husband whose opinion is the only relevant one.
I do know for a fact though that all these small pesky things you are taking time to nibble and grumble about your mother-in-law, you'd have no issue with them if it was your mom to came.
I see nothing wrong with your mom-in-law. The wrong person here is you. Making an issue out of imagined occurrences just to paint a narrative that has no bearing in reality.
*mom that came.
DeleteMy dear ehn discuss what exactly with her husband? Poster she came for omugwo and she has been taking care of the baby that she came for,what is your problem? You want your mother in-law to come and be washing clothes for you what happened to your washing machine? If you don’t have 1 go and buy cos even here in Nigeria we use washing machine. You are just angry it’s not your mom that came full stop.
DeleteYou’re lucky your mother in-law is not the type that will come and you start babysitting her while she creates nothing but chaos in your home. I won’t even allow my mother in-law wash clothes just because she came for omugwo even if I’m sick let my husband do the washing. Poster respect yourself.
Fan Emmanuel
Fan you are wrong
DeleteOmugwo is not to just take care of the baby
She’s doing the fun part of hanging out wit the baby and leaving the work for the dil that’s not the way
Anonymous you are the one very very wrong. Did you say hanging out with a baby? Do people hang out with new born baby? How can you not appreciate a woman that deprives herself even night rest to care for your baby?? Can you do it for someone? Even when my mom came for my own child’s omugwo she didn’t go that extreme for me. Once my baby say nyeee my mother will tell me to come and carry her, that she can not be cuddling a baby when her mother is around. Poster you will surely miss that woman mark my word.
DeleteFan Emmanuel
17.18, so sleeping with the baby all night is part of the fun part right?
DeleteLolz.
That is the most difficult part of omugwo pls. I just did one and it’s no easy task.
Fan, they don't understand. I'll jump on the idea of having another baby, if I see who'll hold baby for me at night. Poster, don't wish for a bad mother inlaw because you here people talking about their bad MIL.
DeleteThis mama you described here is not bad.
When you old, we'll see how you'll show your own old age.
How can you not have a washing machine when you have a baby?
Let mama come and be doing house girl for you so that you can relax and watch her?
It's understandable if you have other kids to care for, or if you had resumed work.
You're not serious at all.
19:01 is it only at night she’s not letting her carry
DeleteI wish my MIL did half of this.Poster please enjoy her, she is doing well IMO. She even de help you carry pikin all night, you de complain? Start work fess, you go know how far. Nursery is like £1300 for my side, any help is appreciated. If you no get money, go boot sales or charity shop and buy new stuff. Keep them, bring out one each week as thank you for her.
ReplyDeletePraise her, etc.
Your MIL is low maintenance biko.
You even have Husband that is on your side sef.
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DeleteExactly anonymous,I cannot find faults here. Take her as your mother,you won't see all these faults.
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DeleteStella I am giving this one to you. Great advice!
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DeleteStella 's advice is bae 10/10
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DeleteStella your blue abi purple pen these days is really impressive o
ReplyDeleteGifty
Stella bring back the red pen.😁
DeleteHmmmm!!!! Stella stella🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
ReplyDeleteBest advice Stella👏... Poster please follow Stella's advice and all will be well with your household.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your Baby!.
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ReplyDelete@strolls out of post after awesome advice
Stellaooooh.
I remember when i had issues with my mother inlaw, i wanted to react or distance myself from her, but i went to God in prayer in tears bcoz the hurt was much. God took away that pain that could have turned to hate, and gave me love. Everything she was doing after was tolerated with much love and understanding.
Please love her with all your heart.
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DeleteWell said Stella, Gbam!
ReplyDeleteIf na your mama you go complain?
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on ur baby.
ReplyDeletePls manage ur MIL o
If u know u will go and add to the stress of a new mother, pls don’t go to get home after she gives birth. Wait till baby is a baby 8-12 months old before u go and do vacation and carry baby.
ReplyDeleteEka, stop that. This daughter inlaw carry entitlement mentality sew agbada.
DeleteI know lots of friends here who are looking for who will hold their babies for them so they can work.
I also had friends who's MILs came and didn't help out.
When she goes, you'll know what you had.
This poster's MIL is even helping with the baby, but poster wants a domestic help.
You won't even pity the old woman Waist? Abeg!
Even when my mum and mother in law came for Omugwo, I always slept with my baby because of night feeding but they made sure they took care of every other thing. Cooking (the dishes I had not made), cleaning, every single thing. Omugwo is time for a mother to rest and recuperate, how will she recuperate if she keeps doing chores?
DeleteYou said it here that you don't like washing the dishes so your husband does it. The mother in law may not like cooking too and washing or hardly cooks and wash at home. Or has workers who has been doing it for her for years, so she isn't used to it. You don't know her kind of lifestyle. Because yours did it doesn't mean it applies to posters in law or every mother in law on the planet would deem it okay.
DeleteThat aside, Your mother in law was well rested at night so she had extra energy left to do chores the next day not the mother in law in this story.
Thank you Eka o I don't understand how you will deprive a mother from carrying her baby but quick to give the baby to the daddy and even praise him for taking care of the baby better than the mother. Omugwo is not just for carrying baby you also help with other things. Poster please be patient and do what you can do and when you need to bond with your baby ask her to kindly hand the baby over to you no one has the right to stop you from carrying you own child
DeleteHello Mummy
ReplyDeleteYou know your mother in law is not here to defend herself . From all what you said ,I do not see any issue here at all.
If she wants to be with the baby let her do that so you can rest .
Even if she does not praise you for all you do as a new Mummy, praise yourself, you can buy gifts for yourself to appreciate yourself, you are doing well raising a baby.
You didn't tell us her age ,what if she is not so strong to do most of the house chores? At least she is good at helping to carry the baby that's work on its own ,let's appreciate her for that .
If she cooks for you ,are you sure that you will like her food? Won't you still complain that its not tasting like your own ? Cut her some slack abeg.
You know she loooves gifts ,then give her gifts ,does not have to be expensive gifts.
In all of these,in what way is your husband helping with the baby and house chores? You left that part out.
Please, don't expect Mama to do more. You need a helping hand? Communicate your feelings to your husband to assist .
In all you do,ensure you don't confront her with these to avoid issues, Talk to your husband. These are questions you should be free to ask your husband.
Thank you!
DeleteStella your advice is the best since I started reading your advice. I have a 14 month old in the abroad, since the day I birthed my child I have not slept for 8 hours in a day. My life has changed drastically in that aspect.
ReplyDeleteMadam please allow your MIL take care of your baby while you do the chores. I did my omugwo myself, I wish I saw someone that took my child 24/7! Relax and just chill. Don’t worry, you will have your child back soon, lol.
Karen
I also have a 6 months old baby and I did the omugwo myself too and you are not appreciating the fact that she helps with carrying baby????? Madam relax yourself and enjoy the moment
DeleteI tire for poster and her likes
DeleteStella, you no get wahala.. Your baby is 3months
ReplyDeleteWhen mama departs, you will remember her carrying the baby 😊.
Quit looking for problems. She might not be pretending. You should have washing machine, what is the problem with laundry?
Better delete that SM wokeness and enjoy your leave.
Stella, kudos.
I don't know why some of you wives are quick to find fault with your Mils no matter how nice. It seems that is your stock in trade. You, you are not perfect, your husband is not perfect yet you will be using a microscope to search for perfection in your MiL.
ReplyDeleteYou said she carries the baby all the time and keeps the baby with her at midnight. Who doesn't know babies hardly sleep at night? Now, An elderly woman who should be getting good hours of sleep is depriving herself, yet you are complaining. Something you should be grateful for. If she gives the baby to you at midnight how would you be able to function properly the next day at work?
You said she is there for Omugwo and that is exactly what she is focusing on so why should you be bothered she is not cooking? If you get a childminder won't you cook and still pay an exorbitant fee for the services rendered?
After carrying the baby all through the day and night diligently, you still expect her to cook. You suddenly cannot cook or clean anymore, while your baby is already being taken care of? I don't understand. Before your baby arrived were you not cooking and doing every household duty together with your husband why should Mama join in that when she is already occupied and helping in her own way?
She shows appreciation when you gift her things and pray for you so that one too is an issue?
She is not used to foreign dishes so it is understandable she would want her local delicacies once in a while. It is expensive you say, is she staying forever? Or when she eats it, is she the only one eating? Don't you and your husband get to eat out of it? Do you prepare it for her alone and not the whole family? If it was your mom would you complain? Or you think the only thing she would be eating throughout her stay will be rice, spag, burgers, etc
Yes, you cannot discuss it with your husband because there is nothing to discuss.
Words on Marble.
Lol
DeleteOmo how can I like this comment a million times! You have said it all
DeleteFan Emmanuel
I disagree on this. Ọmụgwọ is to primarily take care of the mother while she cares for the baby. Ọmụgwọ is not to come and carry baby and sit in one place. Ọmụgwọ person should cook and make sure mother is well fed, do some chores to make things easy for mum and carry baby when mum is tired.
DeletePoster, I'm so sorry you don't have your mother with you, I'm in the middle of this so I understand . Don't let anybody seperate you from your baby. Which nonsense ọmụgwọ is that? Carry your baby whenever you want. At night, you leave baby for mama to carry. And I don't think you're Igbo, because in true ọmụgwọ, it is the lady's mother who does it as she is presumed to have the lady's best interest at heart. Your husband is so selfish to insist on his mother doing Ọmụgwọ for you.
Try and manage your mother in law, accept whatever help she offers but don't let anyone seperate your baby from you.
Gbam
DeleteAnon 17:46, an old woman never slump for you before.
DeleteDo you know what health issues mama is managing?
For this winter you want an old woman to put hand inside water and wash?
This poster does not like her MIL.
It won't be long before ger husband noticed.
Bye
Word on marble thank you o. I don't understand why people like to find fault where there is non
DeleteAnon 17:46, I come think say na me forget the meaning and essence of Omugwo. As a new mother, I am not too tired that I can’t carry my baby but I am definitely not strong enough to be doing other things. This is where ur mother comes in. My mother in law showed a proper example of what Omugwo should be. Even windows that I don’t clean the outside, she cleaned perfectly. Even if u tell her to leave anything that u will do it, she will tell me God forbid, that this was the work she came for and then u see people accusing poster of entitlement for actually wanting what is required. Na wa!
DeleteNo oo17:46 at night she shouldn't leave baby for grandma. You cannot expect Grandma to be deprived of sleep at night and still be expecting her to cook and clean during the day when she is supposed to be sleeping. Pick your struggle abeg!
DeleteYou are complaining on one hand that grandma is not cooking and cleaning as she should and still telling poster to leave the baby for her at night so she won't sleep and faint during the day from exhaustion ba?
It is selfish to call the husband selfish when you don't know the tribe he is from and how omugwo is done in his tribe. Saying the bride's mom is the only one with the bride interest at heart is not true in most cases, go through the comments and read for yourself about women who are enjoying the poster simply because their own mother couldn't do half of what the poster mother in law did.
Thank you very much anonymous 17:46 coming for omugwo and the best you can do is refusing a mother from carrying her own baby. When my mother in law came for my own omugwo she carried the baby, she cooked and she did all she could to help omugwo is not time to prevent a mother from carrying her own child. Poster please accept her the way she is and just tell yourself that even if she is not around you will still do your work yourself but make sure you don't over work yourself
DeleteA woman who gave birth 3 months ago is not a recently new mom. Haba
DeleteSo someone who gave birth three months ago cannot cook, cannot clean window.
No be una go first born abeg abeg
There are people up there who did their omugwo themselves and they are still alive hale and hearty. Learn to appreciate the help you receive.
The baby is being carried so use that opportunity to do the cleaning and cook your food. The one that are not carrying baby are cleaning and cooking and sleeping very well at night while the one that is carrying baby is not cooking and cleaning but not sleeping well at night so at the end it is the same help you are receiving depending on how you chose to see it.
Poster please try and manage her till she leaves, after all she won't be with you people forever. Since she wants to be with the baby all day let her be,and use the opportunity to have alot of rest cos when she leaves, you and your hubby will be left alone with the baby.Then, you will appreciate what your mother in law is doing for you cos carrying baby all day plus house chores plus your daily job no easy ooo
ReplyDeletePoster pls take to Stella advice so that you can have peace in your marriage, congrats on your baby.
ReplyDeleteJust manage her for the time abeg, she's just being dramatic, MIL matter no dey end at all, just be happy enjoy the moment
ReplyDeleteAll you listed can be managed. Don't read so meaning to it
ReplyDeleteAnd poster good mother’s that come for omugwo sleep in the same room with the baby, the nursing mom only goes to breastfeed the baby when she hear her baby’s voice. Someone that’s not intentional will not even bother and you know the real work is at night. Better be thankful to that woman cos you will really miss her when she leave
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
I don't know your problem with your MIL, you have no issue but you want to create one for yourself by yourself.
ReplyDeleteIs she supposed to be cooking or cleaning for you, is she your housemaid?
You're not even happy that she's taking care of the baby at day and night, don't worry, you will feel it when she leaves, then you will know how far.
The sleeping with the baby part is strange to me. I also find it odd that she does not help with any housework. When her time is up, be courteous and thankful and gift her well. She seems to be of little help, but I suppose her son is happy to have her there. Your feelings are valid, and her style of omugwo is barebones, but do not say anything negative about her. Know she will leave eventually and at least you have that to look forward to.
ReplyDeleteAs in ehn! Real barebones ọmụgwọ! And people here are making it seem like poster is wrong for feeling how she does.
DeleteThank God I have seen another comment that I agree with. Thank God
DeleteShe probably married from a different tribe. My friend was even the one going to give the baby to her mother in law at night. The baby slept where the mother in law slept.
DeleteYou guys are funny
ReplyDeletePoster has every right to be upset
Mil won’t let her carry but will give don as par what now
Giving the baby to her husband is a form of relieving the mother. She feels the mother has done the greater work of birthing the child. In my place we say once a baby is out of the womb then the baby belongs to everybody. Some will watch you do your chores carrying your baby. The mother in-law is a good woman
DeleteFan Emmanuel
Fan no way
DeleteThey’ve not born the person that won’t let me carry my new baby
Helping is different but outright refusing nah mehn
You want to enjoy your child
Others may not have an issue with this, but no one has more rights to my child than I do. It is wrong of mama to keep the baby from OP when OP explicitly asks for her child. That is the height of disrespect and considering that OP is STILL in the 4th trimester, she should be handled with care. It seems some people forget how things are after pregnancy. Hormones are all over the place. The need to keep your baby close is normal. I agree that you AND your husband can manage the chores, unless you're still recovering from delivery (which is not unheard of at 3m postpartum). No one came to do omugwo for me. if someone had been able to come, I would've requested help with the chores/ cooking because that would've been the most helpful for me. I could hold my baby all day and sleep when she sleeps 😆.
ReplyDeleteAll these saying are nothing but finding fault just to send the poor woman away so that your mother can come,you are wicked pls let us hear when your mother comes whether she can do half of what you said she did?she doesn't cook?is she here to cook?you have not been cooking before she came?you are just not happy that she is there.
ReplyDeleteI think poster is missing that bonding with her new baby allow her to carry baby ,maybe at night you ll sleep with baby ,
ReplyDeleteso at night if she is hungry how do you do it , she brings the baby for breastfeeding or the baby is on formula or you pump and give her to feed the baby
Manage her like that and enjoy the free time to sleep
Exactly. Forget about her other complaints, I feel her inability to sufficiently bond with her baby is the issue here.
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Your mother in-law is not that bad , I will prefer this your mother in law to my own mother, who will come and I would feel like I had 2 kids. She would need attention and special treatment…
ReplyDeletePoster enjoy this vacation while it last. Taking care of a baby, home and also working is a whole lot my dear.
ReplyDeleteJewelu don finish work here nothing more. Poster you better enjoy your free time and stop complaining.
ReplyDeleteMadam i hate to say this but you don't have problem o,
ReplyDeleteMy mil was always carrying baby, baby will sleep and wake up in her arms, baby is always on her arms, i told her mummy please don't carry baby too much cuz I don't want baby to get used to it as i no get strength to dey carry pikin upandan, she picked offence, i kuku left her to carry baby, she carry sotey she tire, that was when she started living with us.
My second son has weight eh, very big, he got used to being carried, she started complaining, she be like onyi come and carry your baby, i will say mum please keep him on the bed or something, hand tell am🤣🤣🤣
By the time my daughter came along eh, if anyone carries her for her long, she will be like keep that baby down🤣🤣🤣
Who says your mum wont be picky with food? My mum was picky with food when she came for omugwo, she get her own for her body too. my mil is very picky too, if she rejects food i give her something else to eat, if i don't have, i ask her to manage it like that and she does
Poster allow her enjoy her grandchild o, ignore the rest cuz she will soon go.
Who has strength to be reporting inlaws to hubby kwanu, i have my ways, find a way dear.
Gifty
Omugwo is not for taking care of babies alone o, it is also for taking care of the mothers too. Poster, your mother in law try wella. I have four children and my mum in law didn't come for one Omugwo at all. (my mum is late) Just take Stella's advice up there and face your front.
ReplyDeleteCalm down madam.
ReplyDeleteDear poster. Congratulations on your first baby.
ReplyDeleteI like Stella’s advice to you.
What I will say is that as a first time mum, you may be obsessed with getting everything right and having things done in a specific way, after all, it is your first baby! But what you will realise after the second and third ones arrive that you were really fussing.
Let mama take care of the baby. Baby is still your baby even after she leaves. Accept the help she is giving you now. It is priceless.
Do overlook her faults also - it is all part of being family.
Poster, you're very funny. Your Mil is taking stress of you by being with the baby all the time. You should be thankful she's allowing you get a good night's rest. Please allow her. I wish my case was like that. Since I've been giving birth since 2021, I can't really the last time I slept to my satisfaction. Please overlook all these minor things
ReplyDeleteOne of the spiritual teachers I respect very well always said that you shouldn’t let young children sleep with old ppl. I can’t remember the reason he gave, basically he said parents should not allow it. Maybe this mil is only in her 40s or 50s and not technically old, but even if I had never heard that teaching I could not allow my baby to sleep with their grandma, especially if they are sharing the same bed. Nope, no way.
DeleteNa waa for this advice o, must everything be turned into spiritual? Jeez!
DeleteGod bless you Stella for the advice
ReplyDeleteSo your mother inlaw should be washing clothes?
ReplyDeleteMay I never make a sacrifice for a person that will never appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteMother inlaw deprives herself of her sleep so that you can always have a good night rest and you still don't appreciate it?
This is one of the best advice I have ever read, ma'am 🤗😊👍👍. Poster that's all you need.
ReplyDeleteNice advise
ReplyDelete@poster, I don get it....do you need permission to sleep with your own baby in the night....if your MI L says she wants to sleep with baby all you need to do is say NO...PERIOD!!
ReplyDeleteIs your husband yoruba? My friend who is yoruba was complaining to me that her mil refused to keep the baby with her at night and carry her throughout the day. I told her the woman may want to sleep and she said but it is the work she came to do.
ReplyDeleteShe was not bothered about the cooking and other things like helping around the house except that the woman did not do what your own mother in law is doing. When I saw the mother in law she looked like all these shaffy bello and joke Silva
I sense a cultural difference in your write up and a lifestyle difference
Poster follow Stella blue ink advice it is the best.
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