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DIFFICULT HUSBAND DIFFICULT SITUATION
My husband had prostate enlargement since last year ,he complained of not be able to urinate very well then I took him to hospital and I ended up spending
over N100,000 thousand which I borrowed .
My husband had prostate enlargement since last year ,he complained of not be able to urinate very well then I took him to hospital and I ended up spending
over N100,000 thousand which I borrowed .
Since then he ignores his medication, never goes for check up and to make the matter worse he continues drinking ogogoro and womanizing and the sickness became worse 3 days ago...
He was in so much pain bcos he could not pass out urine. I suggested with the kids that we should go to the hospital but he refused saying that it was witches and wizards that were after his life .
He ended up calling some white garment church to come and pray for him and that it was not a medical issues. I refused them to come inside the house, and my husband beat me up , dislocated my hands and punched my mouth and blood was everywhere on the floor.
I went to the village police station to complain ( Nasarawa State bcos it was nearer to us) and he started to beg me with some of his friends then I withdraw the case.
Right now he is in the hospital where they inserted a pipe tube to his man thing , we are yet to see the specialist on the issues becos we were told he is only one that can give us appointment .
I am sad over this issue becos I did not deserve this nonsense .This is our Xmas celebration , I really feel for my kids.
Na wah......Treatment that he should take quick he has wasted time and complicated it and even added Domestic violence to it.....Please send him the link of what Killed Governor Aketi so that he will be well informed that he is joking with his life.
Na wah......Treatment that he should take quick he has wasted time and complicated it and even added Domestic violence to it.....Please send him the link of what Killed Governor Aketi so that he will be well informed that he is joking with his life.
I heard a Pastor is sick with Typhoid and Malaria and has not taken any drugs but has instead been praying to God for a miracle to get better....he is so weak and in a bad state but he thinks a miracle is what he needs and not drugs
I wish your family all the best oh....
I wish your family all the best oh....
Who knows the name of the pastor
ReplyDeleteMadam God will show up, you have done your best pray to God and let him work. Speedy recovery!!
DeleteThat’s how my father said his diabetic foot ulcer was village people.
DeleteI can vividly remember the decaying smell of his feet. Our whole house was smelling. God!
He later had sepsis.
Became delirious. I went to him and told him he was being bundled to the hospital.
I backed my father down our stairs into the car while he kept on insisting he wanted to go to church
We sha took him to church and then drive down to orthopaedic hospital. He was already unconscious by the time we arrived.
They admitted him and told us he would have died that day.
They sha later cut off that leg.
Such a horrible experience.
Anyways as he no dey too mobile now, he no fit beat my mama again.
There are good men but there are really foolish men.
Speedy recovery to your husband 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
ReplyDeleteNa wa. He still beat you in his condition?? Well, you can't force him to take his meds, or get better. Focus on yourself, and your kids.
ReplyDeleteYou have tried for him. He’s an adult and should be ready to accept the consequences of his actions and inactions. For now Focus on your self and kids. He ll be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster, sorry about the stress. May God come through for him. We spiritualize everything in Nigeria, even things we cause by ourselves. How can someone have prostate enlargement and still drinking alcohol? Haba! He doesn't love himself. Let him pity you people at least. Please also inform his people of the situation before it gets out of hand. May God help him
ReplyDeletehmmmmm men and stubbornness, if you leave him now they will start screaming of wickedness and abandonment. I pray God come through for him.
ReplyDeleteHe’s only playing ludo with his life.wishing him a speedy recovery.
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Seems many men are down with this ailment , it's so rampart now
ReplyDeleteSo so sad
ReplyDeleteIt's well,I pray for God's intervention in your case.
ReplyDeleteMay God heal him
ReplyDeleteInform his family members of his present condition, you don't have to disclose the main issue, let them donate money for his treatment too, don't borrow further for a someone who does not take his health seriously. Be smart with him, care for him , they will soon tell him you're the one behind his predicament.
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May God come through for your family 🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteTell his family the situation of things and focus on your self and your children, you have tried for him, stupid man
ReplyDeleteIt is not a sin to take medicines. God gave the medical personnel the intelligence. So people pls let's use medicine where and when we can
ReplyDeleteAnd trust God for the medication to work.
I suppose they are waiting for the urologist to show up. They have to determine if he simply has prostate enlargement or prostate cancer. Early detection and treatment is crucial. He would have been feeling and seeing things long before it got to this stage, but likely ignored it. Men usually only go to doctors when they are actually sick and do not go for regular checkups where he could have informed the doctor of the symptoms he was exposed he could have been tested early. Unfortunately, prostate issues have become an epidemic in Black men as fibroids are in Black women.
ReplyDeleteContact his family and let them know. Do not borrow one penny on his behalf because it will likely get very expensive, as another BV said, let them pool money through the family to help. Saw Palmetto helps very well with prostate issues, but if his issue is cancerous then it won’t be able to help with that. Saw Palmetto comes in tea and capsule form and can be easily found in natural health stores, maybe some pharmacies too, and on Amazon.
As for the domestic violence, you really should have reported it. Domestic violence happens a lot to caregivers and it cannot be tolerated. See even in pain and ill health he still remembered how to be vile. Keep your distance as best as you can from getting into his grasp. They will also use charm and moments of kindness to lure the caregiver to drop their guard so they can get close to harming them. Some sick ppl become living demons, be careful.
Poster, follow this advise
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DeleteI'm totally against domestic violence, but madam, he was in serious pain, he couldn't piss, yes, your solution for him to go to the hospital is best, but you shouldn't have refused the people he called to come pray for him to enter..
ReplyDeleteAt that point, you look like an enemy who wants him dead..
You forced his reaction and I will blame you on that, (even at the risk of being insulted),. I would still tell you the truth.
Do I support domestic violence- NO
Do I support white garment prayers- No
But I also doesn't support pushing one to his limit and forcing him to react violently.. abeg no do am again.
Thank God he is in the hospital now.
PS: he knows why he thinks it's spiritual, he must have done some waka waka with some amotekun girls,. Notwithstanding, even if one want to pray for healing, I believe the person should be on medical treatment first, then they can come and pray for him in the hospital. He has nothing to lose by doing both. You are not supposed to pray without taking actions, you are supposed to WORK and PRAY..
Sorry about the beating
Thank you Dante for being objective. As a man, just know that women dont rate you. Women generally dont care about you when the chips are down. see how they all said she should not spend her money to take care of her husband.
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As Dante said, she should have allowed the praying band in and still get a medical personnel to convince him on mixing prayers with medications.
Even Medical Doctors agree that peoples' belief in miraculous healing or in God aid medicated recovery from illness or challenges.
However, the man is putting himself down
He is a self destructive man, before it degenerated to this point he didn't take his drugs
DeleteInside pain, he has power to beat his caregiver abi?
Ehya poster , this is a difficult situation.
ReplyDeleteMay Jesus fix it 🙏
Let me commend u first for your patience
ReplyDeleteWhere married women dey gather this strength to endure from? I give it to them
They are beating and cheating on u, still not rating u enough to take ur advice, yet u are still borrowing to treat same man. You people are very nice oh.
ReplyDeletePoster let his family take over his bills, sell his property to pay for the debt
DeleteHmmm, for your sake, I hope it has not turned to prostate cancer. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Stella for putting my story out here this means a lot to me and it also shows how diligent you are to your work. ( I posted this story as a comment) This has illness has going on for over 3 yrs. We both went to church but he prefers to go for one church to the others looking for miracle ,drinking , and womanizing instead to go for medical attention. I do not have money to give him again, Jan is coming and 2 of my kids are in higher institution, and the youngest is in secondary school. I need that little money with me for my kids school.
ReplyDeletePoster, please why doesn't he have money to pay for his own treatment? After all, drinking and womanising costs money na or am I missing something. He's beating you on top!!!...hmmm...the Lord is your strength oh.
DeleteMadam I am sorry for your husband beating you up, but I must point out your mistakes so that you can learn from it, Firstly your husband is an adult you can bring a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink water. When your husband decided not to go to the hospital but call white garment people to pray for him you should have allowed him, rather inform his parents and his siblings of the situation at hand. stop forcing an adult to be responsible rather inform his people in case of any wahala. Please don't borrow money again for his treatment, I pray it is not cancerous because prostate wahala know be small thing.
ReplyDeletePeople who play with their health, they're big turn off to me. Involve his family members full time.
ReplyDeleteMay God come through for you and your family
ReplyDeleteI'll be brutal in my response OP.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to sugarcoat nothing.
I draw the line at any form of domestic violence. I hate weak men. Any man that lays his hand on a woman should have his balls cut-off.
That said, I equally take umbrage at tales curated to draw some form of sympathy. You borrowed 100k. Your husband drinks ogogoro. Got the kids involved. Police entered the matter.
You are also not on the same page with your husband spiritually. Who says no to prayers? Even though it is from White garment folks? You blocked them from gaining access into the home even though your husband invited them.
You have been in a loveless marriage for years now. This is not the first time your husband has beaten you. That is the main flag your post displayed.
Your husband is a fool. And you are an enabler of his stupidity. But that's sidestepping the issue.
You made a tense situation worse. Everything could have been handled with wisdom. But since that is absent in your case, the situation in your marriage became inevitable.
You are caucusing with your kids against your husband. That's wrong! If your voice isn't enough, what makes you think that of your kids will be?
While it appears your husband's PE isn't presently life threatening, you borrowing money shows that he can't afford treatment and you can't keep borrowing money to treat him. So you have a bigger issue coming at you in future. PE can escalate to a blockage of the urethra which has already happened in your husband's case. Going forward, it can lead to worse prognosis.
You have an unhappy marriage. But you didn't get here overnight. You have stayed this far. As much as I'll never advocate for divorce, whatever made you stay this long, should keep you.
Overall, I feel you could have handled the situation better.
My dear, inform his family and wash your hands off him. Don't borrow again for him and start saving and working hard for your kids future and yours. He is an adult and if at this age and time he is still so foolish to not realize that God is the one who gave doctors and nurses the wisdom to cure and help the sick then let him be.
ReplyDeleteOne can pray and still take medication or undergo surgeries. Also if a man hit you once he will hit you again so I say prepare to leave him for good unless you want to turn into his punching bag whenever he is angry or there is a discussion.
Good luck and speedy recovery to him. Some people so much believe in the spiritual realm such that if they feel hungry today it's not ordinary.
ReplyDeleteI am not saying that there are no evil forces around us but there certain conditions that are natural but people will still take it the other way round.
Package him back to his family. Let them see what he's doing to himself.
ReplyDeleteHe still went on to womanize after you borrowed money for his treatment
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ReplyDeletePoster please do you have the treatment for vaginal
Deletecancer?
I don't know why most men are stubborn. You're seeing that something is life threatening, and her you take it for granted? Na wa
ReplyDeleteMost likely an old man close to his grave, preparation for the journey every mortal must embark upon, let him choose his vessel.
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