Maintain relationships with people.
It is childish and immature to pick offence at every provocation or perceived wrong and then start keeping grudges as a result.
Grow above it.
-Someone did not invite you for their celebration (s), you pick offence with them.
-Someone didn't wish you happy birthday, you pick offence with the person
-They didn't like your facebook post, you pick offence.
-They didn't support you in a disagreement you had with someone, you pick offence with them.
-They are junior and they have the audacity to talk or oppose your opinion. You pick offence with them.
They said NO to your request, you pick offence and malice starts.
You asked them for money, they said they didn't have it, you pick offence with them.
You are even keeping a record of people who came around when you were grieved, so you can know who to pick offence with.
See!!!
Everyone has battles you are not aware of.
Those who you need help from are also looking for help.
Not everything is Personal and intentional.
Not everyone hates you and never hate anyone.
Sometimes, people are just caught up with their own lives, struggles, human weaknesses and limitations.
Learn how to manage being disappointed by people and still be on talking terms with them. It will save you a lot of UNNECESSARY grudges and save you some Friendships you may need in future.
Grow above offences.
God bless us!!!"
It is childish and immature to pick offence at every provocation or perceived wrong and then start keeping grudges as a result.
Grow above it.
-Someone did not invite you for their celebration (s), you pick offence with them.
-Someone didn't wish you happy birthday, you pick offence with the person
-They didn't like your facebook post, you pick offence.
-They didn't support you in a disagreement you had with someone, you pick offence with them.
-They are junior and they have the audacity to talk or oppose your opinion. You pick offence with them.
They said NO to your request, you pick offence and malice starts.
You asked them for money, they said they didn't have it, you pick offence with them.
You are even keeping a record of people who came around when you were grieved, so you can know who to pick offence with.
See!!!
Everyone has battles you are not aware of.
Those who you need help from are also looking for help.
Not everything is Personal and intentional.
Not everyone hates you and never hate anyone.
Sometimes, people are just caught up with their own lives, struggles, human weaknesses and limitations.
Learn how to manage being disappointed by people and still be on talking terms with them. It will save you a lot of UNNECESSARY grudges and save you some Friendships you may need in future.
Grow above offences.
God bless us!!!"
#COPIED
Sometimes it's so draining trying to keep friends
ReplyDeleteDon't try to keep friends, be a friend 😊
DeleteI was once like some of the points mentioned, but now I have grown pass that level, this life no hard at all.
ReplyDeleteI think growth has a way of teaching us these life lessons
DeleteSometimes these things are easier said than done. One good turn deserves another. If you can't be helpful or good to me after I have been good to you, why should we continue as friends? Why won't I pick offence over your bad behavior?
ReplyDeleteSometimes we should face reality and leave all these polished motivational words. Kindness and love should be reciprocal. Even Yeshua at a point became angry and cursed an unproductive fig tree to death.
So it's justifiable to pick offence on unproductive people in our lives. Unless you're not capable of rendering help or assistance to anyone but if you can and intentionally choose not to, then you're not worthy to be seen as a friend or human.
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DeleteYou have said something
DeleteIf you o lord should mark our guilt, lord who shall survive? - psalm 129.
DeleteHow many people have you disappointed and how many times have you disappointed God? Or are you so narcissistic as to think you are holier or better?
A sinless messiah cursed a tree that had no control over producing fruit and you see that as an excuse to behave without wisdom. This is why people saw through your IPOB mindset and didn't budge when you were selling your candidate over your burned side of the bridge...after isolating from everyone, disparaging them everyday, who will trust you? Who will help you?
MY HELP COMES FROM THE LORD WHO MADE HEAVEN AND EARTH should be the memory verse of every serious human being as trust in man will only curse you. Cursed is he who places his trust in man is what the good book says. God can use man to help but that shouldn't make you rely on a being as fickle as we humans.
The Christ that cursed that tree told you and I to forgive 7x7, to forgive and forget, yet you picked a verse that condemns you: the fruit of the spirit is love which ensures things and bears no record of wrong. You should be aware that the fruitless tree, shall be cut down as Christ said. The first fruit God is looking for from you and I is that Love that is shown by forgiving and enduring.
Instead of musing over the petty trader uncle who couldn't meet up with promises, ask yourself how much he was actually making as profit, how much he was spending on educating his own children and what he was able to invest yearly in his business. Did you have the same disappointment in those who should have financed that expensive education as it was their responsibility? Did you disdain them for not financing a one year course that would have gotten you a foot through the door of a science course? Do you not see the list of other people who helped along the way for you to study what you were destined to at that time? Where is God's thank you for getting you through instead of the half handed complains?
Before wondering why a relative, friend etc is stingy, wicked etc, ask yourself whether their business is doing well in this current economy where even the USA is having bounding inflation and developed nations in the West and gulf are looking for immigrants to come and fund their big budget and pay back loans. Ask why parents don't have insurance so their children's school or business capital is not threatened. Ask how much you would have raised if a guest is kidnapped on the way to your celebration.
Help with a mind of loaning to God or take it fully legal and have documents signed with a mind to collect as agreed instead of calling it help.
Or since it is easier for most, expend limited energy mouthing curses that will not stand.
Abraham forgave Lot, begged God to spare him and went to save him but didn't live with him as they didn't have shared values. Live easy.
If you o lord should mark our guilt, lord who shall survive? - psalm 129.
DeleteHow many people have you disappointed and how many times have you disappointed God? Or are you so narcissistic as to think you are holier or better?
A sinless messiah cursed a tree that had no control over producing fruit and you see that as an excuse to behave without wisdom. This is why people saw through your IPOB mindset and didn't budge when you were selling your candidate over your burned side of the bridge...after isolating from everyone, disparaging them everyday, who will trust you? Who will help you?
MY HELP COMES FROM THE LORD WHO MADE HEAVEN AND EARTH should be the memory verse of every serious human being as trust in man will only curse you. Cursed is he who places his trust in man is what the good book says. God can use man to help but that shouldn't make you rely on a being as fickle as we humans.
The Christ that cursed that tree told you and I to forgive 7x7, to forgive and forget, yet you picked a verse that condemns you: the fruit of the spirit is love which ensures things and bears no record of wrong. You should be aware that the fruitless tree, shall be cut down as Christ said. The first fruit God is looking for from you and I is that Love that is shown by forgiving and enduring.
Instead of musing over the petty trader uncle who couldn't meet up with promises, ask yourself how much he was actually making as profit, how much he was spending on educating his own children and what he was able to invest yearly in his business. Did you have the same disappointment in those who should have financed that expensive education as it was their responsibility? Did you disdain them for not financing a one year course that would have gotten you a foot through the door of a science course? Do you not see the list of other people who helped along the way for you to study what you were destined to at that time? Where is God's thank you for getting you through instead of the half handed complains?
Before wondering why a relative, friend etc is stingy, wicked etc, ask yourself whether their business is doing well in this current economy where even the USA is having bounding inflation and developed nations in the West and gulf are looking for immigrants to come and fund their big budget and pay back loans. Ask why parents don't have insurance so their children's school or business capital is not threatened. Ask how much you would have raised if a guest is kidnapped on the way to your celebration.
Help with a mind of loaning to God or take it fully legal and have documents signed with a mind to collect as agreed instead of calling it help.
Or since it is easier for most, expend limited energy mouthing curses that will not stand.
Abraham forgave Lot, begged God to spare him and went to save him but didn't live with him as they didn't have shared values. Live easy.
Friendship is not by force. If it’s not working for you, move on.
ReplyDeleteSluttychic.
I wish everyone can be like me. I love my privacy.
ReplyDeleteOnly my family and few persons knows my celebration dates.
Sometimes last year, someone was lamenting and calling her friends who didn't post nor wish her happy birthday on WhatsApp.
A very good friend and a pastor's wife for that matter blocked me on WhatsApp cos I didn't congratulate her wedding anniversary and this is the same girl that doesn't even know my birthday and has never for once asked me .
In summary of it all, some persons are too petty and entitled, just be you.
Ha! One need to pick offense ma Stella,I have a neighbor,we became friends, whenever she's in need of something once I have it,I can't never said no to her,at time I will be the one telling her I have it, like Maggi, palm oil and veg, pepper egusi, groundnut etc then the day I asked her for detergent she refused,I was surprised and pained,this is someone i share practically every little things I have with.why won't I get offended?
ReplyDeleteNo need to get offended, now you know the truth about her. Let it set you free
DeleteVery educative piece. Lots of childish adults now. They feeds off attention and leeches on kind hearts.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteLiability "friends"
DeleteI am always glad when you dont invite me to your event and I really dont care if you dont honor my invite self.
ReplyDeleteIt's ok to feel entitled especially with people you are close to,but be sure that they also see you as someone very close to them.
ReplyDeleteI don't keep friends cos it doesn't favour me and I don't want unnecessary competition. Life is not fair to me so I stay on my lane to avoid wahala. I don't go to parties infact don't even invite me cos I like staying at home and don't bother I have no party to do to invite you.
ReplyDeleteI don't post on WhatsApp , Facebook not even on Instagram. Life is not fair to me so I stay on my Lane.
Trust the Lord in all that you do🙏
DeleteConfess better about yourself
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