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Hi Stella,
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I am deeply troubled. I think I have used my own hands to cause problems for myself. It's a long story but I'll make it brief.
I got into a relationship in 2022 after almost 3 years of celibacy. Long story short, it didn't last but it broke me. I was so sad and overwhelmed with pain that I was placed on medical leave for a month to recover.
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I am deeply troubled. I think I have used my own hands to cause problems for myself. It's a long story but I'll make it brief.
I got into a relationship in 2022 after almost 3 years of celibacy. Long story short, it didn't last but it broke me. I was so sad and overwhelmed with pain that I was placed on medical leave for a month to recover.
During this time, a "friend" that knew about all the disappointments(quite a number) advised that I spoke to her pastor in a white garment church.
This babe has been trying to convince me for years to do something called "ibi ijoko" which means prayer for favor for a good and stable marriage and that will stop disappointments, but every time, I refused and said my faith is against it.
Now, after this break up, I was at my lowest and she came again. I agreed to speak with the pastor and the women said I needed to do the prayers so that I could finally get married.
I'm 36 years old and my elder sister is 38 and still single as well as my younger sister, who is 35. I was just fed up and gave this woman 100k to buy the chair and fan that she'd use for the prayers for the 3 days. She also did some "spiritual works" for one of my cousins that had been married for 2 years without kids.
After that, I started to panick because I felt I had done something bad but convinced myself it was 419. So I just moved on and forgot about it and focused on life.
Now, I have gotten closer to an old friend from uni days that wants to get married and everything is going perfectly fine.
Now, I have gotten closer to an old friend from uni days that wants to get married and everything is going perfectly fine.
This guy is every woman's dream. He's kind, fine, successful, hardworking, has the fear of God and extremely smart. I have told him I would not fornicate and if he couldn't handle it, he should go as a way to make him leave because I don't have it in me to take disappointments again.
He grumbled but later accepted and we agreed there'd be no spending the night together to make things easier.
It's been 7 months now and He officially proposed and bought me a ring and said to go to Nigeria to see my parents by Easter so we could get married but I am reluctant.
It's been 7 months now and He officially proposed and bought me a ring and said to go to Nigeria to see my parents by Easter so we could get married but I am reluctant.
The problem here is I'm scared that whatever that pastor woman did is what is working. Don't get me wrong, I'm hot, successful and well-behaved, fun to be with and all of that, the complete package so getting a man isn't a problem for me at all but I'm so restless that this good guy might be with me because of what she did and not my qualities.
My man has noticed it and keeps asking what's wrong. I don't want anything to do with what she did. I don't care if it's clean prayers, I don't care if apostle Paul officiated the process himself, I don't want it.
I'm scared that I have tainted my life and now I'll never be happy. Now, I'll think there's a spirit following me around that will be forcing this guy or any other guy around me stay with me and it's spoiling my joy. I can't comprehend the reason behind taking someone's freewill and I will never do it.
Please note that he didn't just start liking me now. He's always liked me from school days but I had a bf so he didn't push and its possible he just rekindling what was there before but i can't help feeling a certain way. Everytime I'm laughing and happy, I remember the "prayers" and start crying.
Please, are my fears unfounded? Has anyone here ever done it? How can I break whatever was done? And my cousin, I'm terribly sad and scared of what I did out of love for her. What if I have complicated things for her? Should I tell her so we can pray together? I am not desperate to get married, never have, never will. I don't know how this stupidity happened.
This is really serious oh, you need prayers to break whatever has been tied on your behalf and your cousin needs prayers too before she births a convenant child with what spirit was prayed to..............
You definitely need prayers, however i dont think whatever was done is what brought that man to you, however i think you have used your money to pay for monitoring spirits to follow you around and hurt you even more....Anything that is not of God can never give you peace or happiness....
Hahahaha
ReplyDeleteMadampls calm down and enjoy your relationship
That’s not the only prayer that was prayed for you. Let’s just say Hod is answering them all
Don’t break up with this guy over this unless there’s really something wrong your head
Poster,be there stressing yourself over nothing. That ise thing is a bllody scam. I did it some years ago when I was ttc and after all the prayers and work,I still didn't get pregnant. I asked God for forgiveness for letting my despeartion lead me on that part and moved on with my life. Went back to my church and got closer to God. I believe God will answer me in his own time.
DeleteYou are worthy of love and marriage and this man loves you and wants to marry you,so what is your problem? Are you saying that a beautiful,suceesful woman like you with good character cannot get a good man for keeps? You better disabuse your mind of whatever it is that is making you doubt yourself and go and be happy. God will settle your sisters in their own due season.
You see that Stella's red pen is 100% on point. Some women have late marriage 💑; is not delay or anything; but God's will for them! I noticed; some of us are chosen and we must not follow worldly standards , but focus on God. I will advise you to go with the Man to an MFM church! Or if you are prayerful; go on 3 days fast 6am-6pm then do all night prayers from 2am-4am or 3am-5am. Ask God for mercy; but know that you are now in God's permissive will for marriage; instead of His perfect will; because you couldn't wait for him, so you went to seek help from the marine kingdom. God's mercy is available, as far as you have decided that you are not interested in what was done on your behalf! God works with our hearts; destroy any covenants made on your behalf and enter a new covenant with God! Is very simple. I hope this helps. Shalom
DeleteThank you guys so much. I'm so grateful. I feel a little better. And yes, I intend going back to Nigeria for severe deliverance. I have been wanting to find my way back to God 100%, no distractions and this feels like the push I need. Thanks guys.
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Poster the deliverance you need is deliverance from your mind
DeleteYou’re going back to man again for another prayer
Why think of going to man for another deliverance when you can get direct connection with God on your own?
DeletePoster, You never learn? You want to go to another church for deliverance? Don't you own a bible? Don't you know that you can speak to God directly? Isn't that why Jesus came and died on the cross for?
DeleteI have been to the mountain for prayers before. It's a way of isolating yourself from the world and praying for yourself by yourself. No one would lay hands on me. It was the best experience of my life and helped kickstart my journey to a good Christian life. It's better experienced than talked about. I want to do it again. Lesson learned pro pro max.
DeleteHow are you sure that woman did something for you? It could even be a scam and you don't know.
ReplyDeleteThis is my advice to you. Guide that man very well and don't let him slip from your hands. One thing I learnt from life is that, whatever that is meant to be will always be.
Don't live in guilt. Go on with the preparations and don't ever communicate with that woman again so you don't keep getting scammed. This man didn't fall from the blue like you said. He has known you before. So probably he could be meant for you.
God sometimes answers prayers when He sees we have gotten to our elastic limit and desperation.
With those qualities you mentioned above, don't let that man go. Before I go, learn this today. Everything in life, there is a price we will pay in one way or the other if at all we haven't paid earlier.
Am I the only one confused 🤷🏿♀️
ReplyDeleteSluttychic.
God answered your prayers and the devil wants to partake in God's glory. Your prayers were about/would have been answered all the same when your friend surfaced to make it seem it was the woman's prayers at work.
DeleteMorever, you've known this guy from university days.
Relax and give God His glory.
Congratulations in advance
You may end up with one "comma" since it's the same woman that did spiritualwork for your cuz. Marital bliss in exchange for children, or he wakes up one day and starts resenting you over nothing.
ReplyDeleteNa lie joh
DeleteShe bought olive oil and prayed
There’s no juju done
And what’s done is done, if you break up with this one you still can’t say it’s not her prayer that brought the next one so better go on with your life
It's obvious poster isn't used to a white garment prophetess praying for you...Lol.... poster please enjoy your relationship and thank God for your present and commit the future into God's hands, He is able. Ask for mercy if you are feeling guilty and cut all ties that may lead to another ise to be done for you.
DeleteYes. I'm not used to it at all. I beleive you should pray on your own and God will answer you, and even if you were to have a spiritual guardian, it should be word of mouth, in the Name of Jesus. Anything else feels weird to me. Apologies if I've offended any white garmet faithful here. Not the intention please.
DeleteSince you don't know then continue with this guy and see if it will end well ,if it ends in marriage what else remains or did the pray done on your behalf includes loosen after binding?remove fear and follow this relationship to the end
ReplyDeleteBe calming down, whatever it's keep praying over it, you had been praying before the woman intervention so it's possible It's God's time, it it's the woman prayers then God is involve to make it happening
ReplyDeleteHmmm, this one pass me o... Madam enjoy your new found joy jaree, life to short to live it on regrets
ReplyDeleteThat stuff seems like scam.
DeleteEnjoy your relationship, put God into it.
The way you’re acting, you can spoil the beautiful relationship you have because of what ifs
Love Stella's last line, it is very important to wait on God for everything, if he says wait then wait. Please you and your cousin need serious deliverance.
ReplyDeletePlease pray but go ahead and marry the guy. You are not even sure if the woman did the prayers, most of these people that claim they are praying for people are there to collect money. Ask God for mercy, repent genuinely and hand over everything to God. He is merciful and does think like a man.
ReplyDeleteShe said she didn't do it because she could sense my apprehension then. But I doubt it. I've committed everything to God.
DeleteHmmm, the chronicle just weak me
ReplyDeleteInasmuch as you may have done contrary to your belief. My the on this is that this new man has been destine regardless of the spiritual works. Try not to overthink it so as not to affect your mental health. Pray to God to help sustain the relationship and above all may God's will be done. I pray peace to your trouble soul in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster how about thanking God for finding you worthy for bringing this man into your life. Why are you belittling the blessings of God those people fit be say dem no do anything you they dash dem God thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteWhen you ladies say someone has the fear of God most times it confuses me. Someone who has the fear of God but grumbled when you told him no fornication? Hope he is not getting it somewhere else!?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I doubt the lady did anything. She probably spent the money. Don't stress yourself.
It was pure scam. The woman did nothing. If she did something, probably it would have been an entirely new person and not someone she already know getting a crush on her long before now.
DeleteThis is one reason going from places to places isn't encouraging. For we end up not knowing when God is working on our case.
Abeg lesve matter
DeleteLots of guys grumble about it
But he loves her enough to stay
Sister just make sure he’s not collecting from snither
Teejay that doesn’t make it scam
DeleteGod can in fact clear the way that was blocked before
Maybe this guy was always for her but road was blocked
16:07 You are the one that needs to leave matter and stop deceiving yourself like the Poster. A lot of guys grumble about waiting till marriage because they are religious and not God-fearing and that is not surprising because a lot of Nigerians are very religious yet ungodly.
DeleteA God-fearing person would not grumble about fornication becahse he won't want to lead you to sin or encourage you to sin.
Yes Teejay. She probably needed the money to enjoy her life and Poster fell for it. It was just coincidence and nothing more.
Looking for problems where there is none
DeleteAnon 17:30, I will go to bed tonight knowing there are still good Christians and not Satanists disguised as Christians . God Bless You.
Delete"Please, are my fears unfounded?... I am not desperate to get married, never have, never will. I don't know how this stupidity happened."
ReplyDeleteUp there is the problem. We wan "marry", but We NO wan marry.
No vex o!
Stop deceiving yourself. You really wan marry. That was enough to act. Moreover it was your second time of doing the same thing.
All sincere married persons say it. Marriage na work. It is the work that scares. It the work the some of us do not want to do but want the benefits and privileges of marriage.
Nobody can be truly married and be single, and vice versa. All married persons must give up a part or most of their single life. Those who only publicly declare their luck in marrying the best women or the best men in the world without telling what they contribute to make their marriage the best are fakers or deceivers.
Test if the man returned because of what your friend did (very unlikely). Go get books on self deliverance or the prayer book "Prayer Rain" by Dr. D. K. Olukoya. Pray for deliverance. You may choose to add a prayer for the man to go if he is with you because of the 100K "follow me" ritual. As you pray harder, intensely, and vehemently because of the Easter timeline, continue to put in your best in the relationship with the man. The result will show. If na the ritual bring am, he will go despite; if not, he will stay. And when he stays, remember to invite BVs in your Region of the event.
I think you misunderstood my message. Of course I want to get married, it's a beautiful thing afterall. But not at the cost of my peace and certainly not if it will make me lose my relationships with God or complicate my family tomorrow.
DeleteI paid her the money for both my cousin and my sisters on the same day. I was at my lowest and won't have done such if I was mentally okay.
And I will be going to Nigeria soon so will go on a prayer cleanse.
Thanks
This is the reason why we should stop helping God to solve our problems.
ReplyDeleteI suggest you start fasting and praying to break any evil covenant that was formed on your behalf and to destroy any evil agreement reached because of you. You can check online for such prayers.
Pray such for your cousin too.
If the guy came as a result of what was done, he would leave if you are sincere in the place of prayer.
A lot of covenants were formed on our behalf before we even came to the world by our forefathers and these have been consistently broken successfully by the children of God, some of which we didn’t even understand or know their names.
Call this by its name, break it and if this guy still stays around to marry you, pls go ahead.
God actually loves a contrite heart and a broken spirit.
Go to Him pls.
Poster pls if I may get you right , (u are not so sure about the white garment church or that they are satanic people) 70 percentage of Nigerian pastors are fake. U don't have faith at all and why did you think that white garment church are evil . What she did for you is a normal process for someone that is having failed relationship in white garment ( that was if she did it truly and not 419) Am not a member but am ok with their spiritual activities . Pls God I beg I do not want to come as a Nigerian or African in my next life ( we see too much of evil in good things)
ReplyDeleteJust pray for God to break any convenient and remove anything that does not belong from your life 🙏🏿. Tell your mum everything so she can support you with prayers.
ReplyDeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteAbegi the woman did not do anything
ReplyDeleteIt was Just time for your consine to get pregnant...
Tought you said you know him since
That is it nahhh..
No fear jareee nothing dey happen
But Next time ooo don't go there oo
Just believe in your own Doctrine Biko...
God Almighty will perfect all that consence you Amen.
Thanks. 😊
DeleteI won't try it again.
Hmmmmmmmn.
ReplyDeleteFir it to worry you like this then something mighty be making you feel so, Just pray to God to deliver you from whatever has been done.
ReplyDeleteThis you chronicle get as he be ooo
ReplyDeleteDear poster you're not the first person that they will do "Ibu Joko" from my understanding what they normally use is chair, you will buy chair and bring it to church, the prophet will ask you to sit on it and ask you to begin to pray to God for your heart desires and later the prophet will do the final prayer and grace. The chair will be mix with the chairs in the church.
The 100k you gave that prophet is much self
I am based in Abuja, I have been told to do this ibu joko prayer but I can't seem to find a truthful pastor/church. Please anyone that knows a good church should link me up in Abuja this 2024 must not pass me by
DeleteYou see now, no peace
ReplyDeleteHmm visit a good bible believing church and pray yourself out.
I have vowed never to attend any funny place of prayer or worship anymore.
There was one time a "prophetes" asked me to bbuy native cock (male chicken) and bring picture of my then bf and pay a particular amount so tthat she can do ritual and prayer for him to marry me and not leave forever.
Fear catch me, i run for my dear life
o that day, I say even if i remain single for life let it be cos, marriage is not worth this kind of sacrifice. I left and never went back, I have my peace intact.
I never could have been at peace if I did that
I don't think there is any convenant done .. if the woman had done anything... She prayed, just go on fasting for 3days and ask God to reveal in this relationship....
ReplyDelete"Don't get me wrong, I'm hot, successful and well-behaved, fun to be with and all of that, the complete package so getting a man isn't a problem for me at all"
ReplyDeleteYou are all of the above, so what pushed you into desperation and impatience? The saying "God's timing is the best" isn't a mere cliche if only people will understand that. Your present man isn't, didn't come as a result of the "prayers" it was just the right time for him to come into your life.
Presently, you are going through the process of guilt, which isn't bad, at least it shows you have a conscience. But PLEASE, don't let this guilt push you into another phase of desperation by going to another "prayer" house to undo the first "prayer".
1st John 3:20 says "regarding whatever our hearts may condemn us in, because God is greater than our hearts and knows all things," confess your sin to God, and leave it at that. God will never reject a broken and contrite heart" Be assured of God's forgiveness and blessings upon you.
Time was going
DeleteHer feelings were valid
Ibujoko is mostly practiced by white garments churches to secure and solidify one's marriage to me I don't see anything wrong about it especially if it is done by a truthful prophet.
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DeletePlease I am based in Abuja I have been told to do this ibu ijoko prayer but I don't know a truthful church to do it in Abuja. Can someone please link me up to a good bible believing church.
Delete@21:05 pray for yourself! The poster is looking for how to remove herself from marine covenant; you wan go enter!
DeleteThank you Bidex .
ReplyDeleteThis life is full of mystery, just in anything believe God. I'm one of those who escaped the mysteries of this world it was by divine mercy i was saved.
ReplyDeletePoster relax and enjoy your relationship, because that rituals by that prophetess has no hold on you.
ReplyDeletePoster somebody can not commit crime with someone like you ooooo.
ReplyDeleteI am more concerned with your contrary mind and what it may do to your spouse and future children. Why have you not asked the woman exactly what was done, what the term even means? Now you have started something with a long time man which is leading you directly to where you hope to go but you are ready to work yourself up into a ball of fire. If your mind is so unsettled and full of worry then tell your fiancé. Men typically view things in a different way from women and if he have wanted you from long time and now he finally has you then chances are slim that he would leave if your confess. But since you cannot stand another setback and no one can truly guarantee what another will do, please do not confess unless you have the guts to stand up to any reaction.
ReplyDeletePlease keep in mind that you did not meet with anyone, uttered no phrases, ate anything special or was directly involved, unless there is something that you are not telling us. You did not make any covenant with any entity or sit at anyone’s diabolical table so please take it easy.
Nothing wrong here better forget it and enjoy your life
ReplyDeleteYou need to ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself and stop this your nonsense or else you will drive this one away. You did what you did out of desperation. Don't let a guilty conscience destroy your life.
ReplyDeletePoster, the woman did nothing. When God says it is your time, it is. Enjoy your man and be prayerful. And remember, once you get married, your other sisters will be married too. You are going to open the road for suitors to flood in.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I don't think what she did worked. It's just a coincidence. Just go with the flow. Na God do this one
ReplyDeleteIt is not ibu ijoko work that is working. Time don reach God answer you. Do you know how many ibu ijoko my sister has done? When the time is ripe God breaks all protocols.
ReplyDeleteRelax and enjoy your marriage nothing dey happen. Don't use your hand and destroy what God has done for you. If you scatter dis one na you come know. Congratulations.
Thank you so much. I feel better. My friend that introduced me to her has done it a couple of times too but it didn't work.
DeleteDon't mind me. I'm a softie.
RUN FROM ANYTHING WHITE GARMENT! NOT OF GOD!
ReplyDeleteI'm ashamed on your behalf that you could boldly write this in this age and time! It clearly shows that you are a baby spiritually. You don't know anything about how God moves. I pray you and your type will not learn the hard way.
DeleteSee as everybody is disputing it as if they were present and the prophetess told them she did nothing. You people think poster doesn't know why she's scared? Ofcourse something was done and poster knows what she's been seeing in her dreams since that 'work' was done. Poster I'll advise you go for deliverance.
ReplyDeleteShe’s not seeing anthing
DeleteShe’s just afraid but there’s nothing to fear
That was why because of this same marriage thing, one brother in MFM I think he may has affiliation with white Garment church told me to buy a 5 litre rubber Jerry can, 3 coconut (to be broken and the water used), 2 packs of salt, original honey, 2 bottles of anointing oil and then he gave me about 7 different psalms to read over this items and the soap and sponge that I will use to bath with, each psalm to be read 21 times. Hmmm I did this and mixed everything in the 5litre Jerry can and the brother prayed over it and I started bathing with it by pouring a little amount of the mixture in my bathing water. The kind of attack I started having in my dreams when I was using this thing to bath ehn, I almost died in my sleep because of the terrible attacks. It was as if they unleashed all the demons in the dark Kingdom against me. Oh God!!! Nobody told me to stop bathing with the mixture. Even when I complained to the brother the experience I was having, he was only encouraging me to continue, but when it became something like a life and death issue whenever I sleep, I had to do away with the whole thing and went for deliverance abeg.
ReplyDeleteIf you like use your hand and chase your suitor away, u were looking for one you found now and dey yawn rubbish. What u are having is cold feet which is normal. Pray about it.
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