Monday In House News...

 What a beautiful new week!!

IN HOUSE MEMO

How una dey? I hope that your weekend was OK? 

 Enjoy the new week and stay away from toxic people and their toxic comments and behaviour...avoid be a trolling and trolling. Use your time wisely and a motivation to yourself and others...Ask yourself if you are proud of who you are when no one is watching..

Do you spend private time wishing evil on others? Do you wish others well?

Have a moment and try to get it right as the year 2023 rounds up....

Catch my hugs from afar....

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD

My princess is three months old and since that happened over a week ago I have gotten a lot of advises from the grandparents. Advises on how to start helping her to sit, stop supporting her neck especially when backing her and so on.

With the boys all this was done by four months not three because I was told that was tradition and I didn’t question it , by that time their neck control was perfect and all so it didn’t matter.
But with the girl it’s different there is more pressure to start all this processes earlier, so I decided to do my own research and I found out that, helping a child to sit has nothing to do with gender ( trust our culture to put more pressure on the girl child).

It has to do with when a baby has full head control which is usually between three to four months it can take some babies slightly longer. I am relieved that I found this out, it has taken away the pressure and anxiety

We will be practicing sitting at her own pace .

Three months is too young to start that process, you will hurt her without knowing...


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Any BV interested in a flat in Surulere Lagos?

Hello Stella,
I am relocating and will be moving out of my flat in Surulere Lagos. It's behind Ogunlana Drive and is a mini-flat (Rent is #500k, water #20k).
I was wondering if any of your BVs might be interested in it (perfect for a single person).
The new rent cycle starts counting next month (Dec 1st).
If any of them are interested, I can be contacted here or at +2348029401212 (WhatsApp).
Best regards
Ejay.

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FROM THE COMMENT SECTION

Guys please what can I do? I have an office and there's the space in front where I sell stuff too. I employed a lady to sell for me, I'm looking for best ways to solve issues with her. It's raining heavily,my road is flooded the kind of rain that has wind and can cause cold,I was inside my office came out to see my staff curled in one corner exposed I was peeved,I shouted and shouted. 

I've told her that harsh weather conditions shouldn't meet her outside,she can come into the office where's there's ac and warmth she can monitor her wares from the glass. Last time it rained I came out and told her to come inside she said okay and stayed there,she didn't come ,some minutes I heard someone asked Ng her if she's cold she said yes.

 I felt terrible.I called her and calmly told her I asked you to come inside you insisted on staying there. Today it rained again and she is under the rain exposed . I am so mad. She could catch cold,she could be hit by anything the wind carries,she could develop fever. I am mad I threatened to sack her ,she started crying.

I hate this but I don't what to do to stop her doing this. It is so annoying. What kind of problem is this one

#Sack her so that she will see that you are serious...When she has grasped the message, then you can re.employ her..This is the only way she will learn...my two cents oh

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FROM FRIDAY NIGHT POST

Hi bvs,

You all remember my chronicle on getting pregnant six months after I gave birth to twins, I'm here to announce that I delivered my bundle of joy few months ago, this my baby is the most beautiful baby ever and I thank God for the support I got from hubby and my mum, it was not easy because the pregnancy showed me shege banza,

Hubby has been eyeing me since but fear no even let me near him or enter his room because of how I got pregnant with this my baby, abeg I don't want story that touches the bombom, but I have missed my hubby sha---

Thank you all for your advices and words of encouragement and also bvs that had similar experience and encouraged me, God bless you all because I contemplated terminating the pregnancy because of what people will say, I also quarrelled with hubby seriously because of the pregnancy, I tackled him like mad when I discovered I was pregnant but after reading comments under my chronicles, I was relieved.

I have hanged my boot mbok, and no more withdrawal method, if hubby no use condom I no dey do till I go for family planning, thanks Stella for this wonderful platform, love you all.

I almost forgot, hubby got me an expensive push gift, this man sabi my mumu button but you see that room, I no dey enter if we are alone with the baby and I no go sleep there for now.

LMAO......You dont need to avoid going to his room..go in there and say no..You need to teach him to be able to restrain himself cos avoiding him like this eh, you wont know whats on his mind.....Go in there and if e too hold am then dash am BJ from time to time.....

Congrats on the new baby and the two others.. Your hand must be full with work and i dont envy you right now...Nacking will be the last thing on your mind for a long time....

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THE STORY OF THE BUTTERFLY 

One bright morning, a man found a silky cocoon of a butterfly in a garden. He was very eager to see what will happen to that cocoon. The next day the man found a small opening was appearing from the cocoon. He sat there in a sheer curiosity and started watching what will happen to the butterfly for several hours.

The butterfly was struggling to wrench its whole body through the little hole. Then suddenly the man found that the butterfly stopped its movement and couldn't go further. Therefore, the kind man pitied the innocent butterfly and started to help it. He tried to free the butterfly from a tiny hole by cutting the cocoon with the help of scissors.

The butterfly emerged easily because the man helped it, but the butterfly had withered wings with the swollen body. The man was very happy as he has helped the butterfly to come out from the tiny cocoon hole. The man continued to watch it.
The man was expecting that any minute, the wings of the butterfly would begin to enlarge and it will start to fly but to the man’s surprise, nothing happened!
In fact, the beautiful and innocent butterfly was not able to fly with its beautiful wings.
The man was very kind but what he did not understand is, by cutting the cocoon, he is disrupting the whole life cycle of the butterfly because the struggle while coming out from the cocoon was necessary for the butterfly’s ability to fly later in life..

Moral Lesson Of The Story:

This beautiful short story depicts the importance of struggle in life. The struggle is what makes us strong. The struggle is necessary for life to prepare ourselves for future opportunities.
So, next time when you feel your life is going through struggles, problems, and obstacles, try to remember this inspiring short story to embrace the truth that-
The struggle is a start of achieving something extraordinary.


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GIST FROM SATURDAY EVENING

There's this G-guy that comes to use pos at my neighbours shop, but he drives very rough, though it's a common thing for them G-boys

So today I don't what happened, but the VIO people tried to stop him but he refused to stop and one of them hit a wood at his side mirror and it broke, na so fight start ooo, before you know it, the place was filled with G-guys, they all parked and joined the fight, the crowd was much, right there in front of my shop, everyone was busy separating the fight.

 I overheard one guy telling the guy he stood with to use style and pack the guys phones from his car, I quickly opened the car and took the 3 phones, the phones were apple products, the ones with 3 cameras,
As I took the phone, I went close to my pos neighbour and told her that I had taken Collins' phones ooo, incase if he starts to look for it, she said okay,
Suddenly they screamed that the younger brother to the pos woman had been injured, she took the guy out of there and they left cos he was bleeding really bad, immediately I saw blood, I ran back to my shop too....
The matter lingered till they all went to the police station cos many of them were injured especially the VIO guys..

I left to go pick my kids from school, I trekked cos am very rich this period, we got back and met Collins angrily waiting for me, he said he had been looking for me, that why didn't I tell him that I moved his phone, what will I gain by stealing his phones, was I thinking that people won't see me and recognise me? Stella na so my feet stamp for ground, I was broken beyond words, I didn't utter a word, I gave him his phones and he left...

My neighbour came back, I narrated everything to her and immediately, she called him, told him that I did him a favour and he should be grateful, she told him that I had informed her that I was the person that took the phones to avoid someone stealing the phone...

This evening he came, was apologising but my mind was not okay with such apologies, I have forgiven him but I may never forget, I don't have but I can never steal from someone to survive, I shouldn't have saved those phones, I for mind my business and save my dignity, I have never stolen in my life and will not start now, imagine accusing me of such in the presence of my kids and I was too dumbfounded to even defend myself...

The thing shock me enter bone, so if not that I pre-informed the pos woman, ns so I for take answer thief for our line? Godforbid ooo!!!...  

This is the reason God gave you mouth...To stand up for yourself especially as your kids were there and listening...You did not do well at all so dont blame the collins, he reacted according to what he was told but you should have defended yourself...If na amebo matter you go enter inside but common to defend yourself you become Dumbfounded......Dey play!

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