“I feel like I have gotten to a place in my life where you can’t shame the shameless. If I cheat tomorrow and you want to leave I will respect you. If you want to stay, don’t use it to taunt me because I have won the crown of a cheater.
“If I’m going to be very honest, cheating is no longer a deal breaker for me. It used to be; when I was younger, I would never have been able to say these. I would have said if he cheat’s, I’m putting back in the street.
“As I grew older, I realized men cheat, women cheat. It’s easier for a woman to cheat, it’s self restraint that stops us. The reason why I’m not quick to put you out is I might be the first person to cheat on you. Forgive me as I have forgiven you.”
Cheating is not a big deal for you again cos you are now the side chic to the married men. You now understand the game better.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm this is deeeep
Delete🤣😂I was rushing to the comments cos I know yall won’t disappoint 🤣
Delete😉😉😉
DeleteAs in ehhh, she left her cheating husband to become a side chick to a married man.
DeleteExactly
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DeleteHow can it be a big deal, when you're the third party in many relationships and marriages?!
I've never understood women who leave their marriages due to infidelity, but gladly become a sidechic to a married man! Is it not hypocrisy? Is it not wickedness? The heartache and pain you felt, why let another woman go through that?!
you got the gist menh
DeleteAdaoluchi
Thank you very much anon 13:07
DeleteMost women need attention and intentional loving from men, reason why they leave a cheating partner to become a side chic cos the partner is invested in another woman and them will go to another man who left his woman to invest in them, and the cycle continues.
DeleteUntil men leave outside women and invest in their inside women, cheating continues!!!
It was never a deal breaker for her. She stayed even when her ex was dating the lady that is now his baby mama. The only reason why she left is because he wasn't keen on asking for her forgiveness or salvaging the relationship when news of Anita's pregnancy broke. No be here we read for comments say e no show up for their court wedding 2x?
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Anon @2.49 made all of the sense. A woman is looking for someone to 'appreciate' her ironically that's what a cheating man gives his side chic, neglecting the wife who leaves, runs into a married man who showers her with TLC she wasn't getting. Why? Bcos side chic don't ask a man to become 'more responsible' in any way and give up certain things. His wife does
DeleteYet, not a single iota of evidence to give weight to this accusation.
Delete🤔🤔🤔.
ReplyDeleteAll caused by misplaced priorities
DeleteSomeone should help and highlight her point for me. The whole thing sounds contradictory. Just as I'm trying to make sense of one sentence, the next sentence throws me right back into confusion.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, good for you.
She is saying she will willing be in an open relationship or marriage, now. Most people that shout this while single don't mean it when married.
DeleteHmmm........ which means orientation/mentality changes after marriage. Thanks, Anon.
DeleteAre you promoting cheating or what?? How they ' glorify' sin these days. We are not perfect humans , when you are tempted and fall, have a remorse. Than being proud to say you cheat, like you want us to clap for you or what??? Call a spade ,a spade.
ReplyDeleteCheating is not a deal breaker but when u rub it on my face
ReplyDeleteDiseases, possessed side chicks are real
DeleteDiseases, possessed side chicks are real
DeleteCrazy side chics wanting to keep your man too
DeleteBlack woman in general do not consider cheating a deal breaker. Just look at your celebs home and abroad. Our relationship dynamics are very different from Caucasians where a cheating woman can be forgiven and a man who sexts another woman can be left.
ReplyDeletePS. I find Toke's mindset often too progressive for many Nigerians who in general lack basic nuanced reasoning.
I'm a black woman and honestly cheating is a deal breaker for me,what if you go dash me sickness like the way a family friend dash his wife?
DeleteNaija women una do hear!
DeleteToke leave marriage come get progressive minded.
If una leave una marriages becos of husband's cheating, una go get progressive minds too.
Naija men make uno learn progressive mindsets
Forgive your wives who gbensh outside
No fight die on top cheating wives.
But know say any mis-texting on phone with another woman means divorce, loss of child(ren) custody and full ex-wife maintenance bills on you for life.
Everitin wey Oyibo do or say good.
We must copy dem
Wetin be d meaning of inferioriti complex again.
Na mental slavery?
Celebrity life is manufactured by the people that pay their salaries. Caucasian life is built on their culture and norms. Do not use it as a yardstick for Africans. Toke is consumed by a need for social media validation.If you believe her way of life, introduce yor big bros to her and watch their growth.
DeleteCheats have no crown Toke.
ReplyDeleteNone at all.
DeleteWe are gradually getting to a point where we'll have to practice open marriage without worries,SMH
ReplyDeleteToke, Don’t lose your Soul
ReplyDeleteThis Statement shows that you’ve given up on certain things in Life and you can camouflage with anything and anyone. Don’t be SOUL-Less
She has already gotten there. I know someone like that. The funny thing is she will forever feel empty no matter all the blings, fancy things she will want to fill her life with. She better go back to God. She needs serious healing.
DeleteIt is not a deal breaker for her anymore because she is probably a side chick.
ReplyDeletePeep her fingers. Why is the skin of the hands so difficult to bleach? At least she doesnt have black knuckles, (praise God), but the shade of the hands is extremely darker than her upper arms, going up then to her face. Sad.
ReplyDeleteIt is same on my body too. I don't bleach. I rarely apply body cream sef. My face is darker too.
DeleteYour hands and face are the most exposed parts, they see the sun more.
Your hands do a lot of work, asides the sun rays darkening it.
It's expected.
Your whole body is not the same skin shade. Look at your breasts, thighs, then your feet, and hands.
Franky
Side chick speaking 😅
ReplyDeleteContinue u hear 🙉
Alcoholics can never be put off by the smell of beer 🍺 🙄
ReplyDeleteYou too much 😘
DeleteAn anonymous said this about women who leave marriages and then stop seeing cheating as a deal breaker because they become side hens to married men.
ReplyDeleteFemale Bvs were very angry with that person.
We dey like to pretend too much about obvious facts. No wonder our places of worship dey full every worship days. But e be like say ...
I remember that comment a few days ago. I was just shaking my head and laughing at all who were writing angry comments against the poster. We women love to pretend, it's like we have our heads permanently in the clouds
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DeleteThe Bv who launched the counter is resting today🤭
It's well
ReplyDeleteSome things come with experience and maturity. I totally understand Toke. I don't know the percentage of women who will be lucky to have husbands that will stay faithful forever.
ReplyDeleteSo you're saying you're part of the group,wooooooo Ashewo no be work
DeleteI don't belong to any ahewo group but being a woman in her 40s, I have seen things, I have read things and I have heard things!
Deletei wonder why!
ReplyDeleteWho is listening to TM
ReplyDeleteNah the person Sabi ooo
Later now she will say she has given her Life to Christ that cheating is now a deal breaker...
I
Understand
That SM
Motivational speaker
Do not
Practice what they
Preach...🙄🙄🙄
Open relationship and marriage is it. No hard feelings - cheat, I cheat
ReplyDeleteThe chaos and disease is not worth it
DeleteCheating in the marriage is nonsense either the woman or man. If you want to cheat pls leave the marriage, is not by force to stay in it if you are not happy.
ReplyDeleteTbvh, cheating has never been a deal breaker to me, it's how you go about it that's the problem
ReplyDeleteAdulteries every where, fornicating going on
ReplyDeleteOk, write another book.
ReplyDeleteSo many relationship would survive stella didnt use her blog to shame them.. Toke is number one of her victim....she foolishly accepted Maje behaviour until she was called out...
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