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COLLEAGUE WITH BODY ODOUR
I need advice people of Nigeria.
There is this brilliant chap( Accountant) at my office, he does all the work but his immediate boss gets the glory, even if he is given the work, the MD will tell him to give his boss for discussion.
The problem is, he has terrible body odour, even when he wears a new shirt. How do I help his ministry´?. I don’t want to buy deodorant for him before I am accused of s#xual harassment. The world now, one has to be careful.
He is very hairy .
I am the HR and I only wish guy would prove himself before the MD, his immediate boss complains that his workload is much but we know he says it to make himself feel good..... Even other meetings, his juniors are invited and he is sent on errand outside the office.
Hmmmm Intelligent man with body odour?......If it was me, I would take him out to eat somewhere and have a heart to heart talk with him...... Please do not mince words....Let him know the koko of the matter.He needs to shave and use deodotant ASAP..... tell him its the reason they always send him out, talk to him also about helping him get better recognition in office.....One thing though, his Job will be at risk if he puts his Bodd on the line by proving that the Boss isnt the one who does all the work....let him just work on his body odour and self confidence and take it one day at a time until things work out...
Na only book this one sabi. Poor him.
ReplyDeleteHe needs to be told the truth as it would help him all-round..
He should brace up for what is coming.
I wish him good luck
Please tell him, it is better he knows and be hurt than not knowing at all
DeleteI have once told a friend that he had mouth odour, it was terrible mouth odour, I can't pretend anymore. At first he was ashamed but he started working on himself he brushed his teeth twice everyday and the mouth odour is no more. I have told another friend that she has body odour and even bought deodorant for her, she worked on herself and now no more body odour and I'm so happy for her. Please, follow Madam Stella's advice, he needs to know, let him shave his pubic hairs, buy deodorant, (Nivea might help), use good perfume, he will always be grateful to you. Please HR tell him
DeleteThank you
DeleteI trust the BO isn't chronic? The type that you can do everything you can but the smell persists. If you don't want to discuss with him directly, you can send him an anonymous message that will be clear and direct to the point.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure though that he is already self conscious of it. You will be doing him a world of good by getting him to address it. You are the HR whether you do that directly or not is entirely up to you.
Ok madam God will help your ministry just tell us you are interested in the man and you don't know how to approach him.Anyway stella has helped you out best of luck
ReplyDeleteNawa for people's understanding. Is this what you made out of the Chronicle?
DeleteGoke, your head no too correct o…
DeleteGoke Biko change your dealer okay
DeleteGoke head no correct
DeleteComprehension is important uncle goke
DeleteThe dumbest comment ever, why are you so mean??? It's because of people like you that makes good people shy away from helping others. Please sir/ma work on your mindset.
DeleteTo some of you, everything is about boy and girl. For your information dumb Goke, I am married and not interested in him. I am way older than him . Just trying to help his career growth. Dumb Dumber
DeleteLack of punctuation is your biggest problem. No wonder you don’t understand the chronicle
Delete@goke if the lady is interested in the guy no be bad thing ooo
DeleteIf they are both single I see no reason for your head kwa...
Poster pls just look for a humbly way to tell him ooo..
Buy him stuff as Christmas present and tell him it’s because you admire and appreciate his dedication to his job.In those items,add a perfume set that will include a deodorant.Thats what I would do if I were in your shoes,I don’t advice you have a heart to heart with him,you don’t have that kind of relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is cool, pls buy like 2 or more, encourage him to be better at in the new year.
DeleteThis is cool, pls buy like 2 or more, encourage him to be better at in the new year.
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DeletePlease tell him to buy deodorant and all this oil perfume. Nothing to hide
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteThat he will benefit from their usage
God bless you for your genuine concern. Is it something that proper hygiene and grooming can solve or it it "okokobioko"? E get simple solution wey no go even cost am 1k if he is in Naija. Even if he no baff for 2 days sef, he no go gba. He needs to wash the armpits area of his clothes well too sha. Don't send him any anonymous message. If you are willing to tell him face to face, leros know✊.
ReplyDeletePls ma help me with the solution. Even after scrubbing my armpits when I bath, 2hrs later I'm already having odour, if I don't wear deodorant. I'm tired
DeleteIt’s not proper hygiene anything.iv seen a clean and very hygienic beautiful girl with severe body odor and there’s nothing they didnt do about it,no perfume she didn’t use.once she sweats like this,the odor will ooze out.
DeleteBut is it too hard to tell?
DeleteI believe in dialogue, call him and be blunt but ready to assist him
It’s not everyone you can be blunt with.it takes for you to have a certain kind of relationship with someone before you can be blunt with them,especially on sensitive issues like this one.
Deleteits quite simple, initiate a friendly discussion with him, and in the process ask if he uses white vinegar or
ReplyDeleteIt is quite simple: initiate a friendly chat with him, and while at it, chip in on the importance of white vinegar and lime for the skin and how it helps you prevent sweat odor, especially in this heat period. you can inform him of how you cut lime and rob it in your armpits after bathing or how you rob white vinegar into your armpits after bath to prevent sweat odor throughout the day
ReplyDeleteOrganise end of year package for members of staff and include a very strong but nice perfume in his.
ReplyDeleteHe may not use
DeleteHe may not use
Deletethis thing is not only for guys. even ladies have it. I know of a colleague who has it too. her own is too much. She smells like rotten fish. The day we shared gifts in the office, I saw the way Roll On was flying up and down to her. chai! I pity her husband. very brilliant lady. She became talked about by many. it's really sad.
ReplyDeletemy advice is to have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Tell him to use EXTRACT soap; very good for body odour. a friend recommended for another and the odour stopped. single guys suffer more because they might not know. After all, it is only the wife or someone close to him that can tell him. My own was mouth odour. until my wife told me and I started bushing well. that is brushing my tongue very well. All the best poster
Poster please take him out and tell him about it abeg🙏..
ReplyDeleteHe will really appreciate it i tell you.
You can use a dispatch rider to send him Xmas gift like perfumes and deodorant anonymously, with a note concerning his grooming inside
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As the HR manager, you can easily tell him this. You praise his effort, let him know you see it and admire his hardwork. Then you tell him where you think there's a problem and how it could affect him or how it's affecting him.
ReplyDeleteI love this approach
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DeleteThank you
DeleteYes, this
DeleteA proper and frequent bath really does fix body odour as well as properly washing clothes and undies as well as bedspread and very imprtantly towels. It's also very important for person's suffering from it to consciously separate worn clothes from clean ones. I mean like get a laundry basket and try to make laundry days like twice a weak so the sweat doesn't stay on for too long.I tried it for this particular girl that had to come live with me for her Waec and it worked quite well
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in SS3. I was staying with my aunty. If our toothpaste finish, she will not buy and if she buys, she will hide it and ask me to use chewing stick. My school is far from our house like 45 minutes trreeking. I will just bath, dress, carry my bag and put my chewing stick in my mouth and off to school. If I see my school mates, I will be ashamed and throw away the chewing stick. This happened for almost one month. This means I wasn't brushing nor using the chewing stick well. My mouth was smelling without my knowledge. One day a class mate whom I am not even close with called me to one corner and told me to always brush my teeth twice a day as my mouth is smelling. I felt embarrassed at that moment but my dear. I became friends with that girl from that day. I still appreciate her till tomorrow. What am I saying. Please tell him. He needs to know..maybe he does not know. He will never forget you
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteIf you are HR then you are the best person to inform him. You can come from a health angle advising him to see his doctor because of his body odour. If you cannot use the health angle for legal reasons just come out and tell him you received a complaint regarding his body odour.
ReplyDeleteIf he grew up harsh where survival was more important than hygiene then you will have to be prepared with either a website or information of how ppl practice personal hygiene. He may need to shave his armpits and start over if he is not washing them, gets long washcloth that can scrub his back, ensure he is washing his nether regions properly. A good parent teaches their child these things, but maybe he never learned.
Send an anonymous email or message. Make sure to sound nice. Start with praises his work then gently introduce the bo issue.
ReplyDeleteSend an anonymous email or message. Make sure to sound nice. Start with praises his work then gently introduce the bo issue.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm just listen to Stella red pen. God help him not to take offence.
ReplyDeleteTake Stella advice or send him anonymous message with detai.
ReplyDeleteDear poster you need to tell him about how his body odor is getting in the way of his excellent performance. Please tell him nicely
ReplyDeleteYes
DeleteDear Madam HR
ReplyDeleteYou can buy him a set of deodorant as Christmas gift, also you can get closer to him so it's easy for you to stylishly hint him of his need to take his personal hygiene more seriously.
On a lighter note, do you like him?
No. I am married.
ReplyDeleteIt might be food reaction.
ReplyDeleteSome people eat garlic and it can be smelled in their sweat/clothes.
It might be a health issue.
No roll-on can solve bo from food and health issues.
It could be poor hygiene - not bathing at all or not bathing properly, wearing clothes already worn, using unclean water to bathe.
Talk with him. Use your feminine skill and motivational skills to convince him to review his lifestyle to make adjustments or take steps.
Please tell him, be his saviour... God forbid you were in his situation, Tell him in the manner and tone you would love to be told
ReplyDeletePresent the case with empathy to him. Discuss from the angle of love. Let him know you have seen people with such cases before and how they overcame the challenge. Ensure you are practical with subtlety by applying wisdom. Please do not be forceful or brutal all in the name of saying the truth (that's where some people usually miss it).
ReplyDeleteTell him about mouth-washing involving clearing his tongue, shaving, using deodorant and perfumes, hair-creams, etc. Let him know that perfumes are not for the rich but people who are concerned about hygiene.
Once he sees love in your voice and face and not a way to embarrass him, he will cooperate with you.
This thing is so hard to discuss. It's only someone I'm really close to that I say this to. There was this guy I liked. really neat, but mouth odor no be here. I didn't know how to tell him, and I took a walk
ReplyDeleteDear poster you are a good person you care so much about someone else problem.
ReplyDeleteIt's not all body odour that deodorant can stop
ReplyDeleteThere is this bathing soap called RANEE. It read that it stops body odour but I don't know how true it is
ReplyDeleteNice advise Stella. Buy him a perfume as a gift
ReplyDeletePerfume mixed with bad smell na zero
DeleteThe root of the problem needs to be treated
Perfume mixed with bad smell na zero
DeleteThe root of the problem needs to be treated