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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IN LOVE WITH MARRIED EX
Stella I'm in love with my married ex boyfriend.
He got married last week and he still wants us to be together. We couldn't get married due to tradition. I was the one that sent a chronicle on the last year's Valentine's day, you actually posted my chronicle on the 15th of February last year.
I've tried to move on, but my heart doesn't beat for any other man.
I've tried to move on, but my heart doesn't beat for any other man.
We took oath with the Bible never to disappoint or hurt each other. He wants us to have a child together as a kind of assurance for me. I'm not proud of this but I'm helplessly in love with this man.
I want him all to myself. What do i do bvs? Pls advise and not bash me. Or is there any tips on how to stop loving someone? I really want to know. I really don't think I'm snatching anyone's husband, besides i met him first. So if there is any snatching here i think it's the other way round.. Pls how do i cope with sharing my man with a so called wife??! Chaaiii God....
Mtsheeeeew
ReplyDeleteDouble mtshewwwww. Guy man job you marry another woman and in turn wants to keep you a side piece and you are allowing him?? Wake up oo and leave that marriage alone madam I knew him first, that did not stop him from marrying her.
DeletePoster
DeleteIf not for tradition, he wouldn't have married anyone else but me.
Secondly he wants to have maybe 2 kids with her, divorce her and then be with meeeee!!!
Yeah we can have kids but can't get married my mom told me that.
I can't leave my man!!
Tonto dikes case will come to play in this case oooo!!
Cos he must come back to me!!!
And i mean at all cost!!!
Ask of Anambra tradition!!!
You are very stupid poster. How dare you call her "so called wife".na wa
DeleteAt this point Poster,you're a certified Nzuzu 🙄🙄🙄
DeletePoster pls tell us the tradition
DeleteMe sef wan learn
Poster you need counseling and help by a professional psychologist. How you are feeling is not new. It maybe tough for you coping with this feeling alone, especially with you being adamant. You are only entrapping yourself and allowing yourself to be used. Do you know you deserve better? Do you know you can live well and do better without this obsession? Do you know that you don't need him? He has already shown you are not his priority, just something to use. Poster I honestly wish you the best free from this obsession, because things like this hardly end well. Please get help.
DeleteI shudder at the abysmal depths of your idiocy.
DeleteWhich part of Anambra tradition? 🤷♀️ Perhaps, you are related back in the olden days.
DeleteYou lack self esteem. You don't value yourself nor do you attach any consequence to your heartless character.
You are a side hen fighting for a man who couldn't fight tradition for you.
I bụ ewu Gambia. Nkapi na ere ure na afụ onwe ya ọnụ.
I don't have advice for you. You already made a decision to cling to an osu in the name of love.. 😄
Waste your life chasing shadow.
This poster don high. U need cord for neck. I pray that the divorce you both have planned for her, will turn around and hit you. He will end up leaving you. Tradition cant allow him wife you, but can allow him baby mama you? And you still stand put for there, instead of you to run.
DeleteOh Chimoo! Thunderrrr, Are you busy?
Its ok poster. Be patient ehn! Wait for him to have two kids with his wife, then he will divorce her and come back to you.
DeleteMy question is, while you're waiting for him to accomplish all these, what are you going to be doing with your life? I'm just curious, no offence
Nne, come close let me hug you first. I understand what you are going through. I was with a guy for 4 years but we couldn't get married because of this damn traditional wahala. I waited for 3 years after we finally broke up for him to come back because I believed we were meant to be. All this ended in 2021. He got married in December 2022 and I'm getting married soon.
DeleteLet me tell you something, that guy doesn't love you enough and that is why he couldn't fight tradition for you. If he did, he'd give them the middle finger and marry you. Breaking a marriage isnt one bit as easy as nollywood people make it seem especially when children are involved. Please wake up. What if he falls in love with this wife of his before the divorce, a woman he is seeing everyday, fucking, that cooks for him and they'll share kids, he will tell you to move on and there's not a thing you'll do about it. Worst case, you'll go to prayer houses to place a curse on him and his family. What if his wife or her family members are Prayer warriors or meet a prayer warrior one day, it will backfire and you'll suffer the consequences. Also, remember that to hold a man down, you have to be down too.
If those prayer houses tell you they can make him leave her and come back to you, the same applies as above. Besides, why will you want to be with someone that is with you against his will. And I promise you, those things don't last forever.
My dear, why not see your value and understand that you are worthy of a man that will damn tradition and the whole world to be with you. My now fiancee did that. Plus, I was pregnant for his friend but had to have an abortion before me and him reconnected and started dating. You know what he did when I told him, and I told him less than a month into dating because i didn't want to waste his time, he took sometime to clear his head and came back to me. Tell me what love is greater than that and how I won't love that man till my last breath.
Sweetheart, there's a great man looking for exactly what you are. Why not leave this ex of yours alone? He's not yours. I know it hurts to hear it. I had more than 6 heartbreak and each one drove me crazy and I didn't want to let go. There's someone for you. Don't let this man make you lose it.
@16:56
DeleteOr maybe she is the Osu.
The tradition is, however, outdated.
But people like the Poster gives it reason. With the way she is taking the matter, people will say no wonder some people are so treated.
Dante predicted this outcome so well in the posters previous chronicle. I had to go read it. I have no advice for the poster.
DeleteI know that tradition😁
DeleteAnything you do and you are not from Anambra as a woman stay away from our first sons, he was not groomed for you but for anambra women only!
Go for second sons and the rest!
But we are all igbos and we are seeking for biafra is not an excuse!😂
I saw someone saying OSU😂
DeleteIn anambra osu is even worse than anything! We go collect the woman that is not from anambra than the anambra osu instead we go still marginalize am at least to use hold body 😂
Wake Up oooo from Your slumber oooo
DeleteTradition did not permit you both to marry
So what are you still doing with him...
Forget his sugar coated mouth oooo
His just choping you oo
Wake up waks up wake up
Poster are you the anon 15.53? Go ahead nau, if you've decided to have him at all cost, why are you asking us for advise?
DeleteWe won't share in the shege pro max you will encounter in years to come so suit yourself as you no wan hear word.
Infact, give birth to as many children as you wish for this man you hear?
You sound ignorant with this generalization. So you haven't seen Anambra first sons that married foreigners, other tribes, etc?
DeleteReceive brain IJN. Traditions couldn't make him marry you, but the same tradition doesn't stop from making you a single mother? You need brain resetting sl*ps, you're not worth being the house wife but a potential side chick, you need to work on your self esteem
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Aswearughad 🤣🤣😂😂
DeleteSerious brain resetting slap. Poster aka soon to be scorned side chicken, I pity your life!! You are playing with fire and want to just mess up yourself long term, this is the perfect time for a recourse, just abort that mission if you like your sanity because premium tears awaits you if you go ahead with that your yamayama plan, you go fear dragging a man with his legal wife nau, e go shock you!!!
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, this blue emoji is very funny 🤣🤣.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Sister, which one is "we took an oath..... not to hurt each other"? he has already hurt you , wetin remain?
What will you gain by dragging your remaining self esteem in the gutters?
Tradition that didn't allow you to marry, will it now allow you to have a child together???
Please get a grip and ask God to help you overcome this terrible heartbreak that is making you clutch at straws, because I believe that is what is making you consider all these nonsense.
Please do not allow that man to eat his cake and still have it at the expense of your present and future life.
May God heal you.
✌️
Thank you for preventing me to type long story. Madam oga have moved on o. He wants to continue with you because you are easy toto and he doesn;t have time to start from scratch with another low esteem girl, so tying you down with a child so he can ruin you for other men is perfect for him. Find a hobby and find your self worth. I feel sorry for you because when you meet a man that truly loves you, he will never demand such rubbish.
DeleteThe man is not the problem here. The chronicle poster is under a spell called mumuism
Delete🤯🤯🤯🤯 TF I read...You obviously don't need help cos you said this ''I really don't think I'm snatching anyone's husband, besides I met him first''....You are not serious and not ready even one year after, you obviously don't have any value or esteem for yourself....
ReplyDeleteContinue playing the second fiddle....
All the best in your year long self-heart-breaking tour, premium tears and sending another chronicle in January or February 2025 ☺️☺️...
I don't think this is love, it's now an obsession. From the look of things, you can do anything to be with him. I don't think he feels that way about you, if not he for no hurry marry less than a year after. Kindly stop all liaison between the two of you. It might be hard at first but with time everything will be alright.
ReplyDeleteYour first name na mumu
ReplyDeleteMassive one ☹️
DeletePoster I'm really sorry,you can't be with the man,you love,because of tradition. You need to move on with your life,If he really cared about you,he won't get married to another person. And be proposing nonsense to you. You deserve more,please rate yourself and choose a man,that really love and respect you,for the father of your kids.
ReplyDeleteI have seen it all🚶🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeleteNa situation like this islam consider before allowing polygamy
ReplyDeleteNot likely. Polygamy cannot work here.
DeletePoster is clear that the she and the man cannot marry.
She cannot be any number wife of the man.
If it was polygamy, the man will make it clear to both of them that they both exist and they'll be okay with it. I had 2 different exes try this with me, to see if they can string me along after breaking up with me, it might seem like a good plan than being alone but it isn't. Truth is, they don't love you enough to marry you, know this, feel the pains and move on. Life full for front oh, don't write yourself off just yet.
DeleteMadam the honest truth is that you are a husband snacher You want him to yourself leave her husband and go and look for your own husband..you guys even have the guts to included bible in ur stupidity..hisssss out
ReplyDeleteThis ex-lovers getting groovy and reconnecting is the new trend in naija.
ReplyDeleteAs the real deal.
DeleteMen who were serial lovers before marriage are now the real deal.
Women "appear" to have handed opened cookie jars to them.
You don't think you are snatching anyone's husband,really??? You couldn't get married, he married someone else, but wants you as gis side chic/baby mama. Pls forget about him,and move on with your own life.
ReplyDeleteGoodness gracious! This is disheartening,
ReplyDeleteStay loving someone who couldn't fight to have you... menopause waits for no one. Later you'd bemoan the absence of a husband after wasting your time with a married man.
ReplyDeleteYour mumu na pro max!
ReplyDeleteYou want to have a child for a married man as form of assurance? Whether u know the man first or not is not the issue here,the issue here is that he is a MARRIED MAN now and I want to "assure" you that if you make the mistake of having any "assurance baby" with this man he will one day leave when he no longer finds you attractive .
ReplyDeleteThis man is so selfish,he is married but instead of advising you to move on and probably get married he wants to tie you down with "assurance baby" why didn't he stay single too and you people can have as many assurance babies as you want? But no he got himself a wife and now wants you to be his side piece for as long as he wants.
What tradition if I may ask? If tradition said you both can't get married and he so much love you, why didn't he stay single so that you both can have babies ? You better wipe your tears and don't agree to that,give it time you will heal and move on
Question:
Delete"why didn't he stay single too"
Exactly, this poster is about make the most serious mistake of her life. Her mind go soon touch ground, another chronicle loading.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 Auntie you have entitlement mentality. For starters, why refer to his recognized partner as ‘so called wife’. That’s quite condescending. 2ndly, you said tradition prevented you both from getting married. If you truly loved each other, you both would have damned tradition by getting married and relocate. 3rdly, I doubt he is head over heels in love with you else he would have damned tradition and married you irrespective of what. He is only agreeing to having an offspring with you because he can see how helplessly in love you are. You are helping him eat his cake and have it. That same tradition will cast you soon for dating a married man and trying to disrupt his home.
ReplyDeletePlease leave them alone to enjoy their new home. Don’t be the Eve in their garden. Don’t let the devil use you to scatter that marriage. You will be surprised that when you finally settle with him, everything will look basic and taste bland. He could probably start cheating on you with ex wife or someone else. Let him go and move on.
Stop getting involved with blood or Bible oaths. You need a stable mental and spiritual health and growth.
What kind of tradition is so strong or strict that you both couldn’t move away and do your own thing? Look at all the complications you are planning now. You want to have a child that will probably not be recognized based on the tradition. It’s 2024, why you want to take up secret living and putting an innocent woman in the middle of your fckry. Both of you are weak willed people who deserve every pain for not having the guts or backbone and giving the middle finger to tradition and going after what you both want. Now you want to carry a torch for a man who got married and who is feeding you promises of his sperm while he goes home to a warm bed and a wife, and you pine away filling your pillow with tears. Come closer so I can punch you in the nose through the phone, you a clown or what?. Woman, go and get your own life! If he didn’t have the balls to fight for you and took the easy way out wtf are you sitting around waiting for him for. Your infatuation is not love and how long will you put your life on hold for? He will eventually grow to love his wife, even if he doesn’t today, he will eventually love her one day. Go get some therapy and go get your own life!!!!
ReplyDeleteGbam! I feel like punching the stupidity out of her. I don’t know why some of us women are like this for Goodness sake! Man wey full ground and will even love you better than this Yeye one that couldn’t fight for her. You better take your time first, then find your true love. At least you don taste what it is to be loved. Use that experience to find a loving man like that or even better!!!
DeleteI don't know why it is hard for some of you who are in still hung on your exes to understand this; If your ex was really meant for you, absolutely nothing will come between you both.
ReplyDeleteThe easiest way to know if someone is yours, is to watch and see if situation or time will align and favour you both to be together. If not, then you are just a chapter in their story and a stumbling block in another woman's love story and nothing more.
You are saying, he is your man. The fact that your tradition was against you is enough tall-tell sign to prove he was not destined to be yours. You loving him is not a sign that you were meant to be.
Else life, tradition, circumstance beyond your control would not have gotten in the way. Even if life get in the way and you are meant to be, life would still bring you together at a later time but in your case i doubt it will happen consideration your separation was due to your custom.
One more thing, people need to stop thinking because they met someone first, it automatically gives them a leverage. You might just be place holder till the one God feels is right for them, shows up.
After all said and done. It is your life and if being a side-chick or a single mom (instead of getting your own man and a happy union )is what you desire with a man who has clearly moved on and already has a settled home, then suit yourself.
Words on Marble.
Ehhhyah
ReplyDeleteTell your mother this story let her help you
Don’t have a child for him oh
These are real life experiences that happen to several people. Forget the comments here, because everyone is forming to be a saint. Many of us have continued to have feelings for an ex. I will not judge you.
ReplyDeleteJust try and stay as far as possible away from him. Hopefully, the feelings will die a natural death
Aunty speak for yourself! Many of us ko! Poster, the tradition stopped you guys from getting married but allows you to be a side chic and proposed baby mama? Calling you foolish will be putting it mildly. You better wake up and smell the coffee!😡😡😡😡😡
DeleteHmm. Sorry about the cause of separation dear. I'll advise you try to move on. Truth is your so-called love doesn't love you as much as you love him. He's only trying to have his cake and eat it. He's married and no longer yours.
ReplyDeleteThink baby girl, why did he quickly get married to another easily? You better start thinking of your future with another man.
He will turn you to a baby mama and you'll be left a bitter old woman without love. Love fights for what is sensible.
"Stella I'm in love with my married ex boyfriend." Na wetin dey reign now be this? 🙄 Make una give us highlight
ReplyDeleteIt is too early in 2024 to be a fool hanty. And why should i advise a fool? Please carry on.
ReplyDeleteI just went back to read that former chronicle. If I had read it first, I wouldn't have posted my first comment.
ReplyDeleteYou are someone that doesn't listen to advice. Please go ahead and be his side chick so we can all rest 🛌
Words on Marble.
Gbam. She won’t listen. Heck most don’t. They’ll still do what’s on their mind. Na after eye don clear then regrets come in. Na she sabi. No be our consequences.
DeleteWhen. In your mind , you don't think you are snatching anyone's husband because you met him first? Ah! I pray you won't send a more painful chronicle soon. He loves you yet you two can't marry because of tradition, then why will you now have a child for him Or tradition doesn't forbid that?
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't love you , if not why is it easy for him to move on and marry another? Na you dey in 'rove'
Don't come back and say he abandoned you and the child o, or you think baby mamas are happy with their situation, you want to add to the number. I pity you. Better love yourself and move on, else you will just be used and dumped.
Give other men a chance, disconnect from him, and be focused on settling down rather than being a baby mama.
Dear Poster... you sound like a very passionate woman. I've been here before and can tell you that you don't want to do this. You can break the bond. Break it the same way you made it. Fast and pray and then break it. It will take a while but with time, the pain will grow numb and your heart will love again. If you don't free yourself.... hmmmm you won't like the end. You WILL meet someone new and perfect for you so long as you are OPEN.
ReplyDeleteI wish you well.
The bond has been broken by his marriage.
DeleteNa greed remain.
Dig deep, we go find say the man dey loaded.
Dem dey o, but how many women dey talk like dis over a poor or hustling young man?
🤣😂 Stella’s ink 🖋️ froze lmao 🤣
ReplyDeleteNo comment jor las las na you go suffer your decision alone .
Poster let that man be. Always think of yourself first in all situation. Don't allow the man use you as his rag. You want that man that might have less value to have a wife and a side chick on a platter of gold. Please pick your self esteem from the floor and move on. This will not worth it at the end. You would just be hurting yourself more at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteobsession at work here and not love
ReplyDeleteyou must be sick to be asking us such questions, so you want to get pregnant for a man who could not fight tradition to marry you but he can get you pregnant. That guy dose not love you at all but telling you what you want to hear.
If i pray to God and ask him to take off anyone i feel something for or like, omg it work like magic, you need to be honest with yourself that you don't want your married ex anymore and watch how the feelings will varnish.
Tell that your married ex to face his new home, he should concentrate with his new wife and free you so that you too can find your own husband. If you continue sleeping with him, you will never have feelings for another person. You are already used to him and that alone with make you not to want another man. Free him please, focus on finding new love and forget about getting pregnant for him.
Married men will never change from sweet talking single ladies just to waste their time and stop them from finding love. Block his phone number, stop giving him attention, break that rubbish oath you both shared. You two would have break tradition to tell us you both are in love with each other.
Dont get t twisted oooooo
DeleteNa this lady get fault for her ooooo not the man now cuz it seems the lady is not ready to say goodbye to what has gone already
When the 'rove' clear from your eyes, you will see that all along you are an un-serious person with a fickle mind for even thinking of considering the stupid thing he is proposing to you. May sense fall upon you to know your worth!
ReplyDeleteWonderful woman go ahead with the relationship na. If possible marry him and pay his groom price. Yeye dey smell.
ReplyDeletePoster listen to yourself, you two were in love but couldn't get married because of tradition.
ReplyDeleteHe is married and you are still in love with him and find it hard to move on.
He wants you to have a child for him as a kind of assurance.
According to your post, you couldn't get married because of tradition. Now you don't mind the tradition again and want to have child together.
Are you not deceiving yourself??
What kind of tradition is that,give us highlight.
If the tradition stopped you from getting married, I think the same tradition shouldn't allow you two to have child together.
Tradition has ruined the love.
Is the same tradition not against you birthing for him? My sister wake up, before you bring an innocent child into this mess you are trying to create.
ReplyDeleteThis one is called to be a professional baby machine. You already have 2 kids and want to add another to it. You’re a very wicked woman.
ReplyDeleteAllow him enjoy his marriage in peace.
Will you be a side piece for life?
I pray his wife finds out about you. You really need help.
You will never be accepted by his family.
I pray God deals with you.
Before you got divorced, you enjoyed your marriage.
As you want to cause confusion in her marriage, May God bring confusion in your life and that of your children.
Here is the link to her previous chronicle
https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2023/02/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_02094502439.html?m=1
Thanks for the link.
DeleteNa real wa ooo. Poster break up with this man for real this time, osiso! Run for deliverance and professional counseling. You are in bondage.
Why are you doing this to yourself
ReplyDeleteMy friends ex got married and still reached out to her. People let this person go na.
Have some respect for yourself
If he loved you, he’d marry you
Stella, you also changed the colour of your emoji to blue? 🤣
ReplyDeletePoster how long do you intend to remain in your ex's shadow? I hope you know that the longer you hide under his shadow, the longer and harder it is for good potential suitors to approach you because everybody will link you to him even though you guys are technically NOT together.
Please do yourself a favor and cut off from him. I know it is not easy because of the strong love you have for him, but you have to force yourself to do it. Stop calling him, stop seeing him, etc. If possible change your location and don't let him know your new place. With time you will heal and get over him.
Best wishes.
Your placenta is surely tied to him. So, it ain't possible to leave him.
ReplyDeleteAnd offcourse, a man who has no respect for marital vows or is not responsible enough to be a husband, should indeed be your best and forever love.
Sad truth is, he will never wife you. Even if you cause a divorce between them.
So congratulations to being a side chic/home wrecker for the rest of your life.
You both deserve each other. Match made in heaven, placenta intertwined on earth.
And continue changing glaring #wrongs to #write to justify your evil actions.
So you both, keep
Its about blue this year, even Stella shock na blue.
ReplyDeleteI dont have much to say except if really he loved you that much, he would have done everything thing called marriage with you against all odds
Foolishness in very low places
ReplyDeleteOluwa
ReplyDeleteAni Lori aye poster yi, Oluwa gba ope wa.
If I type wetin dey my mind for you, I swear, Stella no go post am.
Can you imagine, later, you will come back to say men are scum
It’s because you are not wise that’s why you can’t see that the man used u like toilet paper and still want to continue from where he stopped…
ReplyDeleteMy dear don't let this married ex of yours fool you into having his child. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have married rather he would have stayed single and had children with you. He just want to eat his cake and have it. Before you know he will stop talking to you and telling you that he can't leave his wife then what will it become of you and the innocent child? Nothing good comes from adultery, yes because this is adultery. If a married man truly loves you he will leave his wife to be with you but if he is still with the wife and come up with blatant and silly excuses know that you are nothing but a side hoe.
ReplyDeleteMen know what they want so for him to get married and then ask you to have his child is nothing to brag about because the shame will be on you as a side whore and on your innocent children that will be considered bastards. Let go of the pain and heartbreak you are feeling. Pray to God to wipe your tears and give you your own God sent.
See marriage is not compulsory. Since you said he cant marry you but can have kids with u. Why did you both just not marry n have kids. Why must he go n marry to have like 2 kids with his wife then divorce . It doesn't add up. Something he wud have done with u without marriage n still be ok.
ReplyDeleteNo matter the advice you give to her, she won’t listen. She is already running mad. Looking down on the wife and na you Dey outside😂😂😂. Professional side chick and a shameless and heartless one at that.
DeleteGod cannot be mocked. You took an oat with the Bible never to hurt each other,has he not abandon you and hurt you by leaving you to marry someone else?
ReplyDeleteGod does not support sex outside marriage, God does not support taking an oat with the Bible ,God does not support trying to break another woman's home,what God has joined together, do not put asunder.
Release the man from the prison of your heart he now belongs to another woman.
THIS IS THE ORIGINAL CHRONICLE FROM FEBRUARY 2023
ReplyDeleteSTAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEEPLY HURT AND IN SHOCK
Dear Stella I'm so hurt, I need advise from you and bvs on what to do...
I met and fell in love with a man in another African country. He is 43 and I am 38. We are both divorced with (he a daughter and me a boy and a girl). So along the line we found out that we are from the same community in Anambra state and we can't get married cos of reasons unknown to me. My mum told me that there is nothing we can do about it, that our community don't marry each other except the person is from the next community!
But we can date each other cos we ain't related by blood just the stupid tradition that ruined me and today Val day I'm on the verge of ending this relationship cos my guy betrayed me, although he didn't see it as a betrayal cos according to him he doesn't wanna loose his mum.
My guy traveled for Xmas, he actually left our country of residence on the 31st December 2022 and came back just last week Tuesday that was February 7th. He spent a month plus in Nigeria and during those period he travelled our level of communication reduced drastically. If I complain he will assure me that all is well. When he finally came back, his attitude changed, he became some how cold towards me. Then on Sunday night I overheard some one congratulating him via WhatsApp voice message about his marriage!!
Stella I died and woke up..
I confronted him about that and he started explaining that his mother forced him to marry or she kills herself and that she was sickly and serious about taking her life, that do I want him to loose his mom? and that his mum's friend actually found the lady in question, that I'm his choice just that he can't help it, that I should remember our tradition!
Ok fine even if we cant get married, why didn't you tell me about the recent development? He said he doesn't what me to kill myself, that he wants to tell me to my face so he can hold me down, that he wants us to continue the relationship, I refused I cried bitterly cause I felt stupid! Why didn't he tell me.
Stella, this guy has the mind to leave me and go.
Someone that used to love and respect me more than anything!
I quietly went in blocked and deleted him from everywhere! Did I over react?
His wife is still in Nigeria, I am yet to get over the shock , and the heart break, it's like a fresh wound!
A relationship of one year that I gave the whole of me? Shouldn't I go nuts about this whole thing? I dumped an innocent guy just bcuz of this guy, does this mean he never loved me or his new marriage made him forget all the love we shared? Pls u guys should talk to me ooooo!! Hmmmmmm.. I'm loosing my mind ooooo. I'm dead... Is this how men really are?
Clearly this woman is obsessed and probably battling mental health issues.
DeleteSisterly, you need to seek counselling and also move on. The man was never yours. It will not be easy but you can do it.
Ayayayaya!!!! This is deep sh$t
DeleteThank you SDK for rejoinder! Poster, after almost a year? I just knew you are not young. You’re 38 and still this foolish? I thought Igbo girls are smart? I don’t want to be upset biko.
DeletePoster from this, you really should get therapy. This man has never loved you, it’s all one sided. I beg you to go get counselling or psychiatric treatment, whatever you need. You have already been once married, you have two children who need a mother who has her mind together. Please focus on your mental health and children. You are much too desperate in this and desperation never leads to anything good.
DeletePoster judging from ur last chronicle..
ReplyDeleteU are obsessed with him.. Please let him go ..
U will just continue hurting yourself.. I hope u will let go this time, do it for ur kids ..
Poster you are not yet ready to move on. You are the one holding your self. My issue is you still trying to add more children to this mess you call love. The man has married but you are here professing your love and looking down on the wife. Are you not wicked like this, wishing the lady bad all for you to have her husband. I only pity the kids you still want to birth for this man and not you.
ReplyDeletePoster you are not okay at all.
ReplyDeleteWake up and face reality. Stop deceiving yourself! And leave that guy alone before he messes you up!
ReplyDeleteWhen I called the poster out on her B.S. last year, several BVs came under my comment to shade/ridicule me. Now, less than a year later, here we are...
ReplyDelete#GratefulForTheGiftOfDiscernment.
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ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, this love that's holding you down like this didn't hold your ex down o. He moved on so quickly and got married to another woman. If he was that serious, he'd not propose having kids with his wife at all. But you believed him when he said he'll have two kids and divorce his wife. Oh sis wake up. We understand that love is blind which is why were here to help you think and reason. Please abort mission
ReplyDeleteNa this no gree for anybody 2024 you want to still hold unto a man that has left you , you guys swore with bible and he couldn't hold unto his own part of the bargain, he couldn't damn the tradition for you , and you boldly said that a woman he married by himself is the one that snatched him.
ReplyDeleteYou even believed your delusion that she is the one that took him from you ,and in turn you ll be a side chick for him heii Wahala dey egwu dikwa.
Even if you no get family members / Friends to advice you, can't you see that this man is deceiving you , like he will rent apartment for you and he will be sneaking in to visit you ,nne buy shame for market for you to see what you re about to do to yourself.
So this new year everybody dey Hussle to put themselves together with this economy a newly married man wants to complicate his life by having a wife and a side chick/concubine and poster you want to be an accomplice/enabler ok now.
Collect your babymama tag and live the life with your full chest since you don't want to receive sense
Poster you are not serious this man left you and secretly went to marry another and instead of asking of tips that can help you move on, you want to become a baby mama for a wicked man like that. What of your two kids if you add another and this man disappoints you what will be your fate. You have gone through a divorce I expect you should learn to do better please
ReplyDeletePoster you are supposed to be happy that the devil left you and yet you are crying. I beg I no even want to talk about marriage again. Move on, abi na dat one go give money.
ReplyDeleteYou are selfish! How some of you go about pumping babies as an assurance or to have a portion in the family without minding how your decision can affect the child is worrisome.
ReplyDeleteThe child will grow up not being accepted by his family, society will call him a bastard, son/daughter of a single parent who people will advise potential spouse to be wary of, you will just choose to create problems for innocent kids thinking since you can afford to train them, you must have them.
How can you open your eyes and be pumping baby for a man who does not want to be with you
I just pity the wife in the mix. Life is not just fair
ReplyDeleteI really don't think I'm snatching anyone's husband, besides i met him first. So if there is any snatching here i think it's the other way round.. Pls how do i cope with sharing my man with a so called wife??! Chaaiii God....
ReplyDeleteAs a smart Igbo woman this thing you typed does it befit that you re from our tribe, nne we no dey mumu like this and even at this your big age , you allowed a man that has the mind to pay the bride price of another woman and the new wife is already known and welcomed in the family to deceive you like this
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And the only good thing he wants to give you as an assurance is you been in hiding and birthing kids ,he even married her without telling you.
So at this big age you want to be pregnant for him with this arrangement, it will shock you ,you re even believing your veiled faced lies from him
You re not even angry that he is proposing this rubbish to you, you ll die of painment they will plaster pics on social media,he will always go back to her, and you na sneaky backyard levels he wants to give you and you re saying you wants him all to yourself
E no go work o, we cancel every spirit of asunder from you, leave him and move on ka UDO DIRI GI
I don't know this poster & Yul the one wey no get sense
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
May God answer your ex boyfriend prayers
ReplyDeletePoster, this guy is manipulating you, don’t fall for it.
ReplyDeleteHe is a liar and also very self centered.
You can’t let him keep using you the way he likes.
I can bet he lied about his mom wanting to kill herself if he didn’t get married.
You deserve better than this.
He doesn’t love you enough, I mean why would he keep his marriage a secret from you?
If you hadn’t come across the voice note, you’d never have found out about his marriage.
One thing I detest in relationships is insincerity.
Soon, he’ll come up with excuses why you can’t reach him. Please do not give him that satisfaction, it’ll reduce you.
Get yourself a cool dude and forget about this LIAR.
Congrats poster, you'll be a side chic till you get to 70!
ReplyDeleteInukwa!!!
This poster is very wicked. Very wicked. I will repost the exact comment I posted anonymously under her first chronicle last year. She didn’t allow the man call his wife on Valentine’s Day last year, spending the day with him and insisting he call in front of her. She is now referring to her as “so called wife”, saying “she met him first” like it’s a line at the bank! Leave them alone! You have two kids for a man why not go and camp there? He doesn’t really love you, men try not to deliver hard news harshly…
ReplyDeleteLast year comment:
“Poster you still entertained him after you knew he was married? Your comments in 15:21 & 15:26 portray you as a desperate woman willing to drag him with his wife. You didn't die because of the man you had two kids for, it's this one that you dated for one year you will leave your two precious kids for? No offense but " you spent Valentine" with a married man and are sending in chronicles after denying the woman he chose a phone call on Valentine's day? You wanted him to call his wife in your presence? Why send in a chronicle when you are already using the fact that his wife isn't in the country to act like a side chick? It's almost as if you still want him and are trying to justify your decision.
Leave him and firmly ask him to leave you. Don't put what you shouldn't put in your mouth near your nostrils. The notes you wrote in the comment section portray you as someone determined to fight for the man with the wife. I hope I'm wrong on this. Move on and let God find you your own person. Don't be a concubine.
This is why our mom's generations put up with many things other than violence after having kids. Many women don't get as many admirers/toasters to choose from as we get older and the tendency is to become the very person you hate, don't. Some of the "advice" in the comments are so hypocritical considering the dragging of Judy, the two Mercy actors and so on. You can go for therapy to help you cope but don't break his marriage. He chose the woman, he just told you his mom did as soft landing.
She wants to camp in this mans tent forever,no matter how she sugarcoat it,I met him first a man left you go marry woman out for house she still dey drag am, she wants to to be serial baby mama forever .
DeleteAs big as she is with two kids already she wants to continue popping babies as babymamas ,different kids different baby daddy with a man that is already in a mess, he will complicate his life complicate your life too.
Poster if after all these advice here you ll allow this man to sleep with you again not even being pregnant that means you re a fool forever.
You send chronicle last year, you sent another one this year, na so the chronicle go dey long dey go I said let me reject it small on your behalf that is if you ll listen.
Pull the rug under him like magic ,better make a good decision with your life and do right with your kids, at the end your older kids will look at you and congratulate you for not putting your head in this mess.
If he can start a business for you do that but better be far from him.
So if they leave you now you go collect belle a full 9 months journey alone, you no love yourself sha
Dear poster. This man does not love you. If he did, he would have married you.
ReplyDeleteThe sooner you let him to, the faster you can heal yourself.
My love, I understand how you feel but believe me, you are going to hurt more if you do not let go. It is going to be hard but it is possible. He is married to someone else, they will make love, birth kids, attends parties, weddings and family events together. And you will be by the side waiting.
ReplyDeleteSweetie you deserve your own man, your own person that will love you and marry you. Someone that will flaunt you on social media as his wife.
Right now you need to block him and move on, go home and spend time with family, register in the gym or start a new hobby to distract you, it will be hard but you will look back and be happy you made this decision.
E-hugs