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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
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Good Day my people of SDK,
Good Day my people of SDK,
I just met this guy about a month now and I like him but the problem is that I have fibroid and I dont know if I should tell him.
Is it wise to tell him?
For you to be worried this means that your Fibroids bleed a lot? If he doesnt understand what Fibroid is, if you tell him he might run and if you dont tell him, the bleeding will give you away......
Is it wise to tell him?
For you to be worried this means that your Fibroids bleed a lot? If he doesnt understand what Fibroid is, if you tell him he might run and if you dont tell him, the bleeding will give you away......
Does he like you? Anyway, the decision is yours but if you tell him, it will end everything...
If it's a serious relationship that you both know is heading someone better to bring it to the open
ReplyDeletedefinitely be open. No one knows tomorrow. If the fibroid will be the type that will cause challenges, would you not want a supportive partner? please find a good gynecologist at a teaching hospital and follow their instructions, don't do any herbal treatment. if you relax your hair, consider stopping. reduce red meat and eat more of fish, avoid dairy products if you can and try to exercise. I never operated on mine, I changed my diet and lifestyle and have two children. I disclosed it to my partner on the first date and told him to take me or leave me. Good luck.
DeleteCheck his level of maturity,
Delete*Are you sure he like you back?
*do you see future in the relationship?. If “YES” Tell him the truth if he wants to stay let him stay, if he wants to leave let him leave
If he is immature to handle situation like this, please my sister leave him, don’t start the relationship with secrets,
I think you should tell him and make plans to undergo surgery to remove it.
DeleteThe lady up there who never operated on her fibroid but only had a change of lifestyle which was helpful, please we will accept your suggestions, thank you.
DeleteKai! So sorry dear......
DeleteWhy is this world filled with pains?
I can imagine your pains
I don't think u should tell him its still too early allow him to love u first and get used to you that he can at least grow to stand by u
DeleteI believe you should tell him, if he loves you, he will stay by your side and fight the battle with you. I met my hubby in our final year in school and we became friends. The night he asked me to be his girlfriend, he told me first about his stage 4 renal failure. I was shocked and devastated but I vowed to be by his side every step of the way and that is what I did. This is us 10 years post transplant with two beautiful kids. It was not easy and a lot of stories in between but my love for him kept me going. So if he loves you, he would stay and if not don't be hurt and hold your head up high and push through.
DeleteAnon 16:01 can you give us more details on the lifestyle changes you made?
DeleteDear black women, the lye in relaxers causes fibroids and uterine cancer. Please note.
DeleteTell him the truth if he wants to stay let him stay , if he wants to leave let him leave . Don’t start the relationship with hiding secrets abi keeping secrets deni , start the relationship honestly . And if Ooogba dey him head he end things with you God will provide someone better . Keep it real .
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Is fibroid a disease. Just within a month you wan tell him your medical history. Has he told you his?make una dey calm down Abeg
ReplyDeleteAs ehhh, so annoying.😏
DeleteI swear, just one month? It's too early Biko.
DeleteMoreover fibroid is not a death sentence jare!
So early, when you are not sure of his feelings
DeleteYou are right.
DeleteI was about to write same thing. How can you destroy what is yet to stand because of your foolishness? A friendship of one month is as good as an embryo stage. Allow this baby to be born before christening it. Love, play, bond, learn and grow. Telling him might just be in passing. Fibroid is not a sickness. It's a growth and must be handled same way. Watch to see the kind of person he is before spitting nonsense out of your mouth. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Learn to watch someone's mood too before talking. Inform him when he is at his best, if you must.
DeletePlease him with all honesty, it is just a month relationship.
ReplyDeleteIs fibroid a death sentence? I know lots of women with fibroid who got pregnant and gave birth.
ReplyDeleteIt's not Hiv that you need to disclose to your sleeping partner.
Na so Una go dey give unaself problems. Just one month dating and you want to tell him your life history.
I have fibroids and that is nobody’s business
ReplyDeleteSame here
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DeleteNo point telling him unless he’s talking serious stuff
Btw how can fibroids end everything
If he leaves you for that, is lack of education is a astounding
More importantly, what are you doing about it for your own health
Doctors sometimes say to leave them alone and if that’s the case with you, then pls chill
Lies you people tell yourselves.
DeleteYou can’t hide something like that from him.Tell him and allow him take his stand.Its only a month and it won’t hurt too much if he decides to leave
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that, it will scare him about childbearing. So he might definitely walk away knowing about it.
ReplyDeleteYou can have an operation done or don't you think so.
It shouldn’t scare him
DeleteMany women have it and have kids with no problem
He needs to google and relax
Then he isn't husband material. Marriage is for better for worse and not just for better. So good riddance to him. Besides, is he even sure of his own fertility?
Delete15:42
DeleteGbam
Has he proposed to you? Does he like you the Same way you do? Is the relationship leading to marriage?have you find out his intentions towards you?don't be desperate my dear
ReplyDeleteNice comment
DeleteExactly
DeleteBennycoco
Exactly
DeleteBennycoco
Has he proposed to you? Does he like you the Same way you do? Is the relationship leading to marriage?have you find out his intentions towards you?don't be desperate my dear
ReplyDeleteTell one of your friends to send you a message on WhatsApp telling you that he has been seeing a guy for some time but she is afraid that telling him that she has fibroid might scare him away. Show your boyfriend the message and note his reaction. His reaction will give you a clue as to what to do.
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DeleteI concur
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DeletePoster please don’t tell him ooooo
ReplyDeleteGo and take care of yourself
This is a Man U just met
Please please please
Thank u.
Merryment
Too early, unless you are both already started discussing marriage I do not see why this would come up yet. Take time to learn his character and who he is before rushing to spill your private matters.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 15:22 I totally agree.
DeleteGood comment
DeleteIf you tell him and he leave you, let him go. If he leaves it means he might not even be able to stand with you supposing there's a little delay in conception. There's no sugar coating it. Tell him now that everything is stil fresh so that you're not too invested in the relationship and left heartbroken if he decides to walk away
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteIt will be 50:50
Tell him and let him go if he wants to
Your focus for now in my opinion should be how to get rid of the fibroid and coming out of the theatre alive and well not a guy for now. Your telling him, is it that he is
ReplyDeletein a position to offer professional advice or to assist you financially for the operation? I read the experience of a lady who told a prospective suitor she has had a myomectomy and the guy just disappeared. And from my personal experience, a guy that was professing I go die love to me, giving me treats and urging me to pick a wedding date called me after I had my first myomectomy (I didn't tell him I had fibroids or was going for myomectomy) I told him I just had a myomectomy, he subsequently stopped calling or picking my calls infact he blocked me.
Some people believe that firoids and myomectomy reduces one's chances of conception which is all lies. So unless you want to test the guy's loyalty and readiness to be with you for better or worse, make your health a priority for now.
Don't lie to yourself. Fibroids and myomectomy affect a lot about a woman's reproductive capabilities. I have fibroids and I know that
DeleteIf it affected yours, it didn't affect mine. Seek proper medical evaluation, or like you hide under anonymity on this blog, you choose to be anonymous with your health?
DeleteJust one month? dont you think its too early to start revealing all that?
ReplyDeleteI had fibroids before I got married although in my case I didn't know that's what it was lost two babies before it was diagnosed. Today God has blessed us with children. Imagine say I tell Baba that year... Omo na to ka ni le😂😂😂.
ReplyDeletePoster come see something here o,, don't tell him now please
DeleteWho told your fibroids caused the pregnancy loss?
DeleteI think its too early,plus fibroid is not a contagious ailment.
ReplyDeleteJust use your tongue to count your teeth...
ReplyDeletePlease tell him now i pray he truly loves you enough to stand by you. May God see you through these fibroids issues
ReplyDeleteYou just met him. And within one month you want to tell him everything. Moreso fibroid is not a disease, if he is not so knowledgeable about what fibroid is , I bet you this guy will most likely run. Get to know him better , be sure the relationship is heading somewhere positive if you must tell him (and except the fibroid is a symptomatic one and giving you serious pains and bleeding, then you might have to tell him.
ReplyDeleteTake him to your doctor let him/her break it down proper for him to understand.
ReplyDeleteYou met him about a month and you think it's a perfect time for you to let him know that you have fibroid?
ReplyDeleteI honestly think it's too early. Why the hurry?
Relax.take some time to understand who you are dating.pls do not see fibroid as a death sentence.it can be managed and shrinked.
ReplyDeleteI was the understanding guy that said no wahala, I married her like that spent over 800k on treatment yet I still get disrespected. Bro my advice is that you should run, women are ungrateful, no matter what you do for them they'll never be grateful. Men it's time to put yourself first before anybody.
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DeleteChai!!
The fact that you think you were understanding is part of the issue
DeleteCheck yourself
Her having fibroids is not even worth a thought but you seemed to want her to constantly give you credit for it
Check yourself
You did not do her a favour when you agreed to marry her. There must have been something you saw which made you overlook whatever situation you thought, needed your understanding.
DeleteSame way a woman might say, she dated a man when he had nothing. When there must have been other qualities which were of a higher importance she found endearing in that man which held her back and made her ignore other suitors.
So anon 16:15, you actually did put yourself first, when you married her.
You might not even be disrespected but your subconscious yearnings for gratitude which envelopes your interaction with your wife has created that illusion.
If you still insist you are been disrespected, then know this; No one wants to be married to someone who think they did them a favour by marrying them. Instead of worship or adulation, it brings disdain to the supposed "saviour'. Your wife may even deduce your thirst to be worshiped in the way you treat her hence her reacting.
Looking for credit for marrying someone whom you chose out of all women in the world, because you found her worthy of being your wife, is warped.
If the poster tells him and he stays, It is because he has weighed his options and decided she is worth it but if he leaves then he leaves because the qualities he has seen so far in her to him isn't great enough to make him ignore her health concern no matter how small.
Words on Marble.
When did fibroid become a stigma? Abi I am living in another planet? Almost all the Nigerian women I know have fibroid plus we all have children, myself inclusive. If you feel this way about fibroid, perhaps he would be scared too.
ReplyDeleteI thinks It's too early.
ReplyDeleteAll of una they talk rubbish for this nlog clearly a female supporters blog. Asking if the guy is knowledgeable he would stay. I stay and spent over 800k for treatment, after that we had a child then fibroid came back I spent another round of money over 700k again yet nothing now we were told IVF which I was ready to still spend on yet I get disrespected everyday. Very ungrateful people. As a man my advice to any man don't marry any woman with fibroid cause the expenses never ends unless her womb is removed. If say with the expenses say she they respect you e no go pain.
ReplyDeleteChai!!!
DeleteIt is well Oga
OMG!!!
DeleteIt's well
Hahaha 800k clap for yourself
DeletePoverty is a disease
I don’t know why your comment was funny to me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHow much be minimum wage? Clearly you are one of the ungrateful thieves given women bad names, 800k na beans abi?
DeleteSorry bro but I don't know why you paid so much money for it.
DeletePlease forgive her
The most complex B
Are you earning minimum wage
DeleteHold on till you are sure of him before you can discuss your health issues with him.
ReplyDeleteHaving Fibroid is not a death sentence, in fact, having it at a certain is age is normal because the womb is expected to carry, it can be removed through surgery. Please don't let it bother you much.
ReplyDeleteMy word for you is, focus on how to get treated..i mean, get rid of it first and dont put ur mind for this guy cuz once you tell him.. that's the end shaaa
ReplyDeleteIt’s not the end
DeleteSome leave most stay
Why do you people say what you’ve not experienced
That’s not right
Have you tried getting pregnant before? Do you ovulate?
ReplyDeleteSee questions
DeleteY’all don’t know what fibroids are
The best thing is to go for surgery.
ReplyDeleteYou’re not the doctor
DeleteIf they are small or having no impact, doctor will say leave them alone
Letting someone in on your personal health issues should be a matter of you trusting him enough to share, if he deserves to know, not because you are scared that you might loose him.
ReplyDeleteIt is a privilege that you consider him worthy enough to know. But I think that it is too early. If he cares that much about you, he'd find out himself and possibly try for you to get solution together.
What steps are taking to get rid of the fibroids? That is the most important question to answer at the moment.
Too early, When he starts talking about marriage, then you can tell him, Meanwhile, look for a solution and start taking care of your health.
ReplyDeleteJust a month and you want to tell him your life history. . .
ReplyDeleteRelax abeg.
For God's sake! Fibroid is not a life-threatening situation na haba. African women are prone to having it, and in most cases, people with multiple fibroid had given birth without a bother. However, are you bleeding heavily with the fibroid in place? if not, why do you want to start blowing things up. You can book an appointment to have it removed if it is bothering you a lot. Not every man is well educated about this thing, so keep your mouth shut for now. I had a 3.9 cm fibroid, it grew to 4.3cm when I was pregnant with my son, and 12 years after, the last ultrasound shows it has shrank to 1.9cm. I did nothing to it, it doesn't bother me, it never did
ReplyDeleteFibroids are not a disclosure item please. If you’ve been advised by your doctors of fertility problems, that’s different and should be disclosed in a serious relationship leading to marriage.
ReplyDeleteIs better he knows now than knowing later after marriage,if he loves you he might stay and help you fight it out....... Josaria
ReplyDeleteIt is better to build the foundation of your marital life on truth , tell him if he is the will of God for you he will stand by you .
ReplyDeleteOn the fibroid never do operation for it , it has a root cause as long the root cause as not being dealt with it will grow back
It can be cause by
Hormonal imbalance
Obesity
Family history
POS
Increase in estrogen
Etc
I will advice to get a good Naturopathy practitioner to help you on it , presently stop taking milk , sugar
It is well
God heal you and grant you your life partner
ReplyDeleteI'm commenting rather late. Yes. Fibroids do cause seriously heavy, embarassing bleeding. I know this because I've watched blood dripping down the legs of my sister several times. She had to run to anywhere private just to change a loaded pad. It isn't funny. She would not go to work for days just do the bleed would subside. Thank God she finally got surgery done.
ReplyDeleteThis issue really affected her. She lost potential spouses. I watched her in tears severally. Imagine going on a date and then you are having blood streaming down your legs. Men tend to run away from that.
I think OP should open up. Let her tell her potential spouse. If he truly loves her, he will stand by her. But that surgery needs to be done.
There's nothing more troubling than to have a single lady battling fibroid
Except the relationship is leading somewhere and you're sure of it..if not, no need saying anything
ReplyDeleteDont tell him anything, nigerian men have very low mentality. Next thing, he will go and tell his mother, that one will kuku scatter everything, saying you will not be able to have a child. After marriage, both of you will be praying and going to the hospital together. Nigerian men no get head. Btw ive seen a lot of women have children with fibroid..
ReplyDeleteKeep your mouth shut let the relationship matured very well, in fact don't discussed it with him.
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