In an interview with Gistzlife, the actress disclosed that cultural differences have been a major factor why most couples struggle in their marriage.
In her words:
"If you ask a hundred women, 85% want to exit their marriage. I even tried to leave thrice. The problem is that when you marry someone from a different culture, people start to reveal their actual selves. A man would treat and pamper a woman when he wanted to get married, but when a second marriage and kids are involved, things go too far. Men can also have egoistical tendencies and are unstoppable when it comes to cheating".
Many men are not marriage material, they just feel entitled to marry but do not want to do the work. Men thirsty for the validation of other men do foolish and destructive things to their marriages so they appear tough and not look like "simps" . Selfish men make bad husbands , men disrespectful of women will be bad husbands , indisciplined men are terrible husbands
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DeleteSame ,many women are not marriage material as well it swing both ways madam. Some of you are rotten and want to treat the relationship as open marriage.
DeleteAnd some women want to just use marriage to stabilize/upgrade their life..once they get stability,they are ready to leave.
Delete13:08
DeleteMore men than women were not brought up conscious of marriage and it's responsibilities
Married men living like bachelors FAR outnumber married women living like spinsters
DeleteDeadbeat husbands and deadbeat fathers are everywhere since time immemorial
Men know that women or nowadays only want to be married to either have kids,upgrade their lives/escape poverty or to have a claim to the status ‘married’ so why put in work when the goal is not the relationship?
Delete11:35 98%of Nigerian men crawling out like termites from the group chat.😄
DeleteSome married women are tired of their husband p####,they are craving for younger men this days
DeleteBaseless generalisation.
ReplyDeleteSorry ma, where did you get your statistics from. I cover my marriage IJN
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DeleteAsk her o.
DeleteExactly,her purported statistics is alarming.
DeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI don't know how,you got your statistics and conclusions. To me forever it's the deal,by God's grace 🙏🏻
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DeleteAmen
DeleteBe lying to yourselves.most of you have not be tested in marriage.Wait till you are tested before you say she’s lying.
DeleteAnon 16:31 many naijas just pull numbers from their imagination and experience. Statistics has nothing on them. Where did she pull the 85% from? The sample size, method, etc. over 30 years and I’ve never tasted another man nor do I ever yearn for it. And no, I don’t feel like leaving, my friends don’t feel like leaving. Entertainers are not representative of corporate folks and vice versa.
Delete85% what? Pls dnt encourage single motherhood, faithful men like myself still plenty out there
ReplyDeleteThank you oh 😊. Cheating that comes with so much pain and regret 🥺
DeleteFaithful? King are you single? U luk house material.
DeleteHmmmmmmmm!!!
ReplyDeleteWhere them dey dey do these survey o🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDelete85 percent cha?
Gifty
uhmm
ReplyDeletehow so?
85%? This reads like you are trying to paint all men bad. There are a lot of good men and husbands out there and not all men cheat. The issue is, the good men - when some of you meet them- you take them for a fool. Case in point, my friend who complained he is tired of his marriage and he doesn't cheat. Even some men want to leave and are just staying put because of the kids.
ReplyDeleteWords on Marble.
No need for this long comment before you listen to the full interview and understand what she meant by that statement.
DeleteYou do know that cheating is not the worst thing a man can do in a marriage.
DeleteHow is wom comment long?you must be a lazy reader biko
DeleteWhy is your friend tired?
I understand her point
ReplyDeleteMany women are not enjoying the marriage
Many men too.
DeleteShe is right some how,buh,85% mba nu,some are also still enjoying their marriages.
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Me I don't want to leave my marriage. I am enjoying it pass my Papa house. Abeg
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ReplyDeleteGood men with good heads should come out and prove all these ' end time ' men that are disgracing manhood wrong. There are still good men out there that value marriage and treat their partners right.
ReplyDeleteStop generalizing base on what you see around or bad marriage.
Haven't you seen couples celebrating 20, 30, even 50 years wedding anniversary. What are they doing right???
Staying married against all odds is why you see anniversaries
DeleteThat’s not always a good thing
Celebration 20, 30 years in marriage sometimes does not mean sh*t!!! One person might be doing all the work to make the marriage stand. I can't count the number of couples I have come across who get divorced after twenty years of marriage. However in Nigeria, most will stay to save face.
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DeleteAnd the spouse doing the work is not always the wife.
The devil you know powering many long marriages and the generation of long suffering women. Some the wife beater became old and their adult children took better care of their mothers and moderate the baba
DeleteThe devil you know powering many long marriages and the generation of long suffering women. Some the wife beater became old and their adult children took better care of their mothers and moderate the baba
Delete@15:24 yes it is not ALWAYS the wife making it work. But since you wanna go there, in most cases, it is the wife holding things down and enduring and making it work, the day she can't endure anymore, that marriage will pack up.
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DeleteSee this one..
ReplyDeleteYou think many men are not regreting getting married to useless women too but are just staying because of the kids..
Because they don't talk or show it, you people now think you're the perfect ones..
Delulu of the highest level
Thank you.
DeleteA man is seriously thinking of DNA test, and a larger part of him want it to confirm the child of the marriage is not his. He sees this as the best foolproof way out of the marriage.
The only rope is holding him is he has bonded well with the child.
Yet, some women just think being a wife is enough.
It goes both ways for husbands and wives
Bitter dante showing his usual hatred , no man who truly loves himself or proud of himself projects this much bitterness
DeleteJaiye kuti is a respected grown woman and actress. I watched the full interview last week
DeleteIt’s not an insult on men so no need to call her “ this one”
Abeg she's right.
ReplyDeleteSeveral times I wanted to leave my marriage. Infact right now gangan am having the thought. Wo am tired and exhausted.
And please, don't manage, let you and your '85%' leave the marriage to "do what makes you happy"..
ReplyDeleteRubbish..
Like anyone is begging anybody to stay married
Does she mean there's no good Men on this planet earth
ReplyDelete85 percent Kee
That's too much Maaaa
She dey look for support gang
DeleteShe’s married
DeleteShe was saying marrisge can be tough
I just made this comment. Cheating is not the only thing that can break a marriage. A lot of Nigerian men are not intentional about keeping the sweetness of marriage. They feel once they provide their phallus and money for food, their work is done (for the ones who even bring food money). The women end up doing most of the work to keep the marriage and home above waters. It is exhausting, no enjoyment in the marriage, you are just there to be there.
ReplyDeleteThis may be the real reason, or part of the reason why widows mostly remain single after their husbands die while widowers rush into another marriage. Men benefit a lot from marriage while the woman gives more to the marriage.
Marriage law should be for only 7 years. After then a man should be able to leave the pancake breast for a young and succulent one.
ReplyDeletePornography don't eat the brain cells of this one. Choii, RIP to those brain cells
DeleteIncel,
Deleteerectile dysfunction, baldness, mediocre income, fragile ego, drooping balls and belly are the things those women are tolerating . Paedophile young succulent indeed, user oshiomole
She is righ, not everyone is destiny to be married. If you are happily married is not by power but Almighty God. But do not mock those that are struggling or those who marry several times. At the no husband or wife will follow us to the grave. Marriage or single it does not matter , we all deserve to be happy.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to test your marriage, relocate abroad with your wife.
ReplyDeleteNo need.
DeleteAsk the women in Nigeria to sign a prenup agreement of abroad lifestyle and rights. Then let us see how many marriages will be done here and how many jumping brides we would see
Some of us here are doing all demanded of husbands abroad and more. Yet nothing got.
Sebi we go split bills of the relocation and living in the Abroad ?
Na too many movies dey worry you. How many people sign prenup abroad? FYI, a lot of women earn more than their spouses and you would never know. Some will buy car and tell everyone their husband bought it for her, meanwhile na she buy house, car, etc.
DeleteWhat she is saying is true because some women are for way out of marriage not because of cheating.make we dey read to comprehend.
ReplyDeleteBut she mentioned cheating so people are addressing that too
DeleteWomen think too much of themselves on this marriage issue. And because society condones the expressions of their thoughts, we hear only about those.
ReplyDeleteWhen a man talks about his marriage, he is quickly hushed with the question "you be woman?"
Widowhood is better than marriage? Yimmu.
How many young women would pray for widowhood since marriage is so bad
Yesterday post on bereavement was full of female Bvs mourning good fathers. But Nigerian men are bad
Only a dead husband is good in the eyes of the typical Nigerian wife.
15:22 you are too pained to know truth
ReplyDeleteI’ve heard same from many widows and divorced women. They refuse to remarry because they want another project
That your statistic is not accurate. That is why before getting married look before you leap. All that gilitters are not gold.
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ReplyDeleteWere they good wives?
If you are married, are you praying for widowhood?
15:22 I do not want to say that yours is a typical male mentality because at least, I know a lot of men who have more intelligence than you have displayed.
ReplyDeletePoint to where I said that widowhood is better than marriage???
Most people don't want a dead spouse but in a case where the spouse is as exhausting as you seem to be, one may begin to wonder if the alternative is not better.
I reiterate, a lot of women who are divorced or widowed would rather be alone, if not forever, at least for a while. For them, being alone is preferred to taking on another responsibility in the form of a husband. They want to rest.
On the other hand, men do not even wait for the ink to dry on divorce papers or for the soil over their wives graves to harden before they rush into the next marriage, just so they have a woman to 'take care of them and their kids'.
I meant they don’t want another project
ReplyDeleteMany ppl are marrying based on not wanting time to pass them by. Look at all these chronicles from BVs who didn’t even court each other, they knew nothing about who they got married to, just married because it was something else to do. Not even using a proper matchmaker who can match them based on personality and values, just taking up some random person they have not one thing in common with. Then there are the parents who are pushing for marriage, even threatening to kick their kids out of the house, some of these ppl are only in their early 20s m, still trying to figure themselves out.
ReplyDeletePerhaps there is a need to bring back community based matchmakers who get to know all the children from a few local communities in their early days and can match them well with good options when they get older.
Hmmmmmm marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Most Nigerian women are secretly praying for their husbands to die once all the children are grown.
ReplyDeleteIts only on social media that all men are bad and all women are saints
ReplyDeleteAfter all the banter, SnM will still be packed. Churches will still be filled with women who are praying for life partners. Side chicks will still be looking for a marriage to scatter so they can move in.
If men are so evil, why do you ladies bother?
Society is male centered , quantity rather quality marriages
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