During an interview with Real housewife of Lagos Star,Chioma Ikokwu ,Toke revealed that the topic of changing of last name wasn't ever up for discussion with her ex as he wasn't someone who would persuade a woman to change her name.
In her words:
"I kept my last name when I got married. It was supposed to be Toke Makinwa-Ayida but it was only at home that he called me Mrs. Ayida, but I was always called Toke Makinwa.
"But he understood as well because he came from a family where his sister was a doctor, an OBGYN, a very top one, and she's always still known as Dr.Ayida,so he never had a conversation with me about baby, why can't you change your name? Like he wasn't wired that way, he didn't care.
"I hope that whoever I end up with next would actually love it because Toke Makinwa is staying. I don't want to hyphenate, I'm not taking anybody's last name. My name was and is Toke Makinwa.My kids can bear their father's surname
"In my marriage, my passport, my bank details, nothing changed. We divorced, thank God it didn't change(laughs).Imagine what I would have gone through trying to change it back," please help me o! I used to be former Ayida, I need to become Toke Makinwa my name",no! I've built this brand with blood, sweat, and tears".
"I kept my last name when I got married. It was supposed to be Toke Makinwa-Ayida but it was only at home that he called me Mrs. Ayida, but I was always called Toke Makinwa.
"But he understood as well because he came from a family where his sister was a doctor, an OBGYN, a very top one, and she's always still known as Dr.Ayida,so he never had a conversation with me about baby, why can't you change your name? Like he wasn't wired that way, he didn't care.
"I hope that whoever I end up with next would actually love it because Toke Makinwa is staying. I don't want to hyphenate, I'm not taking anybody's last name. My name was and is Toke Makinwa.My kids can bear their father's surname
"In my marriage, my passport, my bank details, nothing changed. We divorced, thank God it didn't change(laughs).Imagine what I would have gone through trying to change it back," please help me o! I used to be former Ayida, I need to become Toke Makinwa my name",no! I've built this brand with blood, sweat, and tears".
It's no big deal in my family too. I don't intend to add his last name but my kids can bear his surname.
ReplyDeleteI just added is last name to my name. My name my father's name and husband's name.
DeleteI am glad I didn't change mine
ReplyDeleteI want to keep my last name too.
ReplyDelete🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteMay be he knows all along how it going to end.
ReplyDeleteI agree with her especially women that have build their names to some extent before marriage
ReplyDeleteI am divorced and changing back to my maiden name wasn't as easy as when I took my ex husband's name. If I remarry later,I ain't changing any name again.
The important thing to me is having a peaceful home, weather getting married and changing name oh or getting married and not changing name,goal is to have PEACE in my home
ReplyDeleteI added my spouse last name.
ReplyDeleteHer wishes
ReplyDeleteDo women still discuss this matter?
ReplyDeleteWhen the husband's name is big, women dey collect both his forename, hypen, and surname. When it ends, they rather die than change the name.
By the way, why only man, man, P, V, Ya..sh, Sx talks from or around these set of women. Don't they have career, business, healthy living matters to discuss or stories to tell?
I am married and kept my last name. I am not his sister nor his child, why do we need same last name? Most importantly, my father and family worked tirelessly to raise me, and now I happen to have done good work in my career with my name published for it. Imagine having someone else's family name take that glory in the name of marriage.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, you won't contemplate changing it if you marry Elon musk
ReplyDeleteWho cares if he's Elon must... She is Toke Makinwa and her brand is growing bigger every day
Deleteto each thier own
ReplyDeleteI haven’t changed my name and it’s been two years now. I would eventually hyphenate sha because I love the way it sounds but just don’t have the strength yet.
ReplyDeleteIt’s a whole process altogether.
I didn't change mine
ReplyDeleteNo law mandates a woman to change her name at marriage
ReplyDeleteSame here o but it's not for anything but the stress
ReplyDeleteI didn't change name
ReplyDeleteI didn't change my name anywhere. Not on bank accounts or documents as he and his family demanded
ReplyDeleteWell situations matters a lot.
ReplyDeleteThank God you are a brand, you have always been in the public space.
For some changing the name is for a good course and not just for the formality of it.
Let everyone do what suits them.
Me i will like to change my surname cos I don't even like it, it belongs to my grandfather, I would have preferred to bear my dad's first name but it's too late, whenever I marry I will drop that my surname immediately.
I have even started using my dad's first name on my social media handles
Whatever works for them
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