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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SINGLE BABY MAMA AND MARRIED BABY DADDY
I’m a single mum and my baby daddy and I had a son then family got involved and messed up our relationship and we lost contact for 8 years.
I’m a single mum and my baby daddy and I had a son then family got involved and messed up our relationship and we lost contact for 8 years.
I basically cut ties due to so much family drama, we were young, immature and let family ruin our relationship but we started speaking again this year.
He is married now with a 3 year old son and he even called his second son the name he gave our son, when I asked him why he says because when he had him he remembered his first son which is my son.
My son is the first son of the first son and the first grandchild. His dad and his dad’s dad don’t play about him because he is number 1. He has every inheritance x10 of all other gran kids because he is first and first son. His father is crazy about him!
He told his wife about my son and I before he married her and now that I’m back she asked him if she should be worried because she knows him and I are 5&6 but I told him to tell her she got nothing to worry about because I don’t date married men ...
My son is the first son of the first son and the first grandchild. His dad and his dad’s dad don’t play about him because he is number 1. He has every inheritance x10 of all other gran kids because he is first and first son. His father is crazy about him!
He told his wife about my son and I before he married her and now that I’m back she asked him if she should be worried because she knows him and I are 5&6 but I told him to tell her she got nothing to worry about because I don’t date married men ...
I’m only keeping him around because of our son anyway na so so everyday he dey call and video call me o I don talk taya
Ladies never ever marry a man that has a child before marriage that you don’t know if the child’s mum has moved on and is married because na wahala.
Ladies never ever marry a man that has a child before marriage that you don’t know if the child’s mum has moved on and is married because na wahala.
I’m currently single and my baby daddy treats me like we are still together and he makes it clear I’m his first love and he only married her due to his family pressure ......oh boy so she has the ring but I have the heart? God abeg o.
I know someone who wants to marry someone with two baby mamas and an ex wife, all still single, i told her she would never be happy because she serious competition times three......I am not saying it is wrong but most exs always get back together cos the kid brings them close.
Try everything you can not to interfer with this Marriage please!
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ReplyDeleteHmmmm!
DeleteI won't judge you but how long will this man string you along.
Men are not to be fully trusted,if he is so in love with you ,then he should marry you as a second wife seems you don't mind.
This chronicle is so funny. The humble brag no be here.
DeleteNo be small bragging o😄
DeleteReal humble bragging. Sarcasm ×10 (permit borrowing from Poster).
DeleteIf to say na the wife send in a chronicle of her husband not letting go of this ex, we for gather shame the man.
But since na female ex send chronicle of not letting another woman have peace of heart and rest of mind in her marriage, na the wife do bad by marrying a man with a child.
Una don hear now, women! Stop marrying men who have pre-marital child (especially third generation first son) or children (especially first son and daughter).
God abeg o.
Urhobo man say "akpo ughe" - life na cinema (wonderous spectacle).
Before I forget, I be male o.
Expect anything from humans 😂
DeleteYou went back to him because you're single and lonely, in no time now, you will start fucking and probably get pregnant again 😏😏😏😏. Before I got married, I always said I will never marry a married man or a single dad, and it happened
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Well, from your narrative, it seems his second love with the ring is not the jealous type.
ReplyDeleteSo what are you saying now I don't understand you ?do you want us to applause you or to give you go ahead and date him?it is a matter of time before you start warming his bed except you get your own husband but this your hyper -hero status is egocentric better listen to Stella otherwise you will be his mistress for life QED
ReplyDeleteFirst love that he cannot fight for and marry. He married his wife due to family pressure and he's busy in-between her legs every night while you hug pillow and manage video calls. She go dey born pikin dey go, you will be hammering on first son first son and inheritance as if he won't have a life outside his father's property. Stay there and be entertaining video calls, Las Las you either end up as second wife or single forever. Don't have a life o, stay there and be competing for attention.
ReplyDeleteAs innnnn is she stupid or what???? My goodnessss. Even after all this while, she’s still doesn’t have the emotional maturity! Emotion’s clouding her judgment as usual. Us women and our emotions shaaaaaa kai! It takes Gods grace to control emotions else the broken heart and hurt continues. 😞
DeleteSpots on....
DeleteI hope she listens to reason.
A word the say is enough for the wise.
Don't mind her, even 2nd wife she won't get. See her gloating over video calls, saying she got his heart and the wife the ring. Poster you will soon learn the hard way, don't borrow yourself brain you hear.
DeleteA man clearly gave the same name to his son with his wife and that doesn't look to you he's erased yours. He couldn't fight for your love but conveniently marry someone he doesn't love🤣
You will continue being a secret and someone he cannot fight for. Continue fooling yourself. After 25 abörti0ns, you will wake up.
Lol.. No mind am. I don't know why some women act like they have fish brain, she come Dey brag on top. You wey be first love, wet in be your gain? First love for only mouth
DeleteDont mind her, see her mouth like inheritance x 10.
DeleteDo you even know whether the wife is also rich herself...
Will your child also inherited step mother's money.
Better remove your eyes from inheritance money and focus on making money to leave for your son since you don't have sense again.
Blackberry you have said it all, people fought for what they love, he can't fight for you despite you having a son for him. Poster keep deceiving yourself, you better look for your own husband and stop the useless video call with him. He even get mind name his second son after your child and you are buying his stupid explanation, I laugh in Spanish.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteThank you 😂😂😂
DeleteTell her oooo
DeleteHe's looking for a way to chop you in the Name of First Loveeee..
Someone that cannot even Fight for you
Went ahead married and Gave his second son name as yours
Ya brain better reset..
Temporal love you mean?, Be there deceiving yourself!
ReplyDeleteIf you truly had his heart he would have fought heaven and earth and railed against any family that caused an obstruction to your union. He chose not to fight for you all and took the easy road.
ReplyDeleteGbam. Home boy probably got bored in his marriage. He didn’t tell her he’ll divorce his wife. Poster shine your eyes very well else he”ll be your stumbling block from meeting your own man. He made a decision to marry someone else not you!!
DeleteRather than take responsibility of their failed relationship, Let her be giving excuses for their failed relationship.
DeleteShe had better move on and save herself and dignity from such entanglement.
If things continue this way, since you are single/unmarried, you guys might come back together. I fear for the wife...it's really not easy as you said to marry someone with a child because you really can't tell if the other partner has moved on.
ReplyDeleteHe won’t leave his wife. Wanna bet? He’ll chop both pussies that’s all.
DeleteHe will never leave the wife, why will he? When she has children for him to. Poster is deceiving herself to think the family loves her son more than his in other children. If they did love the son that much, they wouldn't have opposed the marriage. That family accepted the wife that should be a clue to her.
DeleteEven if he leaves his wife, she will never be accepted by his family and live with the guilt of destroying his marriage forever..
DeleteI understand you're single and maybe crave for love but always put yourself in the wife's shoes. That he told her about you doesn't mean you should encourage whatever he's doing now. Make him understand He's married and needs to respect the vows he made to his wife. He can take care of his son without hurting the wife.
ReplyDeletePoster abeg leave that man alone let him concentrate on his marriage, if you were good for him enough he would have married you no matter what, you have the heart my foot he would never divorce his wife for you mark my words do you want to be a baby mama/side chick forever?go front go find your own husband somebody left you for 8good years and he his back wants to continue shining your congo and keep you as side chick and you are here shouting that you have the heart LMAO dey play.
ReplyDeleteYour son is about 9/10 (maybe, older). He knows how to operate a phone. The babydaddy can easily buy him a phone, and reach out to his son directly. If you need anything, your son is old enough to relay your message to his dad.
ReplyDeleteYou already said your boy has an inheritance, and the guy's side of the family doesn't play with him...so it's not like you have to play "nice" in order to get your son taken care off.
You are being messy because you enjoy the attention!! You think having his first kid (and a boy at that), gives you the upperhand. It's obvious you get a thrill out of keeping that woman on edge!
You can talk till you run out of breath and your face turns blue...BUT you cannot convince me,, that you're only maintaining this inappropriate relationship for your son!
Despite your claims of not dating married men, I won't be surprised if a few years down the line, you give birth to more kids with this man, and claim that you only did it because you want all your children to have the same father.
Truthful points well made.
DeleteThe last line will be her consolation after 2 more children, that will be 1st and 2nd grandchildren from side chick
DeleteShe actually has the upper hand. You guys know it's the truth.
DeleteShe clearly said they were young and both made mistakes. She didn't communicate with him for 8 years, so how in the world could he have fought for her?
He still loves her, and she still loves him too. Not everyone wants to bear the tag of "wifey".
Hmmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteIt depends
ReplyDeleteSome people will never ever ever go back to their ex
Just look closely
People like Israel will probably go back if allowed cause the break up was clearly not his choice
I doubt i can ever Marry a Baby Daddy, that his Baby Mama is still single... Because i know say na my co wife she be in disguise... I can't deal
ReplyDelete"she has the ring and I have the heart"😂
ReplyDeleteThis one still dey deceive herself..
5 and 6 KO..
7 and 8 ni..
By the way, unless Baba write a Will, your son was had outside wedlock, na child born in marriage dem dey regard more..
You better stop doing bestie with someone husband..
See mouth like "na so so everyday he dey call and video call me o I don talk taya"😂.. dey play,. You can born more kids for him as per first love ..
Lol in a bid to hurt her you’ve thrown stones at so many people
DeleteMany kids are born outside wedlock and their fathers regard them
My first niece is outside wedlock and the apple of her father’s and all our eyes
Says who? You people should stop this narative a out kids born outside wedlock.
DeleteThey are humans for Christ sake....
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DeleteI will soon leave this blog for you people before you infect me with your lack of common sense..
1. Does the tradition regards them? Even in movies you watch, have you seen where they allow the bastard child to become king over the one born under wedlock?
2. Is your niece a Son/Man?
I said if he doesn't write a Will, tradition in most cases won't favour him, but you're here arguing because you must fight Dante
Apple of father's eye KO, guava of father's mouth ni🙄
Born out of wedlock is not something to be proud of, no matter how we sugar coat it, it shows something went wrong, either one party was rejected or some other thing negative thing happened, though some may not be the fault of one of the partners like in the case of rape, the children should be treated right but that's not always the case, but we should never encourage it. Marriage is for a reason.
Delete18:05 speak for yourselves
DeleteWe are proud of our out of wedlock niece anytime anywhere and we are happy she was born
Dante it’s okay to be wrong
DeleteYou cast to wide a net with your first statement
People read this blog
My friend was out of wedlock and a careless statement like this hurt her very badly. We regard all our children
This poster says her baby daddy regards the child but you wanted to make her feel bad so you said those kids are not regarded
You're the one who jumped to conclusions because of emotions..
DeleteDid I say they're not regarded by their parents? If you didn't understand you should have asked what I meant by not regarded,.
Didn't we also talk about this few days ago when I said the same thing about Will and tradition.
No, you are the one wrong. If you can't admit it, then bounce and stop trying to force me on what's not..
By careless statement you mean stating a fact right? So I should begin to lie because your friend would feel bad? I should not tell this poster the truth and leave her to be deceiving herself to be competing with wife that isn't divorced from her baby daddy. You are not serious
Mr Dante, my kids are not bastards because their father accepted them. Our son is the grandma's heart beat and our daughter, her father's love.
DeleteSee, this marriage thing no be every body want am oh. I refused marriage. Nobody will call my babies bastards because of one tradition that offers nothing positive to them.
My choice.
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DeleteCalm down, no one uses the word bastard anymore, it's archaic English, I only used it because it is what they call it in those century movies I made reference to.
E de like say the thing de sweet you. It's well with the main wife. For your mind she got the ring you got the heart, heart wey beat wella without you for years, Guy wan sample you and take advantage of you if you no know. The grass is always greener from the other side.
ReplyDeleteA chronicle that sounds like bragging right. You must be so proud to have the "heart" 😏
ReplyDeleteMove on, babe.
From your tone sef, you're already in the marriage with them!
ReplyDeleteYou're Even feeling yourself. LoL! 😁
No be the innocent wife cause your problem, you said it yourself, that it was the family.
So allow the innocent woman enjoy her husband in peace.
I blame the man Sha.😎
In the marriage, and enjoying the submission of the wife.
DeleteShe should flip it. Would she be happy if she is the wife?
That's why blaming only the husband in cases of adultery is half of a blame. His co-adulterer has the other half. As every woman has a right to say no to a married man
Seriously this guy will run you street and still drop your ass, why do you have to grant him such audience after years plus he's married, you need advise yourself not single ladies. First love in the mud
ReplyDeleteI don’t even understand dis chronicle shebi we should start clapping for you for having his heart abi Wetin??? Nnaaaa eh
ReplyDeleteThe poster seems pleased that she has her baby daddy in the palm of her hand. She is thrilled that he loves her more than his wife. Madam, you are feeling like a demigod and the power makes you feel special.
ReplyDeleteYou better go and find your own man. Don't feel so comfortable with his attention that you refuse to get into a healthy relationship with a well-meaning suitor.
Your baby daddy is just thrilled that he can control two women at the same time: a wife and a baby mama. Don't feel special.
Poster don't ever allow your baby daddy blackmail you into sleeping with him again because of what he is doing for your son, na una son o. Men can be Petty sometimes! Maybe you can set boundaries too,this one he's calling and videoing all the time, make una pity the legitimate wife abeg!
ReplyDeleteThis is the problem with marring a man with bargages , i can't deal.
She is having the best of three worlds or is it four?
DeleteThe boy is her son. She doesn't see him as their son. Afterall, children belong to the woman any way for the good that comes from them.
Her son is the one who will inherit ad first son. By default, she is the Chief inheritor
The man's family value her son. Her Inheritance is guaranteed
She has the man's attention. Further guarantee of her inheritance.
The man's wife has submitted. She did not marry the man. But she has successfully "unmarried" the wife from the man.
Ah, it is more than four.
Woman to woman oh.
Every line of the chronicle had the aroma of expected inheritance and current gains.
Question is: Can a man with lesser or same family Inheritance be successfully married to this woman without having the baby daddy and his family in that marriage?
You didn’t make any sense!
Delete@17:45,
DeleteThe Poster or Bv who thinks/acts destructively like her, truth always hurts a wicked conscience.
Your likes have been met before. The comment was from knowledge. Hence it went to raw nerves painfully.
Don't be offended.
But thank God you don't own the tomorrow of the man's wife and her children.
Aunty I can tell you are in pain and so jealous of his wife.
ReplyDeleteHe will eat you and dump you as always. Don't go get a life.
He didn't fight to keep you but you won his heart? Let me laugh in Spanish.
Old firewood no hard to catch fire. I hope you will be able to fight Okafor's law..
ReplyDeleteIf you meet someone else please focus on the person and forget this baby daddy, I know first love is nerve wrecking but you have to let him go. He wants to eat his cake and have it, I suggest you move on.
ReplyDeleteBefore we know it now una go begin gbensh and I totally understand how this feels.
ReplyDeleteNot judging anyone. Make he kuku marry you join as wife na. Chai I don't want babu daddy dramas
I pity that wife seriously, she no fit get rest of mind.
The wife doesn't know about her, poster is in her corner being a jealous ex and a scorned woman all by herself. I really wish after reading all the comments, she gather strength to move on. She doesn't deserve what she's doing to herself, no woman does.
DeletePls do not complicate issues more for yourself.move on completely and let him focus on his marriage.that doesn't stop him from taking care of his son.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm is all i can say cos
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteYou must be a novice to believe his wife asked about being worried blablabla. You will bear the full brunt when the result of your action shows up, he's either finding his way back for a reason that's well known to all except you.
ReplyDeleteSecond pregnancy or more babies with you will not even keep him, ask Pero Idibia, wake up!
Felicity
She has the ring, but you have his heart, LMAO. Yet you are outside, even second wife he never ask you to be . Soon you'd be bitter and alone oz that man just want kitty, dey play till you clock 50 and single.
ReplyDeleteBabe please move on, don't start what will later scatter you
ReplyDeleteYou know he can't marry you so why all this bragging ontop another woman man
Let your son handles the call and if he can't pls let there be boundaries
Haba no dey deceive yourself na
Dont mind her the same family she says love her son is the same family that did not let them marry each other..make she day play thinking say she day ontop,her big eyes go soon open more..
DeleteYou are saying this because the man is not making serious move, if he try one hand you will fall. I know your type. You are already doing video calls at will 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteDo not go back to him. Ile olorogun ogba were( the home of a polygamous is a yard for mental unstable people) be patient you will have your own man or want to become 2nd wife.?
ReplyDeleteBe deceiving yourself...all you have is his son...people who have the heart are married even with family pressure..last last u will be the hole he will be releasing his leftover akamu..
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLol 😆 🤣 😂
DeleteShe no worry about dat. Because dem point out her greed for inheritance above, she vex.
DeleteShe no dey do married men. So all the talks na about wetin? Na about Naira to Fx rates?
Plenty grammar for her mouth - first son of first son of first son of first... . Yet she neva hear of emotional infidelity or adultery.
She does not care about anyone but herself and "inheritance" of a young man who may even be in his 30s. All the women that are obsessed with inheritance have poverty mentality.Give your child the best education and opportunities in life, stop thinking like this. I know many whose dads were very rich who are now richer and wealthier than their dads. This obsession with inheritance called "agbojulogun" leads to poverty and bad decisions. This here is the reason some women keep long distance from baby mama and kid in Nigeria where there are no boundaries. for the most part, once its over its over with Americans, they can meet the child at a Starbucks but will never go visit him or her in the ex's house because boy the optics so their wife can feel secure. This woman was ch*ap when younger and is still the same, making fun of a woman who has not hurt you. No you do not have his heart, the man knows how light you are and he is using that to get free lunch.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteThe family read her right. That's why they drove her away. Eight years on she has not bettered herself and has not been able to get another inheritance full family to latch onto.
Yet she get mouth to reply here for being called out as inheritance focused.
'Ladies never ever marry a man that has a child before marriage that you don’t know if the child’s mum has moved on and is married because na wahala'.
ReplyDeletePoster I do not fully agree with your statement up there. Same reservation men have about single mums whose exes are not married yet.
If you want him back, maybe as a 2nd wife, the choice is entirely yours to make.
Poster I don't understand, you mean for so many years you haven't moved on and still blushing over the love of a man who impregnated you and vomited you due to "family pressure"?
ReplyDeleteGirl have some boundary and move on. I don't mean to get another man, I mean have some standard.
Look he couldn't stand up to his family then, he won't now. Move on, work on yourself; you are better than this. That man will break you further if you don't leave. You are not a toy!
This man is now married,can you please allow him be with his wife ?
ReplyDeleteHaba
The way you are saying this like you want him to leave his wife for you, at least respect the marriage institution.
You may choose to marry him as wife no. 2.
ReplyDeleteMy friend's boyfriend could not really fight for their love because he was afraid of loosing out on his inheritance as his father was really wealthy. He made sure to get the lady pregnant sha. He got married to the lady his parents wanted. Few years later, him and the first lady are back together with the lady's child claiming her position as the first seed.
I’m laughing at folks saying he won’t ever go back to her
DeleteLet’s be honest he just might
But poster I don’t think he’s good for you
Forget about trying to win this “prize”
You’re human and his attention has made you feel good about yourself
ReplyDeleteThat’s normal
Now face your life and leave his
Wanna hear my story? Long story short, I ended up having 2 kids for my baby daddy, his wife had 2 also, he didn't marry me, wife didn't leave, her two daughters school abroad, my own boy and girl are schooling here. I am content but not happy coz he blocked suitors. Whenever I get into a relationship, he meddles in and the men would leave, that is how I remained single till today an he doesn't have my time again coz I'm no longer fresh meat.
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle is my comment and I didn’t read any of the comments above
ReplyDeleteWell he is clear I’m also moving on and getting married soon so we can all be one big blended family but the fax remain we will always have love for each other, it is what it is.
Again single ladies do not marry a man that has a child and you don’t know if his baby mama ain’t married don’t ever do it.
She married a man that belongs to me so whatever she sees make she take am like that ni
Your comments jumbled all. You want to be married and still be blended in his family. Will you tell your husband that your heart will never leave this man and that you will be blended into his family and marriage?
DeleteHe was taken from you by his
family who love your son so much and who you respect so much because of you son's inheritance. So please free the wife to enjoy her marriage. Let your husband enjoy his marriage with you.
When family advise their sons to stay clear of single mothers, such single mothers shout stigmatization. But when a woman wants to be selfish, she argues as you are doing here.
You don't do married men as a single mother but as a married woman you want to do blended family of being wife to two men because of inheritance.
Again, as usual, your comment or chronicle was stereotypical. Written to block all possibilities of you being blamed. Just that Bvs saw through it. Maybe because you are a woman oppressing another woman. If that woman wrote in complaining about her husband or you, Bvs would not have seen you as the person destroying the marriage. They would have abused all men
🤣🤣🤣 it's the I didn't read any of the comments above but went ahead to answer the comments for me.
DeletePoster you better listen to the wisdom bv are giving you for free. I doubt you are about to get married, no woman who is about to either by love or by necessity about to wed is this entitled to their ex. Don't worry keep living in lalaland, it will soon clear from your eyes, don't go and concentrate on yourself, keep entertaining a married man.
Do you think naming his son the same name he named your son is a mere coincidence??? Ask Churchill that named his son the same name Tonto named her son. You are so dumb that's why he plans to string you along and waste your time while he builds his family with his wife. He will continue to feed you with the little crumps of attention he presently offers - calls and video calls. His wife that he married will have both his heart and body, that's why he named his son with her the same name he named your son! Get a life and move on too.
ReplyDeleteBaby daddy has come to play in your face the second time around and you're there dancing to his tune feeling special. Telling yourself that you have his heart. No worry, when he's gotten tired of you, the same way he threw you away the first time will repeat itself. He's with his wife because that's exactly where he wants to be. If he wanted you, he'd already have left his wife. Men don't worry about what people will say, they do what they want to do. He hasn't left his wife, so he's exactly where he wants to be.
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