TUESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

 Tuesday Hailings!!!

IN HOUSE MEMO

An Anon-entity commented on that Tiwa and Genevieve post something that caught my fancy..Some of you saw the comment and asked me to reply but i deleted it instead.... You cme person blog wan teach am wetin and how to do am? You dey crase.....My style or anything else will change as i want and if i deem it fit.

Please go and face your day job or take your stinking advice to whoever needs it, you shameless, spineless, useless piece of unwanted Internet sewage....If you drop anothercomment after seeing this then you are even more useless than i thought.....Ode!

Back to better people ojare!

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I am presently watching Joda akbar and the drama na wah...That Mahamanga is so wicked but all her evil plans worked out well for Joda....I pray that as your enemies plan for you, may God use their evil schemes to cause plenty blessings to come your way in Jesus name.... Whoever says you will fall, if you fall, it will be to pick gold and you will rise up shining in Jesus name....

Please if you like good movies, watch Gangs of london..Part 2 just came out. its on Netflix...The movie is for really intelligent people and those gifted to understand scenes without much ado.....

Una well done...As i post this now, in the next two hours we are going out to eat lunch/dinner.....I will make photos from there for Saturday Breakfast post..hehehehehehehehhehehe...Kai i reember when XP used to send me nice food photos.....Gone are the days, her head was correct then.......LMAO.

Have a nice boxing day...those of you with spouses who bix you physically, please plan to exit that relationshop or marriage eeeeeeh.......

Warm hugs to you all, including those who hate my guts on this space....HIsssss.

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BV EKAJOY IS WISHING ALL CO BVs A VERY MERRY BELATED 

CHRISTMAS AND A WONDERFUL SLIDE INTO THE NEW YEAR.....

❤️

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD.

My boys like to play with household items not because they don’t have toys but with kids we all know how it can be. The remote controls, keys ,kitchen bowls, shoes and whatever they can lay their hands on becomes a plaything.

The issue with playing with items like the remote control and keys is that they go missing and can take days before we find them tucked away in odd places. So to prevent this I keep a lot of things away from their sight.

This is the catch, in the bid to keep things like pens, hair combs, keys and remote controls from them, I end up forgetting where I keep them. So I end up spending hours and sometimes days looking for the same things not only that I tend to keep things in the weirdest places.
So the purpose of keeping this things out of reach of the kids fails ,between the kids and I ,I don’t know who is worse.


I did this a lot...I had a really high place where i kept some things out of reach especially any remove that uses battery, cos i read when they were small that a kid sawllowed battery from remote control...I used to hide everything, even till now i still hides knives and some stuff, its an inbuilt thing and horrible cos i cant seem to stop it anymore

I wish you the best with Motherhood but please know that you are in the enjoyable stage and i am in the stage of practicality...Trying to steer them into adulthood and making sure they löearnt lessons well and having them revolt?OMG!!

Please enjoy this stage, i MISS IT...HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHE

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RED FLAGS IN RELATIONSHIPS 

BY BV SDK PYCHOLOGIST FROM SPONTANEOUS POST

In the context of relationships, RED FLAGS are warning signs each representing potential issues or concerns that may warrant attention:

1.) Lack of Communication: If there's a consistent breakdown in communication, avoidance of important topics, or unwillingness to discuss issues, it may indicate problems in the relationship.

2.) Controlling Behavior: Excessive control, such as telling the partner what they can or cannot do, monitoring their activities, or isolating them from friends and family, is a significant red flag.

3.) Lack of Trust: Persistent jealousy, unfounded accusations, or difficulty trusting the partner without valid reasons can signal trust issues that need attention.

4.) Disrespectful Behavior: Regular disrespect, whether through verbal, emotional, or physical means, is a clear red flag. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect.

5.) Constant Criticism: If one partner consistently criticizes the other, belittles their opinions, choices without constructive feedback can be detrimental to self-esteem and the relationship.

6.) Inability to Resolve Conflicts: If conflicts escalate without resolution or if communication breaks down during disagreements, it may indicate deeper issues within the relationship.

7.) Secretive Behavior: Keeping important aspects of their life hidden, such as financial matters or personal activities, may indicate a lack of transparency and trust.

8.) Lack of Emotional Support: A lack of emotional support during challenging times or dismissive attitudes towards the partner's feelings can strain the relationship.

9.) Unequal Power Dynamics: Significant imbalances in decision-making, financial control, or other aspects of the relationship can be a red flag, suggesting an unhealthy power dynamic.

10.) Repeated Breakups and Makeups: A cycle of breaking up and getting back together may indicate instability and an inability to address underlying issues in the relationship.

11.) Isolation from Friends and Family: A partner who actively discourages or prevents you from spending time with friends and family could be displaying controlling behavior.

12.) Excessive Jealousy: Constant jealousy, baseless accusations, or attempts to control your interactions with others may indicate trust issues.

13.) Lack of Accountability: If a partner consistently refuses to take responsibility for their actions, blames others, or avoids addressing problems, it can strain the relationship.

14.) Verbal or Physical Abuse: Any form of abuse, whether it's verbal, emotional, or physical, is a severe red flag that requires immediate attention and intervention.

15.) Disregard for Boundaries: Ignoring or disrespecting your personal boundaries, whether emotional or physical, can be a sign of a lack of respect in the relationship.

16.) Unilateral Decision-Making: A pattern of making significant decisions without considering your input or desires can signal an unhealthy power dynamic.

17.) Financial Control: Excessive control over finances, such as limiting access to money or using financial resources as a means of manipulation, is a red flag.

18.) Repeated Betrayals: If a partner consistently betrays your trust through lies, infidelity, or breaking promises, it can erode the foundation of the relationship.

19.) Gaslighting: Manipulative behavior that makes you doubt your perceptions, memories, or feelings is a red flag for emotional abuse.

20.) Indifference to Your Well-Being: A lack of interest or concern for your physical and emotional well-being may indicate a lack of empathy and connection.

21.) Pressure for Rapid Commitment: If a partner pushes for major commitments early in the relationship, such as moving in together or getting married quickly, it can be a red flag for controlling behavior or a desire to establish control.

Note that the presence of one or more red flags doesn't necessarily mean a relationship is doomed, but they should prompt reflection and open communication. Addressing these issues openly and seeking professional help if needed can be crucial for the health and longevity of the relationship.

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PINKYS CORNER

This life ehn, na God really know who dey really serve am. So many men and women using the name of God to deceive, destroy and manipulate people's life. A lady came to my shop on Friday(though I opened late that day). She came to withdraw and also bought TYPE C charging cord. I think she was tired and I offered her a sit. She sat down and even spent over an hour at my shop.

It got to a stage, I engaged her and we began to talk. She is open minded and so free. She clocked 37years on the 13th of January. In our discussion, I found out that, she is not happy and has decided never to get married even till her life comes to an end . I was surprised but when I began to ask her some personal questions, she excused herself but I tried convincing her to drop her contact, which she later did before she left.

I saved her contact and we began to chat. From our chat, I realized that,she has gone through a lot in her life and she said, it's better to face her two children than to remarry because if she experiences such again, she said, she might die and thats why she has decided not to remarry or even have a man in her life.
She was married 5years ago and was blessed with two children. The husband was blessed by God. They had separate cars with two houses and lots of landed properties but everything went away within a twinkle of an eye. I was shocked, I tried to push her to really tell me what happened but she refused. After much pressure, aunty sent me a crying emoji. She said, they were attending one CAC then (you know there is always Mama IJO in some churches). All she knew was, the woman will always call her to tell her husband to see her in church for a special prayer which both of them do attend but one day, her husband stopped coming home.

She said, when the attitude started, she wasn't paying attention because normally they spend more time in church but she never knew that, Mama IJO and her husband has been dating one another until one blessed day. The man seized her car and not only that, he gave it to mama ijo, sold their houses and all the landed properties. All these happened within a year. She said, she tried her possible best to stop all these with the help of her family and the man's family but all effort proved abortive. At the end, her husband became mama ijo's husband and because of the trauma, she left Ondo State and came down to Ibadan to get a room with her two children to start a new life. Aunty even said, she has even stopped going to church. She said, praying in her room is enough.
I fear all these men of God. Alot of them out there sowing bad seeds into people's life in the name of praying for them or trying to help them solve marital problems:

WAHALA WAHALA WAHALA (In crooner portables voice)

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