Chronicle Of Blog Visitor -UPDATE

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Hi Mama

I don carry follow-up gist come ooooh. Na me you post for HERE....

So, still on this matter.... There's a guy I used to know when I was a teenager in Naija. Childhood family friends, church family, plus puppy love. Then life separated us because of this abroad matter. I knew he got married a while back and I even congratulated him on Facebook etc. E don tay... like 9 years or so.

Anyway, since 2021 he had been trying to reach out to me on social media. He DM me tire, I no answer. I checked his profile and saw he was in same country with family. So I thought it was a case of contacting person wey sabi road. And I no get energy. Lol.

So around summer this year, he messaged again and I responded. That's how he chanced me that me I dey ignore etc (tbh, I have 4000+ followers on IG, so messages dey come and me sef no get strength for social media these days. Na just when I go vacation I dey post or the day wey person do birthday). I come tell am sorry. Gave him my number under the condition that I greet his family when he calls. He laughed and said: "okay oh! Greeter"

When he called we chatted, normal. He said he is on the road so no family to greet. 2 days later he called again, normal chat. By the time he called the next week he said he wants to tell me something... that his marriage has scattered for like 2 years now. Say he just dey keep am low key but if I check his SM all photos are down, his FB status shows single and she has reverted to her maiden name (i later checked and it was true) Kai! I felt bad for him because where we come from (christian background wise) such no dey common. And his mum is a very kind woman. She really liked me then and even used to call me to gist even though I was very young. I imagined her disappointment at all this.

Anyway, I sha showed empathy and stayed on my lane. He would send WhatsApp maybe once every 2 days and I'd respond when I can. After some weeks, he said we should do lunch after church on Sunday. I agreed. He came and picked me up. We went to some Chinese buffet and it was as if we hadn't even lost time. We gisted like 2 old friends and that was it. Dropped off etc. WhatsApp continues like 2-3 times a week.

Then I got a consultant role outside the city we live. I had to relocate for work. So put my furniture in storage and got a monthly lodge house with a live-in lodger. As I started work, focus no gree me look phone. He was calling and texting and I didn't respond for like a month. He sent me all sorts of messages asking me where he offended me and if he did I should forgive. Imessage, whatsapp, IG, FB. That he doesn't want us to be out of touch please what has he done this time. I didn't reply because it was funny to me. Me wey dey try settle in with plenty oyibo colleagues and onboarding.

Anyway, after 1 month, I finally reached out to explain myself. He understood because he too is a career person (also doing well) asked for the name of the town and said he was going to visit me. I should let him know. I said okay but I didn't. He disturbed me oooh and we finally booked a weekend. He came down - 2 hours plus drive. Brought wine, whisky and groceries. We cooked together the night he arrived. Had wine, laughed, gisted, remembered old times did plenty amebor, even called some old friends over the phone to catch up. Called his family to surprise them that he was in my "house". They were all happy to see me, chat etc. Then we went and slept. (Remember, I am still celibate oh. So na only sleep).

The next day, I took him on my 1 hour morning exercise walk, we gisted plenty. Went up and down the hill, thighs on fire.lol. Then we got his coffee and milk on our way back (I am lactose intolerant and don't drink coffee). I made breakfast and we ate. Then Netflix and chill. Then he was on his whisky na. I asked why because i dont know him as a drinker. He said since his marriage/divorce issues he has been drinking. I no dey do pass occasional wine, so I gave him side eye.


But there was just one other issue: I noticed he was getting chatty with the lodger. Let me describe her - she is in her early 20s, entrepreneur, used to live in this 3-storey with her mum but her mum took a job outside town and relocated. They are trying to sell the house but in the mean time, they lodge proffessionals like me in any of the two available rooms. Me and the girl no get wahala since i dey here. Na South African and she dey like share my food. When her boyfriends come around I just say hello and face front. One sef na naija. Lol. Another thing, the girl get biiiiig nyash. South African style. She's fine sha with her Benz wey her mama buy give her. Darker skinned maybe size 16. I am a yellow pawpaw size 8-10.

Anyway, she had a guest that weekend too. But I would occasionally see she and my friend chatting in the kitchen or living room. Didnt seem intimate and they were binging on the same series on Netflix. (I dont binge-watch but i sat there with my headphones and a book I've been reading and of course... SDK comment section. Lol). We share the kitchen and living room so except i confine him to my bedroom, they would sure bump into each other. It's her home too.

I cooked lunch that day, she ate with us. Then she offered to make dinner. This was the 2nd night. The next morning she made breakfast and we all shared. Then he had to go back. Before he left, he was begging me to take him seriously and not look at him like the small child I used to know. We stood outside and talked for good one hour before he drove off. I told him okay but let's give it time. We agreed to take our time. He told me to extend his regards to my lodger when she gets back. She had driven out before he left.

So I started praying about it as he left. Make I know wetin dey sup. I wasn't comfortable with the drinking but I know divorce takes a toll on people and only God can truly heal. I didn't speak to him that day. He called I didn't pick. He text me that he had arrived at his place. I replied: okay. We thank God. The 2nd day he called after work, we chatted for almost 2 hours and I went to bed.

Then I had a funny dream. In that dream I saw him exchange numbers with my lodger. I woke up and was like: what??! I had to go to work so was getting ready when I saw good morning text from him..I didn't respond. Then he called and was greeting etc. I just asked him: why did you take this girls number? He was quiet. Then he said he was sorry and he forgot to tell me. Apparently, he took the number before she left that day. Then he said I'm sorry i should have told you before she told you. I said: she didn't tell me. God did. He was quiet. I hung up.

Anyway, I sent her a text to ask her why she did that. She said she is sorry that she forgot to tell me he asked for her number and then sent me a screenshot of the text he sent her before his 2 hour call to me the previous day. Thanking her for being a good host and cooking breakfast. Then asking her when she would be in his city. She replied: next week but i will let you know. But that she was just "being polite"....pot of bullsh*t!

Stella, can you see what I was saying about disrespect from these men?! I was so shocked that even this one too would try such. See as this man just come stain my white for here!! Anyway, I was very direct with both of them about not liking this. And I was especially hard on him because he is the one I know. I would be moving out to a travelodge over the weekend. I blocked him from contacting me too.

Please BVs you people should tell me what I did wrong here oh! Cos I am soooo irritated and regret agreeing to him visiting. Anyway, I thank God for Baba Holy Spirit wey dey help me with dreams oh. If not....wetin people for take my eye see eh. Shuuuu!!!

Thank God you found out ooooh.... Its good that you are moving out...